{"id":58711,"date":"2020-04-06T20:49:15","date_gmt":"2020-04-06T20:49:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=58711"},"modified":"2022-02-10T12:12:15","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T12:12:15","slug":"25-trucos-y-consejos-para-despues-de-una-ruptura","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/25-trucos-y-consejos-para-despues-de-una-ruptura\/","title":{"rendered":"Ha roto conmigo, \u00bfqu\u00e9 debo hacer? 25 Trucos y consejos para despu\u00e9s de una ruptura"},"content":{"rendered":"

So, your ex boyfriend broke up with you. It doesn’t matter whether this was a relaci\u00f3n a larga distancia<\/a>Lo que importa es la relaci\u00f3n, ya sea de larga duraci\u00f3n o de s\u00f3lo un par de meses. periodo de angustia<\/a> you’re going through.<\/p>\n

After a couple of days, the initial shock still hasn\u2019t passed but you have no time to lose; instead, you have to get the broken pieces of yourself back together and come up with a strategy plan.<\/p>\n

If you catch yourself thinking: \u201cHe broke up with me, what should I do?\u201d, here are the exact steps you should take.<\/p>\n

5 cosas que debes hacer si tu ex novio ha roto contigo<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. Mant\u00e9n tu dignidad<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Cuando tu pareja decide poner fin a las cosas y te quiere fuera de su vida, el primer impulso que tienes es rogarle que no lo haga.<\/p>\n

You want to bargain with him to stay and you\u2019re even ready to emotionally blackmail him just to not leave you.<\/p>\n

At that point, you\u2019re ready to do whatever it takes just to keep him by your side.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t care whether he\u2019ll stay out of pity or out of love, as long as he doesn\u2019t walk away.<\/p>\n

Even though I\u2019m not claiming that pride should come before true emotions, I\u2019m here to beg you not to beg for anyone\u2019s love<\/a> y atenci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014you\u2019ll be sorry for being so desperate once the initial shock goes away.<\/p>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

Instead, keep your head up and most importantly\u2014don\u2019t ruin your dignity. Don\u2019t cry, scream or make any irrational moves.<\/p>\n

Toma su decisi\u00f3n de romper como el adulto que eres. Dile que lo aceptas y des\u00e9ale toda la suerte del mundo.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, tiene derecho a romper contigo en cualquier momento.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter if he swore that he\u2019d love you forever or if he promised you the world; be grateful that he was honest enough to tell you it\u2019s over.<\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t see it as the end of the world<\/h2>\n

\"Foto<\/p>\n

The number one mistake most girls make when they catch themselves thinking \u201cHe broke up with me\u201d is to see the end of the relationship as the end of the world.<\/p>\n

En cambio, s\u00f3lo puede ser una oportunidad para un nuevo comienzo.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014being left behind by the person who was the center of your universe is anything but easy.<\/p>\n

Y nadie espera que lo superes de la noche a la ma\u00f1ana, porque eso s\u00f3lo significar\u00eda que nunca has querido a tu pareja.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, you shouldn\u2019t sentence yourself to a life of emotional suffering either. Stop with those thoughts that you\u2019ll never move on and that you\u2019ll miss this guy forever and have a little faith in yourself.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Mu\u00e9strate optimista y decidida a superarlo.<\/p>\n

Just because one chapter of your life is over, it doesn\u2019t make your entire existence pointless.<\/p>\n

He wasn\u2019t the only source of your happiness and strength\u2014you are.<\/p>\n

No importa lo que puedas pensar ahora, te olvidar\u00e1s por completo de \u00e9l y no importa c\u00f3mo te sientas en este momento, con el tiempo empezar\u00e1s a sentirte mucho mejor.<\/p>\n

Dale al tiempo la oportunidad de cura tu desamor<\/a>. Don\u2019t think of this as the worst thing that could ever happen to you because it actually might be the best; you probably just fail to see it right now.<\/p>\n

