{"id":63206,"date":"2020-04-22T09:47:35","date_gmt":"2020-04-22T09:47:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=63206"},"modified":"2022-02-28T11:34:40","modified_gmt":"2022-02-28T11:34:40","slug":"cosas-frustrantes-que-dicen-los-infieles-cuando-se-les-confronta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cosas-frustrantes-que-dicen-los-infieles-cuando-se-les-confronta\/","title":{"rendered":"14 cosas frustrantes que dicen los infieles cuando se les confronta"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ser enga\u00f1ado es una experiencia desgarradora. Las cosas que dicen los infieles cuando se les confronta pueden hacerlo a\u00fan m\u00e1s doloroso.<\/p>\n

There’s nothing worse than feeling betrayed and having your trust broken.<\/p>\n

Especially by the ones you love the most. Once that trust is broken it’s hard – and sometimes almost impossible – to fix it.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, many women or men blame themself. They think they’re not good enough or they did something wrong.<\/p>\n

\"blanco<\/p>\n

Su confianza est\u00e1 destrozada. Todo por culpa de sus parejas infieles y su dudosa moral. Nadie deber\u00eda pasar por esto.<\/p>\n

Cuando te enfrentas a un infiel, normalmente se niega a asumir la culpa. Incluso se vuelven agresivos en su tono de voz.<\/p>\n

A veces intentan echarte la culpa de alguna manera.<\/p>\n

Si has sido v\u00edctima de un infiel o sospechas que tu pareja te enga\u00f1a, estas son algunas de las respuestas habituales de los infieles cuando se les llama la atenci\u00f3n sobre su vergonzoso comportamiento.<\/p>\n

Las respuestas se clasifican en diferentes categor\u00edas en funci\u00f3n de la reacci\u00f3n inicial.<\/p>\n

Things they say to make you feel like you’re the one in the wrong:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. \u201cNothing is going on, you\u2019re being paranoid\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Esta puede ser la respuesta m\u00e1s frustrante de un infiel.<\/p>\n

They try to make you feel crazy and think you’re doing something wrong by confronting them with clear evidence.<\/p>\n

They will deny everything. What’s worse, he or she will try to make you feel bad by saying you’re making things up just because you’re not confident in yourself.<\/p>\n

So, as well as lying to you, they’re also insulting you.<\/p>\n

Conocen todos tus puntos d\u00e9biles y quieren hacerte sentir vulnerable para poder desviar la atenci\u00f3n hacia ti.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Confronting a cheater can lead to what’s called gaslighting.<\/p>\n

Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation where someone – in this case a cheater – makes you doubt your own judgment, memory, and perception, often targeting a victim’s low self-esteem.<\/p>\n

Utilizando la negaci\u00f3n, la desinformaci\u00f3n, la contradicci\u00f3n y otros m\u00e9todos de manipulaci\u00f3n de la verdad, hacen creer a la v\u00edctima que lo que sabe que es verdad es falso.<\/p>\n

Gaslighting is a serious issue that has been recognized by clinical psychologists. It’s commonly used by people who are narcissists.<\/p>\n

2. \u201cYou don’t trust me!\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Es una forma de gaslighting. La persona que fue tu pareja utilizar\u00e1 ir\u00f3nicamente la confianza para hacerte sentir mal por una situaci\u00f3n, al tiempo que rompe claramente tu confianza.<\/p>\n

By making you an accuser, they trick you into thinking you’re the one who’s making things up. Don’t fall for it. It’s a major red flag.<\/p>\n

Their goal is to make you feel like you’re being cruel to them and that you are wrong for bringing the topic up.<\/p>\n

Someone who doesn’t have anything to hide will talk about things without a problem.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

It’s not that uncommon for people to feel like they are being cheated on, especially if they\u2019ve dealt with similar things before.<\/p>\n

If your partner is willing to talk about it, it means they are confident about the truth. Trust is something that’s built throughout the relationship.<\/p>\n

If it’s lacking in some other areas of life, it’s no surprise a person will feel like something is going on when confronted with evidence or reasonable doubt.<\/p>\n

Si no tienen nada que ocultar, permanecer\u00e1n tranquilos y te asegurar\u00e1n que todo va bien y no montar\u00e1n una escena.<\/p>\n

