{"id":55256,"date":"2020-03-18T21:34:29","date_gmt":"2020-03-18T21:34:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55256"},"modified":"2021-11-03T15:18:22","modified_gmt":"2021-11-03T15:18:22","slug":"signos-de-una-amistad-unilateral","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/signos-de-una-amistad-unilateral\/","title":{"rendered":"12 se\u00f1ales de que tienes una amistad unilateral y c\u00f3mo afrontarlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Un buen amigo es dif\u00edcil de encontrar y a\u00fan m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil de conservar.<\/p>\n

And to be honest, I don’t know a single individual who hasn’t had a hard time with toxic friendships or amistades a distancia<\/a> y pregunt\u00e1ndose c\u00f3mo tratarlos.<\/p>\n

Las amistades unilaterales son lo peor, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n

You’re so sure that you’ve got a good friend by your side who knows how to make you feel good about yourself and the amount of time you spend together is truly a sign of a real friendship.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfQui\u00e9n pasa cinco d\u00edas a la semana con el otro sin aburrirse? S\u00f3lo los mejores amigos pueden hacer esto y seguir ech\u00e1ndose de menos.<\/p>\n

But when difficult times arise and you don’t have as much time for a decent social life, you start seeing a lot of people for who they truly are.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Las amistades desequilibradas empiezan a hacerse evidentes y los verdaderos amigos se convierten en una rareza.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you pay attention to the red flags you’d love to be able to ignore (but shouldn’t!) you see bad friends from good friends.<\/p>\n

You see who’s able to get together last-minute because they miss you and who starts having less and less time for a healthy friendship that you seek.<\/p>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Las amistades son cosa de dos. Se supone que deben aumentar tu autoestima, ayudarte en tu camino hacia el amor propio y estar a tu lado desde el instituto hasta tu \u00faltimo aliento.<\/p>\n

But that’s easier said than done. Even people with whom we have forged the strongest bonds tend to disappear on us during our difficult times.<\/p>\n

Las personas m\u00e1s cercanas tienden a convertirse en meros extra\u00f1os, como si nunca hubieran compartido sus vidas.<\/p>\n

Una de las cosas m\u00e1s atroces del mundo es ver c\u00f3mo alguien que significaba todo para ti se vuelve fr\u00edo o distante.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Amigos falsos frente a amigos de verdad: 12 maneras de detectar a los falsos<\/a><\/p>\n

Se\u00f1ales de una amistad unilateral<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Las amistades unilaterales suelen convertirse en eso debido a los nuevos amigos con los que la gente empieza a pasar m\u00e1s tiempo, con el fin de encontrar un amigo mejor que t\u00fa.<\/p>\n

Publicar fotos en las redes sociales de sus nuevas aventuras con gente que acababan de conocer, dej\u00e1ndote completamente de lado, se convierte en la nueva norma.<\/p>\n

Las amistades unilaterales tienden a hacer que te sientas solo, que no te escuchan, que no eres importante y que no te quieren.<\/p>\n

Destrozan tu salud mental y te dificultan las tareas m\u00e1s sencillas.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo puedes pensar en lo que ha pasado. \u00bfAd\u00f3nde se ha ido tu buen amigo y c\u00f3mo se ha complicado tanto?<\/p>\n

Are their new friends really there to replace the bond you’ve shared for so long or are there other factors playing a role?<\/p>\n

\"amigas<\/p>\n

Here, I’ll delve deeper into the intricacies of one-sided friendships and help you gain a better understanding of your issues in order to help you find a solution. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Perhaps your problem can be salvaged and the toxic friendship that has started messing with your mental health isn’t as one-sided as it seems.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Los verdaderos amigos siempre merecen la pena.<\/p>\n

Let’s find out if your unbalanced friendship has any characteristics of a one-sided friendship and if there’s a way to move forward to a healthier place with your once good friend.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 10 verdades sobre por qu\u00e9 la gente habla a tus espaldas (y c\u00f3mo afrontarlo)<\/a><\/p>\n

