{"id":65311,"date":"2020-04-22T15:30:44","date_gmt":"2020-04-22T15:30:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=65311"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:26:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:26:30","slug":"el-corazon-que-comprende-tambien-se-cansa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/el-corazon-que-comprende-tambien-se-cansa\/","title":{"rendered":"Un coraz\u00f3n que siempre comprende tambi\u00e9n se cansa"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cIf your compassion does not include yourself it is incomplete.\u201d<\/strong> \u2013 Jack Kornfield<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve always been that person who\u2019s first to help. I was taught to be kind-hearted and it stayed with me.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s weird because I grew up thinking that saying something like that wasn\u2019t humble and I don\u2019t mean to boast, but I\u2019ve come to realize that I truly am a good person because I strive to be one.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Unfortunately, I soon realized something else \u2013 not many people appreciate selflessness; to be more precise, not many people appreciate selflessness when they don\u2019t need you anymore.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve always tried to understand everyone and think before I judge. The same goes when I\u2019m in a relationship.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I got stuck in a relationship with a man who used me.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Era un hombre encantador y me maravillaban sus palabras y su capacidad para hacerme re\u00edr a todas horas. Le quer\u00eda como nunca hab\u00eda querido a nadie.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, con el tiempo empec\u00e9 a darme cuenta de que me daban por sentado. Tard\u00e9 alg\u00fan tiempo en admitirlo.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t want to believe that the man I loved didn\u2019t care enough to notice I was exhausted.<\/p>\n

Se olvidaba de m\u00ed y tachaba mis problemas de triviales.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Siempre encontraba una raz\u00f3n para no hacer algo que yo le ped\u00eda y salirse con la suya.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Me sent\u00ed sola muchas veces y llor\u00e9 hasta quedarme dormida mientras intentaba que no me oyeran. Sent\u00eda que no ten\u00eda a nadie que me consolara y comprendiera.<\/p>\n

He simply didn\u2019t notice mi coraz\u00f3n se hab\u00eda cansado. <\/a>I was tired of all the things I let slide when I should\u2019ve said something.<\/p>\n

Estaba cansada de dejar que la gente se saliera con la suya en lugar de luchar por lo que merec\u00eda.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Yo era cansado de pensar demasiado<\/a> cada paso para asegurarme de no hacer da\u00f1o a nadie. Estaba cansado de poner <\/strong>a todos menos a m\u00ed primero.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I was tired of trying to meet everyone\u2019s expectations. I was that person who everyone saw as a saving grace – everyone but herself.<\/p>\n

While others would seek comfort in me, I couldn\u2019t find it anywhere. What\u2019s even worse, I let it all happen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I insisted on telling everyone I was fine when in reality I was mentally exhausted from all the things I couldn\u2019t fight.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Odiaba decepcionar a los dem\u00e1s y siempre me costaba decir que no. Toda esa presi\u00f3n me sum\u00eda en una espiral de ansiedad y culpabilidad.<\/p>\n

Me agobiaba y agotaba con facilidad. Me cans\u00e9 de cuidar de todo el mundo, mientras que no hab\u00eda nadie que cuidara de m\u00ed.<\/p>\n

At one point I felt like I was cursed with feeling everything so deeply and my heart couldn\u2019t take it anymore.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Mi compasi\u00f3n a veces se sent\u00eda como una carga. <\/strong>Quer\u00eda que me quisieran y me cuidaran.<\/p>\n

I wanted to feel safe in someone\u2019s arms and hear that everything was going to be okay.<\/p>\n

Quer\u00eda que alguien fuera mi hombro sobre el que llorar en lugar de serlo siempre yo.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

So\u00f1aba con encontrar a alguien que me aceptara tal como soy, aceptara todos mis defectos y comprendiera c\u00f3mo me siento.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when I decided to let go of the blockages that made me think I was being selfish for asking for <\/strong>amor y comprensi\u00f3n.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Finally, I understood that I don\u2019t have to spend my life asking for love and being deprived of it. I want the love in my life to be reciprocal.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I want it to be as love should be \u2013 unconditional and always present. I understood that I am worthy of everything I was giving to other people.<\/p>\n

Aprend\u00ed que tengo que fijar mis l\u00edmites<\/a> y aseg\u00farate de que todo el mundo los respeta. Establecer l\u00edmites ha cambiado mi vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I let go of guilt I had over something that\u2019s not mine and which I can\u2019t control. I let myself finally understand and accept myself first.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Learning to have compassion for myself made me realize that we can\u2019t be complete without loving ourselves first.<\/p>\n

En lugar de dejar que mi compasi\u00f3n me arruine, dejo que me sirva.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por fin empec\u00e9 a respetarme a m\u00ed misma y a todo lo que me hace ser quien soy y, de repente, todo encaj\u00f3.<\/p>\n

\"Un<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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