{"id":55366,"date":"2020-03-19T19:57:58","date_gmt":"2020-03-19T19:57:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55366"},"modified":"2022-03-24T01:58:38","modified_gmt":"2022-03-24T01:58:38","slug":"mi-novio-me-engano","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/mi-novio-me-engano\/","title":{"rendered":"Mi novio me ha enga\u00f1ado: 21 cosas que debes y no debes hacer"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mi novio me ha enga\u00f1ado, \u00bfqu\u00e9 debo hacer?<\/p>\n

Si alguna vez se te ha pasado por la cabeza esta frase o una parecida, sabes lo devastadora y desgarradora que es esta experiencia.<\/p>\n

When you first find out that someone you could have sworn would do you no harm went behind your back and deliberately wounded you emotionally, you feel lost and don\u2019t know what to do.<\/p>\n

\u00bfTodo lo que tuvisteis fue una gran mentira? \u00bfAlguna vez te quiso?<\/p>\n

\u00bfSu novio infiel<\/a> \u00bfAlguna vez pens\u00f3 en ti mientras lo hac\u00eda? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 lo hizo en primer lugar?<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Estas y muchas otras preguntas pasan por tu cabeza y no tienes respuestas.<\/p>\n

In this state of shock, it is expected of you to make some moves that don\u2019t look like you. You don’t know what the right thing to do is and you need guidance. Well, that\u2019s why we\u2019re here.<\/p>\n

I wish that not a single woman has to read this but if you\u2019re in a similar situation and if your boyfriend cheated on you, we\u2019ll help you play your cards right and make the best of it all.<\/p>\n

Here are some things you should do and the things you shouldn\u2019t do when you\u2019re the victim of his infidelity.<\/p>\n

11 Things You Should And Shouldn’t Do When Enga\u00f1a<\/a> Sobre ti<\/h2>\n

1. Estar seguro de ello<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Before finding ways to deal with your partner\u2019s infidelity, firstly, you have to be sure that it really happened.<\/p>\n

Una cosa es que te haya confesado que te ha enga\u00f1ado, porque en este caso, todo est\u00e1 m\u00e1s que claro y sabes a qu\u00e9 atenerte.<\/p>\n

However, if these are your doubts only based on your gut feeling and if the sentence \u2018I think my boyfriend cheated on me\u2019 has gone through your mind, it is time to do some more investigating.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not advising you to go all crazy and dig up all the details from his other relationships just to break your heart even more.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I\u2019m telling you to get all the intel you can so you have all the proof you need in case your cheating boyfriend starts denying it or presenting it as much different than it actually is.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, si has encontrado algunos mensajes de texto incriminatorios o actividades sospechosas en sus perfiles de las redes sociales, guarda las pruebas para m\u00e1s tarde o incluso sigue espi\u00e1ndole hasta que llegues al fondo de estos mensajes de texto y cosas por el estilo y veas si hay algo m\u00e1s oculto detr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Necesitas saber si tuvo una relaci\u00f3n seria paralela o fue algo de una sola vez.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEra alguien a quien mensajes de texto<\/a> durante alg\u00fan tiempo o la aventura fue f\u00edsica?<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, poner los cuernos no tiene excusa y es una de las peores cosas que le puedes hacer a tu media naranja, pero sigue habiendo una diferencia entre si tuvo una aventura que dur\u00f3 un tiempo y que estuvo ocultando conscientemente mientras viv\u00eda una doble vida y si s\u00f3lo fue un momento de debilidad mientras estaba borracho, que se arrepinti\u00f3 cuanto antes<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You see, it would be much easier for you to believe that this was just your imagination and that your boyfriend didn\u2019t cheat on you at all.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, si empieza a mentir o a acusarte de exagerar, tu subconsciente te har\u00e1 confiar en \u00e9l, simplemente porque quieres borrar este episodio y continuar con vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

However, if you present him with the evidence of his infidelity, he won\u2019t have any choice but to confess everything.<\/p>\n

2. Aceptarla<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Sadly, the worst thing many women do after they realize they\u2019ve been cheated on is pretend it didn\u2019t happen and avoid entering the realm of recuperaci\u00f3n de la aventura<\/a>. <\/p>\n

