{"id":64768,"date":"2020-04-23T18:13:14","date_gmt":"2020-04-23T18:13:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=64768"},"modified":"2022-01-12T21:26:40","modified_gmt":"2022-01-12T21:26:40","slug":"odio-a-mi-novio-6-posibles-razones","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/odio-a-mi-novio-6-posibles-razones\/","title":{"rendered":"Odio a mi novio: 6 posibles razones (y qu\u00e9 hacer)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Everything he says or does annoys you, his habits are driving you crazy, you can’t look him in the eyes without feeling discomfort, and all you can think is: <\/span>Odio a mi novio<\/span><\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t know when or how this happened, but you know that nothing is the same anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

Mantener una relaci\u00f3n con \u00e9l ya no te hace feliz y la sensaci\u00f3n de impotencia invade tu cuerpo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sol\u00eda ser tu <\/span>mejor amigo<\/span><\/a>compa\u00f1ero de cr\u00edmenes, y un novio incre\u00edble, pero ahora quieres que alguien te explique qu\u00e9 ha cambiado exactamente. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo empezaste a odiar a tu novio? \u00bfSucedi\u00f3 de la noche a la ma\u00f1ana? <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1l es la verdadera raz\u00f3n por la que ya no le ves igual que antes? Y lo m\u00e1s importante, \u00bfqu\u00e9 puedes hacer al respecto?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

To these, and many other questions, you’ll find the answers below:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. \u00bfLe odias por lo que hizo\/hace o por lo que es?<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"chica<\/p>\n

You’re probably familiar with that wise, old saying: “There’s a reason behind every action.” <\/span><\/p>\n

There’s also a reason why you hate your boyfriend, and you need to ask yourself whether you hate him for what he did or does, or for who he is?<\/span><\/p>\n

Simply put, you need to ask yourself whether you hate him for his actions or you hate him as a person, because there’s a big difference between the two.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfTe ha enga\u00f1ado, mentido, manipulado o dado por sentada? \u00bfHa sido usted v\u00edctima de <\/span><\/i>abuso emocional<\/span><\/i><\/a>?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Has he stopped making an effort in the relationship and now you’re the only one trying to save what’s left of it?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Do you hate him for all that, or do you hate him for some other reasons that you can’t put into words? <\/span><\/p>\n

If you can’t think of any other reason why you hate him, chances are you no longer like him as a person (or you never even liked him). <\/span><\/p>\n

QU\u00c9 HACER<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Every relationship has its ups and downs and overcoming them is the ultimate goal. If you hate him for his actions and it’s evident that his behaviour has changed for the worse, tell him so. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you still feel hurt about something he did to you, don’t pretend that everything is okay because it’s not.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s normal to feel hatred toward him for treating you like shit and you should let him know how you feel.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Dile lo que realmente sientes por sus acciones e intenta encontrar una soluci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

Todo es posible si la persona est\u00e1 dispuesta a cambiar. Ya sabes lo que dicen: <\/span>“Where there is a will, there is a way”!<\/b><\/p>\n

But, if you hate him as a person, there’s not much you can do about it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Significa que le odias por lo que es. Odias su forma de pensar, de respirar, y sus h\u00e1bitos te est\u00e1n volviendo loca. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

It means you don’t like his vibe and his personality and that’s why you feel like you hate him.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t really hate him, but it’s evident that you don’t like him. In that case, a <\/span>romper<\/span> suele ser inevitable (a menos que empiece a gustarte (otra vez)). <\/span><\/p>\n

2. \u00bfTiene expectativas altas o poco realistas de su pareja?<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

He doesn’t spend <\/span>tiempo suficiente<\/span> with you (according to your standards), he doesn’t share your <\/span>intereses sexuales<\/span>...estados de \u00e1nimo o intereses. Nunca o casi nunca escribe <\/span>Te quiero<\/span><\/i><\/a> en <\/span>redes sociales<\/span>.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Cuando no hace algo que esperas de \u00e9l, lo \u00fanico que puedes pensar es: <\/span>I <\/span><\/i>te odio<\/span><\/i>! <\/span><\/i>Cuando cumple tus normas, lo \u00fanico que puedes pensar es: <\/span>Te quiero<\/span><\/i>!<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Your moods shift in accordance with his ability to meet your expectations and that’s the biggest <\/b>se\u00f1al de advertencia<\/b> que tienes expectativas poco realistas de tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

