{"id":55862,"date":"2020-03-24T10:16:45","date_gmt":"2020-03-24T10:16:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55862"},"modified":"2022-02-28T11:29:44","modified_gmt":"2022-02-28T11:29:44","slug":"banderas-usted-sufre-de-relacion-ocd","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/banderas-usted-sufre-de-relacion-ocd\/","title":{"rendered":"5 se\u00f1ales que indican que padeces TOC en tu relaci\u00f3n de pareja"},"content":{"rendered":"

B\u00e1sicamente, el trastorno obsesivo-compulsivo es el estado en el que uno tiene pensamientos no deseados que no puede controlar o ahuyentar, por mucho que lo intente.<\/p>\n

It is a type of anxiety disorder that makes you feel like you\u2019re not in charge of your brain and which makes your life much harder than it should be.<\/p>\n

Pues bien, el TOC de pareja se produce cuando todos estos pensamientos intrusivos est\u00e1n relacionados \u00fanicamente con tu relaci\u00f3n sentimental, con la que te obsesionas.<\/p>\n

Y el caso es que muchas personas lo padecen, sin ni siquiera ser conscientes de ello.<\/p>\n

Here are the signs that you\u2019re one of them as well.<\/p>\n

1. Cuestionas tu relaci\u00f3n todo el tiempo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The first sign that you\u2019re dealing with relationship OCD is the fact that you keep on questioning your relationship.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs \u00e9ste el verdadero negocio? \u00bfEs \u00e9l el<\/a>?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1is hechos el uno para el otro?<\/p>\n

\u00bfDeber\u00edas haber empezado este romance en primer lugar?<\/p>\n

Estas son todas las preguntas que te rondan por la cabeza.<\/p>\n

Not only that\u2014they are burdening you to a level where you can\u2019t even function properly and most importantly, where you can\u2019t enjoy your relationship with your boyfriend the way you should.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Instead of being concerned with the present moment, you\u2019re obsessing about the past and the future.<\/p>\n

Diseccionas todo lo que pas\u00f3 entre vosotros en el pasado, incluidas las cosas que supuestamente conseguisteis superar.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that you hold grudges or that you\u2019re directly resentful toward your partner\u2014you just replay all the situations back and forth in your head, as if you\u2019ll magically get a different outcome.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, es completamente natural que quieras saber hacia d\u00f3nde va tu relaci\u00f3n, pero la diferencia entre t\u00fa y otras personas es que t\u00fa tienes un impulso incontrolable de conocer todos los detalles de antemano y que necesitas ser cien por cien positivo sobre el resultado, lo cual es, por supuesto, imposible.<\/p>\n

2. Buscas el consuelo de los dem\u00e1s<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, su ansiedad<\/a> doesn\u2019t end there.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t only have these internal monologues regarding your relationship; you also use every possible opportunity to talk it through with everyone around you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like your only subject of conversation with your loved ones has become your romance and you can\u2019t get yourself to talk about anything else besides that.<\/p>\n

De hecho, vas preguntando a tus amigos m\u00e1s \u00edntimos, a la familia e incluso a compa\u00f1eros de trabajo y conocidos su opini\u00f3n sobre vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

It is more than obvious that you\u2019re actually looking for reassurance; you want them to confirm that things are exactly how they should be and that there is nothing to worry about, as if they know what\u2019s going on with you and your boyfriend in detail.<\/p>\n

\"amigo<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure that all of these people love you from the bottom of their heart but if you continue doing this, you won\u2019t lose only your partner\u2014you\u2019ll chase them away too.<\/p>\n

Nobody likes being the third wheel to someone else\u2019s relationship, nor can they make some important decisions regarding your life.<\/p>\n

Whether you want to hear this or not, the truth is that you\u2019re boring and overwhelming them.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure that they\u2019ve told you nothing is wrong like a million times and the last thing they want to do is repeat themselves once more.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, \u00bfqu\u00e9 pueden decirte en primer lugar?<\/p>\n

Yes, you can take advice from the people whose opinions you appreciate but that doesn\u2019t mean that they can rule your relationship.<\/p>\n

3. Pasas demasiado tiempo controlando tus sentimientos<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Otra peligrosa se\u00f1al de alarma de que sufres TOC en las relaciones est\u00e1 relacionada con tus emociones.<\/p>\n

You can spend years next to one man but you still won\u2019t be sure whether you love him for real.<\/p>\n

