{"id":60409,"date":"2020-04-14T20:16:41","date_gmt":"2020-04-14T20:16:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=60409"},"modified":"2022-06-01T20:00:55","modified_gmt":"2022-06-01T20:00:55","slug":"chicas-con-problemas-con-su-padre-desearias-saber-antes-de-juzgar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/chicas-con-problemas-con-su-padre-desearias-saber-antes-de-juzgar\/","title":{"rendered":"Cosas que las chicas con problemas con su padre desear\u00edan saber antes de juzgarlas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Chicas con problemas con su padre<\/em> \u2013 a phrase we hear so often these days, if I didn’t know better, I’d be convinced it must be some new phenomena that happen to the women in modern society exclusively.<\/p>\n

Por suerte, Yo lo hago<\/em> saber mejor.<\/p>\n

Chicas con problemas con su padre<\/em> es una frase informal utilizada para describir a las mujeres que tienen tendencia a gustar de hombres mayores o de hombres que act\u00faan como una figura paterna y a entablar relaciones con ellos, debido a problemas psicol\u00f3gicos derivados de un padre ausente o de una relaci\u00f3n anormal con su padre.<\/p>\n

And it’s existed for a very long time. The longing for a good father has been a recurring theme throughout history.<\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

And it’s not a surprise if you consider the importance of father figures in the past, starting from religious concepts of fatherly Gods through to the view of the father as the head of a family.<\/p>\n

So, if you thought something\u2019s utterly wrong with you, don\u2019t worry \u2013 it\u2019s something that happens to many women.<\/p>\n

It happened when you were a little girl and it’s happening now.<\/p>\n

You see your friends and their dads have beautiful relationships filled with very vocal love, hugs, and affection, thankful captions on Father’s Day…and feel so herido<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Nunca tuviste nada de eso. De hecho, tuviste todo lo contrario.<\/p>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

En lugar de tener a alguien que te protegiera y te llevara de la mano por la vida, ten\u00edas que arregl\u00e1rtelas solo.<\/p>\n

That’s a heavy burden for the child you were and the woman you are now. You never had the attention you needed.<\/p>\n

Y en el fondo nunca dejaste de ser ese ni\u00f1o. Un ni\u00f1o con los ojos muy abiertos que solo quer\u00eda que le quisieran y le cuidaran.<\/p>\n

En lugar de tener un puerto seguro donde nada pudiera tocarte, una persona que pudiera ser tu escudo, te quedaste solo y expuesto.<\/p>\n

Creciste sin saber nunca c\u00f3mo poner l\u00edmites, creciste con el miedo constante a que te abandonaran s\u00f3lo por siendo t\u00fa mismo.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

What else could the child you once were have done to make her daddy leave? Your innocent child-mind convinced itself that it was your fault your daddy didn\u2019t want you.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the most painful wound, and one that shows no signs of healing.<\/p>\n

In every relationship, you crave the love you\u2019ve never received.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo quieres estar a salvo y ser querido por lo que eres. \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 es tanto pedir?<\/p>\n

Having someone to have your back and protect you, isn\u2019t that what love\u2019s about?<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

En lugar de un padre, tuviste un fracasado que te hizo creer que eras un fracasado.<\/p>\n

Knowing (and feeling) all of this, we can’t ignore the fact that fathers play a huge role in an adult\u2019s life and a kid’s life especialmente<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Why? Let\u2019s look up the facts first.<\/p>\n

Se ha demostrado que tener un padre implicado que dedique tiempo a escucharte, aparezca en los acontecimientos importantes, muestre inter\u00e9s por tu vida y te proporcione apoyo emocional hace que las mujeres tengan menos probabilidades de abandonar los estudios, de participar en conductas de alto riesgo y en comportamientos sexuales sin restricciones, y m\u00e1s probabilidades de estar m\u00e1s sanas, con trabajos mejor pagados y relaciones estables.<\/p>\n

If you have a father like this, you’re one of the lucky ones.<\/p>\n

If you don’t, keep reading, as I assure you things don’t have to be so doomed once you understand them.<\/p>\n

It’s going to be hard either way, but knowing where you’ve come from makes a difference.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

In psychology, there’s something known as the Complejo de Electra<\/em>, which describes a period in a girl’s life from three to six years old when she subconsciously displays a form of competition with her mother for the possession of her father.<\/p>\n

