{"id":56642,"date":"2020-03-28T22:49:11","date_gmt":"2020-03-28T22:49:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=56642"},"modified":"2022-08-12T08:14:56","modified_gmt":"2022-08-12T08:14:56","slug":"como-arreglar-un-matrimonio-roto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-arreglar-un-matrimonio-roto\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo arreglar un matrimonio roto: Un plan de rescate en 15 pasos"},"content":{"rendered":"

En su d\u00eda de la boda<\/a>, after you\u2019d walked down the aisle and were saying your marital vows, you thought that was it.<\/p>\n

Todos tus problemas sentimentales hab\u00edan desaparecido para siempre y estabas a punto de vivir feliz para siempre junto a tu amada.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, \u00e9sta es la escena en la que terminan todos los cuentos de hadas y las pel\u00edculas rom\u00e1nticas. Los protagonistas consiguen superar todos los obst\u00e1culos y se van a su vida perfecta.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, nadie te dice lo que viene despu\u00e9s.<\/p>\n

Nadie te habla de los problemas que te esperan, de que puedes quedar atrapado f\u00e1cilmente en un matrimonio infeliz y nadie te advierte de la situaci\u00f3n en la que tu relaci\u00f3n se est\u00e1 desmoronando y no hay nada que puedas hacer al respecto.<\/p>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

When you were listening to stories about marriage, nobody mentioned that one day, you would be sitting in your room, silently crying and wondering, “How can I save my marriage before it becomes too late?”<\/p>\n

Well, that’s why we’re here\u2014to give you that answer you’re so desperate to find.<\/p>\n

Ante todo, tienes que dejar de intentar arreglar un matrimonio roto t\u00fa solo.<\/p>\n

In fact, if you want a healthy marriage, you’ll have to team up with your spouse and you’ll both have to invest your entire selves into making it work.<\/p>\n

He aqu\u00ed c\u00f3mo hacerlo en 15 pasos.<\/p>\n

1. Identifique sus problemas matrimoniales<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Antes de resolver cualquier problema que pueda tener e intentar reparar su matrimonio infeliz<\/a>, firstly you have to know what you\u2019re fighting against.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the same with your marital problems; before anything else, you need to identify your problems.<\/p>\n

Compruebe si usted y su c\u00f3nyuge est\u00e1n de acuerdo. \u00bfTen\u00e9is un punto de vista similar sobre vuestro matrimonio y consider\u00e1is que las mismas cosas son vuestros problemas matrimoniales?<\/p>\n

Existe la posibilidad de que t\u00fa veas algo que ocurri\u00f3 entre vosotros dos como algo importante, mientras que la otra persona lo observa como algo completamente irrelevante.<\/p>\n

Si esto ocurre, tendr\u00e9is que encontrar un t\u00e9rmino medio y llegar a un acuerdo sobre cu\u00e1les son vuestros problemas m\u00e1s importantes.<\/p>\n

Was it infidelity and now you’re going through an recuperaci\u00f3n de la aventura<\/a>? Emocional, sexual, verbal o maltrato f\u00edsico<\/a>?<\/p>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

\u00bfO fue falta de comunicaci\u00f3n y atenci\u00f3n? \u00bfFue negligencia emocional o su matrimonio cay\u00f3 en la rutina?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 os llev\u00f3 a estar aqu\u00ed en primer lugar? \u00bfCu\u00e1l fue la causa inicial y el desencadenante principal?<\/p>\n

Be careful when trying to identify your problems and have in mind that in many cases, the ones you\u2019re having now are actually just a consequence of an issue you both thought you managed to leave behind ages ago.<\/p>\n

Podr\u00eda tratarse de un trauma profundamente arraigado que reprimiste o de algo que nunca consideraste relevante.<\/p>\n

2. Comunicar honestamente<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre
\nEn cualquier caso, la cuesti\u00f3n es que ninguno de tus problemas matrimoniales es irrelevante.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be ashamed to tell your partner exactly what\u2019s bothering you just because you think that they\u2019ll think of you as too weak or overly emotional.<\/p>\n

In fact, rebuilding healthy communication is the first step toward rebuilding your marriage and it’s one of the most important pieces of consejos matrimoniales<\/a>. Olv\u00eddate de guardar rencor, de pasivo-agresivo<\/a> comportamiento y sobre los insultos.<\/p>\n