3. Contemplar por qu\u00e9 ocurri\u00f3<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Dicen que lo peor que puede pasar tras la ruptura es no conseguir el cierre<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You have been dumped and you don\u2019t even know why it happened.<\/p>\n

\u00bfDej\u00f3 de quererte? \u00bfFue algo que t\u00fa hiciste?<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1nto tiempo llevaba pensando en dejarte? \u00bfCu\u00e1nto tiempo has estado viviendo en una mentira?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEncontr\u00f3 a alguien nuevo? \u00bfHubo algo que pudieras haber hecho para evitarlo y mantenerlo a tu lado?<\/p>\n

These are all the questions going through your mind. Naturally, you want answers; you want an explanation you didn\u2019t get.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Well, even if you didn\u2019t see your break-up coming, it is clear that it happened for a real reason and that a lot of things went on between you two.<\/p>\n

Y en lugar de pedirle a tu ex que cierre la relaci\u00f3n, aprovecha este periodo posterior a la ruptura para reflexionar sobre toda la relaci\u00f3n y por qu\u00e9 lleg\u00f3 a su fin.<\/p>\n

Recuerda que para bailar un tango hacen falta dos y que probablemente ambos hicisteis algo para que vuestro romance se viniera abajo.<\/p>\n

Think about your mistakes but don\u2019t put all the responsibility on yourself.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, piensa en todo lo que te hizo a lo largo de vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Intenta averiguar qu\u00e9 le hizo dejarte y si sus razones estaban justificadas o si en realidad s\u00f3lo necesitaba una excusa para escapar.<\/p>\n

4. Date un tiempo para reflexionar<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

En lugar de llamar constantemente y enviar mensajes de texto a su ex<\/a>lo que le alejar\u00e1 a\u00fan m\u00e1s, aprovecha este periodo para reflexionar.<\/p>\n

Think about him and your relationship and most importantly\u2014try some introspection.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que quieres de la vida? \u00bfTu relaci\u00f3n te hac\u00eda feliz o no era m\u00e1s que un h\u00e1bito?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 cambiar\u00edas entre vosotros si tuvieras la oportunidad? \u00bfCree que la ruptura se produjo de forma natural o sin motivo alguno?<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo te ves dentro de unos a\u00f1os? \u00bfEs \u00e9ste el hombre con el que te imaginas envejeciendo o s\u00f3lo alguien que quieres que est\u00e9 a tu lado en este momento?<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfLe quer\u00edas? \u00bfY le todav\u00eda lo amo<\/a>?<\/p>\n

\u00bfCrees que te quer\u00eda de verdad? Seg\u00fan tu opini\u00f3n, \u00bfse han ido todas sus emociones o a\u00fan siente algo por ti?<\/p>\n

Por favor, sea lo m\u00e1s realista posible a la hora de responder a cada una de estas preguntas.<\/p>\n

Disregard what your heart wants to hear for a moment and face the truth, even if it\u2019s painful because it is the only way in which you can get to the bottom of things and see them as they really are.<\/p>\n

5. Decide si quieres recuperar a tu ex novio<\/h2>\n

\"primer<\/p>\n

Now that you have all of this sorted out in your head, it\u2019s time to make a big decision and answer the most important question of them all: Do you want this man back or not?<\/p>\n

Are you ready to fight for him to return into your life or do you think it\u2019s better to let him go and leave him in the past, where he belongs?<\/p>\n

This is the moment in which, after all this contemplating, you\u2019ll have to decide what the direction of your journey will be from now on, whether you\u2019ll invest your entire energy in trying to make up with this guy or you\u2019ll put all of your energy into doing your best to forget about him.<\/p>\n

Aunque tus emociones son un factor importante, tambi\u00e9n hay otros aspectos significativos en la balanza.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, la primera pregunta es si todav\u00eda lo amo<\/a> (because obviously, you won\u2019t chase someone you don\u2019t care about anymore) but you need to ask yourself if this relationship is worth fighting for in the first place.<\/p>\n

