{"id":59357,"date":"2020-04-07T20:16:31","date_gmt":"2020-04-07T20:16:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=59357"},"modified":"2022-03-18T00:25:05","modified_gmt":"2022-03-18T00:25:05","slug":"mi-ex-quiere-que-seamos-amigos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/mi-ex-quiere-que-seamos-amigos\/","title":{"rendered":"Mi ex quiere que seamos amigos: 9 razones por las que es una mala idea"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cuando se trata de un <\/span>ex-novio<\/span> o <\/span>ex-novia<\/span>, it’s difficult to think straight sometimes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Estabas en un <\/span>relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica<\/span> con quien cre\u00edas que era tu <\/span>mejor amigo<\/span> and as much as you tried, it ultimately didn’t <\/span>hacer ejercicio<\/span>. Y ahora, de repente, parece que tu <\/span>ex quiere<\/span> de vuelta.<\/span><\/p>\n

Normalmente, cuando mi <\/span>ex quiere<\/span> to be friends after a failed romance, it’s seldom good news. <\/span><\/p>\n

Las razones son casi siempre de car\u00e1cter ego\u00edsta y al ser <\/span>s\u00f3lo amigos<\/span> con mi <\/span>ex pareja<\/span> viene con mucho equipaje.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1n interesados en <\/span>reavivar<\/span> el <\/span>relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica<\/span> (y <\/span>viceversa<\/span>)? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfDe verdad quieres acabar en el <\/span>zona de amigos<\/span> de alguien con quien <\/span>relaci\u00f3n sexual<\/span> \u00bfcon? Si quiere que su <\/span>ex vuelta<\/span>siendo <\/span>s\u00f3lo amigos<\/span> es la peor idea. Rompisteis por una raz\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Y si su <\/span>ex quiere<\/span> to be friends now, it’s only going to end up hurting you all over again.<\/span><\/p>\n

Y honestamente, ser <\/span>amigos con derecho a roce<\/span> nunca dura porque las emociones vuelven a surgir y uno de los miembros de la pareja siempre se da cuenta de que quiere <\/span>empezar a salir<\/span> otra vez.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lo que necesitas ahora es <\/span>apoyo emocional<\/span> y pegado por el <\/span>norma de no contacto<\/span>porque todo el <\/span>let’s be friends<\/span><\/i> las cosas es s\u00f3lo una treta.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>10 diferencias cruciales entre el amor y el enamoramiento<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

My Ex Wants To Be Friends \u2013 What Should I Do?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Plain and simple \u2013 tell them no. Having your <\/span>ex-novio<\/span> o <\/span>ex-novia<\/span> tan cerca de ti despu\u00e9s de apenas poder superarlos es una enorme se\u00f1al de alarma.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfQuieres sufrir <\/span>a\u00fan m\u00e1s<\/span>? \u00bfTiene el <\/span>primera vez<\/span> \u00bflo rompiste por no drenar lo suficiente?<\/span><\/p>\n

Contacto f\u00edsico<\/span> con un <\/span>ex pareja<\/span> you’re so desperately trying to get over diminishes your entire effort. It’s even worse if being <\/span>s\u00f3lo amigos<\/span> es su forma de <\/span>ex de vuelta a ti<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

That way, you’re deluding yourself and prolonging your healing process.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mi consejo es que seas fuerte y te mantengas firme en tu decisi\u00f3n. Ya no son tus <\/span>pareja<\/span> and you don’t owe them anything.<\/span><\/p>\n

Expertos en relaciones<\/span> advierten contra la amistad con un <\/span>ex-novio<\/span>\/<\/span>ex-novia<\/span> because it’s detrimental to your mental health for all the <\/span>razones obvias<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Intercambio informal <\/span><\/i>mensajes de texto<\/span><\/i> y bromas sobre <\/span><\/i>redes sociales<\/span><\/i> might feel like things are starting to look up, but that’s not the case.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

If you called it quits, you must’ve had your reasons, why else would you\u2019ve ended it in the <\/span><\/i>primer puesto<\/span><\/i>? Entonces no <\/span><\/i>mensajes de texto<\/span><\/i> y no dejar que llegue a ti a trav\u00e9s de <\/span><\/i>amigos comunes<\/span><\/i>!<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Si su <\/span>ex todav\u00eda<\/span> constantly contacts you, stand your ground. It’s probably just <\/span>volquete<\/span>‘s remorse (if they broke it off). <\/span><\/p>\n

