{"id":60549,"date":"2020-04-12T21:28:16","date_gmt":"2020-04-12T21:28:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=60549"},"modified":"2022-01-19T22:39:24","modified_gmt":"2022-01-19T22:39:24","slug":"siempre-vuelven","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/siempre-vuelven\/","title":{"rendered":"Siempre vuelven (y estas son las razones)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Cuando se trata del mundo de las citas, creo firmemente en dos cosas: <em>Donde hay voluntad, hay un camino<\/em> y <em>Al final, siempre vuelven.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Y puedo decirle que tengo m\u00e1s de una raz\u00f3n para creerlo.<\/p>\n<p>Al final, siempre parecen encontrar el camino de vuelta a tu vida, a tu bandeja de entrada o a tu mente.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 vuelven siempre? Perm\u00edteme decirlo de otro modo: \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 siempre vuelven cuando ya has pasado p\u00e1gina?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60915\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-hugging-woman-1.jpg\" alt=\"hombre abrazando a mujer que no est\u00e1 frente a \u00e9l\" width=\"800\" height=\"516\"><\/p>\n<p>En <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/8-razones-por-las-que-es-importante-respetar-la-regla-del-no-contacto\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">la regla del no contacto<\/a> \u00bfconvertirlos en nuevas especies?<\/p>\n<p>Para que, en lugar de buscar a otra persona, se dediquen a buscar la manera de volver a entrar en tu vida al menos para echar un vistazo furtivo (porque significa mucho para ellos).<\/p>\n<p>In the end, they always come back. It is a phenomenon as old as the world itself. And today, we&#8217;ll list all the reasons why this happens!<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\">The &#8220;Art&#8221; Of Taking You For Granted<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60760\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sideview-photo-of-a-man.jpg\" alt=\"foto lateral de un hombre con top de cuello de tortuga y humo de cigarro\" width=\"800\" height=\"510\"><\/p>\n<p>The majority of ex boyfriends and ex girlfriends who eventually come back have mastered the &#8220;art&#8221; of taking you for granted beforehand.<\/p>\n<p>En resumen, una de las mayores razones por las que los ex se convierten en ex en primer lugar y por las que deciden volver es porque te dieron por sentado.<\/p>\n<p>Puse a prop\u00f3sito la palabra <em>arte<\/em> entre comillas para acentuar su lado sarc\u00e1stico y su fuerza.<\/p>\n<p>But, I&#8217;m starting to think that maybe I should&#8217;ve written pandemic instead because its outbreak is very similar to (or maybe even surpasses) the Coronavirus disease.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The stages of the &#8220;art&#8221; of taking you for granted are the following:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60761\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/couple-wearing-same-shade.jpg\" alt=\"pareja con ropa del mismo tono\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\"><br \/>\n&nbsp; &nbsp;&#8211; They selfishly feed off your love and don\u2019t reciprocate or give anything in return<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;&#8211; They stop working for your love but continue to expect it<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;&#8211; You blindly give more and more thinking something will change<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;&#8211; They leave when they notice that you&#8217;re not involved anymore \/ as before.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The outcomes of the &#8220;art&#8221; of <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/7-cosas-que-puedes-hacer-cuando-empieza-a-darte-por-sentada\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">d\u00e1ndote por sentado<\/a> son las siguientes:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;&#8211; You ending up with severe heartbreak thinking that you did something wrong<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;&#8211; You thinking about what you could have done different<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;&#8211; You healing and realizing they were never even worthy of being a part of your life<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;&#8211; Them coming back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>El acento se pone en <em>ellos<\/em>. Ya voy. Atr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60762\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/woman-wearing-sleeveless.