\u00bfCrees que deber\u00eda pasar todo su tiempo libre o cada <\/span>un solo d\u00eda<\/span> \u00bfContigo?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCrees que \u00e9l deber\u00eda estar de acuerdo con todo lo que t\u00fa quieres en la relaci\u00f3n porque su prioridad deber\u00eda ser hacerte feliz? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfTe sientes desolada y traicionada cuando se niega u olvida hacer algo que t\u00fa quer\u00edas que hiciera? <\/span><\/p>\n

If yes, then you’re suffering from a syndrome called “having unrealistic expectations of a partner in a relationship”. <\/span><\/p>\n

QU\u00c9 HACER<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"el<\/p>\n

Lo primero es lo primero, hay que entender que <\/span>a <\/span>relaci\u00f3n feliz<\/span><\/a> no se trata de pasar todo el tiempo juntos ni de esperar que tu pareja haga todo lo que a ti te plazca. <\/span><\/p>\n

Rather, it is about also having your own lives outside the relationship and respecting each other’s wishes and differences.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s how every healthy <\/span>la relaci\u00f3n funciona<\/span>. <\/span>Compromiso, comprensi\u00f3n, paciencia.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Gastar un <\/span>mucho tiempo<\/span> con su <\/span>pareja<\/span> o que cumplan todas tus expectativas no es una receta para la felicidad. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is a recipe for disaster – and that’s the main reason why you feel hatred toward him.<\/span><\/p>\n

You hate him because he’s incapable of filling the role you want for him.  <\/span>Pero las relaciones no son una cuesti\u00f3n de roles o expectativas.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Pareja
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

They’re about understanding each other’s wishes and needs, being patient, and being willing to compromise instead of imposing your own regimen. <\/span><\/p>\n

Una vez que te des cuenta de todo eso, tu perspectiva cambiar\u00e1 por completo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ya no odiar\u00e1s a tu pareja por no cumplir tus expectativas, sino que le dar\u00e1s espacio para expresarse y sentirse libre de ser quien realmente es.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Es usted muy sensible, <\/b>ansioso<\/b><\/a> o deprimido?<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Salud mental<\/span> desempe\u00f1a un papel crucial en toda relaci\u00f3n. Como persona muy sensible y que padece un trastorno de ansiedad, puedo asegurar que esto puede influir enormemente en nuestro comportamiento y en la percepci\u00f3n que tenemos de nuestra pareja. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you’re <\/span>altamente sensible<\/span><\/a>cada cosa que hagan te volver\u00e1 loco. <\/span><\/p>\n

You will hate all kinds of sounds they make while they’re sleeping (not to mention their snoring). <\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Odiar\u00e1s la forma en que empiezan a inquietarse cuando veis la televisi\u00f3n juntos y a veces incluso odiar\u00e1s la forma en que respiran cuando est\u00e1n sentados a tu lado. <\/span><\/p>\n

Todo esto variar\u00e1 en funci\u00f3n de sus niveles de sensibilidad. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ning\u00fan d\u00eda es igual y, a veces, las cosas que antes le molestaban pasan desapercibidas.<\/span><\/p>\n

Si sufre ansiedad o depresi\u00f3n, a veces culpar\u00e1 a su pareja de ello sin darse cuenta.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Puede que les culpes de cosas triviales y de tu estado de \u00e1nimo actual. <\/span><\/p>\n

Cuando tus niveles de ansiedad y depresi\u00f3n aumentan, puedes sentir odio hacia tu pareja sin motivo aparente. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you’re feeling sad, alone and lost, you subconsciously start observing everything from a no-so-bright perspective.<\/span><\/p>\n

QU\u00c9 HACER<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Estar muy sensible, ansioso o deprimido es una afecci\u00f3n grave que a veces debe tratarse con medicaci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

En mi caso, llevar un estilo de vida saludable, ir al gimnasio con regularidad, comer alimentos sanos y expresarme (dibujar, escribir, cantar) me han ayudado a reducir la ansiedad a un nivel aceptable.<\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes to relationships and this specific matter, the most important thing to do is to understand your mental state; why you sometimes feel the way you’re feeling. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

