{"id":58971,"date":"2021-10-07T20:09:46","date_gmt":"2021-10-07T20:09:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=58971"},"modified":"2022-01-17T22:42:13","modified_gmt":"2022-01-17T22:42:13","slug":"relacion-complicada-8-trampas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relacion-complicada-8-trampas\/","title":{"rendered":"Relaciones complicadas: 8 trampas en las que no quieres caer"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u2018Complicated relationship\u2019 is a phrase we hear a lot these days. The term has become more widespread, thanks to the prominent Facebook relationship status option: It\u2019s complicated<\/i>.<\/p>\n

Siempre me he preguntado qu\u00e9 debe sentir la gente para declarar algo as\u00ed, y resulta que hay varias razones que contribuyen a la complejidad de una relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

It’s not like we can provide a clear definition of it, but a <\/b>relaci\u00f3n complicada significa<\/b> un insatisfactorio <\/b>amar la vida<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

In other words, it’s when<\/i> socios luchan con <\/i>inseguridades<\/i><\/a> y <\/i>codependencia<\/i><\/a>tienen diferentes puntos de vista sobre la vida, u otros <\/i>problemas de pareja<\/i> that don’t allow them to take their relationship to <\/i>the ‘<\/i>exclusividad<\/i>‘ level<\/i><\/a>.<\/i><\/p>\n

It’s <\/b>a <\/b>relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica<\/b><\/a> between two people who can’t find common ground despite the strong feelings they share for each other. <\/b>They’re aware they can’t be together, but they also can’t walk away from each other…<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo saber si su relaci\u00f3n es complicada?<\/h2>\n

It’s actually pretty simple; if you aren’t sure what <\/i>su <\/i>situaci\u00f3n sentimental<\/i><\/a> is at every moment, and if you don’t know where exactly you stand with your partner, you’re in a <\/i>relaci\u00f3n complicada<\/i>. Punto final.<\/i><\/p>\n

Cuando una persona est\u00e1 en <\/b>una vida sana y <\/b>relaci\u00f3n de \u00e9xito<\/b><\/a>, they don’t have to bother about these things because they have a clear picture of their relationship at every moment. <\/b>Y, si preguntas como \u00e9sta empiezan a atormentarles, simplemente lo comentan con su pareja.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in a relationship in which you\u2019re hesitant to call yourself a couple, I\u2019m afraid you fall into one of these categories that definitely indicate your relationship is complicated:<\/p>\n

1. Relaci\u00f3n intermitente<\/h3>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Ser\u00eda estupendo que existiera alguna gu\u00eda universal sobre c\u00f3mo para construir una relaci\u00f3n fruct\u00edfera<\/a>Pero la realidad es que no s\u00f3lo no hay ninguna gu\u00eda, sino que no hay ninguna regla. Y, con el agravante de que cada relaci\u00f3n es distinta, como distintos somos cada uno de nosotros.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no right path. There\u2019s just a scarily big amount of small and narrow streets everywhere.<\/b><\/p>\n

El amor es complicado<\/i><\/a>… our feelings are messy. So, how on earth will relationships not be messy.<\/i><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in una relaci\u00f3n on\/off<\/a>Ya sabes que hay muchas razones por las que la gente rompe.<\/p>\n

Puede deberse a un conflicto causado por caracter\u00edsticas personales diferentes (la falta de compatibilidad), antecedentes vitales, estancamiento o celos<\/a>por ejemplo.<\/p>\n

One thing is for sure, though… The breakup is always followed by feelings of loneliness, missing the old habits, and lacking the comfort you had with your once significant other.<\/b><\/p>\n

And, that\u2019s when things start to get complicated, and are usually followed by a reunion. That\u2019s where the roller coaster begins.<\/p>\n

On\/off relationships are full of uncertainty, pain, and passion… It sounds like a good romance novel, doesn\u2019t it? However, this kind of relationship surely isn’t worth your efforts<\/a> y tu valioso tiempo.<\/p>\n

2. Amigos con derecho a roce<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Al principio, la idea suena muy bien.<\/p>\n

Disfrut\u00e1is vi\u00e9ndoos para pasar un rato casual y sexy. \u00bfY por qu\u00e9 no?<\/p>\n

Sin condiciones<\/b><\/a> parece un buen plan, pero en realidad no lo es. <\/b>One side is going to catch feelings sooner or later and the whole thing will turn into hell. Trust me, I\u2019ve seen it happen so many times.<\/i><\/p>\n

