{"id":57323,"date":"2020-03-29T09:12:35","date_gmt":"2020-03-29T09:12:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=57323"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:06:20","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:06:20","slug":"una-carta-al-hombre","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/una-carta-al-hombre\/","title":{"rendered":"Carta al hombre que me ense\u00f1\u00f3 que estoy mejor sin \u00e9l"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Cuando nos separamos, sufr\u00ed mucho. La vida tal y como la conoc\u00eda se desmoron\u00f3 por completo. Fue en esos momentos cuando pens\u00e9 que nunca lo superar\u00eda.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Por extra\u00f1o que parezca, poco despu\u00e9s de que pasara la primera oleada de desesperaci\u00f3n, me sent\u00ed aliviado. Casi me sent\u00eda culpable de lo bien que me sent\u00eda. Los sentimientos de revelaci\u00f3n y paz fueron tan inesperados.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Cuando miro atr\u00e1s, me doy cuenta de que pas\u00e9 demasiado tiempo intentando revivir nuestra relaci\u00f3n, pero nada funcion\u00f3 porque estaba muerta desde hac\u00eda mucho tiempo y ten\u00edamos demasiado miedo para afrontarlo.<\/p>\n<p>It never worked because at some point you gave up and I was the only one who gave a damn. I should be angry\u2014but I\u2019m content. I\u2019m genuinely grateful to finally be myself.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57327\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-outside.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sonriente sentada en el suelo al aire libre\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-outside.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-outside-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-outside-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Consumiste tanta de mi energ\u00eda que olvid\u00e9 lo que era estar feliz y entusiasmado con la vida.<\/p>\n<p>C\u00f3mo era simplemente disfrutar de las peque\u00f1as cosas, de los peque\u00f1os placeres, y expresarme sin miedo a que alguien me juzgara.<\/p>\n<p>There was nothing we could do without the pressure of failing or getting on each other\u2019s nerves. The more I tried, the more toxic it became.<\/p>\n<p>Cada vez que intentaba romper la misma vieja rutina, me tirabas para atr\u00e1s. \u00bfQuiz\u00e1s yo te hice lo mismo? Empezamos a perseguirnos en c\u00edrculos.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Al final, no \u00e9ramos m\u00e1s que extra\u00f1os con h\u00e1bitos similares. Como mu\u00f1ecas apilables, llenas de capas pero sin nada dentro.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57330\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/unhappy-couple-talk-inside-of-the-house.jpg\" alt=\"una pareja infeliz habla en el interior de la casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/unhappy-couple-talk-inside-of-the-house.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/unhappy-couple-talk-inside-of-the-house-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/unhappy-couple-talk-inside-of-the-house-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>En mi reci\u00e9n encontrada libertad, despu\u00e9s de a\u00f1os de transformarme en lo que t\u00fa necesitabas que fuera, empec\u00e9 a recordar lo que sol\u00eda ser.<\/p>\n<p>Me volv\u00ed m\u00e1s animada, segura de m\u00ed misma, extrovertida y dispuesta a superarlo todo.<\/p>\n<p>Now I can finally say that I love being alone and I love being myself. I didn\u2019t think I\u2019d ever say it but here I am.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes people get so caught up in their relationship with another person that they don\u2019t realize how they changed throughout the years.<\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t realize they\u2019re not the same person they were years ago but still do the same old things they did before.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57331\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-chair.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste sentada en la silla\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-chair.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-chair-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-chair-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t make sense in most cases. As you grow old and experience new things in life, it\u2019s normal to change.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sometimes we outgrow another person and that\u2019s okay<\/strong>. It doesn\u2019t mean the person was somehow less than we are, not at all. They were at different stages of life, that\u2019s all.<\/p>\n<p>Las personas eligen caminos diferentes, dejan de compartir las mismas creencias y las razones de las separaciones son muchas.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s important to recognize when to let go. Letting go is mostly an uncomfortable feeling while it happens.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s no surprise, knowing all the work and effort that went into building something that needs to be let go of.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57333\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-pulling-her-hat-on-the-face.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste tirando de su sombrero en la cara\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-pulling-her-hat-on-the-face.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-pulling-her-hat-on-the-face-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-pulling-her-hat-on-the-face-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Desprenderse de algo que una vez nos import\u00f3 es como desprenderse de una parte de uno mismo.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>However, we need to have in mind that everything happens for a reason. His place in my life wasn\u2019t an accident. <strong>Nosotros <em>eran<\/em> destinado a ser<\/strong>. Pero no para siempre.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s wrong to underestimate the meaning of <em>casi amor<\/em>. No todo tiene que ser perfecto para ser valioso.<\/p>\n<p>We were meant to be so I could finally realize what I want and that\u2019s important. I want authenticity. I want freedom. I want a chance to mess up. I want to see everything I can do.<\/p>\n<p>Everything I couldn\u2019t do with you.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57334\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-taking-a-bath.jpg\" alt=\"mujer ba\u00f1\u00e1ndose\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-taking-a-bath.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-taking-a-bath-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-taking-a-bath-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Now I know I\u2019m enough on my own. I don\u2019t need anyone to measure my value other than me.<\/p>\n<p>I accept everything that happened to me and I\u2019m happily turning over a new leaf. I\u2019m giving myself a fresh start.<\/p>\n<p>I hope that someday I\u2019ll see him and I won\u2019t be reminded of bad memories, only the good ones. I\u2019ll see a man who helped me learn in the most unexpected way that I\u2019m enough.<\/p>\n<p>At that moment, I\u2019ll be thankful and happy we both moved on.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Agradecido por lo que tengo, <em>sin miedo a lo que quiero<\/em>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57337\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Taught-Me-Im-Better-Off-Without-Him-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Carta al hombre que me ense\u00f1\u00f3 que estoy mejor sin \u00e9l\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Taught-Me-Im-Better-Off-Without-Him-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Taught-Me-Im-Better-Off-Without-Him-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Taught-Me-Im-Better-Off-Without-Him-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Taught-Me-Im-Better-Off-Without-Him-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When we split up, I was in deep pain. Life as I knew it completely fell apart. It was in those moments when I thought I would never get through it. Strangely enough, soon after the first wave of desperation passed, I felt relieved. I almost felt guilty over how good it felt. The feelings&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":57335,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-57323","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Taught-Me-Im-Better-Off-Without-Him.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. 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