{"id":58877,"date":"2020-04-06T20:55:42","date_gmt":"2020-04-06T20:55:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=58877"},"modified":"2022-07-05T09:52:04","modified_gmt":"2022-07-05T09:52:04","slug":"cosas-de-las-que-hablar-en-la-primera-cita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cosas-de-las-que-hablar-en-la-primera-cita\/","title":{"rendered":"20 cosas interesantes de las que hablar en la primera cita"},"content":{"rendered":"

So, pay special attention to their answer because you might be surpriseSo, you met someone on a random dating site (like Tinder), via mutual friends, in a library or someplace else and now you’re preparing for your first date with them.<\/p>\n

Woohoo! I can imagine the level of excitement that’s overwhelming your mind and body because first dates are not like any other dates.<\/p>\n

Lord knows that first dates can be really awkward but at the same time, so exciting because everything’s new and the idea of learning some interesting things about that one special person is really appealing.<\/p>\n

You can’t wait for the moment to finally meet them but at the same time, you’re anxious and stressed about all those details that you need to pay attention to (especially if you’re an overthinker like myself).<\/p>\n

El proceso de preparaci\u00f3n es m\u00e1s o menos as\u00ed:<\/h2>\n

\"armario<\/p>\n

You suddenly realize that you’ve got nothing to wear even though your wardrobe is full of everything (this is especially true for women\u2014speaking from experience).<\/p>\n

It’s a syndrome called \u2018wardrobe full of clothes but nothing to wear\u2019.<\/p>\n

You don’t want to appear too casual but you also don’t want to be dressed like someone who is attending a ball.<\/p>\n

So, after a few hours (in the best case scenario) of contemplating, trying and retrying clothes and seeking other people’s opinions, you finally find that one perfect outfit for your primera cita<\/a>.<\/p>\n

After that comes another annoying part that consists of all those details regarding your make-up and other elements (if you’re a woman), your type of beard (if you’re a man) and your hairstyle.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Again, you don’t want to overdo it but you also don’t want your date to think that you haven’t really made an effort.<\/p>\n

And when you finally think that you’re ready (even though this was just a trial because your real date is in a few days), you realize that there is a bigger issue than your physical appearance and that is date ideas and more importantly, things to talk about on a first date.<\/p>\n

As with clothes, you don’t want to overdo your first date conversation by asking too sensitive first date questions or ruining the moment with awkward ice-breakers.<\/p>\n

Quiere evitar a toda costa posibles silencios inc\u00f3modos y mantener la conversaci\u00f3n<\/a> because you know that you wouldn’t survive the amount of anxiety in the air while sitting next to a stranger and listening to the sound of silence.<\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfde qu\u00e9 hablar en la primera cita?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Quieres hacer las preguntas correctas que te dir\u00e1n si compart\u00eds intereses comunes, qu\u00e9 tipo de persona es y tambi\u00e9n quieres asegurarte de que haya una segunda cita (por supuesto, si realmente te gusta el chico\/la chica).<\/p>\n

You don’t want your conversation to be dull but you want to have an interesting conversation with your date so that they see how witty and inspiring you truly are!<\/p>\n

To help you with all that, here is a list of interesting things to talk about on a first date and impress your date, aka potential partner. So, let’s see!<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: C\u00f3mo confirmar una cita: 9 consejos y ejemplos de texto<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

De qu\u00e9 hablar en la primera cita<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. \u00bfC\u00f3mo te sientes hoy\/qu\u00e9 tal el d\u00eda?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

This is a great first date conversation starter because it reflects on the present and things they’ve done recently.<\/p>\n

It will be an easy one for your date to answer and it will tell you about their current mood, their lifestyle and things that they’re focused on at the moment.<\/p>\n

Y lo mejor de todo es que, despu\u00e9s de contestarla, lo m\u00e1s probable es que te hagan la misma pregunta.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que tienes todo el tiempo del mundo para prepararte con antelaci\u00f3n e impresionarles con tu actitud positiva.<\/p>\n

2. \u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que m\u00e1s le gusta de vivir aqu\u00ed?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Asking your date about the things they like most about living there is a good first date question and you can’t go wrong with it.<\/p>\n

Esta pregunta revelar\u00e1 sus preferencias, actividades y estilo de vida.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, te permitir\u00e1 saber si compart\u00eds la misma perspectiva sobre el lugar en el que viv\u00eds y si ten\u00e9is algunas actividades comunes que podr\u00edais hacer juntos.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, si les gusta pasar tiempo en un lugar determinado que a ti tambi\u00e9n te gusta, aseg\u00farate de hac\u00e9rselo saber para que tengas un segunda cita<\/a> garantizado.<\/p>\n