Your sex lives may be great now but, pretty soon, a simple sentence like “We\u2019re just friends<\/a> and all of this between us is just a casual thing, right?” may sound heartbreaking to you.<\/p>\n

You will stay neither friends nor lovers. You’ll end up hating each other and yourselves for engaging in such a type of relationship in the first place.<\/i><\/p>\n

It\u2019s normal for human beings to feel other types of closeness after being physically close. <\/b>Y, por desgracia, los amigos con derecho a roce<\/a> t\u00e9rmino puede significar a menudo eludir responsabilidades y actuar de forma imprudente.<\/p>\n

Antes de meterte en una relaci\u00f3n as\u00ed, tienes que pensar en las consecuencias.<\/i><\/p>\n

I know Mila Kunis looks like the coolest person on earth in that movie \u2018Amigos con derecho a roce<\/a>,\u2019 but even she catches feelings in the end. And, you don\u2019t want to be the one who\u2019s saying, “It\u2019s complicated<\/a>” or, way worse… you don’t want to be left heartbroken.<\/p>\n

3. Relaci\u00f3n a distancia<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It\u2019s no secret that <\/i>relaciones a distancia<\/i><\/a> puede resultar dif\u00edcil. Para tener \u00e9xito, hay que esforzarse mucho m\u00e1s que en las relaciones normales.<\/i><\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9? Su comunicaci\u00f3n puede cansar. Tu relaci\u00f3n puede caer f\u00e1cilmente en un <\/b>celo<\/b> and it’ll be impossible to <\/b>ocuparse de ello<\/b>… to get out of that <\/b>celo<\/b> y<\/b> salva tu amor<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

A veces resulta agotador escribir o hablar de todo lo que te ha pasado a lo largo del d\u00eda, todos los d\u00edas. En lugar de eso, quieres que est\u00e9n ah\u00ed cuando ocurra.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t know your friends, you didn’t meet theirs either, and the fact is that friends represent a huge part of our lives.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have the physical aspect of a relationship, and we can all agree that\u2019s pretty important.<\/b> Plus, you don\u2019t know when you\u2019re going to see each other, and it gets hard to live in uncertainty and anticipation.<\/p>\n

Cada nuevo d\u00eda de<\/i> a <\/i>relaci\u00f3n a distancia<\/i> <\/a>se hace m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil.<\/i><\/p>\n

Other than that, there are factors such as the financial burden or that there\u2019s no way for the relationship to progress. In that case, you should think about your future together realistically.<\/p>\n

\u00bfVa a funcionar o no?<\/p>\n

If you want it to work, both sides need to put immense effort into making it work, and also, they’ll need to take some risks. It’s possible to beat the distance… you only need to want it and fight for it enough.<\/p>\n

4. Relaci\u00f3n secreta<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This might sound strange, but think about it. Have you ever felt like your partner is hiding you or being unnecessarily secretive about your relationship? Like you’re amantes secretos<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Nunca se hacen fotos contigo, e incluso cuando lo hacen, nunca llegan a su <\/i>redes sociales<\/i> perfiles. Nunca escriben <\/i>lindos subt\u00edtulos de amor<\/i><\/a> o etiquetarte en publicaciones bonitas. Y, aunque quieras publicar una foto tuya, se oponen rotundamente.<\/i><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in a brand new relationship, that might be okay, but after some time, it tends to become suspicious. You feel like they don\u2019t appreciate you enough… like they are not proud to be yours.<\/p>\n

It makes you feel like they’re having <\/b>reflexiones <\/b><\/a>o no tomarte en serio.<\/b><\/p>\n

To deal with it, you need to confront them and get to the bottom of their behavior. If their answers are vague and unsatisfying, that means they’re hiding something or they simply don’t care<\/a> suficiente.<\/b><\/p>\n

5. It feels like you\u2019re nothing more than a hookup<\/h3>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Lo \u00faltimo que quieres sin duda es sentirte como you’re just a hookup<\/a>. If you\u2019re into them and want una relaci\u00f3n duradera<\/a>, and they treat you like you’re something casual, then it’s complicated and totalmente indigno de su tiempo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The ways you\u2019ll know you\u2019re just a hookup are when:<\/p>\n

\u2022 They use excuses to not spend the night after you\u2019ve been together.<\/i><\/p>\n

\u2022 They don’t take the time to get to know what you\u2019re like, what you love to do, your tastes or hobbies, etc.<\/i><\/p>\n