1. S\u00f3lo llaman cuando les conviene<\/h2>\n

\"amigas<\/p>\n

Un signo importante de una amistad unilateral es que tu amigo s\u00f3lo te llame cuando necesita algo de ti.<\/p>\n

Presta atenci\u00f3n a esto porque te dir\u00e1 mucho. Las amistades t\u00f3xicas se caracterizan por la falta de inter\u00e9s y por llamar s\u00f3lo cuando se necesita un favor.<\/p>\n

A veces, llega un momento en toda buena amistad en que uno de los amigos pasa por un momento dif\u00edcil que se manifiesta en que te llama y se apoya en ti mucho m\u00e1s a menudo de lo normal.<\/p>\n

And that’s a major difference from a one-sided friendship.<\/p>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

When this is the norm and you never get called by them unless it’s for their own selfish purposes, you know you’re in a toxic friendship.<\/p>\n

A good friend makes sure to call and check in on you no matter what they’re going through.<\/p>\n

Recognize this toxic pattern and don’t let them give you a hard time if they never make an effort around you apart from when they have an agenda.<\/p>\n

2. They don’t respect your time<\/h2>\n

\"amigas<\/p>\n

Los buenos amigos valoran tu tiempo. Se aseguran de cumplir tus planes y de llegar a tiempo.<\/p>\n

When you have plans to get together, they don’t show up last minute or even worse, hours late, because they respect you as a person and know your time is valuable.<\/p>\n

Bad friends, on the other hand, don’t give a rat’s ass about your time.<\/p>\n

Aparecen cuando quieren y si tienes alg\u00fan problema porque llegan tarde, se lo quitan de encima.<\/p>\n

Tu vida social se ha convertido en un caos porque nunca puedes contar con que tu amigo llegue a tiempo, \u00a1si es que llega!<\/p>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Las amistades desequilibradas empiezan exactamente as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

A complete disregard of one’s time, not caring to show up at a designated hour and making difficult times that much more difficult.<\/p>\n

They just don’t care that real friendships are a two-way street.<\/p>\n

Cuando encuentran un amigo mejor, pasan menos tiempo preocup\u00e1ndose por ti y m\u00e1s tiempo en su nuevo mejor amigo.<\/p>\n

3. Apenas te dejan hablar<\/h2>\n

\"amigas<\/p>\n

Lately, you’ve been feeling muzzled around them. Whether in a group of friends or just the two of you, it’s always their turn to speak.<\/p>\n

Una persona que sol\u00eda ser tan buena amiga tuya ahora ha empezado a cerrarte las puertas en m\u00e1s de un sentido.<\/p>\n

You’re having a hard time getting your voice heard and you don’t really know how to deal with that.<\/p>\n

Do you let them know you’ve been feeling left out? Do you express your worries or do you silently hope for a better turn of events?<\/p>\n

I can’t speak about your particular situation but I do know a little bit about one-sided friendships and this issue.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you’re being denied your voice and made feel unheard, you speak up and you fight for your place in your friendship. Never let toxic friendships win.<\/p>\n

Si esa persona quiere hacerte sentir indigno de tener una opini\u00f3n, demu\u00e9strale lo ruidoso y orgulloso que puedes ser.<\/p>\n

It can result in them realizing the error of their ways or in you realizing that they’ve never truly appreciated you. Either way, it’s a win for you.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Belleza interior: Qu\u00e9 significa realmente y 7 maneras de conseguirla<\/a><\/p>\n

4. They don’t listen to you either<\/h2>\n

\"amigos<\/p>\n

Un amigo de verdad sabe escuchar. Las verdaderas amistades prosperan con una comunicaci\u00f3n buena y honesta y con transparencia.<\/p>\n

Pero en una amistad unilateral, uno de los amigos nunca se molesta en escuchar.<\/p>\n

They pretend to hear what you’re saying but they’re really just waiting for their turn to talk.<\/p>\n

Even when you do get to speak (which is rare, as mentioned above) it’s as if you’re talking to a wall.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

