{"id":5527,"date":"2020-03-22T08:32:33","date_gmt":"2020-03-22T08:32:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5527"},"modified":"2022-01-24T15:45:16","modified_gmt":"2022-01-24T15:45:16","slug":"me-duele-de-verdad-fingir-que-no-ha-pasado-nada","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/me-duele-de-verdad-fingir-que-no-ha-pasado-nada\/","title":{"rendered":"Me hiciste da\u00f1o de verdad, \u00bfentonces por qu\u00e9 finges que no pas\u00f3 nada?"},"content":{"rendered":"

“When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide you didn’t. ” (Louis C.K.)<\/i><\/p>\n

I take my feelings seriously. I am made of them. When I love, I love with everything I have. I give one hundred percent. So, it’s very difficult for me to understand why someone who says he loves me just as much, hurt me.<\/p>\n

I really resent people acting like nothing happened after they hurt you. They don’t get to tell you they didn’t. “You take everything to heart.”, “It\u2019s, not a big deal.”    <\/i>Pero para ti, es un gran problema. Sabes c\u00f3mo te sientes y lo que sientes.<\/p>\n

A pesar de que te hirieron y te rompieron el coraz\u00f3n, los hombres tienden a venir despu\u00e9s de un tiempo y pretender que “All good.”, ” No hard feelings.”, “LIfe happens.”, “Shit happens”, “Can we at least be friends?” <\/i><\/p>\n

I can’t understand why that happens. And it happens very often.When I feel like I have hurt somebody, I apologize and apologize till they ask me to stop. I never go around pretending like nothing happened.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que realic\u00e9 un peque\u00f1o estudio por mi cuenta. Dediqu\u00e9 mucho tiempo a interrogarme a m\u00ed mismo y a las personas de mi entorno que resultaron heridas por alguien. Experimentaron situaciones como: <\/i><\/p>\n

Te romp\u00ed el coraz\u00f3n. Pero quiero que seamos amigos<\/h3>\n

Tu novio te enga\u00f1\u00f3<\/a>. Te minti\u00f3. Abus\u00f3 de tu confianza. Se fue sin despedirse.<\/p>\n

Y aqu\u00ed est\u00e1, despu\u00e9s de alg\u00fan tiempo, de la nada, llamando para ver si pod\u00e9is seguir siendo amigos. Te echa de menos. \u00a1Claro que s\u00ed!<\/p>\n

Esperan que les ayudes con alg\u00fan problema<\/h3>\n

Normalmente, si sabes escuchar y est\u00e1n acostumbrados a confiar en ti, te llamar\u00e1n o te enviar\u00e1n un mensaje de texto para hablar.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s, te agobiaban con sus problemas vitales. Como si estuvieras ah\u00ed, sentado en casa, esperando a que llamaran.<\/p>\n

Le guardan rencor por no devolverle la llamada<\/h3>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de que se hayan puesto en contacto contigo una o dos veces tras una ruptura, est\u00e1n resentidos contigo por no haber seguido en contacto.<\/p>\n

Como si unas llamadas hicieran que todo fuera mejor, y pudieras volver a ser como antes. Hablando todos los d\u00edas.<\/p>\n

Les molesta que seas feliz sin ellos<\/h3>\n

Tambi\u00e9n tienen esa tendencia a aparecer en tu vida cuando todo te va de maravilla.<\/p>\n

Encontraste un nuevo novio y eres feliz. \u00bfC\u00f3mo te atreves a ser feliz sin ellos.<\/p>\n

They can’t process the fact that you moved on. They say you were never hurt\u2014you never loved them because you found somebody else so quickly.<\/p>\n

Entonces, empec\u00e9 a preguntar a la gente que estaba en el otro lado del rompecabezas. Ellos eran los que lastimaron a alguien que les importaba, \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 hacen esto?<\/i><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n:<\/strong> 6 maneras en que tu ex est\u00e1 haciendo que superarlo sea m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil de lo que debe ser<\/a><\/p>\n

They have a difficult time accepting they hurt you, so it is easier to pretend like they didn’t<\/h3>\n

A la gente se le da bien mentirse a s\u00ed misma. Son conscientes de que te han causado dolor y sufrimiento.<\/p>\n

Pero lo relegan a un segundo plano en su memoria fingiendo que nunca ocurri\u00f3 para tranquilizar sus conciencias.<\/p>\n

They have never been hurt, so they don’t know how it feels<\/h3>\n

They are unable to relate. They never walked in your shoes, and they don’t know how it feels.<\/p>\n

Son ego\u00edstas<\/h3>\n

Se dan cuenta de que te han hecho da\u00f1o, pero te quieren de vuelta.<\/a> So, it’s easier to start a conversation with you pretending everything is OK.<\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n hay personas que, cuando se trata de sentimientos, son fr\u00edas como el hielo.<\/h3>\n

This is not usual. However, some people are just incapable of feeling. Then, it’s not surprising they don’t show remorse, either.<\/p>\n

Este tipo de situaciones nunca tienen que ver contigo. Son ellos los que tienen problemas.<\/p>\n

Lo \u00fanico que puedes hacer es aceptar la situaci\u00f3n o apartarlos de tu vida.<\/p>\n

I prefer the second option. Because life is hard as it is. You don’t wanna live it doing something that doesn’t make you calm and happy.<\/p>\n

Pretending and acting like you don’t have feelings towards somebody is way too difficult. Not to mention painful.<\/i><\/p>\n

But in the end, it’s all up to you.<\/i><\/p>\n

\"Me <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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