Simplemente hay que encontrar la manera de hablar con los dem\u00e1s con la mayor sinceridad posible, sin miedo a ser juzgados.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Speak your mind and tell one another everything that lies on your heart, everything that\u2019s hurting you and bothering you.<\/p>\n

There is no good marriage without good communication and you can\u2019t expect to make something out of yours until you learn the importance of opening up to your partner and until you realize that not every disagreement has to produce a fight.<\/p>\n

Recuerda que los dos pod\u00e9is tener opiniones diferentes sobre ciertos temas y que depende de vosotros encontrar un punto en com\u00fan cuando eso ocurra, sin permitir que esta situaci\u00f3n se convierta en un enfrentamiento mayor.<\/p>\n

3. Ver si hay algo que arreglar<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

After you know what\u2019s mainly wrong with your relationship and after you\u2019ve talked about it directly with your significant other, it\u2019s time to be honest with yourself as well.<\/p>\n

Let me warn you\u2014fixing a failing marriage is hard work; it is a long-lasting process which doesn\u2019t only take a lot of time but it also requires much effort, numerous sacrifices and it can cost you more of your patience than you might think.<\/p>\n

So, is all of this hard work really worth it? Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not implying that it\u2019s not and neither am I advising you to ditch your entire relationship without a fight; I\u2019m just begging you to think things through as thoroughly as possible before making any final decisions.<\/p>\n

\u00bfVale la pena salvar su matrimonio?<\/a>? Is it worth the trouble you\u2019re certainly about to go through?<\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Can it be fixed? Can you expect to have a happy marriage after you\u2019re done with this crisis or are you fighting in vain?<\/p>\n

Estas son las preguntas que tanto t\u00fa como tu pareja deber\u00edais haceros. T\u00f3mate el tiempo que necesites y, por favor, s\u00e9 realista a la hora de responder.<\/p>\n

Aunque los dos os sig\u00e1is amando profundamente, \u00bfpuedes estar seguro de que tu el amor bastar\u00e1<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Of course, you\u2019ll take your emotions into consideration but don\u2019t disregard your reason either.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Si decide dar el \u00faltimo adi\u00f3s a su c\u00f3nyuge, conc\u00e9ntrese en hacer de su divorcio una experiencia indolora.<\/p>\n

C\u00e9ntrate en reconstruirte a ti mismo en lugar de tu matrimonio y en seguir adelante con tu vida.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you\u2019re certain that both you and your partner have a desire to make this marriage work and that you both believe that it will succeed, go for it.<\/p>\n

Olv\u00eddate de lo que digan los dem\u00e1s, sigue tu instinto e int\u00e9ntalo de nuevo.<\/p>\n

4. Recuerda por qu\u00e9 os enamorasteis<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

So, your marriage is in big trouble, otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be here, would you?<\/p>\n

Probablemente, la persona que duerme a tu lado te ha estado molestando durante a\u00f1os e incluso ha habido momentos en los que sent\u00edas que la despreciabas y en los que una simple mirada a su cara te pon\u00eda enfermo.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s true\u2014none of these emotions is beautiful but don\u2019t feel guilty for having them from time to time.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that you really hate your spouse or that you would indeed enjoy seeing them miserable.<\/p>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

However, if you\u2019re trying to rebuild your marriage, it\u2019s time to put all of these negative feelings aside and concentrate on something else.<\/p>\n

Para variar, intenta recordar por qu\u00e9 te enamoraste de esa persona en primer lugar.<\/p>\n

After all, you two didn\u2019t always have a turbulent relationship. There were times when you got along perfectly, times when you didn\u2019t fight and times when you were convinced you\u2019d live happily ever after.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, es probable que ambos hay\u00e1is cambiado con el tiempo, pero la esencia de vuestra personalidad ten\u00eda que seguir siendo al menos similar.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPuedes ver alg\u00fan rastro del hombre o la mujer que se enamor\u00f3 tan fuerte<\/a>?<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