This is where the tendency to compensate for the lack of a father’s attention comes from.<\/p>\n

Maybe you’ve been called clingy or needy before and you know hearing that doesn’t feel good \u2013 it feels awful.<\/p>\n

The feeling of clinginess is accompanied by a deep sense of feeling flawed and just not feeling whole – like you are missing something that other people have.<\/p>\n

Este sentimiento suele ir acompa\u00f1ado de una baja autoestima, ya que uno se siente constantemente falto de algo y menos que los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

It’s true, you need attention, but isn’t that a normal reaction after literally being abandonado<\/em> por su propio padre?<\/p>\n

\"<\/p>\n

Las cosas se complican cuando hablamos de formas de llamar la atenci\u00f3n<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Growing up without a father’s attention often translates later in life into an excessive need of male attention.<\/p>\n

That’s where many stereotypes arise and are affirmed and widespread in pop culture nowadays.<\/p>\n

En problemas con pap\u00e1<\/em> no se ridiculizan ni se idealizan en libros y pel\u00edculas, asuntos de mam\u00e1s<\/em><\/a> se mencionan y se habla mucho menos de ellas.<\/p>\n

I guess it’s because women traditionally identify as more vulnerable and are prone to expressing their feelings more openly and therefore admitting when they have issues, and the fact that society in general objectifies and oversexualizes women more than men.<\/p>\n

That’s why we need to break the myth of the girl with so-called grandes problemas con pap\u00e1<\/em>.<\/p>\n

He decidido enumerar algunos estereotipos populares que rodean al t\u00e9rmino y dar una explicaci\u00f3n detr\u00e1s de dicho comportamiento.<\/p>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Salir con un hombre mayor<\/strong>. Lo m\u00e1s obvio.<\/p>\n

While this is not a rule, it can happen. When younger women are seen with older men people automatically assume it’s because of some serios problemas con pap\u00e1<\/em>.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s not a big surprise, honestly. Older men, unlike most younger men, are more experienced in life, and often have their life more assured both materially and emotionally.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, una mujer que busca constantemente seguridad y anhela inconscientemente una figura paterna puede sentirse atra\u00edda por hombres mayores. A sus ojos, representan una sensaci\u00f3n de seguridad.<\/p>\n

Inclinaci\u00f3n al comportamiento sexual agresivo.<\/strong> Este es otro gran estereotipo que se ha vinculado al t\u00e9rmino.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Supposedly, an inclination towards rough sex is due to the need to satisfy both her man\u2019s needs and her fear of not being good enough at satisfying a man.<\/p>\n

Aparte de eso, tambi\u00e9n podr\u00eda estar vinculado a la creaci\u00f3n de una postura defensiva hacia los hombres en general que se traduce en una negaci\u00f3n de sus necesidades emocionales y pone \u00e9nfasis en la agresividad en el comportamiento general que tambi\u00e9n se traduce en el sexo.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, podr\u00eda representar un impulso de controlar algo que le pertenece s\u00f3lo porque a menudo se siente fuera de control en otras \u00e1reas de la vida. Hay muchas razones posibles y no siempre est\u00e1n relacionadas con la asunto.<\/em><\/p>\n

Problemas mentales (estereotipo de novia psic\u00f3pata).<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por desgracia, los medios de comunicaci\u00f3n han popularizado este estereotipo de chica joven con problemas con su padre y alg\u00fan tipo de trastorno de personalidad que la incapacita para tener relaciones sanas.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

She\u2019s portrayed as a jealous girl with trust issues that goes crazy even at the slightest sign of her needs being ignored, and unfortunately that portrayal has been trending lately.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s very damaging for any woman going through this type of trauma.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not unusual for a girl with a fear of abandonment to have trust issues.<\/p>\n

Casi todas las personas que han sido abandonadas, maltratadas, enga\u00f1adas o a las que se ha mentido tienen problemas de confianza.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not something you can choose to stop having. It\u2019s an issue that has to be addressed and dealt with, the same way as every other.<\/p>\n

Modificaci\u00f3n corporal.<\/strong> Some people see tattoos, piercings, and other types of body modification as warning signs that a person has some type of attention problem, and often, if it’s a girl \u2013 problemas con pap\u00e1.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

That\u2019s according to many articles, comments, forum threads, and even memes.<\/p>\n