3. Si pudieras viajar a cualquier parte del mundo ahora mismo, \u00bfa d\u00f3nde ir\u00edas?<\/h2>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

Seg\u00fan mi experiencia personal, hay dos tipos de personas en el mundo: los adictos al sof\u00e1 y los aventureros.<\/p>\n

La verdad es que tambi\u00e9n hay gente que se queda en alg\u00fan punto intermedio, pero ya te haces una idea.<\/p>\n

So, by asking this question, you’ll definitely know which type of people they belong to.<\/p>\n

If they answer nowhere (or something similar that doesn’t really give you a specific answer) then you know their levels of adventure, excitement and ambition are really low.<\/p>\n

But if they give you a specific answer explaining where they would want to go and why, then you know that they have dreams and they’re an adventurist by nature.<\/p>\n

If you see that spark in their eyes while describing their favorite place in the world, then you can be sure that they’re a unique and inspiring individual with their own dreams and wishes.<\/p>\n

4. \u00bfCon qui\u00e9n pasas m\u00e1s tiempo?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Dicen que somos con quien salimos. As\u00ed que averiguar con qui\u00e9n pasa la mayor parte del tiempo tu cita ser\u00e1 algo muy valioso.<\/p>\n

Si la persona con la que pasan m\u00e1s tiempo es un miembro de su familia, su mejor amigo u otra persona, puede hacer una pregunta complementaria para describir a esa persona.<\/p>\n

Learning about that one person will help you understand your date because there’s a reason why they spend so much time with them.<\/p>\n

They probably have many things in common, so all you need to do is pay attention to the words coming out of your date’s mouth and you’ll figure it out real quick!<\/p>\n

5. What’s your dream job?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

En lugar de preguntar a tu cita por su trabajo actual, preguntarle por el trabajo de sus sue\u00f1os es una alternativa mejor porque abarcar\u00e1 ambos.<\/p>\n

If their current job is their dream job (even though the likelihood of that is not that high), they’ll tell you that.<\/p>\n

Most importantly, you will learn what they’re into and what they’re passionate about and what kind of person they are.<\/p>\n

Hay personas para las que un trabajo de ensue\u00f1o ser\u00eda sentarse y no hacer nada, mientras que tambi\u00e9n hay quienes ven un trabajo de ensue\u00f1o como una oportunidad para crear, ayudar a los dem\u00e1s, mejorar las cosas o inventar algo nuevo.<\/p>\n

You definitely want to avoid the first type of people and focus on the second one because you don’t want to end up being in a relationship with a couch potato who lacks ambition and motivation.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 6 incre\u00edbles ideas para la primera cita<\/a><\/p>\n

6. What’s on your lista de cosas que hacer antes de morir<\/a>?<\/h2>\n

\"las<\/p>\n

Bucket lists are always so much fun! It’s really exciting to learn about your date’s wishes, dreams, fantasies and goals.<\/p>\n

De una lista de cosas que hacer antes de morir se puede aprender mucho sobre su verdadera personalidad y sus prioridades.<\/p>\n

And you can also learn whether you share some things on your bucket list which means one thing\u2014doing it together one day (or at least fantasizing about doing that one thing from your bucket list together until it really happens).<\/p>\n

Now, if your date doesn’t have a bucket list and they can’t remember a single thing they would want to do in life, then you know that you’re dealing with someone who is not that enthusiastic about life and its charms.<\/p>\n

7. What’s something I would never guess about you?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Esta es sin duda una de las mejores cosas de las que hablar en una primera cita. Si quieres que tu cita te cuente algo realmente emocionante e interesante sobre ella, entonces deber\u00edas hacerle esta pregunta.<\/p>\n

Es una forma indirecta de pedirles que cuenten algo inusual sobre ellos, algo que les haga \u00fanicos y acent\u00fae su personalidad.<\/p>\n

And it could be just about anything. From a specific taste in music or movies or their secret hobby to some big achievements that they don’t really brag about.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, tienes que estar preparado para responder a \u00e9sta tambi\u00e9n, porque lo m\u00e1s probable es que te pregunten lo mismo.<\/p>\n

8. What’s your favorite thing to do outdoors?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

\u00bfSalir a pasear, ir de picnic, hacer footing, sentarse en un parque u otra actividad?<\/p>\n

Finding out about your date’s favorite thing to do outdoors will let you know which activity they prefer most.<\/p>\n

If it’s jogging, then you know they’re probably living a healthy lifestyle and trying to be active as much as possible.<\/p>\n

If you’re into the same thing, it’s a perfect opportunity to let them know, so that you can share your ideas regarding such a lifestyle which is another topic guaranteed to keep both of you entertained.<\/p>\n