\u00bfFue el motivo de vuestra ruptura algo que pudisteis superar objetivamente o es probable que os persiga para siempre?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEres capaz de perdonarle por dejarte o piensas ech\u00e1rselo en cara mientras est\u00e9is juntos?<\/p>\n

\u00bfMerece su romance una segunda oportunidad? Objetivamente hablando, \u00bfpuede reconstruirse y tiene sentido intentarlo?<\/p>\n

10 cosas que hacer para recuperar a tu ex<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Rompi\u00f3 conmigo, \u00bfvolver\u00e1? El amor de mi vida rompi\u00f3 conmigo.<\/p>\n

If these and similar sentences have crossed your mind and you decided you want to try to win this man back, just follow this step by step guide and he\u2019ll be yours in no time.<\/p>\n

1. Dale tiempo y espacio<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que supongo que tu primer impulso es perseguir a este hombre todo lo que puedas.<\/p>\n

Usted quiere que su ex novio de vuelta<\/a> y planeas elegir formas de hacerlo tuyo de nuevo.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re afraid that he\u2019ll forget about you as soon as you move away from his life.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re scared that whatever is left of his feelings for you will vanish if you\u2019re no longer in his sight.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you decide to stalk him. You think that the wisest thing you might do is remain at his feet, making sure he knows you\u2019re still there, patiently waiting, right where he left you.<\/p>\n

\u00a1Incorrecto! De hecho, esto es probablemente lo peor que podr\u00edas hacer.<\/p>\n

\"primer<\/p>\n

Por el contrario, hay que dale espacio a este hombre<\/a> y el tiempo. Del mismo modo que t\u00fa tuviste que contemplar tu relaci\u00f3n y tu ruptura, \u00e9l tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

After all, how can you make him be afraid of losing you if you\u2019re constantly there?<\/p>\n

Precisamente por eso debes hacerle sentir tu ausencia para que aprenda a apreciar tu presencia.<\/p>\n

En lugar de atacarle y pedirle que vuelva contigo enseguida, dale la oportunidad de que te eche de menos.<\/p>\n

Give him a chance to see how his life would have looked without you in it and let him realize that he can\u2019t make it without you.<\/p>\n

2. Regla de no contacto<\/h2>\n

\"pensando<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve already heard about the famous norma de no contacto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s actually pretty simple; you cut your ex out of your life completely for a certain period of time (preferably three months but if you can\u2019t last that long, 30 days will work as well).<\/p>\n

The no contact rule literally means what it says\u2014you have absolutely no contact with him for this given period of time.<\/p>\n

No, you\u2019re not allowed to remain good friends, you are not allowed to check up on him, to wish him a happy birthday or a happy Valentine’s Day, to remind him of that doctor appointment you remembered he has scheduled, to tell him you miss him, to give your ex boyfriend back his stuff or to see what he\u2019s been up to.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t phone call him, don\u2019t send him text messages, don’t check his WhatsApp status and don\u2019t show up in the places you hope you might encounter him.<\/p>\n

Es m\u00e1s, incluso si te tiende la mano, dile que necesitas tiempo para procesar las cosas y p\u00eddele que se ponga en contacto contigo al cabo de un mes.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014doing this is even harder than it sounds. After all, you think you\u2019ll die without this guy in your life and you\u2019re supposed to cut him off completely.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, it has to be done. He has to see that you\u2019re not a puppy who will go running after him and that he can\u2019t have you whenever he pleases.<\/p>\n

3. Don\u2019t freak out if he starts dating<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The worst thing that can happen when your boyfriend decides to end things with you is that he finds a new girlfriend while you\u2019re still trying to get him back and still haven\u2019t found a way to get over him.<\/p>\n

Well, if something like this occurs, it doesn\u2019t mean you should lose hope.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t think that he\u2019s replaced you just like that. As much as it hurts, do your best to look at things realistically and reconsider the fact that maybe your reaction is exactly what he wants.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a good chance that this is nothing but a rebound relationship he is using to get over you with more ease or to make you jealous.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, en lugar de montar una escena, act\u00faa como una dama y finge total indiferencia ante esta situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t become one of those crazy ex-girlfriends who go around ruining their ex\u2019s new relationships and stalking him and whomever new he\u2019s dating.<\/p>\n

