{"id":63078,"date":"2020-04-22T12:31:02","date_gmt":"2020-04-22T12:31:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=63078"},"modified":"2022-01-20T11:22:33","modified_gmt":"2022-01-20T11:22:33","slug":"cansado-de-intentar-arreglar-hombres-rotos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cansado-de-intentar-arreglar-hombres-rotos\/","title":{"rendered":"Lee esto si est\u00e1s cansada de intentar arreglar a hombres rotos"},"content":{"rendered":"

Desde que tienes memoria, has estado atrapado en los mismos patrones t\u00f3xicos de relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t even know why, but somehow it\u2019s always ended the same with all the men you ever dated.<\/p>\n

Conoces a un chico y, al principio, todo parece ir genial.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, pronto te das cuenta de que, por alguna raz\u00f3n, no est\u00e1 emocionalmente disponible.<\/p>\n

Ves que su coraz\u00f3n est\u00e1 herido, que est\u00e1 roto<\/a>y que necesita curaci\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Maybe he\u2019s had a painful experience from his last relationships, maybe he\u2019s had a traumatic childhood.<\/p>\n

O quiz\u00e1 s\u00f3lo le gusta fingir ser ese tipo duro que se niega a abrirse y mostrar emociones.<\/p>\n

Maybe he is dealing with an addiction. Perhaps he\u2019s stuck in a rough patch and can\u2019t seem to move his life from a dead spot.<\/p>\n

De cualquier manera, siempre quedas atrapada con hombres que necesitan tu ayuda con algo.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, la mayor\u00eda de las chicas correr\u00edan por sus vidas en el momento en que se dan cuenta de esto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Primer<\/p>\n

Or they\u2019d give these men some time to get their shit together but would stay away from their healing process.<\/p>\n

Pero t\u00fa no. You wouldn\u2019t leave a man in trouble, would you now?<\/strong><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, en lugar de perder el inter\u00e9s, te enamoras a\u00fan m\u00e1s de este tipo.<\/p>\n

Lo ves como tu gran proyecto y decides poner todas tus fuerzas en ayudarle a ser mejor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Al mismo tiempo, te ves como una especie de supermujer.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Joven<\/p>\n

Te convences de que eres el \u00fanico que tiene lo necesario para salvarlo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

After all, you can\u2019t leave this guy hanging, can you? He is a lost soul and has no one to give him a hand but you.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que te encargas de sacarle de sus tinieblas. Tu misi\u00f3n es llevarle a la luz y poner su vida en orden.<\/p>\n

Ever since you can remember, it\u2019s been like this. <\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you\u2019re a magnet for broken men who need repairing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

However, what\u2019s in it for you? You constantly give and give without receiving anything in return.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, todo esto te agota. Afecta a tu salud mental y te deja cansado y agotado.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, no hay posibilidad de tener una relaci\u00f3n sana en este tipo de condiciones. <\/strong><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t focus on building a romance since you\u2019re too busy trying to cure your partner.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Instead of being this dude\u2019s girlfriend, you become everything else: his counselor, guide, parent, advisor, therapist\u2026<\/p>\n

Bueno, d\u00e9jame decirte una cosa: it\u2019s not your job to repair broken men.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not your job to raise them, heal their traumas, or turn them into better people.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not your duty to carry the weight of their emotional baggage on your shoulders.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not your mission to save them<\/a> o guiarles por la vida.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not the one responsible for their problems, so you shouldn\u2019t be the one solving them either.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Besides, you couldn\u2019t do it even if you wanted to. Remember: You can\u2019t save a man who doesn\u2019t want to be saved.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t show him the way if he doesn\u2019t want to see it. You can\u2019t open his heart to love if he\u2019s the one who decided to shut it off.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t glue his broken pieces back together nor can you change the essence of who he is. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Most importantly, you can\u2019t make anyone happy if they don\u2019t feel that way with or without you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

After all, most of these guys are not even emotionally damaged \u2013 they\u2019re just gilipollas<\/a> que se aprovechan de tu coraz\u00f3n bondadoso.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, por favor, deja de hacer todo esto. Realize that you\u2019re only hurting yourself while you\u2019re actually not helping them in any way.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"It's<\/p>\n

Remember: It\u2019s not selfish to put yourself first. It\u2019s not selfish to walk away from the ones who can\u2019t give you what you need and deserve.<\/p>\n

Instead of wasting all of your time on parenting immature boys who don\u2019t have a clue what they want from life, focus on making yourself feel better.<\/p>\n

En lugar de poner toda tu energ\u00eda en curarlas, c\u00e9ntrate en encontrar un hombre de verdad que pueda ir contigo hombro con hombro por la vida.<\/p>\n

Espera a un hombre que won\u2019t magically solve your problems<\/a> but who won\u2019t expect you to fix his either.<\/p>\n

A man who will reciprocate the effort you\u2019re giving him and who won\u2019t just use you until he doesn\u2019t need you anymore.<\/p>\n

\"Lee<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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