3. \u201cWhere were usted<\/em> last night?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

El intento de echarte la culpa con contraataques es otra forma manipuladora de control.<\/p>\n

Un marido, una mujer o cualquier tipo de socio<\/a> fingir\u00e1 sentirse dudoso e inseguro respecto a su comportamiento.<\/p>\n

They want to trick you into defending yourself. While you’re defending yourself they can manipulate you more easily and change the focus from them onto you.<\/p>\n

Les da tiempo a inventarse algo y evitar la situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Confronting a cheater can involve many messy feelings and a lot of intensity, so don’t let them make you feel crazy and fall for their lies.<\/p>\n

Things they say to diminish the importance of what they’ve done:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

4. \u201cIt’s not like we had sex or anything.\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Si pillas a tu pareja siendo infiel viendo sus mensajes de texto o sus actualizaciones en las redes sociales, es casi seguro que lo negar\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Te acusar\u00e1n de revisando sus cosas<\/em> \u00a1incluso si tienen instalada una aplicaci\u00f3n de citas!<\/p>\n

When they’re out of excuses they will try to defend themselves by denying a physical relationship. Even if they didn’t have a physical relationship that doesn’t mean they didn’t cheat.<\/p>\n

Emotional cheating can be even worse than just having sex. It means they don’t value you and don’t think you’re enough.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Be aware of the warning signs. If they suddenly pick up their cell phone way more often and have private conversations, there’s a possibility they’re not telling you something.<\/p>\n

Your relationship after that won’t be as it was before. Some scenarios are worse than others – for example when they cheat with their co-worker and keep going back to the same job.<\/p>\n

It’s almost impossible to repair and regain trust.<\/p>\n

5. \u201cIt was just a one-time thing.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Apparently monogamy isn’t for everyone. The problem is when they act like it is.<\/p>\n

Decir que el enga\u00f1o fue cosa de una sola vez es como decir que traicionar tu confianza y hacerte sentir in\u00fatil es cosa de una sola vez. El da\u00f1o est\u00e1 hecho y recuperaci\u00f3n de la aventura<\/a> es inevitable. <\/p>\n

You can’t expect to cheat and move on as if nothing happened. If there has been a first time, there will be a second time too.<\/p>\n

6. \u201cIt didn\u2019t mean anything.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Of course it means something. It means they’re not capable of having a normal relationship and respecting their partner.<\/p>\n

By decreasing the importance of a one-night stand in a committed relationship they’re decreasing the importance of the relationship itself.<\/p>\n

Diciendo it didn’t mean anything<\/em> they can’t minimize the pain. A person cheats knowing how it’s going to affect their partner, they just don’t count on being busted.<\/p>\n

7. \u201cIt\u2019s not what it looks like.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

The attempt to rationalize and explain their behavior is one of the ways they try to mask their cheating as something that’s not un gran negocio<\/em>.<\/p>\n

It’s cheating. There’s no justifying that.<\/p>\n

8. \u201cIt was just sex.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

What does that even mean? If sex isn’t that important, why did they have it with someone else in the first place?<\/p>\n

Afirmar que el sexo es s\u00f3lo sexo<\/em> significa que la conexi\u00f3n emocional es m\u00e1s importante.<\/p>\n

That doesn’t make sense because cheating is, in fact, an emotional betrayal.<\/p>\n

It’s one of the worst things you can do to a person you’re supposedly emotionally connected to.<\/p>\n

This response is a way of minimizing the partner’s pain by diminishing the importance of sex.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Clearly, sex is important because otherwise, they wouldn’t have cheated.<\/p>\n

It’s known that most people cheat after making an emotional connection with the third person.<\/p>\n

It wasn’t just sex. It was betrayal and disrespect.<\/p>\n

Cosas que dicen para echarte la culpa a ti o a algo o alguien m\u00e1s:<\/p>\n

9. \u201cI’m not happy anymore.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Sometimes when confronting a cheater, they actually admit how they feel about the relationship and that probably means they’re unhappy in it.<\/p>\n

Eso incluye admitir sus verdaderos sentimientos hacia ti.<\/p>\n

O\u00edr algo as\u00ed es muy doloroso. Sin embargo, tal vez ser\u00eda menos doloroso si hubieran sido honestos al respecto antes de enga\u00f1ar.<\/p>\n