You are trying so hard to move on with your life. Don’t let a past mistake get in the way of that.<\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que si tu ex realmente <\/span>quiere ser tu amigo<\/span>Esto te ayudar\u00e1 a ver su verdadera motivaci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s so exhausting constantly wondering ”<\/span>Por qu\u00e9 <\/span><\/i>\u00bfquiere mi ex que seamos amigos<\/span><\/i> after all the pain I went through?” <\/span><\/i>and that’s why I’m going to help you quit them once and for all.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>15 se\u00f1ales de que tienes una relaci\u00f3n infeliz<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

9 razones para decir no<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Si su <\/span>ex quiere<\/span> to be friends, but you’ve been having a rough time getting over them, you should say no.<\/span><\/p>\n

En <\/span>relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica<\/span> ha seguido claramente su curso, y debes seguir adelante, en lugar de dejarte llevar por el pasado.<\/span><\/p>\n

Here’s why this is a really bad idea that you should avoid at all costs:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. What’s their motivation?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Lo primero que debe preguntarse es por qu\u00e9 su <\/span>ex pareja<\/span> de repente quiere que seamos amigos. \u00bfExtra\u00f1an la conexi\u00f3n emocional<\/a> que una vez compartiste?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfSe arrepienten de c\u00f3mo terminaron las cosas? \u00bfSu <\/span>ex-novio<\/span>\/<\/span>ex-novia<\/span> quieren participar en un <\/span>amigos con derecho a roce<\/span> \u00bfSituaci\u00f3n?<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s important to get to the bottom of their intentions before letting them back into your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Is it worth undoing the hurt you’ve endured on your way to recovery and reopening the old wounds?<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farate de pensar realmente en todas las posibles consecuencias antes de cometer el mismo error dos veces. En <\/span>s\u00f3lo amigos<\/span> is never as easy as you’d like to think.<\/span><\/p>\n

The longer it took you to get over them, the harder it will be to maintain a friendship. Do what’s best for you right now, not what your aching heart is telling you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Deja de preguntarte <\/span>\u2018\u2019Why does my ex want to be friends?\u2019<\/span><\/i>\u2019 and start taking care of your heart. One day, you’ll be thanking yourself for making this decision.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. There’s a good reason why you called it quits<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Normalmente, si mi <\/span>ex quiere<\/span> para ser amigos, me pregunto esto: \u00bfC\u00f3mo me trat\u00f3 mientras est\u00e1bamos en un <\/span>relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica<\/span>? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfEra leal, atento y cari\u00f1oso? \u00bfEra la persona que intenta ser ahora?<\/span><\/p>\n

If things didn’t <\/span>hacer ejercicio<\/span> in the past, it’s highly unlikely that it’ll be any different today.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s really easy to be swept off your feet now after some time has passed and you managed to pull through in one piece. But there was also a time when it was unbearable.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Hubo un tiempo en el que tu relaci\u00f3n atravesaba graves dificultades y te sent\u00edas desesperado y desesperanzado.<\/span><\/p>\n

Si su <\/span>ex quiere ser tu amigo<\/span> now, it’s a sign that they don’t realize how difficult your recovery has been. Put yourself first for once. Do what’s right for your own needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you miss them, but are they the person you need in your life? Don’t let nostalgia blind you. Believe who they proved themselves to be, not who they are trying to be now.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>\u00bfC\u00f3mo olvidar a alguien? La gu\u00eda definitiva para superarlo<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

3. La transici\u00f3n de una relaci\u00f3n a la amistad es compleja<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

There are so many little things that are going to make the transition really difficult on an emotional level. When you’re in a <\/span>relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica<\/span>El <\/span>contacto f\u00edsico<\/span> es abundante y no conoce l\u00edmites.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero como <\/span>s\u00f3lo amigos<\/span>, you’re going to feel awkward always trying not to cross a line (that you really want to cross).<\/span><\/p>\n

The things you were able to discuss as a partner aren’t going to be the same in your friendship. <\/span><\/p>\n