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sin mangas abrazada por un hombre en plena v\u00eda f\u00e9rrea\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>After they&#8217;ve depleted their source of unconditional love, they suddenly realize that <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/el-poder-de-alejarse-de-un-hombre\/\">it&#8217;s time to leave<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>They don&#8217;t give a damn about how you feel, let alone about starting to make an effort instead of only expecting things from you.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00f3lo piensan en recibir.<\/p>\n<p>Y luego, vuelven.<\/p>\n<p>After leaving you heartbroken and devastated, they decide that it&#8217;s time to come back to their source of unconditional love, check that it&#8217;s still there, or prove you that they&#8217;ve changed and if you only give them a chance, everything will be different?<\/p>\n<p>Su aparici\u00f3n de la nada te deja con 100 preguntas y ni una sola respuesta.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfO tal vez la respuesta se encuentre en la verdadera raz\u00f3n de su regreso?<\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong>15 razones por las que siempre vuelven (despu\u00e9s de romperte el coraz\u00f3n)<\/strong><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-family: georgia, palatino, serif;\">1. They know or (somehow magically) sense that you&#8217;ve moved on<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60764\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/two-women-kneeling.jpg\" alt=\"dos mujeres arrodilladas mientras les tiran confeti por encima\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>I swear to God, if this hadn&#8217;t happened to me multiple times, there&#8217;s not a chance I would ever believe it.<\/p>\n<p>Tras una ruptura reciente, me qued\u00e9 confusa e incr\u00e9dula y lo \u00fanico que pod\u00eda pensar era: \u00bfQu\u00e9 he hecho mal?<\/p>\n<p>Back then I didn&#8217;t understand that it wasn&#8217;t me who was the problem, but my willingness to put up with everything they did to me.<\/p>\n<p>Pasaron d\u00edas, semanas y meses hasta que finalmente me limpi\u00e9 de su presencia t\u00f3xica y decid\u00ed empezar un nuevo cap\u00edtulo.<\/p>\n<p>En lugar de llorar viendo comedias rom\u00e1nticas, decid\u00ed recuperar mi energ\u00eda, salir con mis amigos y volver a tener citas porque s\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>It was right then, when I was laughing my ass off with a new guy I\u2019d just met, that I realized I had FINALLY, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/5-senales-de-que-has-dejado-atras-a-tu-ex-toxico\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">oficialmente trasladado<\/a> \u00a1y super\u00e9 todo el asunto!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60765\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/woman-touch-a-horse.jpg\" alt=\"una mujer toca un caballo mientras un hombre est\u00e1 a su lado\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Ya no pensaba en mi ex (ni siquiera en sue\u00f1os) y para m\u00ed todo lo que hab\u00eda pasado antes era cosa del pasado.<\/p>\n<p>Un par de semanas despu\u00e9s, cuando recib\u00eda mi dosis diaria de redes sociales, <strong>HE texted me &#8211; my EX texted me!<\/strong> Lo primero que me vino a la mente fue:<\/p>\n<p><em>How in the world does he know that I\u2019ve moved on (because I certainly don&#8217;t remember telling him that the last time <\/em><em>Habl\u00e9 con \u00e9l)?&nbsp;<\/em><em>How come didn&#8217;t he show up when I was in the middle of the healing process?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>And since my friends haven&#8217;t told him anything, the only logical conclusion that&#8217;s left is the following:<\/p>\n<p>Both women and men come back when they somehow magically sense that you&#8217;ve moved on.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m pretty sure all exes have this &#8220;moving on&#8221; psychic radar built into their system. So, beware of that one!<\/p>\n<h2>2. OR they&#8217;re testing the waters<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60766\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-in-eyeglass.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con gafas y abrigo enviando mensajes de texto por el m\u00f3vil\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Otra raz\u00f3n por la que siempre vuelven es para tantear el terreno. \u00bfQu\u00e9 significa esto exactamente? Se lo demostrar\u00e9.<\/p>\n<p>The moment your ex decided to walk away, they certainly didn&#8217;t think about coming back to you ever &#8211; or at least any time soon.<\/p>\n<p>Mientras t\u00fa sufr\u00edas, ellos segu\u00edan viviendo su vida como si nada hubiera pasado. Pero no por mucho tiempo.<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps they had a dream about you, perhaps they secretly saw you somewhere in town (without you even knowing it), or maybe they saw a happy picture of you on social media (if you haven&#8217;t unfollowed them, of course).