Besides appearing to be a desperate lunatic, you\u2019ll also give him another reason to continue with his rebounds because he\u2019ll see that he got the feedback he wanted from you.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014the only way for this guy to stop jumping from one relationship to another is you ignoring it completely.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, rompisteis y \u00e9l tiene derecho a tener una nueva novia, por mucho que te moleste y te duela.<\/p>\n

4. Intenta no obsesionarte con \u00e9l<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

While you\u2019re trying to make up with your ex, he and your relationship are the only things on your mind. Well, that is a huge mistake.<\/p>\n

En lugar de obsesionarte con este hombre, aprovecha todo este tiempo para trabajar en ti misma.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that you should make all the changes he\u2019s asked you to but a good piece of advice would be to reconsider your behavior and personality and to turn yourself into the woman you are destined to be.<\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019d like to believe me or not, the truth is that people have a way of sensing each other\u2019s vibe and energy.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

B\u00e1sicamente, puedes ir ning\u00fan contacto<\/a> and pretend to be ignoring this guy but if you spend all of your time with him in your thoughts and overanalyzing his every word and move, he\u2019ll feel that and he won\u2019t be drawn to you.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, obsesionarte con \u00e9l no te aportar\u00e1 ning\u00fan progreso y no te llevar\u00e1 a ninguna parte.<\/p>\n

Yes, he might have left your life physically but as long as he is still the first and the last person you think of every single day, you haven\u2019t moved an inch and you\u2019re still practically in a relationship with him.<\/p>\n

5. Deja que venga a ti<\/a> por primera vez<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve let some time pass by, you haven\u2019t rushed things, you processed the sentence \u201cHe broke up with me\u201d and you have thought everything through.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, ahora es el momento para algunas acciones concretas con respecto a este hombre que vuelve a tu vida.<\/p>\n

El mejor escenario posible ser\u00eda dejar que tu ex se acercara a ti por primera vez, en lugar de al rev\u00e9s.<\/p>\n

Therefore, at this stage, it would be great if you could do something to provoke his reaction and to make him be the one who\u2019ll call or text you.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, puedes asegurarte de que empez\u00e1is a chocar.<\/p>\n

Dress your best and \u2018accidentally\u2019 show up somewhere you know you\u2019ll see him.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re still friends on social media networks, post something that would make him send you a DM.<\/p>\n

Of course, you won\u2019t be posting sad and pathetic status updates.<\/p>\n

En lugar de eso, puedes intentar gastarle una broma o algo que sepas que le va a molestar.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

However, the trick is to send him mixed signals, so he won\u2019t know whether this is all a coincidence and he is imagining things or you\u2019re really aiming it directly at him.<\/p>\n

Another way to provoke this man\u2019s reaction is to try and dale celos<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to actually find a rebound relationship but you can ask a friend to help you send this guy hints that there is someone new in your life.<\/p>\n

Ten cuidado con esto y ten siempre presente que tu objetivo final es recuperar tu antigua relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you don\u2019t want your ex to think that you\u2019re fully over him and that you\u2019re in love with someone new because this could present a problem if you two get back together.<\/p>\n

Instead, make him wonder what\u2019s going on. Do something which will keep you in his head and put him in a situation where he won\u2019t be able to resist but to contact you in one way or another.<\/p>\n

6. Verle en persona<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Una vez que su ex se acerca y ustedes dos comienzan mensajes de texto<\/a> o hablando por tel\u00e9fono, sugi\u00e9rale que os ve\u00e1is cara a cara.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, when he sees you, he won\u2019t have the strength to act indifferent and he won\u2019t have space for his mind games he\u2019s trying to play through texting.<\/p>\n

