{"id":56301,"date":"2020-03-27T13:07:58","date_gmt":"2020-03-27T13:07:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=56301"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:30:09","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:30:09","slug":"como-superar-tu-primer-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-superar-tu-primer-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo superar tu primer amor: 13 pasos para el \u00e9xito"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfC\u00f3mo se supera la <\/span>primer amor<\/span>? Esta es la pregunta a la que todos hemos querido responder al menos una vez en la vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

Podr\u00eda ser el <\/span>primera persona<\/span> salimos en <\/span>instituto<\/span> como 16 <\/span>a\u00f1os<\/span>alguien con quien compartimos <\/span>primer beso<\/span> con, el <\/span>primera persona<\/span> we said “<\/span>Te quiero<\/span>” to, or that special someone we thought was our <\/span>alma gemela<\/span>. Sea quien sea, perder su <\/span>primer novio<\/span> o novia nunca es f\u00e1cil. <\/span><\/p>\n

If this is something you\u2019re dealing with right now, we have a solution to your problem. Here are 13 steps to follow if you\u2019re trying to figure out how to get over your <\/span>primer amor<\/span> de la forma m\u00e1s sana posible. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Accept that it\u2019s the end<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

El paso inicial para superar su <\/span>primer desenga\u00f1o amoroso<\/span> es <\/span>conv\u00e9ncete a ti mismo<\/span> it’s really over. You can\u2019t expect to <\/span>olvidarlos<\/span><\/a> and to kick them out of your heart if you keep hoping that they\u2019ll come back to you and that things will be the way they used to be. <\/span><\/p>\n

That is exactly what many people do when they first break up: they\u2019re in denial and refuse to face the harsh reality. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s easier to keep on pretending that nothing has changed than look at the truth and the pain in your eyes, but you simply have to do it sooner or later, if you want any progress, and it\u2019s definitely better to do it right away than to give yourself more false hope. <\/span><\/p>\n

Destiny won\u2019t magically bring you and your ex together (and even if it does, it would never be the same), this is not a phase or a test every relationship goes through. This is it-this is the end and the final goodbye. <\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed, en lugar de poner su <\/span>toda la vida<\/span> en espera mientras espera pacientemente a que este <\/span>una persona<\/span> volver, invierte toda tu energ\u00eda en superarlos. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Deja de ver tu ruptura como el fin del mundo<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Esto es otra cosa que le ocurre a la mayor\u00eda de la gente despu\u00e9s de su <\/span>primer desenga\u00f1o amoroso<\/span>: they think it\u2019s the end of the world and that they won’t recover in <\/span>un mill\u00f3n<\/span> a\u00f1os. Esta es su <\/span>primera experiencia<\/span> when it comes to this type of emotional pain, it hits you right in the guts and it is perfectly natural that you don\u2019t know how to handle it. <\/span><\/p>\n

At first, you think you\u2019ll die. Your life is over and everything besides this person is pointless. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, this is far from the truth. The Earth will keep on spinning even though you\u2019ve lost someone you love and you will continue living, even though it doesn\u2019t seem that way now. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por favor, deja de ser tan pesimista. <\/span>Las primeras relaciones terminan<\/span>, people grow apart and it’s up to you to accept this as a part of life-nothing more and nothing less.<\/span><\/p>\n

Besides, I won\u2019t lie to you-these things will continue happening. You\u2019ll make mistakes in love and you will be heartbroken again but the difference is, the next time it happens, you\u2019ll know you\u2019ll <\/span>sobrevivir<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Deja de idealizar tu primer amor<\/h2>\n

\"Silueta<\/p>\n

If you want the answer to the question: \u201c<\/span>C\u00f3mo superar mi primer amor<\/span>?\u201d it is actually pretty simple: you just have to stop romanticizing it. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 hace que <\/span>primeros amores<\/span> tan dif\u00edcil de superar es el hecho de que la gente tiende a idealizarlo, ya que es su <\/span>primera experiencia<\/span> cuando se trata de romance. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ntas veces has o\u00eddo decir a alguien que en realidad nunca se olvida la <\/span>primera persona<\/span> you ever loved? That you’ll forever remember your <\/span>primer beso<\/span><\/a> y <\/span>primera experiencia<\/span> con el sexo opuesto?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ntas pel\u00edculas has visto sobre gente que reaviva su <\/span>instituto<\/span> romances cuando envejezcan?<\/span><\/p>\n

You might not be aware of this but we\u2019re surrounded by the cult of <\/span>primer amor<\/span>. Todo el mundo la considera la forma m\u00e1s pura, limpia e intensa de conexi\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, it\u2019s about time for you to break that myth. <\/span><\/p>\n