If they wanted to break up, they should’ve!<\/p>\n

Leading the person on is a sign of cowardice. They can’t be honest with themselves so they’re not honest with you either.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

The basis for any relationship should be trust and honesty. With many people it seems, that’s not the case.<\/p>\n

En una relaci\u00f3n duradera, puede ser especialmente dif\u00edcil admitir que las cosas no funcionan.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need a relationship expert to tell you that things are off when they’re so obviously off.<\/p>\n

That still doesn’t excuse the act of cheating, not at all. Everyone deserves to be respected at all times.<\/p>\n

Diciendo you’re not happy<\/em> isn’t going to solve anything.<\/p>\n

10. \u201cI did it because we didn’t have enough sex.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"esposa<\/p>\n

Una de las cosas que suelen mencionar los infieles (en su mayor\u00eda hombres) es la falta de sexo.<\/p>\n

Pero en lugar de intentar comunicar el problema en una relaci\u00f3n, deciden que la mejor forma de afrontarlo es encontrar satisfacci\u00f3n en otra parte.<\/p>\n

That’s not a valid excuse for cheating. Yes, people have needs, there’s no arguing about that. However, there are things to be done before doing the worst thing you can do.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 no hablas con tu pareja? \u00bfY si abordas el problema e intentas hacer algo al respecto? \u00bfAdmitir el problema?<\/p>\n

Ir directamente a por lo m\u00e1s hiriente que se puede hacer no es, desde luego, la forma de afrontarlo.<\/p>\n

11. \u201cShe\/he came to me!\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Las cosas que dicen los infieles cuando se les confronta son a veces sencillamente est\u00fapidas. \u00bfA qui\u00e9n le importa qui\u00e9n hizo el primer movimiento? \u00bfC\u00f3mo justifica eso las cosas?<\/p>\n

They might admit cheating but still insist on saying they’re innocent because another person was the one who started it.<\/p>\n

\u00a1Qu\u00e9 excusa m\u00e1s pobre! Intentar culpar a otro de tu propia culpa es francamente perverso.<\/p>\n

Everybody knows that it takes two people to cheat. One of them doesn’t even have to know about it.<\/p>\n

Cosas que dicen cuando te quieren de vuelta despu\u00e9s de enga\u00f1arte<\/a>:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

12. \u201cThat was a long time ago, things are different now.\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"silueta<\/p>\n

The fact it happened a long time ago and you\u2019ve just found out about it now, doesn’t change this. In fact, it might make it even worse.<\/p>\n

Pensar en todos los recuerdos que sucedieron durante el periodo en el que fue infiel puede hacer que una persona se ponga enferma.<\/p>\n

La sensaci\u00f3n de no tener ni idea es casi insoportable. Sobre todo porque significa que tu pareja te ha dejado vivir la mentira.<\/p>\n

13. \u201cI didn’t want to hurt you.\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"abrazo<\/p>\n

If they didn’t want to hurt you, they shouldn’t have done it. As simple as that.<\/p>\n

Every cheater knows they’re doing something wrong. That’s why saying this doesn’t make sense. It’s just a weak attempt to ask for forgiveness.<\/p>\n

Cometer adulterio es una elecci\u00f3n. Una elecci\u00f3n que conlleva consecuencias. Afecta a los sentimientos de otra persona y a la vida en com\u00fan.<\/p>\n

By choosing to do it, despite knowing the consequences, it means they’re choosing to intentionally hurt another person. There’s no third option.<\/p>\n

14. \u201cIt won’t happen again.\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Even if you choose not to leave your partner, it’s hard to believe cheating won’t happen again. It’s hard to regain trust once after it’s been broken.<\/p>\n

El enga\u00f1o no es algo que se pueda esconder bajo la alfombra. Hace que la persona se replantee todo lo que sabe sobre su pareja y sobre s\u00ed misma.<\/p>\n

Their self-esteem drops and it’s hard to make things go back to the way they were.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019ve seen your future with the person who’s cheating on you, it’s hard to confront them about cheating.<\/p>\n