<\/p>\n<p>And that&#8217;s when they decided to test the waters. Curiosity is a powerful thing that can force us to do things we&#8217;ve never thought about doing before.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60767\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/person-holding-cellphone.jpg\" alt=\"persona con tel\u00e9fono m\u00f3vil sombrero marr\u00f3n \" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>All of a sudden, they want to know what&#8217;s happening in your life, whether you are still single, whether you&#8217;re happy or miserable.<\/p>\n<p>Quieren saber si tienen posibilidades de recuperarte.<\/p>\n<p>In the majority of cases, they don&#8217;t test the waters because they want to make sure that you&#8217;re doing just fine without them, but because they want to make sure you still NEED and WANT them.<\/p>\n<p>Y una vez que lo han descubierto, siguen viviendo su mejor vida.<\/p>\n<p>Bastante cutre, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n<h2>3. Se preguntan si tomaron la decisi\u00f3n correcta<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60763\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/beautiful-woman-thinking.jpg\" alt=\"hermosa mujer pensando con los ojos mirando hacia arriba\" width=\"800\" height=\"542\"><\/p>\n<p>Creo que esta raz\u00f3n es la m\u00e1s molesta de todas. (Si est\u00e1s de acuerdo conmigo, asiente con la cabeza).<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s nothing more annoying in the whole world than deciding to do something only to end up questioning the validity of your decision.<\/p>\n<p>Esto estar\u00eda totalmente bien si se tratara de comprar calcetines.<\/p>\n<p>So, you buy a pair of socks in a store and once you get home, you realize that maybe you shouldn&#8217;t have bought them because you don&#8217;t really like them, because you think the other sock&#8217;s looked better.<\/p>\n<p><strong>This isn&#8217;t about socks, though. It&#8217;s about someone&#8217;s heart FFS!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60769\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-sits-on-chair.jpg\" alt=\"hombre sentado en una silla apoyando la cabeza en la mesa mirando el monitor del ordenador\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Here&#8217;s my question to all those wondering whether they made the right decision after they chose to leave someone: Why didn&#8217;t you think of that before???<\/p>\n<p>You can&#8217;t have your cake and eat it, right?<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que reevaluar tus decisiones cuando alguien ha empezado claramente a vivir su propia vida de nuevo es pat\u00e9tico, miserable y totalmente injusto.<\/p>\n<p>In addition, questioning one&#8217;s decisions is closely connected to regret.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s when an individual begins to consider all the pros and cons of their decision due to a guilty conscience and the fact that they have probably made a mistake.<\/p>\n<p>But, let&#8217;s get something clear: Leaving someone is a choice, not a mistake!<\/p>\n<h2>4. Les remuerde la conciencia<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60770\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-man-thinking.jpg\" alt=\"hombre triste pensando sentado cerca de una masa de agua\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>If I&#8217;ve learned one thing during my life and from the experience of others, it&#8217;s the following:<\/p>\n<p>Conscience doesn&#8217;t know age. You could be an 80 year-old legit grandpa or grandma and still feel guilty about something you did in your twenties. Yup.<\/p>\n<p>They always come back because at some point they&#8217;ll start feeling guilty about something they said, dis, or thought about doing.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019ll start thinking about every bad thing they did or said to you when you were together.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019ll enter a phase called &#8220;labyrinth&#8221;. One moment they\u2019ll think about how they suck(ed) because they took you for granted and didn&#8217;t deserve you.<\/p>\n<p>The next moment they\u2019ll fool themselves that it&#8217;s nothing serious and not something they should worry about.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60775\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/laying-on-leaves.jpg\" alt=\"mujer tumbada sobre hojas con las manos en la cabeza\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Pero, en el fondo de su coraz\u00f3n, ellos mismos sabr\u00e1n que su <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/13-signos-evidentes-de-culpabilidad-de-tu-marido-infiel\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">mala conciencia<\/a> interfiere en su vida cotidiana.<\/p>\n<p>Once they acknowledge this, they\u2019ll realize that they should do something about it.