{"id":54808,"date":"2020-03-13T20:07:02","date_gmt":"2020-03-13T20:07:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=54808"},"modified":"2022-01-30T21:25:14","modified_gmt":"2022-01-30T21:25:14","slug":"consecuencias-de-perseguir-a-un-chico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/consecuencias-de-perseguir-a-un-chico\/","title":{"rendered":"7 consecuencias perjudiciales de perseguir a un chico que no quiere ser atrapado"},"content":{"rendered":"

Have you ever found yourself running after a man who clearly doesn\u2019t want you? After a man who can never give you what you want and who will never love you enough?<\/p>\n

If you have, you\u2019ll be well aware of how painful this situation can be. It\u2019s not that you end up heartbroken\u2013your ego is ruined, as well.<\/p>\n

However, besides this pain, chasing a guy who doesn\u2019t want to get caught brings numerous other long lasting consequences. Here are seven of them.<\/p>\n

1. Desaparece tu sentimiento de autoestima<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The first consequence of chasing a guy who doesn\u2019t want to be yours, is that you lose all sense of your self value.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t help but take this man\u2019s rejection personally and after a while, you convince yourself that there is something wrong with you.<\/p>\n

You wonder why the man you are into can\u2019t love you and doesn\u2019t want you. What do you need to change about yourself to become more appealing and attractive to him?<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019ve done everything in your power to win him over.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve put in maximum effort and given him your best self but even so, he hasn\u2019t had the decency to choose you.<\/p>\n

So, you come to the conclusion that you\u2019re insuficiente<\/span><\/a> para \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t know whether it\u2019s your looks, your character, or something else but the bottom line is that you\u2019re missing something and all your efforts can\u2019t seem to compensate for it.<\/p>\n

En consecuencia, pierdes tu autoestima y empiezas a encontrar defectos en tu aspecto y personalidad, tratando de encontrar la causa de su indiferencia.<\/p>\n

Not only that\u2013you also go as far as comparing yourself to all the other girls around him. What do they have that you don\u2019t?<\/p>\n

RELACIONADO: Deja de perseguirle y mira lo que pasa (6 cosas incre\u00edbles)<\/a><\/p>\n

2. Te sientes agotado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de un tiempo corriendo detr\u00e1s de un hombre que nunca te quiso en primer lugar, es natural sentirse cansada y emocionalmente agotada.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like the chase and all of the mind games you\u2019ve been trying to play have gotten the best of you.<\/p>\n

They\u2019ve taken away your energy and sucked the life out of you, leaving you completely drained and empty.<\/p>\n

You feel like you\u2019ve just gotten out of a war\u2013and this is exactly what this was: a battle which you didn\u2019t have the slightest chance of winning.<\/p>\n

Naturally, this experience has changed you. It\u2019s turned you into a negative and bitter person who has lost her optimism and will to live.<\/p>\n

Lo peor es que todo este esfuerzo ha sido en vano. Has invertido mucho de ti mismo para acabar qued\u00e1ndote sin nada.<\/p>\n

De hecho, has conseguido perderte a ti mismo y la visi\u00f3n positiva que ten\u00edas del mundo en el proceso. Y eso no es ni lo que quer\u00edas ni lo que esperabas.<\/p>\n

3. You have relationship problems with someone you\u2019re not in a relationship with<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Entre otras cosas, la consecuencia m\u00e1s perjudicial es sin duda tener problemas de pareja<\/span><\/a> with someone you\u2019re not in an actual relationship with.<\/p>\n

De hecho, est\u00e1s en una especie de situaci\u00f3n indefinida, una casi relaci\u00f3n, o como demonios quieras llamarlo.<\/p>\n

Either way, the point is that you have the arguments, the jealous outbursts, the anxiety when he doesn\u2019t respond to your texts. You have the lack of trust, understanding, and compromise.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2013some of these things also happen in real relationships. Not all the time, but even if they do, it\u2019s not the end of the world and a couple will work to overcome them.<\/p>\n

Every relationship has its negative sides. Nevertheless, sometimes, it\u2019s worth putting up with them because of all the good things your romance brings.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, tienes a una persona que te quiere y te respeta, y a alguien que sabes que nunca te abandonar\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, cuando se trata de tu situaci\u00f3n sentimental, las cosas son muy distintas. Tienes problemas de relaci\u00f3n y todos los aspectos negativos de un romance sin los positivos.<\/p>\n