\u00bfRecuerdas los votos que hicisteis el d\u00eda de vuestra boda? \u00bfC\u00f3mo prometisteis permanecer juntos en las buenas y en las malas, en la salud y en la enfermedad, en las buenas y en las malas?<\/p>\n

Well, the bad days have come and while I\u2019m not saying that you should put up with someone treating you poorly or giving you less than you deserve.<\/p>\n

If you already decided to try and make this marriage work, stick to your promise and don\u2019t back out at the first sign of trouble!<\/p>\n

5. Walk a mile in your spouse\u2019s shoes<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Tienes que ser consciente de que en cada escenario hay dos caras de la medalla.<\/p>\n

Even though you might have a hard time accepting this, you\u2019re not always right and your point of view is not the only true one.<\/p>\n

De hecho, es probable que su c\u00f3nyuge tenga su propia versi\u00f3n de la historia y ha llegado el momento de escucharla.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let them manipularte<\/a> y cambie su opini\u00f3n, sino que intente escucharlos.<\/p>\n

Esfu\u00e9rzate por ponerte en su lugar y caminar una milla en sus zapatos.<\/p>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

See what it is that you\u2019re doing wrong, how your words and actions impact them and how your spouse feels in this entire drama.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re trying to save a romantic relationship which is a two-way street. The goal is not just for you to be okay with the outcome, it is to make you both feel better and more satisfied.<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t make yourself do this, for a few days pretend that you\u2019re a bystander who observes your marriage objectively.<\/p>\n

Olv\u00eddate de tus emociones y f\u00edjate en lo que concluir\u00edas si no formaras parte de esta relaci\u00f3n y si tuvieras la oportunidad de mirarla desde fuera.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014this approach will expand your horizons and it will give you a completely new perspective on things.<\/p>\n

6. Encontrar tiempo para el otro<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que usted y su c\u00f3nyuge llevan una vida muy ajetreada y que sus obligaciones cotidianas a menudo se interponen en su matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Outside of this broken marriage, you have a job, your friends, parents, hobbies\u2026 and your partner is the same.<\/p>\n

Si tienes hijos, tus obligaciones son a\u00fan mayores. Quieres ganar suficiente dinero para permitirte una vida mejor para toda tu familia, quieres ser un buen padre, necesitas mantener la casa limpia y en orden y, por supuesto, necesitas algo de tiempo para ti.<\/p>\n

Naturalmente, despu\u00e9s de todo, no te queda energ\u00eda para tu c\u00f3nyuge.<\/p>\n

Be honest\u2014how frequently do you two spend time together, without anyone else and without any disturbances from the outside world?<\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

What was the last time you just chilled next to each other, without talking about the mortgage, the kids\u2019 sports practice or what you\u2019ll cook for dinner tomorrow?<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t remember, right? Well, that\u2019s one of the problems and something you have to change ASAP if you want to see some progress in this marriage.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter how but you have to find time for the two of you.<\/p>\n

T\u00f3mese un d\u00eda libre en el trabajo (o espere al fin de semana), busque a alguien que cuide de los ni\u00f1os y pase unas horas con su marido o mujer, sin que nadie ni nada interfiera ni se interponga en su matrimonio.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t make this a one-time thing. Instead, if you want a successful marriage, make sure you make it a habit and you\u2019ll see how beneficial this time will be for both of you.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t forget that besides being responsible co-parents<\/a> y gente de carrera, \u00a1vosotros dos segu\u00eds siendo pareja!<\/p>\n

7. Take responsibility\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Cuando las cosas van cuesta abajo, una de las cosas m\u00e1s dif\u00edciles para todos es asumir la responsabilidad de sus actos.<\/p>\n

We all prefer passing the buck to the next person, thinking that they\u2019re the only one guilty for the failure of our relationship and the mere thought that we also carry a part of the weight kills us.<\/p>\n

Bueno, la verdad es que ambos sois responsables del estado de vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, si su c\u00f3nyuge te enga\u00f1\u00f3<\/a>, for example, you can\u2019t be to blame but I\u2019m sure that both of you have done some things the other person didn\u2019t like during the course of your marriage.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que empiecen a comportarse como dos adultos y asuman la responsabilidad de sus actos.<\/p>\n