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019ll decide that they should reach out to you, ask you how you feel, and apologize for everything they did to you in the hope that they will finally be at peace with themselves.<\/p>\n<p>They always come back because you can&#8217;t continue living your life knowing that you ruined someone else&#8217;s. It&#8217;s the natural law of every human being.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s something that prevents an individual from finding their own happiness because they know they ruined someone else&#8217;s.<\/p>\n<h2>5. They&#8217;re single and desperate<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60776\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-on-ipad.jpg\" alt=\"hombre en ipad solo dentro de una habitacion junto a la ventana\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\"><\/p>\n<p>This is when they wake up in the morning and realize they haven&#8217;t received a good morning text message from the one who used to love them.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s when they come home drunk and realize they\u2019ve got no one to laugh with and share life&#8217;s funny circumstances with.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s when they realize they&#8217;re single and desperate for love, affection, or just sex.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>The worst thing about breakups is the sudden realization that you&#8217;re all alone for the first time in a while.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60777\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/woman-in-black.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con top negro cerca de una pared gris\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Algunas personas lo llevan bien, mientras que otras no pueden dejar de pensar en su ex (incluso si fueron ellas las que iniciaron la ruptura en primer lugar).<\/p>\n<p>Still, this is not a valid excuse to start violating an ex&#8217;s privacy. Being desperate because you&#8217;re single is definitely not a valid excuse for anything, let alone booty calls or drunk calls.<\/p>\n<p>It takes a real man or woman to say what they really mean when they&#8217;re in a sober state.<\/p>\n<p>Se necesita una persona de verdad para llegar a alguien de su pasado cuando su sangre no est\u00e1 saturada de alcohol.<\/p>\n<p>V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/8-razones-por-las-que-los-hombres-desaparecen-y-luego-intentan-volver\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">8 razones por las que los hombres desaparecen y luego intentan volver<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>6. O te echan de menos de verdad<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60785\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/woman-at-laptop.jpg\" alt=\"mujer frente al port\u00e1til mirando a lo lejos con los pensamientos vagando\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>O puede que no se sientan solos ni desesperados, pero que te echen de menos de verdad.<\/p>\n<p>They can&#8217;t stop thinking about all the good memories of you two together, the way you talk, walk, think&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Cada cosa les recuerda a ti. Cuando ven algo de lo que sol\u00edas burlarte, inmediatamente se imaginan tus graciosas expresiones faciales.<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s a chance they\u2019ve kept all the gifts and things you gave them and now every time they look at them, they instantly evoke memories of you.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes they come back because they truly, genuinely miss you. They can&#8217;t help thinking about you 24\/7 even though they&#8217;re trying to distract themselves.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60779\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/woman-holding-polaroid.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sosteniendo una foto polaroid de un parque de atracciones\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>So, they decide to wait for a few days to see whether this &#8220;miss you&#8221; phase will end.<\/p>\n<p>But, that usually doesn&#8217;t happen, so the urge to text you or call you starts to grow stronger.<\/p>\n<p>Cuando por fin se atreven a ponerse en contacto con usted, suelen empezar la conversaci\u00f3n con algo como: <em>Hola, <\/em><em>I&#8217;ve been thinking about you a lot&#8230;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Y lo primero que probablemente le vendr\u00eda a la mente es: <em>\u00a1Mentira!<\/em> To them, their message is perfectly normal, but to you it&#8217;s one of the most confusing things you&#8217;ve ever heard.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s hard to believe that a person who walked away from you will all of a sudden change their game.