Secondly, you\u2019ll be able to read through this man\u2019s signos del lenguaje corporal<\/a> s\u00f3lo cuando lo veas en persona.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo te mira? \u00bfQueda algo de pasi\u00f3n o amor en sus ojos?<\/p>\n

\u00bfSe sienta a tu lado? \u00bfTe abraza y te besa en la mejilla (pero peligrosamente cerca de los labios) cuando os veis?<\/p>\n

Is he trying to accidentally touch you? Does he smile when you\u2019re talking?<\/p>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry if he\u2019s angry or resentful\u2014it means he still has feelings for you.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, maybe he is scared to show his true emotions and acts like he couldn\u2019t care less but don\u2019t let that discourage you either.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re the one who knows this guy best so it’s your job to read between the lines and through his body language signs.<\/p>\n

Be honest with yourself and see whether he\u2019s playing you or if he is still into you.<\/p>\n

7. Mu\u00e9strale tus progresos<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Don’t just hangout, see this as a chance to show this man how far you\u2019ve gotten without him.<\/p>\n

V\u00edstete como a \u00e9l le gusta y haz lo mismo con el peinado y el maquillaje.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, adem\u00e1s de su aspecto, lo que es a\u00fan m\u00e1s importante es su progreso intelectual y emocional.<\/p>\n

Be calm and don\u2019t make any drama if that is the thing that bothered him while you were together.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t brag but casually mention all the things you\u2019ve done regarding your self-improvement.<\/p>\n

If you traveled, accidentally mention the places you visited (but remain vague about your travel companions) or tell him about a new language you\u2019ve been learning or a hobby you\u2019ve taken up, for example.<\/p>\n

Help him realize that you\u2019re perfectly able to get along without him and make him asustado de perderte<\/a> completamente.<\/p>\n

8. Asume la responsabilidad de tus errores<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/h2>\n

After you\u2019re done with updating him and the small talk, it\u2019s time to start talking about your failed relationship.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry if he doesn\u2019t start the subject first and find a way to subtly bring up the past.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t ask him to get back together with you right away but you can begin the conversation by showing him how mature you have become during this whole time you weren\u2019t together.<\/p>\n

Para empezar, reconoce los errores que cometiste en la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t lie and pretend that everything was your fault (when it clearly wasn\u2019t) just to make him feel better and to get him back to you.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, demu\u00e9strale que te das cuenta por qu\u00e9 se fue<\/a> you and make sure he understands you don\u2019t plan on repeating the same wrong moves which partly led to your break-up.<\/p>\n

9. Reclamarle por sus acciones<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

The next step is to call your ex out on his actions as well. Nevertheless, while you\u2019re doing this, don\u2019t let the conversation turn into an argument or a blame game.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him sense your resentment and don\u2019t show him that you hold grudges for some things from the past.<\/p>\n

However, show him that you took some time to reflect on your entire relationship and that you\u2019re deeply hurt and broken-hearted by his actions.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014make this man realize that you\u2019re ready to forgive him this time but that it doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019ll keep on doing so if he plans on continuing with his bad behavior.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let him see this as a green light to keep on leaving you and coming back the way he pleases.<\/p>\n

I know that your ego might not allow you to express the intensity of the pain you felt during this break-up and your ex doesn\u2019t need to know all about your sleepless nights or about each tear you cried for him.<\/p>\n

However, if you don\u2019t point out at the damage he caused and if he gets the impression that you were completely unharmed by him alejarse<\/a> from you, he\u2019ll have no trouble doing it all over again at the first sign of inconvenience.<\/p>\n

10. Crear un plan de acci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Ahora que ya lo hab\u00e9is aclarado todo, pod\u00e9is proceder a elaborar un plan de acci\u00f3n concreto con respecto a vuestra relaci\u00f3n que, evidentemente, ambos dese\u00e1is que se renueve.<\/p>\n

It is more than obvious that things weren\u2019t working out in the past and your break-up is more than enough of a sign that it\u2019s time for some new ground rules.<\/p>\n