9. 9. \u00bfCu\u00e1les son tus programas de televisi\u00f3n\/pel\u00edculas\/canciones\/podcasts favoritos?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Esta pregunta siempre me parece especialmente importante porque ser\u00eda un aut\u00e9ntico co\u00f1azo que dos personas tuvieran dificultades para ponerse de acuerdo sobre qu\u00e9 pel\u00edcula o programa de televisi\u00f3n ver cuando llega la hora de Netflix y el chill o a qu\u00e9 concierto asistir.<\/p>\n

Also, a person’s taste in music or movies says a lot about them as well.<\/p>\n

If they’re a hopeless romantic, they’ll prefer romantic comedies or something of the sort and if they’re listening to some specific music genre you have never heard of, then you know they definitely don’t follow trends and pay more attention to nourishing their own tastes.<\/p>\n

10. \u00bfEn qu\u00e9 red social pasa m\u00e1s tiempo y por qu\u00e9?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

En tiempos de tecnolog\u00eda avanzada y redes sociales<\/a>, there isn’t a single person out there who hasn’t heard about the charms of this modern media.<\/p>\n

Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp, Tumblr, Snapchat, lo que quieras.<\/p>\n

Cada una de estas redes sociales es \u00fanica y ofrece experiencias diferentes.<\/p>\n

Si preguntas a tu cita en qu\u00e9 red social pasa m\u00e1s tiempo, sabr\u00e1s d\u00f3nde puedes encontrarla.<\/p>\n

Si quieres estar al d\u00eda de sus \u00faltimas historias y publicaciones, todo lo que tienes que hacer es seguirles o a\u00f1adirles en esa red social y disfrutar charlando y formando parte de su vida virtual.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: C\u00f3mo conquistarle en la primera cita seg\u00fan su signo del zodiaco<\/a><\/p>\n

11. H\u00e1blame de tu familia<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Nuestra familia es una parte importante de nuestra vida y ha influido mucho en que nos hayamos convertido en la persona que somos hoy.<\/p>\n

Pedirle a tu cita que te hable de su familia es, b\u00e1sicamente, pedirle que te cuente su pasado, su infancia y las personas que le criaron.<\/p>\n

El tipo de familia en la que han crecido ha conformado sus valores, su mentalidad y su perspectiva de ciertas cosas.<\/p>\n

Por eso, conocer a su familia te ayudar\u00e1 a descifrar qu\u00e9 tipo de persona es, qu\u00e9 valores apoya y mucho m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

12. \u00bfC\u00f3mo suele pasar su tiempo libre?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

This is another alternative to asking about their passions and the things they’re interested in.<\/p>\n

Todos pasamos nuestro tiempo libre de forma diferente. Algunos preferimos ver Netflix hasta que nos duelen los ojos, otros salir con los amigos, leer un buen libro, etc\u00e9tera.<\/p>\n

If your date usually spends their free time hanging out with their friends and family and outdoors, chances are they’re an extrovert by nature.<\/p>\n

Y si suele pasar su tiempo libre leyendo un libro, jugando o algo similar, entonces puede que sea una persona introvertida de verdad.<\/p>\n

Both personalities have their own charms and if you’re the opposite of them this doesn’t mean that you won’t get along. After all, you know what they say: \u2018opposites attract\u2019.<\/p>\n

13. What\u2019s your idea of a perfect date?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Todos tenemos diferentes preferencias y ideas para una cita perfecta<\/a>, so it would be really exciting to know your date’s perspective on that, right? You want to know whether they’re a romantic soul or the opposite of that.<\/p>\n

So, if they describe their perfect date as one of the following: a walk on a beach at the time of a beautiful sunset, dinner with scented candles, on a desert island or another exotic place, then you can be sure that they’re the embodiment of a hopeless romantic.<\/p>\n

Y qui\u00e9n sabe, quiz\u00e1 tu idea de una cita perfecta coincida con la suya, as\u00ed que \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 no intentarlo en la segunda cita (si es posible)?<\/p>\n

14. What’s your favorite childhood memory?<\/h2>\n

\"primer<\/p>\n

Ah, those childhood memories… When I think of my own childhood memories, I have this mosaic of funny situations in my head because a child’s world is a source of unlimited fun and adventures.<\/p>\n

Childhood memories are full of funny stories and some of them are so embarrassing or hilarious that you don’t want to share with just anyone, unless they insist, of course.<\/p>\n

So, I bet you’re dying to hear your date’s favorite childhood memory so that you can continue sharing memories and probably die laughing.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, al compartir todos estos recuerdos de vuestra infancia, aprender\u00e9is mucho el uno del otro y conectar\u00e9is a un nivel m\u00e1s profundo.<\/p>\n

15. What’s your best friend like?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

This one’s a little bit of a tricky question (but of course, your date will not know that).<\/p>\n