\u2022 They don’t bother to answer your messages.<\/i><\/p>\n

\u2022 They avoid meeting your friends and don\u2019t talk about you to theirs.<\/i><\/p>\n

- They don\u2019t make any effort<\/a> para hacerte sentir especial.<\/i><\/p>\n

\u2022 They never <\/i>mostrar afecto en p\u00fablico<\/i><\/a>.<\/i><\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry but if you\u2019re experiencing this, it probably means <\/b>su pareja es un <\/b>narcisista <\/b><\/a>ella\/he doesn’t love you<\/a>,<\/strong> or doesn\u2019t see you as a long-term partner. <\/b>On the other hand, it may also mean they’re just a member of the ‘non-monogamous relationships’ club.<\/p>\n

6. Nunca has tenido una relaci\u00f3n sana<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This will probably sound awkward to you, but maybe it\u2019s complicated because you don\u2019t know what it feels like when it\u2019s not complicated<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019ve been hurt before, and your defense mechanism is constantly telling you to watch out if something is off.<\/p>\n

Analizas demasiado cada situaci\u00f3n<\/b><\/a> because you have learned that things are not always what they appear to be. And, that\u2019s okay.<\/b><\/p>\n

It takes time to heal and trust yourself and other people again. You learned that it takes more than a simple ‘<\/i>Te quiero<\/i><\/a>‘ for making things work.<\/i><\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, lo que necesita es una soluci\u00f3n sencilla y r\u00e1pida. relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a> contigo mismo primero para poder tener lo mismo con otra persona. Necesitas aclarar y definir el estado de relaci\u00f3n de tu auto-relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

7. El amor est\u00e1 ah\u00ed, pero falta algo m\u00e1s<\/h3>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

You love each other, you care about each other, you text all day long. You feel supported and comfortable, but both of you can’t shake off the feeling that something big is missing.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, it feels like they\u2019re your <\/b>mejor amigo<\/b> rather than your lover. It\u2019s like there\u2019s something left unsaid or undone.<\/b><\/p>\n

Neither of you ever said you\u2019re a couple.<\/b> You just happened to be there for each other when you needed it, and now it just is what it is \u2014 some form of undefined partnership with no certain objective.<\/i><\/p>\n

Y, la falta de objetivo significa falta de verdadero inter\u00e9s, lo que, adem\u00e1s, conlleva muchas complicaciones.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, antes de que todo se convierta en un revoltijo y se convierta en una situaci\u00f3n<\/a>Des\u00e9ense buena suerte y sigan adelante.<\/p>\n

8. Relaci\u00f3n prohibida<\/h3>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Here comes the epitome of complicated. Maybe they’re your best friend\u2019s ex, maybe they’re married, or maybe you just know they’re not good for you.<\/p>\n

You both know you shouldn\u2019t be doing it, but it just feels so good.<\/i><\/p>\n

Try asking yourself whether you\u2019re really in love or if you\u2019re maybe subconsciously a thrill-seeker. You probably already know the answer.<\/b><\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo esto, podemos concluir que una relaci\u00f3n complicada no es m\u00e1s que un t\u00e9rmino que utilizamos para expresar problemas mucho m\u00e1s complejos. Va m\u00e1s all\u00e1 del estado de la relaci\u00f3n en Facebook.<\/p>\n

If you are in this kind of relationship or if you\u2019re entering one for the first time, remember that your own gut feeling will provide you with the best <\/b>consejos sobre relaciones<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo terminar una relaci\u00f3n complicada?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Una relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a> debe ser siempre segura para ambas partes. Debe haber un alto grado de comprensi\u00f3n, respeto y compromiso. Si a tu relaci\u00f3n le falta algo de eso, si las cosas se complican constantemente entre tu pareja y t\u00fa, la \u00fanica opci\u00f3n que tienes es ponerle fin.<\/p>\n

But, first, you need to end it in your head. That is, you need to think it all through. Sort out your thoughts and choose a path you’ll go.<\/b><\/p>\n

Cuando se trata de ordenar las cosas en tu coraz\u00f3n, eso ser\u00e1 m\u00e1s complicado. Sin embargo, cuando pongas <\/i>el amor propio<\/i><\/a> and the love you feel for someone who doesn’t deserve it at all on scales, the first one will always prevail.<\/i><\/p>\n