Sed sinceros entre vosotros y sobre las cosas que os molestan.<\/p>\n

Decide qu\u00e9 cosas quieres cambiar y qu\u00e9 mejoras esperas conseguir.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014do your best to reach a compromise. Meet each other halfway and make sure this new arrangement suits you both the best.<\/p>\n

10 cosas que te ayudar\u00e1n a olvidar a tu ex<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Por otro lado, si has decidido dejar atr\u00e1s a este hombre y tu relaci\u00f3n anterior, hay algunos consejos y trucos que pueden ayudarte a olvidarle con m\u00e1s facilidad.<\/p>\n

1. Accept that it\u2019s over<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The worst thing that you can do when you\u2019re in the process of dejarse llevar<\/a> de alguien se mantiene en negaci\u00f3n al respecto.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que preferir\u00edas no vivir toda esta situaci\u00f3n y que quieres que todo sea una mala pesadilla de la que despertar\u00e1s a la ma\u00f1ana siguiente.<\/p>\n

However, as much as you hate to admit it, this is the harsh reality. And you\u2019ll just have to deal with it, sooner or later.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Por eso es mucho mejor hacerlo ahora que pasarse semanas o meses esperando a que las cosas vuelvan a ser como antes.<\/p>\n

You decided that you don\u2019t want to fight to get your ex back, which means that you\u2019re perfectly aware that you\u2019re better off without him.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que mantente firme en tu decisi\u00f3n correcta. Deja de esperar a que vuelva y deja de esperar un milagro que nunca llegar\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Accept that it\u2019s over and focus on your present and future instead of the past that you can\u2019t change, as much as you would like to.<\/p>\n

2. Give yourself enough time to grieve…<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, facing the awful reality doesn\u2019t equal magically getting over this man.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t push yourself forward and don\u2019t expect to be okay the very next day after he left your life; remember that you’re just a human being made of flesh and blood.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, se trataba de alguien a quien quer\u00edas profundamente y con quien manten\u00edas una relaci\u00f3n duradera.<\/p>\n

Un hombre con el que probablemente planeaste un futuro, tu amante y tu mejor amigo<\/a>por lo que ser\u00eda antinatural olvidar que alguna vez existi\u00f3 en un abrir y cerrar de ojos.<\/p>\n

Therefore, please don\u2019t be ashamed of your pain.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t listen to others telling you that it’s not a big deal and that it’s about time to move on with your life and that you\u2019re taking too long to get over your ex.<\/p>\n

En primer lugar, recuerda que todos tenemos un ritmo diferente a la hora de reparar nuestro coraz\u00f3n roto.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, es mucho mejor curarse de forma sana y darse el tiempo suficiente para sanar que precipitarse y no hacer otra cosa que enterrar su carga emocional, que tarde o temprano le llegar\u00e1.<\/p>\n

So, please, don\u2019t repress your emotions. Don\u2019t ignore your sadness and pretend it\u2019s not there, expecting it to disappear that way.
\nEn lugar de eso, afr\u00f3ntalo, m\u00edralo directamente a los ojos y prom\u00e9tete a ti mismo que lo superar\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Show your pain that you\u2019re stronger than it and that you will defeat it, one way or another.<\/p>\n

3. \u2026 but don\u2019t dwell on the pain<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t see this as an excuse to insistir en el dolor<\/a> forever. Don\u2019t let it define you and make you become nothing more than a dumped girlfriend.<\/p>\n

Yes, you\u2019re brokenhearted and nobody is trying to minimize your emotions.<\/p>\n

However, besides being this guy\u2019s ex-girlfriend, you\u2019re still a daughter, a sister, a friend and most importantly, a woman who has a range of other feelings besides this all-consuming pain.<\/p>\n

Lo mejor que puede hacer por usted en esta fase es fijar una fecha.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Up until this day, you\u2019re allowed to cry, scream and do nothing but think about your ex.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, cuando llega este d\u00eda, \u00e9l est\u00e1 fuera de tus pensamientos.<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t stop thinking about him completely, at least gradually reduce the time he\u2019s allowed to have in your mind.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014you\u2019re stronger than your heart and mind. You\u2019re in charge, not the other way around.<\/p>\n