Pues bien, si quieres hacerlo todo bien, tienes que escapar de este patr\u00f3n t\u00f3xico de comportamiento y aceptar la cruda verdad.<\/p>\n

There is no point in trying to dig into this as deeply as possible, no point in repressing your emotions, pretending that you\u2019re not hurt or heartbroken or acting like the entire affair didn\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, probablemente ahora te resulte m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil manejarlo as\u00ed, pero a la larga este enfoque te traer\u00e1 muchos m\u00e1s problemas de los que crees.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let your boyfriend\u2019s moves define you and remember that you are and will always be much more than a girl who got cheated on.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, you need to embrace it because it is the truth you can\u2019t run away from and which won\u2019t magically disappear if you choose to ignore it.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t expect to move on or to heal unless you face reality first.<\/p>\n

Te guste o no, tienes que tener la fuerza para aceptarlo y encontrar la mejor manera de afrontarlo.<\/p>\n

3. Enfrentarse a \u00e9l<\/h2>\n

\"el<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t give your boyfriend the silent treatment or go all pasivo-agresivo<\/a> on him, expecting he\u2019ll realize you know about his infidelity.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t waste your time and lose more of your patience by waiting for him to bring the subject up because that won\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n

This man has been able to keep a secret from you and go behind you back, so he certainly won\u2019t start the topic by himself.<\/p>\n

Instead, he\u2019ll pretend to be innocent for as long as possible.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

That is why you\u2019ll be the one to put a stop to this agony and start this conversation.<\/p>\n

Cu\u00e9ntale tus dudas y espera su reacci\u00f3n y respuesta.<\/p>\n

Si tu novio intenta negar la aventura y empieza a convencerte de que no ten\u00eda ning\u00fan sentido, golp\u00e9ale con todas las pruebas que tengas.<\/p>\n

Show him that you\u2019re not a fool he can keep on playing with!<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t take it personally<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

After you get cheated on, you think that you\u2019re the only one who didn\u2019t see what was happening right in front of your eyes.<\/p>\n

You analyze your relationship and can\u2019t help but wonder where things went wrong and how it was possible for the two of you to get to this stage.<\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m here to beg you to put an effort into not taking it so personally. First of all, trust me\u2014you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, cheating happens all the time and there are many more women around you who have been through something similar; you just don\u2019t know it since they chose to stay quiet about it.<\/p>\n

En segundo lugar, tu novio es un infiel y eso no tiene nada que ver contigo.<\/p>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Su naturaleza infiel no tiene correlaci\u00f3n con tu aspecto, personalidad o la forma en que le trataste; es un problema que tiene y algo que tiene que arreglar de s\u00ed mismo.<\/p>\n

I know you\u2019ll probably start replaying your entire relationship back and forth in your mind. Were you not enough?<\/p>\n

\u00bfPodr\u00edas haber sido m\u00e1s guapa, m\u00e1s lista, m\u00e1s interesante? \u00bfDeber\u00edas haberte dado cuenta antes de que algo pasaba?<\/p>\n

He probably cheated on his exes and it is very likely that he\u2019ll continue with his behavior patterns regardless of whether he remains next to you or moves on to his next victim.<\/p>\n

And there is absolutely nothing you can do about it; you couldn\u2019t have prevented it and nor could you have predicted it.<\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t let him put the blame on you<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Cuando la gente enga\u00f1a, suele arrastrar a su pareja a la juego de culpar<\/a>.<\/p>\n

En lugar de asumir toda la responsabilidad por sus horribles acciones, algunos hombres intentan darle la vuelta a la tortilla y hacerte sentir culpable por haberte enga\u00f1ado.<\/p>\n

Suena rid\u00edculo, lo s\u00e9.<\/p>\n

However, when your low self-esteem kicks in and when you feel humiliated and betrayed, it is way easier for you to be manipulated into believing that you\u2019re guilty as well.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow him to tell you that he did all of this because you weren\u2019t giving him enough attention, because you refused to experiment under the sheets, because you don\u2019t look the way you did at the beginning of your relationship, because you stopped giving him butterflies, because your relationship had fallen into a rut or something like that.<\/p>\n