\u00a1Y eso apesta!<\/p>\n

4. Te vuelves inseguro<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Another dangerous consequence of chasing a guy who doesn\u2019t want to be caught is the inseguridades<\/span><\/a> que provoca.<\/p>\n

Without even planning it, you apply your overthinking state of mind to everyone\u2013not just to your almost boyfriend.<\/p>\n

It is perfectly normal to have lost your trust in everyone and not believe in anyone\u2019s intentions anymore. You are convinced that everyone is out to get you and wants to hurt you.<\/p>\n

Moreover\u2013 you overthink your every move, in constant fear of making a mistake and doing something wrong.<\/p>\n

Without even being aware of it, you\u2019ve become a people pleaser and you\u2019ve started walking on eggshells around everyone because you are afraid that they will also think of you as not enough and reject you the same way this guy did.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, no hay nada malo en reflexionar antes de actuar.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, hay una gran diferencia entre ser prudente y cuidadoso y analizar y diseccionar cada movimiento antes de hacerlo.<\/p>\n

5. Pierdes muchas oportunidades<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You\u2019re someone who can only focus on one guy at a time.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t give a damn whether he\u2019s worthy of your attention or whether he is giving you any positive feedback\u2013when you love a man, you have eyes only for him.<\/p>\n

This is a great quality when you\u2019re in a relationship with someone who is also one hundred percent loyal, faithful, and devoted.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, when you\u2019re the s\u00f3lo uno intent\u00e1ndolo<\/span><\/a> cari\u00f1oso, este rasgo puede tener consecuencias perjudiciales.<\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, mientras ibas detr\u00e1s de ese hombre al que nunca le importaste un bledo, perdiste un mont\u00f3n de buenas oportunidades.<\/p>\n

Hubo muchos chicos guapos que intentaron ligar contigo, pero t\u00fa no te diste cuenta porque eras ciega de vista.<\/p>\n

Even though you\u2019re not actually taken, this is exactly how you behave: as if you were in a serious relationship, when you should be putting yourself out there.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong, I\u2019m not advising you to deliberately enter a rebound relationship, I\u2019m just begging you to at least take into consideration someone who deserves you.<\/p>\n

6. Tienes ansiedad por las relaciones<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de las muchas decepciones que te ha hecho pasar este hombre, es natural que acabes teniendo ansiedad en las relaciones<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

You assume that every time you give it a shot with someone new, it will always be the same: you\u2019ll find yourself begging for love from a man who keeps pushing you away while simultaneously giving you just enough false hope to keep you around.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que en lugar de intentar algo nuevo, construyes muros alrededor de tu coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Of course, this doesn\u2019t happen right away and you\u2019re probably unaware of it at this point, but when you fall out of love with this douchebag and think you\u2019re ready to give love another shot, it will hit you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll realize that, as much as you try, you\u2019re unable to relax and give your entire self.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll become overly careful and terrified of romantic relationships because you won\u2019t see a chance for any of them to work out.<\/p>\n

Si esto es algo con lo que te sientes identificada, ten en cuenta que no todo el mundo es como tu casi ex.<\/p>\n

As much as it\u2019s scary to lower your guard, there are men out there who are worthy of the risk.<\/p>\n

7. Pierdes el tiempo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you first fall in love with a man who doesn\u2019t want you back, you don\u2019t see it as a big deal.<\/p>\n

You think you\u2019ll try to win him over once or twice before you give up on him and forget he ever existed.<\/p>\n

However, things don\u2019t work that way. Before you know it, you find yourself trapped in a seemingly endless circle of his rejections and realize that nothing has gone the way you planned.<\/p>\n

Lo peor es que, sin que te des cuenta, el tiempo pasa en un abrir y cerrar de ojos. Y tus emociones se intensifican en el proceso, en lugar de desvanecerse.<\/p>\n

Terminas a\u00f1os de desgaste<\/span><\/a> en alguien que nunca mereci\u00f3 ni un minuto de tu tiempo. A\u00f1os que podr\u00edas y deber\u00edas haber invertido en otra cosa.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ntas veces has pasado tiempo pensando en \u00e9l, cuando podr\u00edas haber estado durmiendo pl\u00e1cidamente?<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ntas l\u00e1grimas, cu\u00e1nta energ\u00eda y esfuerzo has tirado por la borda, sin posibilidad de recuperarlos jam\u00e1s?<\/p>\n

And most importantly\u2013how many years do you plan on wasting, waiting for a miracle which will never come?<\/p>\n

I bet even you don\u2019t know the answer. So, why exactly do you keep on doing this to yourself?<\/p>\n

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