4. Aprender a perdonar<\/h2>\n

\"primer<\/p>\n

Cuando la persona a la que cre\u00edas que pod\u00edas confiar tu vida te deja colgado, sin pensar dos veces en las consecuencias que puede dejarte, no s\u00f3lo te rompe el coraz\u00f3n, tambi\u00e9n te sientes traicionado y abandonado.<\/p>\n

Sobre todo si esta ruptura ha estado precedida de aventuras, malos tratos o una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica en general.<\/p>\n

Naturally, you can\u2019t have positive emotions toward a man who caused you this much harm.<\/p>\n

Aunque es posible que a\u00fan le quieras, el amor que sientes se mezcla con el odio, la ira y el resentimiento.<\/p>\n

De hecho, es probable que quieras vengarte. Supones que todo encajar\u00eda si tuvieras la oportunidad de vengarte de ese tipo y darle a probar de su propia medicina.<\/p>\n

\"primer<\/p>\n

Y nadie te culpa por ello.<\/p>\n

However, I\u2019m begging you to do your best to forgive him. Find the strength to accept your ex\u2019s apology, even if you didn\u2019t get one.<\/p>\n

Instead of stooping down to his level, be the better person and rise above him. Besides, don\u2019t forget that the best revenge is to keep on going, without ever looking back.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t do it for him\u2014do it for your own sake. Do it because it\u2019s the only way to set yourself free from the chains of everything he\u2019s done and the only way to move on for real.<\/p>\n

5. Cortarle el grifo por completo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The next step in trying to get over your ex is kicking him out of your life for good. Cut ties with this man and make sure he realizes he\u2019ll never be welcome in your world again, not even as your good friend.<\/p>\n

La diferencia entre romper todas las conexiones y el no contacto radica en los distintos objetivos de estos movimientos.<\/p>\n

When you go no contact, you\u2019re trying to win your ex back and when you cut all ties, you\u2019re doing it to make your recovery easier.<\/p>\n

Therefore, have in mind that you\u2019re not doing this to prove a point to him or to make him run back to you; you\u2019re doing it to keep him out of your sight, mind and heart.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

For starters, unfriend all of this guy’s social media profiles. The last thing you need now is to spend your days stalking him on social media and keeping yourself updated about his love life.<\/p>\n

If necessary, change your number and block him on WhatsApp. If you think that he\u2019ll be calling you, don\u2019t leave that option open.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, deshazte de todo lo que pueda recordarte a tu ex.<\/p>\n

If you think you\u2019ll regret throwing away all of your memories, such as his clothes or gifts, ask a friend to hold on to them for you until you\u2019re ready to wear them or have them in front of you without them serving you as a painful reminder of your failed past relationship.<\/p>\n

Deja de escuchar las canciones que relacionas con \u00e9l, deja de fijarte en los actores que se parecen a \u00e9l y deja de girarte cada vez que ves un coche parecido al suyo.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, si ten\u00e9is amigos en com\u00fan, dist\u00e1nciate tambi\u00e9n de ellos.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que quieres a esas personas independientemente de tu ex, pero todo tu proceso de curaci\u00f3n ser\u00e1 in\u00fatil si pasas tiempo con sus amigos \u00edntimos o su familia.<\/p>\n

6. Trabaja en ti mismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

After you\u2019re done with that step, the next one is dedicated to you and your self-esteem only. Instead of wasting all of your time obsessing over your ex, use this opportunity to work on yourself.<\/p>\n

Do whatever you can to become the best possible version of yourself and to improve your self-esteem\u2014not in spite of this guy and not to prove a point to him; do it because you want to.<\/p>\n

Do it to prove to yourself that you can and will make it without him and that you don\u2019t need him to push you forward.<\/p>\n