You wouldn’t feel okay talking about your love life and especially hearing about their love conquests. It would be brutal.<\/span><\/p>\n

But as friends, you’d eventually have to talk about it otherwise you’d both just be avoiding a huge elephant in the room. There are many reasons why this is the ultimate bad idea.<\/span><\/p>\n

But I’m sure you’re starting to see it for yourself now as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por eso, cuando mi ex quiere que seamos amigos, siempre me imagino c\u00f3mo afrontar\u00eda yo esas cosas. Eso suele ayudarme a tomar la decisi\u00f3n correcta (por dif\u00edcil que sea).<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Don’t tempt yourself<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

\u00bfDir\u00edas que s\u00ed simplemente para conseguir tu <\/span>ex vuelta<\/span> en alg\u00fan momento? Seguro que tu ex tiene sus propias motivaciones, pero \u00bfcu\u00e1les son las tuyas?<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t do things that are detrimental to your progress. You’ve come too far to put yourself back in the <\/span>zona de amigos<\/span> de su <\/span>ex pareja<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Besides, how do you know it would be different this time around? It doesn’t really matter who initiated the break-up. The point is that it had to happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Pueden haber sido sus <\/span>mejor amigo<\/span> y compa\u00f1ero de fechor\u00edas una vez, pero ahora son un error del que tienes que recuperarte. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estar en el <\/span>zona de amigos<\/span> de tu ex es lo \u00faltimo que necesitas en tu vida ahora mismo. Mire a su alrededor. La vida est\u00e1 llena de abundantes posibilidades y oportunidades para nuevos comienzos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t be your own worst enemy when it comes to your happiness. Deep down, you know what your soul needs, and it’s not your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. You’ll never get over them by being close to them<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Si tu objetivo es superarlo, necesitas poner tanta distancia como puedas entre vosotros dos. Nunca sanar\u00e1s del todo si tu ex sigue estando cerca de ti todo el tiempo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Being friends is the opposite of what you’re trying to accomplish here.<\/span><\/p>\n

Si tu ex realmente <\/span>quiere ser tu amigo<\/span>Eso significa que todav\u00eda les importa en cierta medida. <\/span><\/p>\n

That’s precisely why they should understand that some healthy distance is what you need right now, not their friendship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Who knows, at some point in the distant future, you both might be in a better headspace for the possibility of a friendship. But that’s but a dream right now.<\/span><\/p>\n

Haz lo tuyo y mant\u00e9n las distancias. En este momento, t\u00fa eres tu prioridad n\u00famero uno.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>12 razones por las que tu segundo amor es el mejor de todos<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

6. \u00bfQuieres que seamos amigos con derecho a roce?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Una de las posibles razones por las que su <\/span>ex quiere ser tu amigo<\/span> es para un <\/span>relaci\u00f3n sexual<\/span>. Es decir, sin ataduras ni emociones.<\/span><\/p>\n

Estrictamente s\u00f3lo sexo, con fines hedonistas y nada m\u00e1s. \u00bfPuedes con eso?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfEstar\u00edas dispuesto a ser el ligue de alguien que sol\u00eda ser tu pareja sentimental? \u00bfTe parecer\u00eda bien que tu ex <\/span>mensajes de texto<\/span> a la 1 de la ma\u00f1ana para un rapidito?<\/span><\/p>\n

I know for a fact that if my ex wants to be friends, it\u2019s highly likely to end with our clothes off.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s hard to separate your emotions and your lust, especially while you’re still fresh from the breakup. My advice is to not do this to your mind, body, and soul.<\/span><\/p>\n

You are still recuperating and you won’t be able to handle this the way you think you would. Heal first. Everything else will come later.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. You’re not a placeholder<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Tal vez tu ex est\u00e1 en una mala situaci\u00f3n y est\u00e1 buscando una conexi\u00f3n emocional para sentirse validado y seguro. \u00bfDe verdad quieres ser un sustituto hasta que encuentre a alguien m\u00e1s?<\/span><\/p>\n

Seguro que tu ex tiene otros amigos en los que puede confiar en sus momentos de necesidad, en lugar de molestarte a ti. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you said yes, you would merely be filling in for someone else in the future. You’re worth so much more than that.<\/span><\/p>\n