D\u00e9jame decirte algo: los sentimientos que tienes por tu <\/span>primer amor<\/span> only seem to be the strongest simply because you\u2019ve never experienced anything similar. You give yourself entirely to the other person just because you still haven\u2019t learned to be careful about the way you open your heart to others. <\/span><\/p>\n

En <\/span>primera vez<\/span> you break up with someone seems to be the most painful because you still haven’t had the chance to learn how to process it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, there is nothing special about first romance. It\u2019s actually just like any other relationship you\u2019ll have during your lifetime. <\/span><\/p>\n

De hecho, el \u00faltimo es <\/span>el<\/span> \u00a1eso cuenta!<\/span><\/p>\n

4. No tener contacto<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

After you\u2019ve sorted out the basics in your head, it\u2019s time for some radical moves. The first step towards your complete healing is going completely no contact with your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard about the no contact rule: you block your ex\u2019s number, unfriend and unfollow them on all <\/span>redes sociales,<\/span>  y detener cualquier tipo de comunicaci\u00f3n con ellos. La gente suele seguir esta regla para hacer sentir a su ex su ausencia y recuperarlo.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, even though you\u2019ll stick to the <\/span>norma de no contacto<\/span><\/a>, you won\u2019t do it for these purposes. Instead, you\u2019ll do it because it\u2019s the only way to kick your ex both out of your life and heart. <\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ed, seguir siendo amigos despu\u00e9s de una relaci\u00f3n larga y comprometida es algo agradable y civilizado. Sin embargo, solo es posible en los casos en que ambos se\u00e1is completamente indiferentes el uno hacia el otro y no os queden sentimientos rom\u00e1nticos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por otro lado, en cuanto empieces a intentar averiguar c\u00f3mo superar tu <\/span>primer amor<\/span>, it becomes more than apparent that you haven\u2019t gotten over your ex. Therefore, the last thing you should be doing is tormenting yourself and pretending you can be <\/span>mejores amigos<\/span> just to \u201cdo the right thing\u201d. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Cut all ties with “their people”<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Many people don\u2019t know this but there is a difference between going fully no contact and cutting all ties with your <\/span>relaci\u00f3n anterior<\/span>. However, let\u2019s be real here: is there any point in you finishing all communication with your ex if you\u2019ll continue doing some other things to be around them?<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ed, esto puede ser efectivo si tu objetivo es hacer que <\/span>miedo de perderte<\/span><\/a> and if you just want for them to think that you\u2019ve moved on. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, if you really want to get over this person, you won\u2019t care what they think-what will be important is how you feel and if you\u2019re making any actual progress. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why your life has to stop revolving around this person. First of all, cut ties with their friends and family. I know that this is quite difficult, especially if we\u2019re talking about some mutual friends you also love and who are important to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, when it comes to your ex\u2019s family, you are probably too shy to start avoiding them or to block them everywhere because you don\u2019t want to appear rude. After all, none of these people has ever done you any harm and it\u2019s not fair for them to pay the consequences for your ex\u2019s action. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, this is not about them-it\u2019s about you. You have to find a way to make yourself feel better and this an amazing starting point.<\/span><\/p>\n

Besides, this doesn\u2019t mean that you have to erase these people from your life permanently. You can just explain the situation, ask them to understand and to give you some time, and I\u2019m sure most of them will. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Limita el tiempo que pasas pensando en ellos<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

So, you\u2019ve physically removed your ex and everyone who reminded you of them. You\u2019ve narrowed down the people you can talk to about them, but despite that, this person is still constantly present in the back of your mind. <\/span><\/p>\n

The worst part is that you\u2019ve started thinking that there is nothing more you can do about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ve stopped going to places where you know you could meet them, you\u2019ve cut ties with everyone they know, you\u2019re not reaching out to them, you\u2019re not stalking their profiles, you\u2019re not asking around about them\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

But despite all of this, it looks like you\u2019re not going anywhere. This person is still <\/span>el<\/span> piensas de sol a sol y, naturalmente, te sientes impotente al respecto. <\/span><\/p>\n

Well, the trick is in limiting the time you\u2019re allowed to think about your ex. Of course, it would be ideal if you could just snap your fingers and <\/span>deja de pensar en ellos<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, since that is impossible, it would be great if you could begin with some baby steps. For starters, give yourself let\u2019s say half an hour a day when this person is allowed to exist in your brain.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cada vez que pienses en ellos fuera de este plazo, recu\u00e9rdate tu decisi\u00f3n y deja tus pensamientos para m\u00e1s tarde. Por supuesto, deber\u00edas ir reduciendo este tiempo con cada d\u00eda o semana que pase. <\/span><\/p>\n

7. Tener esperanza <\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Whenever you\u2019re going through a tough time in your life, including the breakup of your <\/span>primera relaci\u00f3n<\/span>, the crucial thing is to not lose hope. Instead, try to be optimistic and to have faith in a better tomorrow, no matter the problems you\u2019re facing. <\/span><\/p>\n