When you’re able to understand that feeling sad or sensitive is not connected with your partner, but with your current state of mind, you will succeed in differentiating between the two.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hating the condition you’re in often results in hating your partner. <\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why it’s important to separate these two things, stop for a moment, and ask yourself: <\/span>Why do I feel the way I’m feeling?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Respira hondo y piensa en todas las emociones, sentimientos y pensamientos que te pasan por la cabeza.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Luego preg\u00fantate si tienen algo que ver con tu pareja. <\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll probably realize that all this is in your head and you don’t really hate your partner – you just hate the feeling of helplessness and confusion.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>C\u00f3mo saber cu\u00e1ndo <\/span>Ruptura<\/span>? 20 se\u00f1ales de que deber\u00edas poner fin a tu relaci\u00f3n<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

4. \u00bfCrees que tu pareja es responsable de tu felicidad?<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"pareja
\nWe often unwittingly put our happiness into someone else’s hands. <\/span><\/p>\n

A menudo pensamos que nuestro <\/span>pareja<\/span> es responsable de nuestra felicidad.<\/span><\/p>\n

And when they don’t make us happy, we blame them for that.<\/span><\/p>\n

We start to hate them and we think they’re no longer good for us. <\/span><\/p>\n

If they can’t make us happy, they haven’t fulfilled their “duty” and we have every right to be mad at them.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

At least that’s what we think. But, the reality is somewhat different. <\/span><\/p>\n

La verdad es que la \u00fanica persona responsable de tu felicidad eres t\u00fa.<\/b><\/p>\n

Bajo <\/span>autoestima<\/span> y la falta de <\/span>autoestima<\/span> can sometimes trick you into believing that you’re not capable of being happy on your own. That you need others to introduce you to the term called happiness. <\/span><\/p>\n

Usted pone su <\/span>bienestar<\/span>, your feelings, and everything else in other people’s hands and you hold them responsible if they fail to make you happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

QU\u00c9 HACER<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Si crees que tu pareja es responsable de tu felicidad, tienes que empezar a trabajar para abrazar y comprender tu verdadero yo. T\u00fa eres suficiente.<\/span><\/p>\n

You need to understand that you’re perfectly capable of being happy on your own and you should never put your own happiness in the hands of others. <\/span><\/p>\n

This doesn’t mean they shouldn’t make you happy. <\/span>Pero debe ser el resultado de su voluntad y no una necesidad.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Su pareja es un <\/span>ser humano<\/span> que no est\u00e1 obligado a hacerte feliz, sino que quiere hacerte feliz.<\/span><\/p>\n

And there’s a huge difference between the two. When you think of it as a must, it creates hatred and frustration.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero, cuando se piensa en ello como un regalo, se crea comprensi\u00f3n y aprecio.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. \u00bfEst\u00e1s de acuerdo con su estilo de vida?<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"pareja
\nT\u00fa quieres ir a correr, pero \u00e9l quiere jugar. <\/span>videojuegos<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tu d\u00eda est\u00e1 lleno de actividades divertidas y obligaciones, mientras que la principal ocupaci\u00f3n de \u00e9l es tumbarse en el sof\u00e1 y ver Netflix. <\/span><\/p>\n

You’re trying your best to live a <\/span>estilo de vida hol\u00edstico<\/span><\/a>comer alimentos sanos, hacer ejercicio y mejorar, mientras que tu novio aburrido<\/a> es ir por la vida con el m\u00ednimo esfuerzo y voluntad. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ve become disappointed in his way of living and the first thing to <\/span>aparecer<\/span> en tu cerebro es: <\/span>Dios, <\/span><\/i>Odio a mi novio<\/span><\/i>.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Te gustar\u00eda que fuera m\u00e1s activo o que pasara menos tiempo jugando <\/span>videojuegos<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Te gustar\u00eda que fuera un hombre de verdad, capaz y dispuesto a cuidar de s\u00ed mismo y a trabajar en s\u00ed mismo. <\/span><\/p>\n

The longer you ignore all this and pretend it’s not a big deal, the more hatred accumulates. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t agree with his lifestyle and you wish something would change, but you don’t know how to initiate it because everything you try ends up in accusations or judging. Is there a way to deal with this successfully? Let’s see.<\/span><\/p>\n