Al preguntarles por su mejor amigo, les estar\u00e1 pidiendo literalmente que hablen de s\u00ed mismos.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9? Porque la persona con la que m\u00e1s salen es la m\u00e1s parecida a ellos.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, por algo son sus mejores amigos. Apoyan su perspectiva de las cosas y su personalidad, comparten todo con ellos y son una parte importante de su vida.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que presta atenci\u00f3n a lo que dicen de su mejor amigo, \u00a1porque la mayor parte de eso tambi\u00e9n puede aplicarse a ellos!<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: La lista definitiva de consejos para hombres en la primera cita<\/a><\/p>\n

16. What\u2019s your biggest pet peeve?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Hablar de man\u00edas siempre es divertido porque la mayor\u00eda de las veces son divertid\u00edsimas y totalmente aleatorias.<\/p>\n

Other people’s pet peeves are usually those things that you never pay attention to (unless it\u2019s your pet peeve as well).<\/p>\n

So, by finding out what’s that one thing (or a few things) that annoy your date, you will be prepared in the future not to do something they would find extremely annoying.<\/p>\n

Y puedo garantizarle que ambos se partir\u00e1n de risa al hablar de este tema, \u00a1as\u00ed que no se lo pierda!<\/p>\n

17. \u00bfTiene animales dom\u00e9sticos?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

If your date has a pet (or pets), then you know for sure they’re an animal lover.<\/p>\n

Now, this doesn’t mean that they’re not an animal lover if they don’t have any pets. You can conclude from the conversation and the type of their answer whether they like animals or not.<\/p>\n

And if you yourself prefer specific pets like cats, finding out that you share this one thing with your date will mean a lot to you. After all, there’s a reason why people are often categorized as being a dog person or a cat person.<\/p>\n

Belonging to a certain category means having specific characteristics when it comes to one’s personality!<\/p>\n

18. Is there anything you\u2019re passionate about?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Esta pregunta le dir\u00e1 si su cita tiene alguna pasi\u00f3n que quiz\u00e1s sean sus aficiones o talentos secretos<\/a> that you don’t know about.<\/p>\n

Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, sabr\u00e1s si a tu cita le mueve la pasi\u00f3n, porque se dice que las personas apasionadas son as\u00ed en todos los aspectos de su vida (lo que significa tambi\u00e9n en la cama).<\/p>\n

And I bet there’s nothing sexier than a hombre apasionado<\/a> o un mujer apasionada<\/a> que sabe lo que quiere y c\u00f3mo expresarse.<\/p>\n

Estas personas son la mayor fuente de inspiraci\u00f3n, creaci\u00f3n y diversi\u00f3n sin l\u00edmites.<\/p>\n

19. Si tuvieras que elegir tres cosas para llevarte a una isla desierta, \u00bfcu\u00e1les ser\u00edan?<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

This is a legit way to find out about a person’s most valuable possessions without really asking them that directly, so you definitely don’t want to miss that one!<\/p>\n

Si pregunta a su cita por las tres cosas que se llevar\u00eda a una isla desierta, sabr\u00e1 qu\u00e9 tres cosas son las m\u00e1s importantes para ella.<\/p>\n

These things are their priority and they literally wouldn’t survive without them, so they have to carry them everywhere where they go. So, pay special attention to their answer because you might be surprised!<\/p>\n

20. Si pudiera pedir un deseo, \u00bfcu\u00e1l ser\u00eda y por qu\u00e9?<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

We all have that one wish we want to make true but for some reason, we haven’t succeeded with it yet or it’s something that’s out of our power.<\/p>\n

Ese \u00fanico deseo suele estar relacionado con un sue\u00f1o incumplido, una prioridad o una pasi\u00f3n y algo que nos importa mucho.<\/p>\n

So, by asking your date about this one, you will know what their priority is\u2014something that they want so hard but haven’t achieved yet.
\nConsejo r\u00e1pido<\/p>\n

Given that you’re meeting for the first time, avoid topics about your past relationships, money, religion, sexual experience and politics.<\/p>\n

Don’t ask such questions because they would be too heavy (too much for the first meeting) and potentially awkward.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, de todos los consejos e ideas para la primera cita mencionados, yo acentuar\u00eda especialmente \u00e9ste:<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 aut\u00e9ntico, s\u00e9 t\u00fa mismo.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try too hard to impress them because you\u2019re not at an audition and don’t ask too many questions at the time or in a mechanical manner as if they’re at a job interview.<\/p>\n

Rel\u00e1jate, divi\u00e9rtete y disfruta de cada segundo de tu primera cita.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, presta atenci\u00f3n a su lenguaje corporal y m\u00e9zclalo todo con un poco de burla y bromas juguetonas.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 10 cosas memorables que hacer en la primera cita para impresionar a tu pareja<\/a><\/p>\n

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