These stereotypes are nothing but damaging to a person who\u2019s dealing with these issues.<\/p>\n

Aunque es cierto que una persona tiene que enfrentarse sola a sus propios problemas y miedos, siempre hay formas m\u00e1s sanas de hacerlo y las personas que se preocupan por ella, como su pareja, un amigo o un familiar, pueden ayudarla.<\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfc\u00f3mo debe tratarse en una relaci\u00f3n a una mujer con problemas con su padre?<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s some dating advice for men dating a girl with some of the above described behaviors and emotional profile that could solve any potential relationship issues:<\/p>\n

Demu\u00e9strale que existen los hombres buenos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Women with this type of issue might have had a few boyfriends that mimicked patterns she had in the relationship with her father and that means they probably weren\u2019t the best example of a caring man.<\/p>\n

Necesita un hombre que le demuestre que puede ser bueno, leal, responsable y capaz de comprender con sus palabras y acciones. Alguien que pueda decirle que es necesaria y deseada a menudo.<\/p>\n

Dale la atenci\u00f3n que necesita.<\/strong> It\u2019s no secret she needs attention.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

That shouldn\u2019t be a problem for a man who loves his partner.<\/p>\n

Prestarle atenci\u00f3n y decirle palabras de afirmaci\u00f3n va a tranquilizarla y a hacer que se sienta tranquila y segura. Haz por ella cosas que sol\u00eda hacer sola.<\/p>\n

Demu\u00e9strale que puede contar contigo.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t push her.<\/strong> Ha pasado por muchas cosas.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Eso significa que puede necesitar m\u00e1s tiempo para empezar a hacer cosas o para decidir si quiere hacer algo o no.<\/p>\n

Eso incluye compromisos como el matrimonio.<\/p>\n

If she comes from a broken home, there’s a possibility she\u2019s scared of ending up like her parents.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the last thing she wants – it might even be triggering.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t take advantage of her<\/strong>. Don\u2019t exploit her insecurities or objectify her.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the worst thing you can do.<\/p>\n

Although it\u2019s advisable to compliment her on her looks, make sure she always knows you care for her as a person and your partner.<\/p>\n

Necesita que le recuerden constantemente que es suficientemente buena tal y como es.<\/p>\n

Inf\u00f3rmese sobre el tema.<\/strong> Lea sobre los antecedentes de este asunto.<\/p>\n

\"persona<\/p>\n

Intenta buscar explicaciones y art\u00edculos psicol\u00f3gicos que ayuden a resolver y comprender este tipo de traumas.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a lot to learn about human behavior and it\u2019s beneficial to any relationship out there, not just this type.<\/p>\n

Recognizing your partner’s triggers can provide a lot of understanding and lessen the fights that occur from not knowing about them.<\/p>\n

Ten paciencia.<\/strong> Don\u2019t pay much attention to sudden outbursts when you know their background and rather be accepting and calm.<\/p>\n

Combatir la reacci\u00f3n exagerada con un comportamiento agresivo es un gran no. La reacci\u00f3n exagerada puede reconducirse con un comportamiento calmado, la cabeza fr\u00eda y apoyo.<\/p>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

Ens\u00e9\u00f1ale lo que es el amor incondicional. <\/strong>Lo m\u00e1s importante de todo.<\/p>\n

Show her enough love \u2013 show her unconditional love, love without motif, without the need to prove anything or the need to fulfill expectation: just pure love.<\/p>\n

Para cerrar todo este tema quer\u00eda decir lo siguiente:<\/p>\n

If you identify and recognize yourself as one of the girls with daddy issues you probably know it\u2019s because of your complexity, your undirected passion, and stubbornness, but what you also know is that behind all of that there\u2019s a loving and deeply caring person who is deserving of a healthy partner and a fulfilled life.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Una vez que se abordan los problemas y la persona empieza a actuar en consecuencia, muchos de los miedos y traumas anteriores empiezan a desvanecerse.<\/p>\n

Your condition doesn\u2019t have the power to define you as a person. <\/strong>It\u2019s part of you, but not all of you. There\u2019s much more to you than your problemas.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

I encourage you to drop your conviction that tells you you\u2019re somehow the problema<\/em> and welcome a new conviction that tells you \u2013 you’re what you are, with or without man-made labels and that will siempre<\/em> ser\u00e1 m\u00e1s que suficiente.<\/p>\n

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