{"id":5839,"date":"2017-09-29T13:29:08","date_gmt":"2017-09-29T13:29:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5839"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:00:29","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:00:29","slug":"dejo-de-culpar-al-dolor-causado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/dejo-de-culpar-al-dolor-causado\/","title":{"rendered":"Dej\u00e9 de culparme por el dolor que me causabas"},"content":{"rendered":"

El lado feo de ser humano es que t\u00fa eres el encargado de decidir cu\u00e1nto vales. Y yo nunca estuve preparado para cargar con tanta responsabilidad.<\/span><\/p>\n

Me culpaba de todo. <\/a>I willingly made myself a victim because I kept you on a pedestal. I kept thinking there is no way you could\u2019ve done something wrong to me.<\/span><\/p>\n

I decided I was the one unworthy of being loved and I was the one to decide that I am not worthy enough to be happy. But I was wrong. I was so wrong…<\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00fa fuiste quien me hizo cuestionarme mi autoestima. No dejaba de preguntarme si era lo bastante guapa o si me comportaba correctamente. Era muy dura conmigo misma y no dejaba de deprimirme. Siempre que estaba descontenta por algo, me echaba la culpa a m\u00ed misma. Pensaba que siempre era algo que yo hab\u00eda hecho lo que te hac\u00eda sentir as\u00ed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ninguna mujer deber\u00eda dudar tanto de s\u00ed misma. No woman should ever feel like she isn\u2019t good enough or that she isn\u2019t worthy.<\/a> Ning\u00fan hombre debe permitir que su mujer se sienta indigna de su amor. <\/b><\/p>\n

No woman should ever be blamed for the actions of one man because no matter what happened, everybody should take his fair share of the blame. It took me awhile to get on board with what I knew a long time ago, but when I finally did, I realized I wasn’t guilty of all those things I put on my shoulders. I wasn’t the one that should be blamed for all the pain you caused me. So, I just stopped putting the blame on myself.<\/span><\/p>\n

I stopped questioning what was it that I\u2019ve done. I stopped staring in the mirror and pointing fingers towards my reflection as an answer to why you treat me badly. I stopped questioning why wasn\u2019t I enough and I started realizing that I will never be good enough for the wrong person, but I will always be good enough for someone who truly cares.<\/span><\/p>\n

I stopped comparing myself to your other dolls. I know I could never be like them, but I also got that I shouldn\u2019t. Because in my attempts to be them, I\u2019d lost myself. And I might not be what you want me to be, but one day, I\u2019ll be exactly what somebody else was searching for his whole life. <\/span><\/p>\n

I stopped looking at you as if you were God\u2019s ultimate creation. I stopped thinking you were perfect and I stopped putting you on a pedestal. I stopped being the one always bending the knee and I stopped accepting to be a victim for love. <\/span><\/p>\n

Dej\u00e9 de confundir lo que me dabas con amor. <\/b><\/p>\n

Dej\u00e9 de imaginar nuestro futuro juntos. Dej\u00e9 de creer que t\u00fa y yo ser\u00edamos alguna vez nosotros. Dej\u00e9 de idealizar mi sufrimiento y dej\u00e9 de confiar en nuestro momento. Porque nunca \u00edbamos a pasar de verdad.<\/a> Por mucho que esperara, por mucho que me enga\u00f1ara pensando que el futuro nos deparar\u00eda d\u00edas mejores, nunca estuviste realmente de acuerdo. Me abandonaste antes de que hubi\u00e9ramos empezado. <\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que yo tambi\u00e9n me rend\u00ed. Y me alegro de haberlo hecho. <\/b><\/p>\n

I was always the type of girl who believed in love. I was always the type of girl who believed in a better tomorrow and in the idea that human nature is changeable. But it isn\u2019t. You couldn\u2019t be changed. You couldn\u2019t be taught to treat me right. You couldn\u2019t be taught that causing pain is a bad thing when you so enjoyed doing it. <\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00fa me causaste la primera herida con tu incapacidad para amarme, pero yo caus\u00e9 todas las dem\u00e1s al creer que las cosas cambiar\u00edan. T\u00fa empezaste, pero yo segu\u00ed. Y las cosas siguieron empeorando. <\/span><\/p>\n

Decid\u00ed stop investing my love into something that isn’t going to work<\/a> y salvarme mientras a\u00fan ten\u00eda la oportunidad. <\/span><\/p>\n

Years from now I won\u2019t regret saving myself, but I sure as hell would regret having stayed with somebody who was unable to love.<\/b><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The ugly side of being human is that you\u2019re the one in charge of deciding how much you\u2019re worth. And I wasn\u2019t ever ready to carry that much responsibility. I blamed myself for everything. I willingly made myself a victim because I kept you on a pedestal. I kept thinking there is no way you…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":5842,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5839","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/callie-morgan-139317.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","parent":29627,"count":263,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29628,"category_count":263,"category_description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","cat_name":"dealing with breakup","category_nicename":"dealing-with-breakup","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5839","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5839"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5839\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5842"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5839"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5839"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5839"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}