\"novia<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t believe his empty excuses because there is absolutely no justification for what he did.<\/p>\n

After all, if he wasn\u2019t content with your committed relationship or if you weren\u2019t making him happy anymore, he should have tried talking things through and put an effort into rebuilding and reviving your romance.<\/p>\n

Luego, si nada funcionaba, siempre ten\u00eda la opci\u00f3n de marcharse como un caballero.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, eligi\u00f3 la peor de todas las opciones; eligi\u00f3 traicionarte y apu\u00f1alarte por la espalda, sin pens\u00e1rselo dos veces y sin importarle un bledo las consecuencias que su aventura pudiera dejarte.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Please remember\u2014you\u2019re the victim here and the victim is never guilty.<\/p>\n

Si tuvo los cojones de ir por ah\u00ed enga\u00f1ando, que sea lo suficientemente hombre y asuma la responsabilidad de sus actos como un adulto.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014by accusing you for his misdeeds and engaging in these blame games, he is just trying to make things easier for himself.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo intenta limpiar su conciencia y liberarse de la culpa.<\/p>\n

And you shouldn\u2019t allow him to do that at any cost.<\/p>\n

6. \u2026but don\u2019t blame the other girl either<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

A primera vista, es probable que empieces a maldecir el d\u00eda en que naci\u00f3 la chica con la que te enga\u00f1\u00f3 tu novio.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll aim all of your disappointment and hate toward her. This man loved you and respected you until she came along, right?<\/p>\n

She must have seduced him into cheating and manipulated him into believing she\u2019d give him what you couldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Y estos pensamientos no son inusuales.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo, es mucho m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil para ti echarle toda la culpa a una chica cualquiera de la que no sabes nada que darte cuenta de que pasaste a\u00f1os al lado de alguien que te har\u00eda algo as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It is easier to come up with different scenarios in which she\u2019s the bad guy, while he is a naive boy who did everything by accident and didn\u2019t know better.<\/p>\n

M\u00e1s f\u00e1cil pero no cierto.<\/p>\n

Nadie espera que te conviertas en el mejor amigo de esta mujer o que sientas pena por ella, pero \u00bfse te ha pasado por la cabeza que ella tambi\u00e9n es su v\u00edctima?<\/p>\n

That she didn\u2019t even know you existed? Or maybe she did but he kept lying to her?<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest\u2014your boyfriend probably didn\u2019t tell her that te quiere<\/a> very much and that he doesn\u2019t plan on leaving you.<\/p>\n

Even though being the third wheel to someone\u2019s serious relationship is not something anyone should be proud of, have in mind that she is not guilty of ruining your relationship.<\/p>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Si tu hombre es un tramposo<\/a>...te enga\u00f1ar\u00e1 y si no es con ella, ser\u00e1 con otra.<\/p>\n

After all, she is not the one who made any commitment toward you. She didn\u2019t make any promises and nor did she break any vows.<\/p>\n

Ella no es la que te deb\u00eda fidelidad ni la que ten\u00eda el deber de respetar tu amor y los sacrificios que hiciste.<\/p>\n

She is not the one who should have thought of you\u2014he is.<\/p>\n

7. Hable con \u00e9l sinceramente<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, este hombre te ha causado mucho da\u00f1o. Te rompi\u00f3 el coraz\u00f3n y traicion\u00f3 tu confianza de la peor manera posible.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not justifying his actions at all but this event doesn\u2019t nullify your entire relaci\u00f3n comprometida<\/a> y todo lo que compartisteis, tuvisteis y pasasteis antes de que ocurriera la infidelidad.<\/p>\n

Este sigue siendo el hombre con el que tienes una historia y alguien a quien considerabas tu mejor amigo y alma gemela hasta hace poco.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, ambos merecen tener una charla honesta sobre todo lo que ha sucedido.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t spare him anything, tell him exactly how you feel and face him with the consequences of his actions.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to put a brave mask on and pretend that you\u2019re completely unharmed because that couldn\u2019t be further from the truth.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t see yourself as a victim either (even though you are his victim) and don\u2019t feel sorry for yourself.<\/p>\n