There’s no rapport between you anymore. Even if they’ve always been a chatterbox and you not so much, that still doesn’t give them the right to be so cold.<\/p>\n

Un buen amigo siempre te har\u00e1 sentir escuchado y comprendido.<\/p>\n

When you’re having a hard time being heard by someone you used to consider one of your best friends, ask yourself what went wrong.<\/p>\n

Why are they icing you out like this? There’s no point sticking around with someone who keeps giving you the cold shoulder.<\/p>\n

5. They keep \u2018borrowing\u2019 your belongings<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Friends borrow things from each other, that’s a given. I’ve lent things to my best friends millions of times and vice versa.<\/p>\n

Pero en una amistad unilateral, casi nunca recuperas tus cosas. Y adem\u00e1s te sientes mal pidi\u00e9ndolas.<\/p>\n

How many times has your friend borrowed something and then accidentally forgotten to give it back?  Pay attention to this as it’s a huge red flag.<\/p>\n

T\u00fa sabes mejor que nadie lo que les prestas a tus amigos y con qu\u00e9 frecuencia te prestan algo suyo.<\/p>\n

It’s only fair that you get to borrow something from them if you keep letting them wear your stuff. But does it happen?<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ndo fue la \u00faltima vez que le pediste algo prestado a este amigo? Piensa en ello.<\/p>\n

It needs to go both ways or it’s nothing but a one-sided friendship where you keep getting used.<\/p>\n

6. They’re deeply ungrateful<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Real friends never take each other for granted! Being grateful in a friendship is a must and you should never feel like you’re being used or taken advantage of.<\/p>\n

But in a one-sided friendship, you never hear, ”Thank you.”<\/p>\n

Your efforts are never appreciated and it’s as if they keep expecting your kindness without ever reciprocating being appreciative.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t even have to be anything big but if you keep paying for drinks or if you’re always the one hosting your get-togethers, you never hear a word out of them.<\/p>\n

It is expected that you’ll be at their beck and call and anytime you suggest someone else take your place, they make you feel guilty about it, as if hosting them should be some kind of privilege.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It’s important to be thankful at all times. What would your family members say if they knew how you were being treated?<\/p>\n

Piensa en tu madre y en lo decepcionada que se sentir\u00eda si supiera que dejas que la gente d\u00e9 por sentada tu amabilidad.<\/p>\n

Ella te educ\u00f3 para ser mejor que eso, as\u00ed que deja de ofrecer lo mejor de ti a alguien que no deja de mostrarte lo peor y cierra la puerta a las amistades unilaterales de una vez por todas.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: \u00bfTe sientes derrotado y perdido? Estas 10 cosas te ayudar\u00e1n a sobrellevarlo<\/a><\/p>\n

7. If you don’t make plans, you don’t get invited anywhere<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The sad truth is that if you think that you’d never get invited anywhere unless you took the initiative, you’re probably in a one-sided friendship.<\/p>\n

Los amigos que te quieren y disfrutan pasando tiempo contigo se aseguran de incluirte en sus planes.<\/p>\n

Ning\u00fan nuevo amigo podr\u00e1 hacer que se olviden de ti.<\/p>\n

If you love someone, you make an effort to be around them whenever it’s possible but in a toxic friendship, you’ll often feel like the black sheep of the group, as you never get invited unless you ask if there are plans to meet up.<\/p>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

I know it’s really difficult admitting this to yourself (I’ve been there and I honestly know the pain of realizing this tough truth) but when a person keeps proving to you that you mean so little to them, believe them!<\/p>\n

You’re better off without them anyway.<\/p>\n

There are so many kind people in this world and you’re stuck on this toxic friend who keeps disregarding your feelings.<\/p>\n

Move away from them and open your eyes to a life without them. Soon, you’ll see how colorful life can be when you weed out a bad friend.<\/p>\n

8. They’re apathetic toward you<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

En una amistad desequilibrada, uno de los amigos lleva el volante mientras que el otro est\u00e1 mucho menos interesado en mantenerse en la carretera.<\/p>\n