Admit that you hurt your spouse in the past (even if it wasn\u2019t deliberately) and accept the fact that you contributed to this situation, one way or another.<\/p>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Stand behind your actions and give your partner the apology they\u2019ve been waiting so long for.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, diles que esperas el mismo trato a cambio.<\/p>\n

Naturally, you can\u2019t change the past and nobody is asking you to do so. You can\u2019t magically erase your mistakes but acknowledging that you made them is much better than pretending to be flawless.<\/p>\n

By avoiding responsibility, you\u2019re deepening your significant other\u2019s wounds.<\/p>\n

Ya era m\u00e1s que suficiente con que hicieras algo que les hiciera da\u00f1o y no tener la decencia de admitir que te equivocaste es a\u00fan peor.<\/p>\n

8. \u2026 but avoid the blame game<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t turn this process of taking responsibility into a blame game because it won\u2019t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n

Accusing your spouse of being the only guilty one or putting each other\u2019s mistakes on a scale is pointless and will only make your confrontations nastier.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014after the two of you own up to your mistakes and after you accept each other\u2019s disculpas<\/a>no hay vuelta atr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

No hay rencores, ni venganzas, ni restreg\u00e1rselo por la cara.<\/p>\n

Doing something to make the other person suffer even more for their misdeeds is a clear sign that you haven\u2019t managed to forget them, even though you claimed you did.<\/p>\n

9. Cambia tu enfoque<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Cuando tu relaci\u00f3n est\u00e1 en crisis, s\u00f3lo te concentras en las cosas malas que pasan.<\/p>\n

You talk to your friends about your spouse\u2019s awful treatment, you can\u2019t help but think of all the bad stuff they\u2019ve done to you and all of a sudden, you see them as the worst person walking on this planet.<\/p>\n

Well, even though I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019re exaggerating, if you want to save the marriage, it is time to change your focus.<\/p>\n

Instead of only seeing the things that are bothering you and giving them an extra thought, put an effort into noticing your partner\u2019s positive behavior.<\/p>\n

You can both get a journal in which you\u2019ll write your significant other\u2019s nice gestures every day.<\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Anota c\u00f3mo vinieron a recogerte al trabajo, c\u00f3mo te sorprendieron apareciendo en tu pausa para comer, c\u00f3mo te compraron exactamente lo que quer\u00edas para tu cumplea\u00f1os<\/a> o simplemente c\u00f3mo te sonrieron sin ninguna raz\u00f3n espec\u00edfica.<\/p>\n

Yes, all of these things are normal in a relationship and shouldn\u2019t be seen as miracles. However, you and your spouse need to change your views on each other and this is the way to do so.<\/p>\n

You can also write down your partner\u2019s positive qualities every day.<\/p>\n

This advice is effective in more than one way. Firstly, it will help you see that despite what you might have thought, your marriage isn\u2019t as bad as it seems.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll realize that there are still more than a few good things about it and knowing this will without a doubt change your entire mindset and attitude toward your relationship.<\/p>\n

After all, I\u2019m sure you wouldn\u2019t still be next to this person if they were entirely bad.<\/p>\n

Otra ventaja de este diario es que puedes releerlo cada vez que tu c\u00f3nyuge te moleste o haga algo que te perjudique.<\/p>\n

It will serve you as a reminder that you\u2019re married to a great person and it will help you remember all the good things they have done for you.<\/p>\n

10. Act\u00faa ante tus problemas<\/h2>\n

\"Familia<\/p>\n

Many people do a lot of talking when they’re trying to figure out c\u00f3mo salvar un matrimonio<\/a> que est\u00e1 roto.<\/p>\n

They promise both themselves and their spouse that they\u2019ll be better and that they will make all the changes required of them.<\/p>\n

Todo esto suena muy bien en teor\u00eda. Sin embargo, cuando llega la parte pr\u00e1ctica, la mayor\u00eda se echa atr\u00e1s al comprender que prometieron mucho m\u00e1s de lo que pod\u00edan cumplir.<\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t be one of those people. Yes, communication is crucial but that doesn\u2019t mean that you should spend days, weeks or even months blabbing about your issues without actually doing anything about it.<\/p>\n