Sea directo y abierto con su pareja. <\/b>Cu\u00e9ntales todo lo que has estado reprimiendo en tu interior durante todo este tiempo. Consigue el cierre que necesitas para seguir adelante<\/a> de forma adecuada.<\/p>\n

It’ll be hard and heartbreaking, that’s for sure. But, with the help of time and a well-organized support system, you’ll manage to get through it and move forward with your life.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo arreglar una relaci\u00f3n complicada?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you want to fight for your love and think it’s really worth it, you should stay and work on saving your relationship.<\/p>\n

Lo primero que necesitas es encontrar la ra\u00edz de esa complicidad. Encuentra y reconoce todas tus<\/b> problemas de pareja<\/b><\/a> y tratar lentamente con todos y cada uno de ellos.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ambas partes deben admitir sus errores y asumir toda la responsabilidad por ellos. <\/b>Adem\u00e1s, ambos miembros de la pareja deben trabajar para mejorar su comunicaci\u00f3n y crear un mayor nivel de confianza entre ellos.<\/p>\n

If you both think it’s needed, you can also seek professional help.<\/i><\/p>\n

La \u00fanica forma de que vuestra relaci\u00f3n salga de ese atolladero de complicidad es que ambos os dediqu\u00e9is por completo a arreglar y hacer que las cosas funcionen entre vosotros.<\/p>\n

It’s not enough just to clear that complicity… you also need to work on strengthening your bond and making your relationship healthy.<\/p>\n

Citas sobre relaciones complicadas<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

I also had to share with you these touching complicated relationship quotes I found online because each one of them describes the heartbreaking struggle so well…<\/p>\n

1. “<\/b>Love isn\u2019t complicated<\/b><\/a>; people are.”<\/b><\/p>\n

2. “Somehow, you are both the best and the worst thing that has happened to me.”<\/p>\n

3. “A no-effort relationship is<\/i> una relaci\u00f3n condenada al fracaso<\/i><\/a>, not a great relationship. It takes work to communicate accurately, and it takes work to expose and resolve conflicting hopes and beliefs. It doesn\u2019t mean there is no \u2018they lived happily ever after,\u2019 but it\u2019s more like \u2018they worked <\/i>felices para siempre<\/i><\/a>.” \u2013 Carol S. Dweck<\/i><\/p>\n

4. “It hurts having you close, but it would hurt even more not having you at all.”<\/p>\n

5. “You and I will always be unfinished business.”<\/p>\n

6. “We\u2019re more than friends, but less than a couple.”<\/b><\/p>\n

7. “People make love complicated because they do not get love the way they want to be, ever. I would rather have loved than never to have experienced this complicated and happy feeling.”<\/p>\n

8. “My relationship with him was defined by these complex emotions: this mixture of gratitude and resentment.” \u2013 Otsuichi<\/i><\/p>\n

9. “The only complicated things worth fighting for will change the world in some way and\/or make you lots of money, and a <\/b>relaci\u00f3n complicada<\/b> will only keep you from doing either.” \u2013 Ingrid Weir<\/b><\/p>\n

10. “I am sick and tired of all these things, you see… the problem is loving you is so complicated. You want to know what the problem with love is? No one actually knows what it really is.”<\/p>\n

\u2b50I saved the best for last, of course:<\/p>\n

11. “You deserve to be with somebody who makes you happy… somebody who doesn\u2019t complicate your life… somebody who won\u2019t hurt you.”<\/i><\/p>\n

To Leave Or To Stay, That’s The Question<\/h2>\n

El escenario de una relaci\u00f3n complicada s\u00f3lo tiene dos opciones; to stay and fight for your love even though you know it’ll be hard, or to leave, turn your back on it for good, and dig it into the past forever.<\/i><\/p>\n

And, the only place you’ll find the right answer for your situation is… your heart. <\/b><\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

If you already tried and saw that you can’t be away from each other, maybe it’s because you aren’t meant to be apart. In that case, it’s worth the struggle and the fight.<\/i><\/p>\n

However, if they’re not willing to put your relationship first, then <\/b>you\u2019re better off without them<\/b><\/a>. <\/b>Move forward and find someone who\u2019s going to make you feel great and appreciated… someone who’s going to make you feel the way you deserve.<\/p>\n

Si lo ves indigno de la lucha, re\u00fane fuerzas para dejar tu relaci\u00f3n monta\u00f1a rusa<\/a> once and for all, and continue your search somewhere else…<\/p>\n

Somewhere where you\u2019re going to be needed and loved all the time, and without fear of losing your partner.<\/p>\n

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