Habla sinceramente de todo lo que ha pasado, de todo lo que te ha llevado a este horrible acontecimiento.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014talk about your plans for the future and be honest about whether it is possible to rebuild your relationship or not.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que quiere? \u00bfTe est\u00e1 suplicando que vuelvas con \u00e9l o quiere poner fin a las cosas?<\/p>\n

8. Perm\u00edtase tiempo para el duelo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

What you\u2019ve been through is not the end of the world or the end of your life. However, it is not easy either.<\/p>\n

Darse cuenta de que el ser amado ha sido infiel es devastador para cualquier mujer.<\/p>\n

So, please don\u2019t feel the need for some heroic acts and don\u2019t pretend like everything is in perfect order.<\/p>\n

En su lugar, perm\u00edtase tiempo para grieve<\/a>. Llora y grita si sientes la necesidad de hacerlo.<\/p>\n

Si es posible, t\u00f3mate unos d\u00edas libres en el trabajo y cancela todas tus obligaciones para poder tener algo de tiempo para ti.<\/p>\n

Procesa todo lo que ha ocurrido antes de estar preparado para volver al mundo.<\/p>\n

9. Haz todo lo posible por perdonarle<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

After the initial shock has passed and after you accept the fact that your boyfriend cheated on you, the first emotion you\u2019ll probably have is hate.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll feel repulsed by this man and you\u2019ll curse the day he was born.<\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t feel bad about it since it is completely normal and a phase all of us have gone through.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t let these negative emotions get the best of you and overwhelm your entire being either.<\/p>\n

You see, hatred and resentment won\u2019t do any damage to the guy who cheated you.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t feel it and nor will it make him regret his decision, if he hasn\u2019t already.<\/p>\n

Por otro lado, te comer\u00e1 vivo y te romper\u00e1 a\u00fan m\u00e1s el coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Cambiar\u00e1 la esencia de la persona que eras y te convertir\u00e1 en una mujer amargada, negativa y sin nada de amor.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, por favor encuentra la fuerza en ti mismo para eventualmente perdone<\/a> tu novio infiel.<\/p>\n

Of course, your forgiveness is a process that takes time, otherwise it wouldn\u2019t be honest.<\/p>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

What is important is for you to try as hard as you can, even if he doesn\u2019t ask you to.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014you\u2019re not doing it for his sake, you\u2019re doing it to liberate yourself of all the toxic waste he left behind.<\/p>\n

Naturally, forgiving your boyfriend doesn\u2019t have anything to do with whether you\u2019ll take him back or not.<\/p>\n

By accepting his apology (even if you didn\u2019t get one), you\u2019re letting go of everything bad that has happened, you\u2019re getting rid of the emotional baggage this affair put on your shoulders and you\u2019re minimalizing the possibility of carrying some past traumas into your future.<\/p>\n

10. Don\u2019t wait for closure<\/h2>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

Como mujer traicionada, es perfectamente natural que exijas una explicaci\u00f3n a tu infiel.<\/p>\n

You want to know all the details of his affair and most importantly\u2014you want to know why he did all of this.<\/p>\n

Well, I have to disappoint you and tell you that it is unlikely that you\u2019ll ever get the answers you crave.<\/p>\n

No importa lo que este tipo te diga, su explicaci\u00f3n nunca te satisfar\u00e1 lo suficiente.<\/p>\n

Por otro lado, tambi\u00e9n existe la posibilidad de que convierta toda esta situaci\u00f3n en una pelea, s\u00f3lo para evitar hablar las cosas.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

En cualquier caso, tienes que deje de esperar al cierre<\/a> y simplemente debes seguir adelante con o sin ella.<\/p>\n

Even if you don\u2019t get an apology, if you never find out exactly what happened, if he doesn\u2019t show signs of remorse, none of it is your concern.<\/p>\n

Tu \u00fanica obligaci\u00f3n en este momento es superar todo esto de forma sana y salir de \u00e9l con las menores consecuencias posibles.<\/p>\n

After all, there is no valid explanation for cheating. He is an asshole who couldn\u2019t keep it in his pants\u2014simple as that.<\/p>\n

11. T\u00f3mese su tiempo para tomar una decisi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It is crucial for you to have one significant thing in mind\u2014this is your life and you\u2019re the only one who has the right to make decisions regarding it.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you\u2019re the one who will suffer the consequences of your choices and the one who has to live with them.<\/p>\n