Is this true love that you\u2019re feeling or is it actually some kind of obsession?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1s enamorada de \u00e9l, le quieres de verdad? \u00bfEs as\u00ed como deber\u00eda sentirse una mujer enamorada?<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo te sentir\u00edas si perdieras a este hombre? \u00bfSe te romper\u00eda el coraz\u00f3n o tu vida seguir\u00eda como si nada hubiera pasado?<\/p>\n

\u00bfTe sentir\u00edas herido porque tu ego est\u00e1 da\u00f1ado o te le echo de menos<\/a> \u00bfDe verdad?<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs s\u00f3lo un h\u00e1bito? \u00bfSe ha convertido esta relaci\u00f3n en nada m\u00e1s que su zona de confort?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1s con \u00e9l porque quieres estar ah\u00ed o s\u00f3lo tienes miedo de estar soltera?<\/p>\n

You see, asking yourself these questions is nothing unusual when you\u2019re just starting a new relationship.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, quieres saber a qu\u00e9 atenerte contigo mismo e intentas examinar la profundidad de tus sentimientos.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, contigo es diferente, porque esas dudas nunca parecen desaparecer.<\/p>\n

No matter how long you have been this man\u2019s girlfriend, you keep on having these thoughts.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Not only that\u2014you also compare the feelings you have now with the ones you had yesterday, last month, last year or at the beginning of your relationship.<\/p>\n

You wonder if anything has changed, whether you\u2019re starting to fall out of love with him or you love him more than before.<\/p>\n

En realidad, esto ocurre sobre todo en las relaciones duraderas.<\/p>\n

Your butterflies are probably long gone and maybe you two have gotten into a rut so you can\u2019t help but wonder if this is how things should be.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1 entrando en una nueva fase de su relaci\u00f3n o sus emociones se est\u00e1n desvaneciendo?<\/p>\n

4. Comparas tu relaci\u00f3n con otras parejas<\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Cuando se padece el TOC de las relaciones, se tiene la costumbre de comparar las cosas.<\/p>\n

You compare your feelings but you also compare your romance with other people\u2019s relationships.<\/p>\n

You keep asking yourself if someone else is happier than you, whether they\u2019re more in love and if they made greater progress than you two.<\/p>\n

Not only that\u2014you also compare your current boyfriend with every other man in your life.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that you would do something about it or actually cheat on him, even if you realized that someone else is better than him in some way;you just have these obsessive thoughts you can\u2019t control, as much as you try.<\/p>\n

Basta con que veas pasar a un t\u00edo bueno para que empiece el c\u00edrculo sin fin.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Empiezas a preguntarte si este t\u00edo es m\u00e1s guapo que tu hombre, si es m\u00e1s listo, m\u00e1s interesante, tiene mejor sentido del humor o si se tratarte mejor<\/a> y te har\u00e1 m\u00e1s feliz.<\/p>\n

Esto ocurre especialmente con tus ex y tus relaciones anteriores.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you try to put the emotions you have for your current boyfriend and the feelings you had for your exes on a scale.<\/p>\n

\u00bfA qui\u00e9n quer\u00edas m\u00e1s? \u00bfTe equivocaste al terminar con alguien de tu pasado y empezar esta relaci\u00f3n?<\/p>\n

\u00bfHay alguien m\u00e1s adecuado para ti?<\/p>\n

5. You\u2019re no es feliz en su relaci\u00f3n<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Con todas estas cosas en la cabeza, no hay forma de que seas feliz.<\/p>\n

La verdad es que tu TOC<\/a> manages to ruin every beautiful moment of your relationship because it simply doesn\u2019t let you enjoy yourself.<\/p>\n

En lugar de tener una sensaci\u00f3n de plenitud cada vez que tu pareja te abraza o te besa, ignoras por completo la realidad y empiezas a hacerte todas esas preguntas.<\/p>\n

Aprovechas esta oportunidad para controlar tus sentimientos y su comportamiento y el momento pasa antes de que te des cuenta.<\/p>\n

Lo mismo ocurre con las actividades de tu dormitorio.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re never completely pleased because you can\u2019t shut your mind off and relax the way you should.<\/p>\n

\"esposa<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014it is great that you don\u2019t follow your heart blindly and that you think things through before acting on them.<\/p>\n

However, if you really do have relationship OCD, it will prevent you from being happy and from reaching your relationship\u2019s full potential, which is a real shame.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, pida ayuda y empiece a trabajar para controlar y, finalmente, ahuyentar estos pensamientos obsesivos porque es poco probable que desaparezcan as\u00ed como as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Have faith that you\u2019ll succeed and once you do, you\u2019ll see it\u2019s way easier to live OCD-free.<\/p>\n

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