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s hard to believe that they would ever tell you that they missed you, but sometimes it\u2019s the truth!<\/p>\n<h2>7. O quieren ver si les echas de menos tanto como ellos a ti<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60781\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-in-black-jacket.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con chaqueta negra mirando al exterior a trav\u00e9s de las grandes ventanas de cristal\" width=\"800\" height=\"522\"><\/p>\n<p>Or perhaps they just want to see if you miss them the way they miss you. These types of people are insecure about the whole &#8220;missing you&#8221; thing and that&#8217;s why they first need the green light from you.<\/p>\n<p>They first want to make sure you miss them the way they miss you and until they know, they won&#8217;t react.<\/p>\n<p>I guess you&#8217;re now wondering why would someone do that?<\/p>\n<p>Bueno, hay algunas razones:<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;-Te echan de menos de verdad y quieren que t\u00fa tambi\u00e9n les eches de menos.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;-Quieren ver si todav\u00eda tienen una oportunidad.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; &nbsp;-They have no intention of doing anything about it, but they&#8217;re just curious.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60805\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/woman-riding-a-bike.jpg\" alt=\"mujer montando en bici con una mano en el m\u00f3vil \" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes it&#8217;s really hard to differentiate between these three, but there are some things that might help you. Pay attention to the way they text you or talk to you.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfTe hacen muchas preguntas personales (especialmente sobre tu vida amorosa)?<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfMencionan algo de su relaci\u00f3n anterior y le recuerdan los grandes momentos que pasaron juntos?<\/p>\n<p>If yes, then you know they&#8217;re trying to figure out whether you still care about them (because they definitely care about you).<\/p>\n<p>They&#8217;re probably waiting for the green light from you because they&#8217;re too afraid to express their feelings for you.<\/p>\n<p>V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/10-formas-de-hacer-extranar-a-un-ex\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">C\u00f3mo hacer que tu ex te eche de menos: 10 maneras f\u00e1ciles de conseguirlo<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>8. They realize that the grass isn&#8217;t greener on the other side<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60783\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-in-polo-thinking.jpg\" alt=\"hombre en polo pensando sentado en el suelo con poca hierba\" width=\"800\" height=\"501\"><\/p>\n<p>Multiple times I\u2019ve witnessed partners leaving because they&#8217;re convinced there&#8217;s something better out there.<\/p>\n<p>Esto se conoce como<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/10-signs-of-the-grass-is-greener-syndrome-and-how-to-overcome-it\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> &#8216;Grass is Greener&#8217; syndrome<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s when you think that there is something better out there to what you already have.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s when you fear that you&#8217;re missing something. This syndrome is omnipresent in almost every section of our lives and it&#8217;s really toxic.<\/p>\n<p>So, when they decided to leave their partner, they were thrilled and excited about entering the world of &#8220;better&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Eran optimistas respecto a encontrar a alguien perfecto o mejor que su pareja anterior.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60778\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-standing-in-a-grassfield.jpg\" alt=\"hombre de pie en un campo de hierba en una vista lateral\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>And then, they realized that the grass isn&#8217;t greener on the other side after all. They realized that every single person they met had their own flaws and that no one is perfect.<\/p>\n<p>So, the pursuit of perfection (the greener grass) results in disappointment and that&#8217;s when they decide to come back.<\/p>\n<p>De repente, se dan cuenta de lo que ya ten\u00edan y empiezan a lloriquear como beb\u00e9s.<\/p>\n<p>Al final, siempre vuelven. Vuelven cuando se dan cuenta de que todo este tiempo estaban dando por sentada a su pareja.<\/p>\n<p>Cuando se dan cuenta de que la hierba es la misma en todas partes, y todo lo que tienen que hacer es abrir los ojos y verlo.