So when you decide whether you\u2019ll recuperar a tu novio infiel<\/a> or not, don\u2019t listen to anyone.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, tus seres m\u00e1s queridos s\u00f3lo te desean lo mejor, pero no caminan en tus zapatos y no tienen nada que decir al respecto.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Una cosa es que decidas volver con este chico o no pero otra muy distinta es que hagas algo de esto por culpa de otras personas.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014dumping a cheater is never a wrong choice.<\/p>\n

Los hombres como \u00e9l rara vez cambian y es probable que repita su error, incluso si consigues superar lo que hizo esta vez.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, si crees que merece una segunda oportunidad, nadie te juzgar\u00e1 por ello.<\/p>\n

Just be aware you\u2019ll both have to invest a lot of time and energy before your relationship starts functioning all over again.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Desenamorarse tras una infidelidad: 12 maneras f\u00e1ciles de hacerlo<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

5 cosas que debes hacer si decides volver con \u00e9l<\/h2>\n

For some people, their partner’s infidelity is not a deal breaker and they want to give their relationship another shot.<\/p>\n

If you’re one of these people, here are the steps you should follow.<\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t expect your relationship to ever be the same\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

As much as you try doing so, be aware that you can\u2019t magically erase the affair which happened.<\/p>\n

T\u00fa y tu compa\u00f1ero s\u00f3lo pod\u00e9is hacer equipo, recoger los pedazos rotos e intentar pegarlos de nuevo.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, don\u2019t expect things to be the way they were.<\/p>\n

Just because you forgave him, it doesn\u2019t mean that everything is back in order and that you’ll manage to have una relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a> durante la noche.<\/p>\n

In fact, you\u2019re up for many more fights, grudges and arguments.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, lo peor que puedes hacer es reprimir todas tus emociones y fingir que no ha pasado nada.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, s\u00ed, tu relaci\u00f3n ser\u00e1 diferente en muchos aspectos.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

After all, something clearly wasn\u2019t right about how it worked before, otherwise the affair wouldn\u2019t have happened, so don\u2019t see this change as something necessarily bad.<\/p>\n

However, it is completely up to you whether you\u2019ll be able to make the best out of this painful situation or you\u2019ll make things even worse and break your relationship to the point of no repair.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014very few couples succeed in doing this.<\/p>\n

No son pocos los que ven en ello un \u00faltimo aviso de que algo va mal y lo consideran un punto de inflexi\u00f3n para su relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, todas las parejas son diferentes y nadie puede decirte qu\u00e9 pasar\u00e1 contigo y con tu novio.<\/p>\n

You can just hope for the best, since you\u2019ve already chosen to take things in this direction.<\/p>\n

2. \u2026 but don\u2019t bring up the cheating constantly<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Nobody expects you to ever forget what you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you can\u2019t order your heart to heal until it\u2019s fully ready so don\u2019t even try doing so.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, hay una diferencia entre olvidar y perdonar<\/a>. Y t\u00fa elegiste hacer lo segundo.<\/p>\n

Be honest about yourself\u2014are you really ready to forgive your boyfriend for cheating on you?<\/p>\n

\u00bfTodav\u00eda le quieres de verdad, a pesar de que haya hecho esta cosa horrible?<\/p>\n

Do you believe that your story deserves another sequel? Are you certain that you\u2019re not doing this just to heal your ego?<\/p>\n

If the answers to most of these questions are negative, then it\u2019s time to let go of every thought of reconciliation and tell this man your final goodbye.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It is pointless to try and rebuild something if you\u2019re sure that you\u2019ll never be able to fully forgive him and if you don\u2019t hope you\u2019ll manage to work things out..<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you think that you have the capacity to leave his affair in the past, you\u2019ll make no progress if you continue bringing it up every time you have the chance to.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t use it as an excuse for your toxic behavior and don\u2019t see it as permission to be a bitch to your boyfriend.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014he didn\u2019t force you to let him back into your life, it was your choice.<\/p>\n