Esto es muy importante cuando se trata de superar su primer <\/span>amor verdadero<\/span> tambi\u00e9n. No importa c\u00f3mo te sientas ahora, tienes que ser consciente de que volver\u00e1s a amar y de que la <\/span>persona adecuada<\/span><\/a> vendr\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whether you believe it or not, someone will come along who you\u2019ll love more than you loved your ex. <\/span><\/p>\n

Alguien que curar\u00e1 tu <\/span>coraz\u00f3n roto<\/span> and help you raise you from the ashes; someone who will make you forget all of this pain you\u2019re facing now and who will help you leave all of it in the past, where it belongs. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know that hearing this now makes you think that I\u2019m just trying to comfort you and make you feel better but it really is the truth and you have to put all of your strength into believing it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Su <\/span>nueva vida<\/span> awaits you and sooner or later, this will be nothing but a distant memory. In fact, you\u2019ll remember your first <\/span>amor verdadero<\/span> con una sonrisa en la cara y nada m\u00e1s. <\/span><\/p>\n

8. Centrarse en el autocuidado<\/h2>\n

\"Hermosa<\/p>\n

Este es el momento en el que tienes que centrarte en <\/span>autocuidado<\/span><\/a> primero. Para un <\/span>un par de a\u00f1os<\/span>...amaste a esta persona con todo tu coraz\u00f3n y le diste... <\/span>primer puesto<\/span> en tu vida y ahora tienes que aprender a romper ese ciclo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quiz\u00e1 cambiaste para adaptarte mejor a ellos. Tal vez perdiste la persona que sol\u00edas ser pero ahora es el momento de recuperar tu <\/span>autoestima<\/span> y encontrarte a ti mismo de nuevo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of wasting entire days on thinking about your ex, focus on self-improvement. Work on your appearance, intellect, emotions, career…whatever helps.<\/span><\/p>\n

The bottom line is that you should invest your energy into becoming the person you\u2019re destined to be. Work on personal progress, do all the things you\u2019ve always wanted to do and please all of your heart\u2019s deepest desires. <\/span><\/p>\n

Date un capricho, mejora tu <\/span>autoestima<\/span>Pr\u00e1ctica <\/span>autocuidado,<\/span> y haz todo lo que puedas para ser feliz porque nadie lo har\u00e1 por ti. <\/span><\/p>\n

9. Pedir ayuda<\/h2>\n

\"Dos<\/p>\n

Listen carefully: there is no shame in admitting that you can\u2019t handle some life situations on your own and that you could use a hand while going through them. <\/span><\/p>\n

No, this doesn\u2019t apply just to things like the death of a <\/span>amado<\/span><\/a>, a divorce, or job loss-you\u2019re allowed to grieve someone who is still alive and over the <\/span>desamor<\/span> su <\/span>primera relaci\u00f3n<\/span> izquierda.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have the right to feel the way you do and nobody can tell you that your suffering makes you weak, immature, or that it\u2019s irrelevant. <\/span><\/p>\n

En primer lugar, intente pedir ayuda a su <\/span>mejores amigos<\/span> y familiares. Es probable que la mayor\u00eda de las personas de tu entorno ya hayan pasado por la misma situaci\u00f3n en el pasado, por lo que su valiosa experiencia puede servirte sin duda de consejo. <\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that you should blindly follow their patterns of behavior, since we all heal in a different manner and at a different pace, but what you can do is look up to them. Besides, other people\u2019s stories will make you see that everyone gets over every possible pain, sooner or later. <\/span><\/p>\n

If this doesn\u2019t help, don\u2019t be embarrassed to look for professional help. Go talk to an expert who will give you the push you need to start rationalizing things and to begin your healing process in a healthy way. <\/span><\/p>\n

10. Aprende de tu relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

En lugar de ver esta ruptura como lo peor que te pod\u00eda haber pasado, intenta observar todo lo ocurrido desde una perspectiva diferente. <\/span><\/p>\n

En primer lugar, su <\/span>relaci\u00f3n amorosa<\/span> wasn’t all <\/span>cosas malas<\/span>-it had its beautiful moments. Please don\u2019t allow those moments to be wiped from your memory and for all the <\/span>cosas malas<\/span> que ha pasado \u00faltimamente para borrarlos. <\/span><\/p>\n

No importa c\u00f3mo terminara, segu\u00eda teniendo su valor y eso <\/span>una persona<\/span> con la que saliste durante tanto tiempo merece permanecer en tu memoria. S\u00ed, se acab\u00f3, pero fue bonito mientras dur\u00f3. <\/span><\/p>\n