QU\u00c9 HACER<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

If you don’t agree with his lifestyle because he’s doing harm to his own <\/span>bienestar<\/span> por fumar demasiado, comer comida basura y ser un teleadicto, tienes todo el derecho a reconocerlo. Pero debes hacerlo de forma no acusadora.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tell him that you’re worried about him and that you wish he was more productive and engaged.<\/span><\/p>\n

Motivate him to roll up his sleeves and start working on himself, but don’t give him ultimatums. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

After you’ve tried everything, if still nothing changes and you’re not happy with his way of living, you should seriously reconsider your decision to be with him in the first place. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s hard to watch someone you care about destroying themselves without even trying to make things better. <\/span><\/p>\n

But, everyone has a right to choose their own lifestyle and if you don’t approve of it, you also have a right to choose not to put up with it.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. \u00bfLe cuesta reconocer su participaci\u00f3n en los conflictos?<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/span><\/p>\n

A veces nos ocupamos tanto de nuestros compa\u00f1eros que no reconocemos nuestros propios errores.<\/span><\/p>\n

We give all out=r attention to what they’re doing thus missing what we are doing.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCrees que tu novio es el \u00fanico culpable cuando surge el conflicto? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCrees que lo \u00fanico que influye en vuestra relaci\u00f3n son sus palabras y sus acciones?<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

“It takes two to tango.” It also takes two to be in a relationship and to fight. <\/b><\/p>\n

Perhaps you hate your boyfriend because you’re convinced that he’s the main villain in your relationship and he’s the only one who should apologize after a conflict or when something bad happens.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tal vez te niegues a reconocer tu parte en el asunto, a aceptar las consecuencias de tus actos y a disculparte si es necesario.<\/span><\/p>\n

QU\u00c9 HACER<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If this is the case, you need to stop thinking of your relationship as a unit where one partner is wrong and the other one is right. No one’s wrong and no one’s right. <\/span><\/p>\n

You need to stop thinking that you’re always right and that your partner is the one to blame for everything. <\/span>Toda relaci\u00f3n es una mezcla de altibajos.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Triste<\/p>\n

Both partners make mistakes and what’s important is that they apologize for it and they do their best to make things right. Effort is the keyword here. <\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of focusing on hating your boyfriend after every conflict, focus on trying to understand what happened and how you can make it right with mutual effort. And that’s the key to a <\/span>relaci\u00f3n feliz<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Y la pregunta final:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCrees que ser\u00edas m\u00e1s feliz con otra persona? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9?<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Perm\u00edtanme reformular esto:<\/span><\/p>\n

Do you hate your boyfriend because you’re unhappy with him or because you think there is someone better out there for you? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfFantasea a menudo con tener una relaci\u00f3n perfecta con otra persona?<\/span><\/p>\n

Nosotros <\/span>seres humanos<\/span> often forget that perfection doesn’t exist. <\/span><\/p>\n

We get convinced that what we have in front of us is not worthy of our time and effort because there’s something better out there that won’t require fixing.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Nos enga\u00f1amos pensando que <\/span>la hierba es m\u00e1s verde<\/span><\/a> on the other side of the fence. But, it’s not. <\/span><\/p>\n

Toda relaci\u00f3n exige esfuerzo, sacrificio y paciencia.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil que puede hacer es <\/span>romper<\/span> with someone and hope that the next relationship won’t be so demanding.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil que puedes hacer es repetirte mentalmente <\/span>Odio a mi novio<\/span><\/i> y deciden no hacer nada al respecto. <\/span><\/p>\n

Intentar terminar una batalla antes de que haya empezado es lo que hacen los soldados d\u00e9biles. <\/i><\/b>But, you’re not like that. <\/span>You’re not a weak soldier.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You’re a strong woman who will do her best to find out why she’s feeling a certain way about her boyfriend, and who will try to fix things together (if you still care about saving your relationship).<\/span><\/p>\n

After all that, if you still feel like there’s something missing, you will finish your battle gracefully and like a real soldier.<\/span><\/i> <\/span><\/p>\n

You won’t dwell upon the thought ‘What if’. You will sail into the future with an open mind and a brave heart, knowing you did everything you could.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>\u00bfC\u00f3mo arreglar una relaci\u00f3n rota? 10 maneras de arreglar las cosas<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

\"Odio<\/p>\n

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