A veces la reacci\u00f3n inicial es olvidarlo todo y volver a normal<\/em>. For some people it\u2019s to unleash their anger and get some kind of revenge on their partner.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Las cosas tambi\u00e9n dependen de la pareja que ha enga\u00f1ado. A veces quieren volver a su antigua relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Sometimes they want to move on and stay with the person they’re cheating with.<\/p>\n

In case your partner is asking for forgiveness, it’s up to you.<\/p>\n

A lot of people would agree that once a partner has been unfaithful it’s impossible to move on and pretend that nothing happened.<\/p>\n

Afecta enormemente a la relaci\u00f3n. El resentimiento puede hacer imposible que funcione.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

No todas las situaciones son iguales. Las cosas que dicen los infieles cuando se les confronta son diferentes en los distintos casos.<\/p>\n

Algunos infieles est\u00e1n realmente arrepentidos de lo que han hecho. Lo m\u00e1s probable es que admitan la infidelidad de inmediato y pidan perd\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

There’s a difference between admitting adultery and being caught out. However, what they’ve done is completely self-inflicted.<\/p>\n

People make mistakes for various reasons. That doesn’t mean we can justify them. As adults, they’re always responsible for their actions.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

If a partner acts selfishly when confronted, it\u2019s obvious they’re not feeling any kind of remorse.<\/p>\n

That’s when they start committing other types of emotional abuse in addition to cheating.<\/p>\n

Despite everything that’s been said, some relationships survive after cheating.<\/p>\n

After all, it’s your decision whether you decide to forgive them and no one else is entitled to give their opinion. Do as you wish but keep in mind all that has been said and done.<\/p>\n

If you’re interested in saving your relationship or marriage here are some things you can do:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

En primer lugar, debes decidir si eres capaz de darles otra oportunidad. Darles una oportunidad significa restablecer la confianza.<\/p>\n

When a person cheats it shows they’re maybe not capable of having a healthy relationship at all.<\/p>\n

You need to decide if you think it’s possible for them to really change.<\/p>\n

Everybody can make a mistake, but it’s the nature of the mistake and their behavior that shows how fatal that mistake is.<\/p>\n

If you have the strength to forgive your partner and make amends, maybe it’s worth trying.<\/p>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

Otra cosa que puedes hacer es intentar comprender realmente las razones por las que tu pareja te enga\u00f1\u00f3.<\/p>\n

At first, it may seem like they cheated because you weren’t enough for them, but the truth can be very different.<\/p>\n

It is possible they cheated to prove to themself that they’re worthy.<\/p>\n

No matter how contradictory it may sound, cheating doesn’t have to be about sex only. Sometimes it’s a reaction to dealing with their own lack of worth.<\/p>\n

Una de las cosas que puedes hacer es pedirle a tu pareja que te prometa que no volver\u00e1 a enga\u00f1arte.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

P\u00eddeles que dejen de contactar con la tercera persona y comprom\u00e9tete a mejorar vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

If the third person is someone who they see daily due to their job \u2013 ask them to change their job.<\/p>\n

Aparte de eso, exija que asistan a sesiones de asesoramiento sobre relaciones con usted.<\/p>\n

Be clear about how you feel and set boundaries. Communicate your conditions and if they agree with them, that’s when you can move onto the next step.<\/p>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

Keep talking about the issue even if it’s painful but respect your limits. It’s important to let go of resentment as much as possible.<\/p>\n

Habla de cu\u00e1les ser\u00e1n las consecuencias si vuelve a ocurrir algo similar.<\/p>\n

Expresa con valent\u00eda tu postura. Si ocurre algo parecido, diles que les dejar\u00e1s, romper\u00e1s con ellos o pedir\u00e1s el divorcio.<\/p>\n

Lastly and most importantly, know when to end things once and for all. If your partner doesn’t change despite promises, leave him or her.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

There’s nothing you can do but move on. There’s no point in making your life miserable over somebody else’s problem.<\/p>\n

No matter how much you love them, they don’t love you enough. For the relationship to work out two people are needed.<\/p>\n

Breakups are painful experiences, but sometimes they’re a chance for something new.<\/p>\n

There’s only so much we can do if someone doesn’t want to change.<\/p>\n

En lugar de esperar a tu pareja, mu\u00e9strate respetuoso contigo mismo, date el cambio que tanto necesitas y al\u00e9jate.<\/p>\n

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