Basically, they just don’t care about you anymore. You’re the one keeping things going while they’re dragging you down.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, there’s not much to do other than accept this brutal reality.<\/p>\n

If you keep trying to salvage something that’s no longer there, you’re hurting yourself in the long run.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Conozco el dolor de que te aparten de alguien a quien considerabas tu mejor amigo. Nunca pude cerrar el caso y nunca obtuve respuestas.<\/p>\n

Simplemente me dejaron sin una palabra y tuve que hacer las paces despu\u00e9s de derramar tantas l\u00e1grimas.<\/p>\n

La vida sigue, los amigos de mierda te rompen y aprendes a recomponerte.<\/p>\n

It’s tough, it’s inexplicably sad but you pull through because that’s your only choice. Life will be okay at some point again. Not today but someday.<\/p>\n

9. Esperan demasiado de usted<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Tu cabeza bondadosa y tu naturaleza altruista te llevan a menudo a hacer cosas por la gente sin esperar nada a cambio.<\/p>\n

It’s simply in your nature to be there for your friends, be that emotionally, physically or even financially.<\/p>\n

Las amistades unilaterales son harina de otro costal.<\/p>\n

If there was ever an instance where you offered to cover the tab or pay for your friend’s dinner because they were tight in the money department, now, it’s become the norm.<\/p>\n

Cuando llega el cheque, todos los ojos est\u00e1n puestos en ti.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

They are always in a worse situation than you, so it’s expected that you’ll keep paying. That’s called emotional manipulation.<\/p>\n

You’re made to feel obligated to keep doing things of this nature because they think you have it better than them.<\/p>\n

Incluso si este fuera el caso, esto est\u00e1 mal en muchos niveles. Usted no es responsable de su amigo.<\/p>\n

You do not have to keep being there for them in whichever capacity they need you to if you’re made to feel obliged to do it.<\/p>\n

That is not a friendship; it\u2019s a toxic environment where you’re being manipulated and used.<\/p>\n

Vea tambi\u00e9n: Manifestando Una Persona Especifica Usando La Ley De Atraccion<\/p>\n

10. They’re flaky and undependable<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Llegados a este punto, no puedes depender de tu amigo ni siquiera para las cosas m\u00e1s insignificantes.<\/p>\n

Son completamente poco fiables y te han abandonado en muchas ocasiones hasta ahora.<\/p>\n

Ya no se puede confiar en que sean puntuales o aut\u00e9nticos.<\/p>\n

La cualidad clave de una amistad equilibrada es la coherencia. Decir algo y saber que tu amigo es bueno para ello.<\/p>\n

Promising to pick you up at the airport and knowing they’ll be there.<\/p>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Walking your dog when they say they would and not forgetting to show up after your doctor’s appointment.<\/p>\n

When consistency stops being a factor, it is highly likely that you’re in an unbalanced friendship.<\/p>\n

Presta atenci\u00f3n a qui\u00e9n te abandona y qui\u00e9n aparece incluso en los momentos dif\u00edciles. Eso te dir\u00e1 m\u00e1s que las palabras.<\/p>\n

One-sided friendships are difficult to deal with but the sooner you rip off the Band-Aid, the sooner it’ll stop hurting.<\/p>\n

11. You’re always the designated driver<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This pertains to those with a driver’s license. With good friends, you’re never made to feel like you’re nothing but a chauffeur.<\/p>\n

Even if you’re one of the few in your group who can actually drive, they know better than to keep expecting you to drive them everywhere.<\/p>\n

But in one-sided friendships, you’re basically their own personal Uber.<\/p>\n

Be that a night out or a groceries run, they’ll always happily point out how lucky they are to have you to drive them.<\/p>\n

But they’ll never stop to see how selfish it is to keep expecting you to just stop your life and be their driver as if your time is not important.<\/p>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Peor a\u00fan es cuando te obligan a conducir en las salidas nocturnas; nunca llegas a tomar una sola copa mientras ellos siguen bebiendo alegremente hasta hartarse.<\/p>\n

