{"id":55111,"date":"2020-03-17T12:29:40","date_gmt":"2020-03-17T12:29:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55111"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:49:59","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:49:59","slug":"a-las-mujeres-heridas-les-cuesta-conectar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/a-las-mujeres-heridas-les-cuesta-conectar\/","title":{"rendered":"Esta es la raz\u00f3n por la que a las mujeres heridas les cuesta conectar con alguien despu\u00e9s de sufrir abusos"},"content":{"rendered":"

Si eres una mujer que ha sufrido alg\u00fan tipo de abuso, quiero aplaudirte por tu valent\u00eda y por no rendirte nunca.<\/p>\n

Miraste al miedo a la cara, superaste el dolor y continuaste haci\u00e9ndolo todos los d\u00edas de tu vida.<\/p>\n

When it happens once, it\u2019s never really over. You need to reinvent yourself.<\/p>\n

Vuelve a encontrar qui\u00e9n eres y vive ese proceso con nada m\u00e1s que fe ciega y d\u00e1ndole a la vida una oportunidad m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re a silent heroine. And your superpower is that you\u2019re unbreakable<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

After everything you\u2019ve been through, you\u2019re standing strong, examining your pain and vulnerability, and turning them into strength and wisdom.<\/p>\n

Quiero recordarte que siempre debes dedicarte tiempo a ti mismo y considerarte una prioridad.<\/p>\n

With that in mind, here are some things explaining why it is so hard to make connections \u2013 let alone romantic connections \u2013 after abuse, that you might relate to.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not sure who you are anymore<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Tras el abuso, la v\u00edctima queda despojada de su sentido de s\u00ed misma.<\/p>\n

After manipulation, gaslighting, blackmailing, and conditioning, you\u2019re left with always second-guessing your thoughts and decisions.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not sure which part of you is real anymore.<\/p>\n

Tu agresor quer\u00eda que te sintieras perdida, asustada y sola para poder controlarte.<\/p>\n

And now you\u2019re left in that mess, not knowing how to start improving your self-confidence.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re left thinking you\u2019re crazy. Everything you\u2019d said was always “overreacting” or “irrational.”<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Y luego resultaba ser cierto, pero siempre despu\u00e9s de que ya creyeras que estabas exagerando y que eras irracional.<\/p>\n

Dear women, you\u2019re allowed to take life in your own hands and write your own story.<\/p>\n

Puedes volver a ser lo que eras antes o lo que siempre quisiste llegar a ser.<\/p>\n

The great strength lies in every one of you. If that wasn\u2019t true, you wouldn\u2019t be reading this!<\/p>\n

Necesitas tiempo para recuperar la confianza<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Every lie is poison and there have been so many lies told to you. And some of them you\u2019ve even continued to say to yourself.<\/p>\n

After breaking an abuser\u2019s power over you, you might have realized you spent so much time (months, years, half of your life!) believing something that was never real.<\/p>\n

Y eso afect\u00f3 mucho a tu capacidad de confiar, a tu salud mental y a tu ser en general.<\/p>\n

You need time to start trusting people again and that\u2019s perfectly normal.<\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t force anything or pursue something you\u2019re not comfortable with. You can heal, you just need time.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re scared of being hurt again<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de un abuso, tienes que volver a trazar tus l\u00edmites.<\/p>\n

With re-drawing boundaries \u2013 placing your own limits \u2013 you start seeing which people you want in your life and which people you\u2019re better off without.<\/p>\n

Los que cruzan los l\u00edmites no son necesarios en tu vida.<\/p>\n

Lo que necesitas son l\u00edmites sanos, establecidos a trav\u00e9s de una comunicaci\u00f3n significativa que muestre compasi\u00f3n y comprensi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Todo lo que no sea eso te est\u00e1 causando miedo a que te vuelvan a hacer da\u00f1o.<\/p>\n

Necesitas tiempo a solas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t connect, maybe it\u2019s not time to connect. Maybe you need to connect with yourself again.<\/p>\n

Tal vez necesites reconocer tus propias necesidades y asumirlas como tu responsabilidad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Eso significa que puedes estar solo, pero no sola. A veces lo \u00fanico que necesitas es ser tu propio mejor amigo.<\/p>\n

Perm\u00edtete ser lo que necesites ser en ese momento.<\/p>\n

You can be angry, sad, overwhelmed. Let yourself feel everything and then forgive yourself for all the times you\u2019ve been hard on yourself.<\/p>\n

Release any shame, guilt, or thinking that everything that happened was somehow your fault. It wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t feel understood<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

No todo el mundo ha pasado por lo mismo que t\u00fa. Algunos, por suerte, no tienen ni idea.<\/p>\n

Y eso a veces te hace sentir que nadie puede entenderte.<\/p>\n

Not many people are vocal about their abuse and it\u2019s not the first thing they will talk about.<\/p>\n

It could be the same case with you. It\u2019s not unusual to feel like you don\u2019t belong.<\/p>\n

Building new friendships and relationships means investing a lot of time, strength, will, and emotions. And it\u2019s hard if you\u2019re a survivor.<\/p>\n

La relaci\u00f3n con su agresor es complicada<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

La gente tiende a pensar que los maltratadores son personas con las que las v\u00edctimas pueden cortar de una vez por todas.<\/p>\n

But what if he\u2019s the father of your child, your work college, your family member, or just a person you used to care about a lot?<\/p>\n

Feelings are not an on-and-off thing. We can\u2019t just stop loving someone in a day, even if it\u2019s an abuser.<\/p>\n

It is possible to love someone and realize that they aren\u2019t a safe person to be around.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s also possible to learn through painful experiences and love again.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo recuerda que mereces estar segura, ser respetada y querida en todo momento.<\/p>\n

\"Esta<\/p>\n

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If you\u2019re a woman who\u2019s suffered any type of abuse, I want to applaud you for your courage and never giving up. You looked fear in the face, pushed through the pain and you continued to do that every single day of your life. When it happens once, it\u2019s never really over. You need to…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":55119,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-55111","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/This-Is-Why-Hurt-Women-Have-A-Hard-Time-Connecting-With-Someone-After-Abuse.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55111","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=55111"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55111\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/55119"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=55111"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=55111"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=55111"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}