<\/p>\n<h2>9. They&#8217;re testing your boundaries<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60786\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-having-a-phonecall.jpg\" alt=\"hombre atendiendo una llamada telef\u00f3nica mientras mira un port\u00e1til frente a \u00e9l\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes they come back just to test your boundaries. They&#8217;re curious about how you&#8217;ll react to their presence out of blue.<\/p>\n<p>They want to know whether you&#8217;ll still dance to their tune or whether you&#8217;ll be interested in welcoming them back.<\/p>\n<p>Whatever the reason, testing someone&#8217;s boundaries is always a tricky thing (not to say dangerous).<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s about being an intruder on someone who probably got over them a long time ago. It&#8217;s about shamelessly teasing the other person only to see how far they will go.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 alguien har\u00eda eso?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60787\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/bored-woman-sitting.jpg\" alt=\"mujer aburrida sentada escuchando con auriculares\" width=\"800\" height=\"532\"><\/p>\n<p>Because they&#8217;re bored, because they can&#8217;t accept the fact that the other person moved on, because they want to reunite?<\/p>\n<p>Or they&#8217;re doing it just because they can. They&#8217;re testing your boundaries because they enjoy observing your reactions to their initiations.<\/p>\n<p>They&#8217;re testing you to see whether you&#8217;re the same person who would do anything for them no matter what.<\/p>\n<p>Well, are you? Hmm&#8230;<\/p>\n<h2>10. They&#8217;re jealous<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60782\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/android-phone-with-IG-app.jpg\" alt=\"tel\u00e9fono android con la aplicaci\u00f3n IG en la mano de una mujer \" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>In today&#8217;s modern world, it has never been easier to become jealous of someone you want to forget or you still have feelings for.<\/p>\n<p>Basta con echar un vistazo a Facebook, Instagram o Snapchat. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/15-poderosas-maneras-de-hacer-que-te-quiera-de-nuevo-en-poco-tiempo\/\">Siempre vuelven<\/a> cuando ven que podr\u00edas ser feliz con otra persona.<\/p>\n<p>That the person you&#8217;re laughing within a picture might be someone new in your life (someone better than them?).<\/p>\n<p>Este s\u00edndrome de celos de las redes sociales le ocurri\u00f3 a mi amigo hace poco.<\/p>\n<p>She posted a picture with her new friend (and boy, he&#8217;s good looking) and the next day her ex texted her. Yup!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60789\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/couple-taking-picture.jpg\" alt=\"pareja haciendo una foto desde un m\u00f3vil \" width=\"800\" height=\"525\"><\/p>\n<p>Sent\u00eda curiosidad por su vida amorosa e intentaba averiguar si segu\u00eda soltera.<\/p>\n<p>It was an out of blue check-in she definitely didn&#8217;t expect any time soon.<\/p>\n<p>They always come back when they&#8217;re jealous. When they realize that you&#8217;re no longer waiting for them to return but building your own ship and cruising.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a1Cuando se den cuenta de que alguien puede estar trat\u00e1ndoles como se merecen!<\/p>\n<p>V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/pon-celosa-a-tu-ex\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">C\u00f3mo poner celosa a tu ex: 13 m\u00e9todos infalibles para conseguirlo<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>11. Quieren la persecuci\u00f3n (espec\u00edficamente reservada a los hombres)<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60790\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-running-or-leaping.jpg\" alt=\"hombre corriendo o saltando con el reflejo que reflejaba la cristalera del edificio\" width=\"800\" height=\"518\"><\/p>\n<p>Otra cosa en la que creo firmemente es la siguiente: \u00a1A los hombres les ENCANTA la persecuci\u00f3n! Viven para la persecuci\u00f3n, alaban la persecuci\u00f3n, mueren por la persecuci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>The moment they&#8217;re born, this chase button activates and it becomes a part of every aspect of their life.<\/p>\n<p>To help you understand this phenomenon better here&#8217;s my humble explanation: So, let&#8217;s say you meet a guy in a bar.<\/p>\n<p>He&#8217;s attractive, handsome, a good looking guy, right? Also, his personality is addictive and you can&#8217;t help yourself but fall for him immediately.<\/p>\n<p>But, of course, you won&#8217;t let him know this the second you meet him. Instead, you will let him chase you because that&#8217;s exactly what he wants, right?<\/p>\n<p><strong>A los hombres: \u00a1La persecuci\u00f3n es amor, la persecuci\u00f3n es vida!