Don’t be anyone’s doormat! Just because you drive, it doesn’t mean you always have to!<\/p>\n

Los buenos amigos encontrar\u00e1n la forma de que participes en aventuras de borrachera sin ser su ch\u00f3fer sobrio designado.<\/p>\n

A los verdaderos amigos les importa m\u00e1s pasar tiempo contigo que contar con tus servicios de conducci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

12. Te hacen sentir agotado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Esta es la parte m\u00e1s triste.<\/p>\n

No importa lo mucho que quieras salvar esa amistad o lo unidos que estuvisteis una vez, ahora, despu\u00e9s de estar cerca de ellos, lo \u00fanico que sientes es un profundo agotamiento.
\nThat’s what an unbalanced friendship does to a person.<\/p>\n

Estar cerca de alguien que sigue utiliz\u00e1ndote, aprovech\u00e1ndose de ti y siendo ego\u00edstamente cruel contigo te agota y destruye tu salud mental.<\/p>\n

After getting home, all you can think about is how peaceful and nice it is to be not surrounded by them and as horrible as it may sound, you’re kind of glad they’re no longer there, at least for the remainder of the day.<\/p>\n

My advice is listen to your gut. If someone makes you feel drained and used, they’re not your friend.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

They probably never were. It may have taken you a bit longer to see it but now you get to decide that it’s time to say your goodbyes.<\/p>\n

After discarding toxic, bad friends from your life, for a while, you’ll be feeling lost and a little bit broken.<\/p>\n

But one day, you’ll simply wake up with a brand new perspective that will help you turn over a new leaf.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: \u00bfSexo con amigos? Los 10 mayores secretos que nadie te contar\u00e1<\/a><\/p>\n

And Finally…<\/h3>\n

Empiezas a ver las cosas como realmente son y no como quer\u00edas que fueran.<\/p>\n

Los malos amigos empiezan a aparecer y te das cuenta de lo raros e inestimables que son los buenos amigos.<\/p>\n

Tienes una nueva perspectiva de la vida y decides descartar tu amistad unilateral por el bien de tu salud mental.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

No more fake friends and wasted time. Unbalanced friendships are a toxic waste of time and yours is simply too valuable for anyone who doesn’t see the value of being around you.<\/p>\n

Knowing your worth is the key to finding people whose company will make you feel good about yourself. It isn’t selfish putting yourself first. <\/p>\n

It isn’t wrong to want to find a deep, genuine connection with somebody who will appreciate what you bring to the table.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Mereces que te quieran por tu intelecto y tu bondad.<\/p>\n

Moving on is never easy but when you know it’s the right thing to do, you never look back.<\/p>\n

Decide dejar lo malo en el pasado y centrarse en lo bueno de su presente.<\/p>\n

Y antes de que te des cuenta, empiezas a sentirte condenadamente bien despu\u00e9s de haber estado tan mal durante demasiado tiempo.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: C\u00f3mo vivir en paz y armon\u00eda con la ayuda de estos 5 pasos<\/a><\/p>\n

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A good friend is hard to find and even harder to keep. And to be honest, I don’t know a single individual who hasn’t had a hard time with toxic friendships or long-distance friendships and wondering how to deal with them. One-sided friendships are just the worst, right? You’re so sure that you’ve got a…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":55257,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29624],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-55256","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-friends-and-family"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29624,"label":"friends&family"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/12-Signs-Youre-In-A-One-Sided-Friendship-And-How-To-Deal-With-It.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29624,"name":"friends&family","slug":"friends-and-family","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29624,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Do you want to improve your relationship with friends and family? Following these tips will help you boost your connection with your favorite people.","parent":29620,"count":316,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29624,"category_count":316,"category_description":"Do you want to improve your relationship with friends and family? Following these tips will help you boost your connection with your favorite people.","cat_name":"friends&family","category_nicename":"friends-and-family","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55256","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=55256"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55256\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/55257"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=55256"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=55256"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=55256"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}