7. Mant\u00e9ngase ocupado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Most importantly, keep yourself as busy as possible. Don\u2019t hide your pain in work or study but at least in the beginning, don\u2019t leave yourself too much free time.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re bored, it is more likely that you\u2019ll start remembering your ex and start thinking about your past relationship.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, en este caso, hay m\u00e1s posibilidades de que cometas el error de tu vida y te acerques a \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Por eso, lo mejor que puedes hacer es buscarte un nuevo hobby, empezar a aprender cosas nuevas o incluso hacer horas extra en el trabajo.<\/p>\n

It wouldn\u2019t be bad if you start exercising as well because that will also help you keep a healthier mind and body.<\/p>\n

Si no hay nada m\u00e1s, llama a tus amigos \u00edntimos para quedar contigo. P\u00eddeles que no mencionen a tu ex y que te entretengan con otros temas.<\/p>\n

8. Don\u2019t jump into a new relationship\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Relaciones de rebote<\/a> nunca trajo nada bueno a nadie. Al fin y al cabo, \u00bfqui\u00e9n ha conseguido combatir el fuego con fuego?<\/p>\n

Seguro que uno de tus primeros impulsos es buscarte un nuevo novio. Adem\u00e1s de querer darle celos a tu ex, piensas que un nuevo inter\u00e9s te ayudar\u00eda a despejar la mente.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, d\u00e9jame decirte que esto es un error y no es la manera de manejar tu coraz\u00f3n roto.<\/p>\n

Remember that moving on is much more than jumping into a new relationship and that forcing yourself to do something you\u2019re not ready for will only deepen your wounds and make you feel even worse.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 querr\u00edas arrastrar a alguien inocente a tu l\u00edo? Ning\u00fan ser humano merece servirte de herramienta para superar lo de tu ex novio o para ayudarte a aceptar el fin de la relaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n

So, instead of doing something you\u2019ll probably regret later, stay single for a couple of months and don\u2019t commit to something which might bring you even more headaches.<\/p>\n

9. \u2026 but be open to dating<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, this doesn\u2019t mean that you have to stay off all dating apps or that you are required to shut yourself off completely to the possibility of ever finding someone new.<\/p>\n

En lugar de eso, encuentra un equilibrio entre estar abierto a las citas y no buscar a alguien en concreto. Suena dif\u00edcil de conseguir, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n

El truco est\u00e1 en que no lo rechaces si aparece en tu vida un chico que te gusta.<\/p>\n

Es no dejar que tu relaci\u00f3n anterior interfiera en tu nueva vida y no permitir que tu carga emocional y los traumas del pasado te lastren y te impidan seguir adelante.<\/p>\n

A pesar de lo que puedas pensar ahora, no todo el mundo es como tu ex. No todos los chicos te dejar\u00e1n colgada y lastimar\u00e1n tu ya da\u00f1ado coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

On the other hand, don\u2019t go actively searching for someone new and don\u2019t make it your only goal to find a new boyfriend and start your new life in a certain period of time.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be desperate for the man of your dreams to show up and don\u2019t force yourself into doing something you actually don\u2019t want to do.<\/p>\n

Para variar, rel\u00e1jate todo lo posible y deja de pensar tanto. D\u00e9jese llevar por la corriente y vea ad\u00f3nde le lleva.<\/p>\n

10. Convertirlo en una lecci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Lo \u00faltimo, pero no por ello menos importante, que tienes que hacer en relaci\u00f3n con este asunto es aprender de \u00e9l. Es comprender que todo sucede por una raz\u00f3n y por una causa mayor.<\/p>\n

This man obviously wasn\u2019t meant to be yours because otherwise, you would have never lost him in the first place.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, deber\u00edas considerarte afortunada por romper con \u00e9l ahora, a tiempo, que pasar a\u00f1os a su lado, s\u00f3lo para acabar sin \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

Remember that God always has a plan, that you\u2019re not always aware of. So, be thankful for all the closed doors and for all the losses because I promise you that this one will turn out to be the biggest gain of your life.<\/p>\n

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