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60791\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/silhouette-of-two-runners.jpg\" alt=\"silueta de dos corredores corriendo con un fondo de cielo naranja\" width=\"800\" height=\"536\"><\/p>\n<p>Y cuando por fin des muestras de que \u00e9l tambi\u00e9n te gusta, se sentir\u00e1 completo y realizado.<\/p>\n<p>Why? Because he\u2019s succeeded in winning you which is the ultimate goal of the chase.<\/p>\n<p>Now, let&#8217;s say you&#8217;re in a relationship with this guy for some time. You slowly, but surely start forming your relationship routine and things are no longer as exciting as before.<\/p>\n<p>And that&#8217;s when he decides to leave. And then, after some time, when you&#8217;re no longer his, he COMES BACK!<\/p>\n<p>Why? Because now he&#8217;s got another opportunity to chase you!<\/p>\n<p>Cuando lo ves explicado as\u00ed, suena divertid\u00edsimo, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n<p>But, it&#8217;s the truth. Believe it or not, many men come back just because their chase button is telling them to do so.<\/p>\n<p>Y este es mi mensaje para ellos: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/persiguela-aunque-ya-sea-tuya\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Chase her even when she&#8217;s already yours!<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>12. They&#8217;re pressured by their friends and family<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60792\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/men-and-women-standing.jpg\" alt=\"hombres y mujeres de pie junto a la mesa llena de comida\" width=\"800\" height=\"503\"><\/p>\n<p>I always say that when you meet someone&#8217;s friends and family, you somehow end up in a relationship with them too.<\/p>\n<p>After all, friends and family are an important part of everyone&#8217;s life and they can be very influential when it comes to making decisions.<\/p>\n<p>They can be influential to the extent of pressuring them to reunite with their ex &#8211; you. I will repeat again: Why?<\/p>\n<p>Because they probably like you a lot and they think you&#8217;re the only person that is truly good for him\/her.<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps they\u2019ve realized their mistake and now they&#8217;re trying to convince them to go back to you. The pressure doesn&#8217;t stop.<\/p>\n<p>They always come back. And, sometimes it&#8217;s because their friends and family are telling them to do so.<\/p>\n<p>Su gente les ayuda a darse cuenta de que cometieron un error y que deben disculparse y buscar el perd\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>And, sometimes that&#8217;s exactly what they need. A little push from the people closest to them to realize the mistake of letting you go.<\/p>\n<h2>13. They&#8217;re <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/senales-de-frustracion-sexual-y-como-cambiarla\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">sexualmente frustrado<\/a> and you&#8217;re the only one who can put them out of their misery<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60796\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/angry-wife-sleeping-husband-1.jpg\" alt=\"esposa enfadada marido durmiendo sobre lino blanco tapandose la cara\" width=\"800\" height=\"520\"><\/p>\n<p>With you, they enjoyed steamy activities more than anything. When they left, they were hoping to find the same passion and the same fulfillment with others.&nbsp;But, they didn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>Whomever they slept with, they couldn&#8217;t reach the same level of compatibility and fulfillment as they did with you and now they&#8217;ve become sexually frustrated.<\/p>\n<p>Now they\u2019ve realized that you&#8217;re the only one who can put them out of their misery. Yup.<\/p>\n<p>Quieren experimentar la misma alegr\u00eda que cuando estaban contigo.<\/p>\n<p>And that&#8217;s why they decide to text you, to call you, or to knock on your door hoping you&#8217;ll be happy to see them.<\/p>\n<p>In other words, hoping that you&#8217;ll be eager to sleep with them like old times.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re feeling the same way about them, then there&#8217;s nothing to lose. But, if you&#8217;re still emotionally attached to them, then you should be cautious about getting physical with them.<\/p>\n<h2>14. Se arrepienten de haber roto contigo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60797\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-in-black-shirt.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con camisa negra sentado en un banco con las dos manos en la cabeza\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Ah, regrets&#8230; I like to compare the feeling of regret with buying shoes.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s when you go to the store and you see a perfect pair of shoes but for some reason, you don&#8217;t buy them. They&#8217;re either too expensive or you think you&#8217;ll eventually find better elsewhere.