You deserve someone who will value you while they have you. You deserve someone who won’t let you go and then busca la amistad<\/a> as if the breakup wasn’t painful enough. You deserve love in the purest form.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t let your ex take advantage of the bond you once shared. Some things are not to be messed with.<\/span><\/p>\n

8. It’s unhealthy<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Lo que necesitas es gente que te haga feliz y te relaje. Gente que te levante y te anime. <\/span>People who don’t take advantage of you and who love you for who you are.<\/span><\/p>\n

So when I hear that my ex wants to be friends, I know that it\u2019s rarely from the goodness of his heart.<\/span><\/p>\n

La tensi\u00f3n de vuestra relaci\u00f3n ya era bastante mala. Pero intentar mantener una amistad con un ex que te caus\u00f3 dolor no es sano, simple y llanamente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your brain won’t be able to handle it and your emotions will be all over the place.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You’ll constantly be asking yourself if this is normal and it will drive you crazy.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ap\u00f3yate en las personas que estuvieron a tu lado desde el principio. Aquellos que nunca te abandonaron y que seguir\u00e1n colm\u00e1ndote de apoyo y cari\u00f1o.<\/span><\/p>\n

Al ser amigo de un ex, est\u00e1s al tanto de todas sus relaciones. Podr\u00edas soportar verlos con otra persona en el altar?<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>Una Colecci\u00f3n De Citas Sobre Rupturas Para Curar Un Coraz\u00f3n Roto<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

9. You’ll never find a date with your ex always by your side<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Okay, so it’s inevitable that at some point you’ll <\/span>empezar a salir<\/span> again (as should you). But think about how awkward it would be for your prospective date to know you’re still close with your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

Wouldn’t that be difficult to explain? Would you even be able to explain the reasoning behind it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Moreover, your date is likely to feel threatened by your ex, as they don’t really know how serious you were and if you are completely over them in the <\/span>primer puesto<\/span>. \u00bfDe verdad quieres hacerles pasar por todo eso?<\/span><\/p>\n

Piense en su futuro. \u00bfC\u00f3mo le afectar\u00e1 tener un <\/span>ex pareja<\/span> siempre alrededor te ayudan a conseguir algo?<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It’s a constant disturbance on an emotional level and a reminder of a love that was once amazing but ended up crashing down.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you truly want to move on and get back into the dating pool, it’s time to get your ex out of the picture.<\/span><\/p>\n

One day, you’ll see how important this was. If your <\/span>ex todav\u00eda<\/span> wants to be friends once you’re both in a happy, stable relationship down the line, sure, consider it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero ahora mismo, perm\u00edtete experimentar una nueva faceta de la vida, una sin tu ex fren\u00e1ndote.<\/span><\/p>\n

Reflexiones finales<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Getting over my ex was such a complex and draining process. Emotions were overwhelming and I couldn\u2019t trust my mind. And when in the midst of all that I learned that my  <\/span>ex quiere<\/span> para ser amigos, me volv\u00ed insensible.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfRealmente quiero que mi  <\/span>ex vuelta<\/span>? \u00bfNo me han hecho suficiente da\u00f1o? \u00bfSer\u00e1 <\/span>hacer ejercicio<\/span> \u00bfesta vez? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 est\u00e1 tan apegado a m\u00ed?<\/span><\/p>\n

There are so many questions and not enough time to process them all. One thing’s for sure though.<\/span><\/p>\n

Si tu objetivo final es superar a tu ex y seguir adelante con tu vida, seguir siendo amigos no es una opci\u00f3n. Acabas de empezar una nueva vida, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 arruinarla?<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Piensa en todas las razones por las que sali\u00f3 mal. Piensa en todas las l\u00e1grimas que lloraste y en todas las noches que pasaste pregunt\u00e1ndote por qu\u00e9 ten\u00eda que doler tanto.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfHa cambiado realmente tu ex? \u00bfO te est\u00e1s dejando llevar por la nostalgia?<\/span><\/p>\n

Be strong and stay away from your ex. Keep close to those who make life better and avoid the one you barely managed to get over. Life always works out in the end. If it still hasn’t, it just means it’s not the end!<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>\u00bfCu\u00e1l es el significado del amor? 12 bellas facetas de esta poderosa emoci\u00f3n<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

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