3. Apoye su decisi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/h2>\n

Y es una elecci\u00f3n que debes apoyar a toda costa.<\/p>\n

Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should forgive him for another affair but changing your mind every few days is not acceptable and nor is it healthy for either of you.<\/p>\n

So, please don\u2019t listen to people telling you that you should have done things differently. Don\u2019t second-guess your decision, now that you\u2019ve already made it, and don\u2019t think of all the what-ifs.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re a mature, grown woman who has the right to make her own choices so please don\u2019t compare yourself with other girls either.<\/p>\n

Recuerda que cada pareja es una historia en s\u00ed misma y ten fe en que hiciste lo que estaba destinado para ti.<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t seek revenge<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I\u2019m warning you\u2014one of the first impulses you\u2019ll have when you find out you\u2019ve been cheated on is to make your boyfriend pay for his affair.<\/p>\n

Incluso cuando decidas perdonarle, la idea de venganza<\/a> puede volver ocasionalmente a tu mente.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t feel bad about these thoughts because it is completely natural for you to have them.<\/p>\n

Buscas mecanismos de defensa y formas de curar tu coraz\u00f3n y tu ego rotos.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, supones que darle a este tipo una probada de su propia medicina ser\u00eda lo ideal.<\/p>\n

De este modo, los dos sentir\u00e9is lo mismo y estar\u00e9is en posiciones similares. Adem\u00e1s, crees que te ayudar\u00e1 a recuperar tu dignidad.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

You pay him back and he will get what he deserves for the humiliation he\u2019s put you through. Well, let me tell you that none of this is true.<\/p>\n

Even though I\u2019m not some kind of pacifist, trust me that seeking revenge will get you nowhere and that it is one of the worst things you could do to your relationship, which you decided you wanted to try and recover.<\/p>\n

En primer lugar, nunca se sabe cu\u00e1les fueron las razones por las que tu novio se fue a tus espaldas.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEstuvo realmente enamorado de esta otra mujer durante un tiempo?<\/p>\n

Even if he wasn\u2019t, the fact is that she attracted him enough to forget about his loyalty and commitment.<\/p>\n

So, no matter what you do to pay him back, you\u2019ll always have these doubts.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

On the other hand, he\u2019ll forever be aware that you didn\u2019t cheat because you wanted to\u2014you only did it to hurt him. Knowing that, your affairs will never have the same echoes in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Another argument against revenge is the fact that by doing this, you\u2019ll be the same as your boyfriend.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll have succeeded in pulling you down to his level and you\u2019ll get the label of a cheater as well, when you both know that you\u2019re not one in the essence of your being.<\/p>\n

Also, it is completely unnecessary to pull yet another person into your drama. You might break some other guy\u2019s heart in the process and you of all people know how painful that is.<\/p>\n

5. 5. Pedir ayuda<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

El proceso de recuperaci\u00f3n tras un enga\u00f1o nunca es f\u00e1cil ni breve.<\/p>\n

After some time of attempting to make things right, many couples realize that, in spite of all of their desires, they aren\u2019t capable of doing it by themselves.<\/p>\n

Y no hay nada de qu\u00e9 avergonzarse.<\/p>\n

De hecho, buscar ayuda profesional es exactamente lo que usted y su pareja deben hacer si quieren superar esta situaci\u00f3n de la forma m\u00e1s saludable posible.<\/p>\n

5 cosas que debes hacer si decides mudarte solo<\/h2>\n

On the other hand, if you see this cheating as a serious deal breaker you can’t surpass (after all, the two of you weren’t in an open relationship) and you decide to romper<\/a> con este tipo para siempre, hay algunas cosas que debes recordar:<\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t rush your healing<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Lo primero que tienes que hacer si decides seguir adelante por ti mismo es tomar todas las tiempo que necesite para curarse adecuadamente<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve had a massive emotional blow and it is completely natural that you can\u2019t get it off your shoulders in a matter of days.<\/p>\n

So please, don\u2019t pretend like if you\u2019re okay when you\u2019re not. Don\u2019t feel embarrassed about your sadness and embrace it as a natural part of your healing process.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014ignore everyone who is telling you that you should have gotten over this by now.<\/p>\n