Secondly, if you\u2019re wise, you\u2019ll use your failed romance as a tough but valuable lesson. It will help you learn about love, about the opposite sex, about life and relationships, and most importantly-about yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Consid\u00e9relo una oportunidad para observar su <\/span>patrones de citas t\u00f3xicas<\/span><\/a>. \u00bfCu\u00e1les fueron tus errores durante esta relaci\u00f3n? <\/span><\/p>\n

What are the things you\u2019re looking for and <\/span>los<\/span> you won\u2019t tolerate again? What is your preferable type of partner and what are your deal breakers? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo puede esto ayudarle a encontrar el <\/span>persona adecuada<\/span>? <\/span><\/p>\n

Out of all the lessons your break up can teach you, this one is crucial: you don\u2019t need anyone to survive-you just have to <\/span>conv\u00e9ncete a ti mismo<\/span> of that. After all, for all this time, you were convinced that you couldn\u2019t make it without your partner and that you would die if they left your side. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, there you are, safe and sound. Yes, you’re going through your <\/span>primer desenga\u00f1o amoroso<\/span> but what matters is that you\u2019re still whole and complete. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, I guess you\u2019re way stronger than you assumed. <\/span><\/p>\n

11. Don\u2019t rush yourself into a new relationship<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Asking for advice from your loved ones doesn\u2019t mean that you should go against your heart\u2019s desires. This especially applies to the situation when everyone tells you to fight fire with fire and that the best way to forget your ex is to get yourself involved into a new, <\/span>relaci\u00f3n amorosa<\/span> ASAP – like that’s a piece of cake. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even though there is nothing wrong with falling in love again, please don\u2019t force yourself into doing anything you\u2019re not ready for. Don\u2019t rush yourself into a <\/span>nueva relaci\u00f3n<\/span> porque eso s\u00f3lo har\u00e1 que te sientas peor que antes. <\/span><\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s de dar su carga emocional de su <\/span>relaci\u00f3n anterior<\/span> la oportunidad de arruinar tu <\/span>nuevo comienzo<\/span><\/a>No hay forma de que tenga \u00e9xito si lo empiezas por las razones equivocadas. Al fin y al cabo, nadie merece ser tu punto de sutura: ser\u00eda injusto que arrastraras a una tercera persona a tu monta\u00f1a rusa emocional. <\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter that you have broken off for good with your ex-you still have some unresolved issues with yourself and that is not fruitful soil for a new healthy romance. <\/span><\/p>\n

12. Pero \u00e1brete a nuevos amores<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, hay una diferencia entre ponerse en guardia y condenarse a una vida sin amor y no saltar de una relaci\u00f3n a otra. No tiene ning\u00fan sentido huir de un amor potencial y este tipo de enfoque puede causarte mucho m\u00e1s da\u00f1o del que crees.<\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, if love knocks on your door, don\u2019t push it away. Be careful but embrace it openly. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong-I\u2019m not here to promise you that you\u2019ll never get your heart broken again. The truth is that there is no way to protect yourself from that possibility. <\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ed, el amor siempre es un riesgo. Sin embargo, es un riesgo que merece la pena correr. <\/span><\/p>\n

Otra cosa a la que debes prestar atenci\u00f3n es a no comparar a otras personas de tu vida con tu ex. <\/span><\/p>\n

To be honest: I don\u2019t know which is worse: thinking that they were the best and rejecting potential partners because they\u2019re not your <\/span>primer novio<\/span> o novia, o estar convencido de que todo el mundo te har\u00e1 da\u00f1o como lo hizo tu ex. <\/span><\/p>\n

Either way, by doing any of these things, you\u2019re only giving them power over you. You\u2019ll sabotage your <\/span>nueva vida<\/span><\/a> and future relationships right from the start if you\u2019re looking for your ex\u2019s replacement. <\/span><\/p>\n

13. Date tiempo para curarte<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, todo esto se trata de superar tu <\/span>relaci\u00f3n anterior<\/span> and moving on. However, in order to know the answer to the question: \u201c<\/span>C\u00f3mo superar mi primer amor<\/span>?\u201d, you have to fix your <\/span>coraz\u00f3n roto<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Healing is a process which takes time, devotion, and energy. So, please don\u2019t expect it to be done overnight. <\/span><\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not saying that you should dedicate your <\/span>toda la vida<\/span> to this person and that you should allow yourself to grieve over them for the rest of eternity. However, you can\u2019t repress your emotions and pretend that everything is in perfect order either. <\/span><\/p>\n

A good idea would be to set yourself a deadline. Mark a certain date on your calendar and allow yourself to suffer up to then. Then, when that date comes, you\u2019re no longer allowed to think or talk about that person. No, you won\u2019t be completely healed then either, but you will have made significant progress and you’ll have the answer to the question: “How do you get over your <\/span>primer amor<\/span>“?<\/span><\/p>\n

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