Instead, it is your and your partner\u2019s job to act on your problems and to find a solution to them which will fit both of you.<\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Para empezar, olv\u00eddese de promesas vac\u00edas<\/a>Elaborar un plan de acci\u00f3n concreto y ce\u00f1irse a \u00e9l, pase lo que pase.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son las cosas que quiere cambiar, c\u00f3mo piensa cambiarlas exactamente y hasta cu\u00e1ndo deber\u00eda notar alg\u00fan tipo de progreso?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 exiges a la otra persona y qu\u00e9 te comprometes a hacer?<\/p>\n

Suena muy parecido a un acuerdo comercial, lo s\u00e9. Sin embargo, a veces es la \u00fanica manera de salir de un punto muerto y empezar realmente a hacer algo, en lugar de limitarse a hablar de ello.<\/p>\n

11. Empezar a salir de nuevo<\/h2>\n

\"Matrimonio<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ndo fue la \u00faltima vez que usted y su pareja salieron a cenar o al cine sin ninguna ocasi\u00f3n especial?<\/p>\n

\u00bfLos dos solos, sin los ni\u00f1os, los amigos o los padres?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re one of those people who thinks that married couples shouldn\u2019t go out on dates, please change your mind and consider the option of dating your husband or wife all over again.<\/p>\n

You two can engage in some role-playing and pretend that you don\u2019t even know each other and that this is your first blind date or you can just start dating like two lovebirds who are already in a long-term relationship.<\/p>\n

Determinar un noche de cita<\/a> cada semana y at\u00e9ngase a \u00e9l, salvo que surjan otros planes o emergencias.<\/p>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Dress nicely, pick a fancy place (it doesn\u2019t have to be anything expensive but it is not a date if you stay in your living room) and do everything by the book.<\/p>\n

This is especially great for those couples who already stopped living together but still haven\u2019t filed for divorce and instead decided to give their marriage a second chance.<\/p>\n

En este caso, pod\u00e9is enviaros mensajes de texto entre una cita y otra y actuar como dos personas que acaban de conocerse.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014this game will freshen up your entire relationship, it will remind you what butterflies feel like and it will help you remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place.<\/p>\n

12. Trabaja tu intimidad<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014sex is an important part of every romantic relationship and its significance can only increase with time.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, no es lo \u00fanico que puede preservar una relaci\u00f3n, pero cuando las cosas en el dormitorio dejan de funcionar, suelen reflejarse tambi\u00e9n en todo lo dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, a pesar de saberlo, muchos matrimonios desprecian el sexo y, al cabo de un tiempo, incluso lo echan de su vida.<\/p>\n

Se aburren el uno del otro, se cansan de la vida cotidiana o tienen alg\u00fan otro motivo, pero lo cierto es que la mayor\u00eda de las parejas que est\u00e1n al borde del divorcio atestiguan que su vida sexual es inexistente desde hace alg\u00fan tiempo.<\/p>\n

And I\u2019m not talking about sex here only. I\u2019m talking about other forms of intimidad f\u00edsica<\/a> you should make a habit of doing as well\u2014about kissing, hugging, cuddling and so on.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Bueno, aunque resolver las discusiones bajo las s\u00e1banas equivale a esconder las cosas debajo de la alfombra y no es nada saludable, ten en cuenta que trabajar en tu matrimonio tambi\u00e9n significa trabajar en tu intimidad.<\/p>\n

Para empezar, tenga m\u00e1s contacto f\u00edsico con su c\u00f3nyuge. Deja que vuestros cuerpos vuelvan a acostumbrarse el uno al otro; empieza a sentarte a su lado, aprovecha cualquier oportunidad que tengas para tocarle accidentalmente o darle un abrazo o un beso en la mejilla, aunque s\u00f3lo sea cuando pases a su lado, sin ning\u00fan motivo especial.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014each one of these little things is actually huge for your marriage.<\/p>\n

Os acerca a los dos y profundiza vuestro v\u00ednculo, y eso es exactamente lo que necesit\u00e1is en un momento de emergencia como \u00e9ste.<\/p>\n

13. Aprende de tus conflictos<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Believe me when I tell you that even the happiest couples fight. In fact, it wouldn\u2019t be normal if you didn\u2019t have some sort of confrontation every now and then with someone you share your life with.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, sois personas diferentes y es natural que discrep\u00e9is en ciertos aspectos.<\/p>\n