<\/p>\n<p>Then you go home and contemplate the shoes you didn&#8217;t buy. So, you return to the store with the intention of finally buying them only to realize that they&#8217;re gone.<\/p>\n<p>Alguien ya los ha comprado mientras t\u00fa pensabas comprarlos.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60816\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/woman-looking-down.jpg\" alt=\"mujer mirando hacia abajo con una mano en la cabeza\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Un escenario similar pasa por su cabeza cuando se arrepienten de haber roto contigo.<\/p>\n<p>They become aware of the fact that they won&#8217;t find someone better elsewhere. And that they might be too late if you&#8217;re already happy with someone else.<\/p>\n<p>Se arrepienten de no haberte tratado como te merec\u00edas, de no haberte querido como t\u00fa les quisiste a ellos.<\/p>\n<p>They finally realize that they were selfish, ignorant, and egocentric, blah blah&#8230;They realize that they were only focused on their own happiness.<\/p>\n<p>And now they want to make things right and make up for everything they&#8217;ve done wrong.<\/p>\n<h2>15. They know you&#8217;ll take them back (OR will you?)<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60798\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-beside-a-woman.jpg\" alt=\"hombre al lado de una mujer apoyada en sus hombros\" width=\"800\" height=\"530\"><\/p>\n<p>And sometimes they come back just because they know you&#8217;ll take them back. They never truly left you.<\/p>\n<p>En el momento en que decidieron dejarte, sab\u00edan que alg\u00fan d\u00eda querr\u00edan volver.<\/p>\n<p>They took you for granted because they were convinced that they could come back into your life whenever it&#8217;s convenient.<\/p>\n<p>One of my favorite sentences I&#8217;ve ever written is this one: <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/no-dejes-que-espere-solo-porque-sabes-que-lo-hara\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Don&#8217;t let them wait just because you know they will!<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In other words, don&#8217;t treat someone like shit just because you know they will tolerate it. There will come a day when they WON&#8217;T and it will be too late. But, as always:<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\">It&#8217;s up to you to decide whether you should take them back or let them go!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60799\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/selective-photo-of-a-couple.jpg\" alt=\"foto selectiva de una pareja abraz\u00e1ndose y vi\u00e9ndose junto a un \u00e1rbol \" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Siempre vuelven, pero \u00bfhay que aceptarlos siempre?<\/p>\n<p>They say that it&#8217;s much easier to deal with heartbreak the second time it happens. But, this is still not a valid reason to welcome them back into your life, right?<\/p>\n<p>La decisi\u00f3n de recuperar o no a tu ex es exclusivamente tuya. S\u00f3lo t\u00fa sabes c\u00f3mo te sientes con ellos o sin ellos.<\/p>\n<p>Pero, recuerda una cosa: si tu ex va a volver, \u00a1tiene que ser por voluntad propia!<\/p>\n<p>Nunca hay que obligarles a hacerlo, y mucho menos suplicarles. Tienen que hacerlo porque QUIEREN y no porque<\/p>\n<p>TENEMOS que hacerlo y tiene que ser por las razones correctas.<\/p>\n<p>V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/20-senales-definitivas-de-que-tu-ex-acabara-volviendo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">20 se\u00f1ales definitivas de que tu ex acabar\u00e1 volviendo<\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-60759\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/They-Always-Come-Back-And-Here-Are-All-The-Reasons-Why-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Siempre vuelven (y estas son las razones) Pinterest\" width=\"800\" height=\"1200\"><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When it comes to the dating world, I strongly believe in two things: Where there is a will, there is a way and In the end, they always come back. And I can tell you that I have more than one reason to believe so. In the end, they always seem to find their way&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29629],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-60549","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-getting-him-back"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29629,"label":"getting him back"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29629,"name":"getting him back","slug":"getting-him-back","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29629,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you want to get your ex-boyfriend back, you need to avoid making the most common mistakes. 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