Yes, they\u2019re right\u2014your ex isn\u2019t worthy of your tears but if you feel like crying, it is always better to get it out of your system than to pile it up inside of you.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Of course, you shouldn\u2019t let your grief get the best of you but you shouldn\u2019t rush yourself into doing something you\u2019re not ready for just to meet other people\u2019s expectations.<\/p>\n

You loved this guy for a very long time and it will take you a while to forget what he\u2019s done to you.<\/p>\n

The point here is that you\u2019re not only trying to fix your heartbreak, you\u2019re also dealing with your crushed ego, low autoestima<\/a>inseguridades y dudas respecto a tu autoestima que surgieron de esta situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

So, healing under these circumstances is even harder than recovering from a \u2018standard\u2019 breakup. However, it can be done and I promise that you will do it!<\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t jump into new relationships<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Uno de los mayores errores que puedes cometer es lanzarte a los brazos del primer hombre que se cruce en tu camino lo antes posible.<\/p>\n

Going from one rebound relationship to the next won\u2019t make you forget your past\u2014it will only be toxic for your present and future.<\/p>\n

Your best friends and family may keep telling you that it\u2019s best to fight fire with fire but trust me, in your case, this is not the way to go.<\/p>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Besides involving some new boyfriend in your drama, this relationship will make you feel more miserable and it certainly won\u2019t help you leave your traumas behind.<\/p>\n

You see, moving on isn\u2019t just about finding a new boyfriend. It\u2019s about finding yourself again before you\u2019re ready for a nueva relaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not saying that you should remain single forever.<\/p>\n

Just don\u2019t do anything you don\u2019t truly want to do and don\u2019t put yourself back in the dating pool until you resolve all of your issues.<\/p>\n

3. Take it as a lesson\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

En lugar de lamentarte por tu pasado y verlo como lo peor que te ha podido pasar, haz todo lo posible por aprender de \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

I know it sounds like a clich\u00e9 but trust me when I tell you that you ought to be grateful for the way things turned out.<\/p>\n

After all, you got rid of a man who clearly didn\u2019t love you enough, otherwise he wouldn\u2019t have te enga\u00f1\u00f3<\/a>.<\/p>\n

As much as you might refuse to admit this, you two weren\u2019t meant to be and this is actually God\u2019s way of saving you from more misery that would come in the future, if you had stuck by his side.<\/p>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n fue una oportunidad para que comprendieras lo fuerte y poderosa que eres. Una oportunidad para conocer tu verdadero yo y ver todas tus capacidades.<\/p>\n

Estos acontecimientos le ense\u00f1aron que no todo el mundo es quien pretende ser.<\/p>\n

It showed you that there are some bad people out there who will hurt you without a second thought and that you shouldn\u2019t trust just anyone, even if that someone is your romantic partner.<\/p>\n

4. \u2026 but don\u2019t punish all men out there<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

However, this doesn\u2019t mean that all men are to blame for the mistake one made.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re finally ready to start dating again, don\u2019t let this one experience burden you or convince you that you’ll never have a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

It is perfectly fine if you\u2019re a little bit more careful now, that you need time to open up and that you\u2019re picky about the ones who you let into your life.
\nNevertheless, please don\u2019t become guarded.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t punish every guy who crosses your path for your ex\u2019s sins. Yes, people cheat but not all men are the same.<\/p>\n

No todos te har\u00e1n pasar por un desamor y no todos son infieles.<\/p>\n

Por favor, dale a un buen chico la oportunidad de demostrar que te equivocas.<\/p>\n

When he comes into your life, give him an opportunity to show you that he\u2019s different and don\u2019t chase him away just because of your emotional baggage.<\/p>\n

5. Centrarse en uno mismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s importante aqu\u00ed es poner toda tu energ\u00eda en ti mismo.<\/p>\n

Para empezar, aunque vuelvas a salir, conc\u00e9ntrate en ser feliz.<\/p>\n

Recuerda tu autoestima<\/a>, understand that you\u2019re the most important person in this world and that you don\u2019t need anyone to complete you.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, es genial si encuentra un hombre digno de tu tiempo<\/a> and effort but even if you don\u2019t, I promise you that you will make it on your own.<\/p>\n

\"Mi<\/p>\n

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