Also, a married couple should be in love with each other and if you\u2019re never bored with something the other person does, it might be a red flag that you\u2019re completely indifferent toward them and that you can\u2019t be touched by their words or actions.<\/p>\n

Por tanto, nadie te pide que dejes de pelear si quieres que tu matrimonio tenga \u00e9xito.<\/p>\n

\"Toma<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, seg\u00fan la mayor\u00eda de los expertos matrimoniales, la principal diferencia entre la insalubridad y la relaciones sanas<\/a> de sus argumentos.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, si planeas salvar tu matrimonio, tienes que hacer que tus peleas sean productivas.<\/p>\n

Util\u00edzalos como plataforma para ayudarte a mejorar tu relaci\u00f3n y darte cuenta de algunas cosas nuevas sobre tu pareja.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014calling each other names, insulting each other and saying things below the belt are never acceptable.<\/p>\n

Al final, siempre pod\u00e9is estar de acuerdo en que no est\u00e1is de acuerdo, como dos adultos maduros.<\/p>\n

\"mujer-en-gris-top-desnuda\"<\/p>\n

Also, it is important to know exactly what you\u2019re fighting about. Is the unfolded laundry the real problem or are you keeping your anger about something from before bottled up and you explode at each other about any nonsense?<\/p>\n

Either way, please don\u2019t forget that it should never be you two against each other. In fact, it\u2019s you two against the problem.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter who is right; what is important is to come up with a solution which will be beneficial for both of you and the best option for your relationship. There are no winners or losers here.<\/p>\n

Put aside your ego and join forces even when you\u2019re arguing! Admit if you’re wrong and don’t let your broken self-esteem ruin your chance of having a healthy marriage!<\/p>\n

14. Construir un nuevo matrimonio<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

The sad fact that you’re trapped in a failing marriage tells you the painful truth\u2014it obviously isn\u2019t working.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that you and your spouse aren\u2019t meant to be, that you can\u2019t succeed or that you don\u2019t love each other enough; I\u2019m just pointing out the obvious\u2014your relationship, the way it has been up until now, is not a functional one.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t put any effort into reviving it. Don\u2019t try to make things the way they used to be because if everything was in order, you wouldn\u2019t be facing this problem, would you?<\/p>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Accept the fact that your marriage will never be the same. However, that is actually a good thing because it means that if you play your cards right, you probably won\u2019t be in this situation ever again.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, en lugar de reconstruir tu antigua relaci\u00f3n, construye un nuevo matrimonio desde cero. Pasad p\u00e1gina y empezad de cero, como si acabarais de conoceros.<\/p>\n

Establece nuevas reglas, olvida el pasado y c\u00e9ntrate en el futuro. Deje su carga emocional<\/a> y traumas detr\u00e1s de ti y fingir que es otra persona con la que debes intentar vivir por primera vez.<\/p>\n

15. Visita a un consejero matrimonial<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

El asesoramiento matrimonial o acudir a un terapeuta familiar son cosas que muchas parejas evitan por diferentes motivos.<\/p>\n

Some are ashamed of their surroundings or are afraid that everyone will know that their marriage is going downhill and some can\u2019t admit that they couldn’t figure out how to fix a broken marriage without counseling and need professional assistance in getting their relationship back on its feet after all.<\/p>\n

Tenga en cuenta que existen numerosos cursos matrimoniales certificados dirigidos por expertos matrimoniales experimentados que pueden dar a su matrimonio la ayuda que necesita y encontrar la mejor soluci\u00f3n para todos sus problemas matrimoniales.<\/p>\n

Pues d\u00e9jame decirte que buscar ayuda y acudir a terapia matrimonial o visitar a un terapeuta familiar es lo que debes hacer si quieres resolver tus problemas de la forma m\u00e1s sana posible.<\/p>\n

No, this step doesn\u2019t mean that you and your spouse are a couple of failures who are not capable of doing everything on your own\u2014it is only a sign that you\u2019re mature enough to know that marriage counselors and family therapists are trained experts who have the capacity and the ability to show you the right path.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014this is a sign that you are both serious in your desire to save the marriage.<\/p>\n

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