{"id":65519,"date":"2020-04-25T23:39:51","date_gmt":"2020-04-25T23:39:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=65519"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:45:09","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:45:09","slug":"mi-novio-es-aburrido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/mi-novio-es-aburrido\/","title":{"rendered":"Mi novio es aburrido: 4 razones y lo que puedes hacer"},"content":{"rendered":"

T\u00fa quieres salir y divertirte, pero \u00e9l prefiere jugar a videojuegos y ver Netflix.<\/p>\n

If this happened only a few times, you wouldn’t mind. But, since it happens on a regular basis, this is the only legit conclusion:<\/p>\n

\u00a1Mi novio es aburrido!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Cuando os conocisteis y empezasteis a salir, todo parec\u00eda perfecto.<\/p>\n

Hac\u00edais todas las cosas divertidas juntos y vuestra vida amorosa simplemente florec\u00eda.<\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

And then, after some time, you wake up and realize that you’re in a relaci\u00f3n duradera<\/a> con un tipo aburrido.<\/p>\n

Piensa para tus adentros: \u00bfC\u00f3mo ha ocurrido? <\/em>\u00bfC\u00f3mo pas\u00e9 por alto todas las se\u00f1ales de advertencia o se volvi\u00f3 aburrido de la noche a la ma\u00f1ana?<\/em><\/p>\n

De una prometedora relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica a estar atrapado en la rutina. Sin m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

As always, the first step to solving the problem is realizing all the possible reasons behind it and then finding ways to overcome it, which is exactly what you’ll find below!<\/p>\n

4 posibles razones por las que tu novio es (tan) aburrido<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. He’s ansiedad<\/a> y\/o deprimido<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Lo que ocurre con la ansiedad y la depresi\u00f3n es que los s\u00edntomas no suelen ser tan visibles.<\/p>\n

Una persona puede estar atravesando graves episodios de depresi\u00f3n y ansiedad y seguir teniendo un aspecto perfectamente normal.<\/p>\n

Los seres humanos tenemos esta capacidad de pasar por un amplio espectro de emociones a la vez.<\/p>\n

He might look perfectly okay while he’s at work and once he\u2019s home, the first thing he does is lock down into his man cave.<\/p>\n

And that’s when it strikes you: Mi novio es aburrido.<\/em><\/p>\n

Todo lo que quiere hacer es pasar tiempo a solas<\/a> todo lo posible y cada vez que le pides que en vez de eso pase tiempo contigo y tus amigos, encuentra una excusa perfecta para evitarlo, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Algunos otros s\u00edntomas que indican que tu novio sufre ansiedad y\/o depresi\u00f3n son los siguientes:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Avoiding his best friends and people he used to hang out with (a lot)<\/p>\n

\u2022 Not doing things he used to enjoy<\/p>\n

\u2022 Constantly feeling tired<\/p>\n

\u2022 Feeling hopeless and pessimistic about things<\/p>\n

\u2022 Difficulty sleeping and concentrating<\/p>\n

(Hay muchos otros s\u00edntomas relacionados con la ansiedad y la depresi\u00f3n, pero estos son los principales).<\/p>\n

QU\u00c9 HACER<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Si tu novio sufre ansiedad o depresi\u00f3n, lo mejor que puedes hacer es buscar ayuda profesional.<\/p>\n

Como persona que padece un trastorno de ansiedad, no puedo dejar de recalcar lo agotador que es todo el proceso (si decides hacerlo solo).<\/p>\n

From a severe condition, I’ve succeeded in decreasing anxiety levels to a mild condition with regular exercise and a complete change of my lifestyle.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, antes de buscar ayuda profesional, puedes intentar hablar abiertamente con tu novio y motivarle para que empiece a hacer footing, pase tiempo al aire libre, etc.<\/p>\n

\"Fotograf\u00eda<\/p>\n

Otra cosa que me ha ayudado mucho es expresarme. El mayor enemigo tanto de la ansiedad como de la depresi\u00f3n es la creatividad.<\/p>\n

Cuando dibujas, escribes, cantas, haces jardiner\u00eda o bailas, tu cerebro libera dopamina, que es un antidepresivo natural.<\/p>\n

La creatividad reduce significativamente la ansiedad, la depresi\u00f3n y el estr\u00e9s.<\/p>\n

If your boyfriend is still not motivated to do any of the abovementioned, then it’s strongly advisable to seek professional help.<\/p>\n

2. He’s stressed out<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Every time I read, hear or write the phrase “stressed out,” the first thing that comes to my mind is these lyrics from Twenty One Pilots\u2019 song of the same name:<\/p>\n

“Wish we could turn back time, to the good old days, when our momma sang us to sleep but now we’re stressed out.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Indeed, today’s modern life has brought us many good things that have come with a price.<\/p>\n

Perhaps your boyfriend has a satisfying job, lots of good friends, all the possible tech gadgets and video game consoles, but still he’s feeling stressed out.<\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

A satisfying job is not necessarily a stress-free job. As a matter of fact, a job that is devoid of any stress doesn’t exist.<\/p>\n

Also, you can have tons of friends, every tech gadget and console possible, but when you don’t have time for any of it, you become stressed out.<\/p>\n

And that might be the reason why he’s acting so boring all of a sudden.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s probably got lots of things on his mind that\u2019s causing him to feel drained and dissatisfied.<\/p>\n

Su voluntad de hacer cosas divertidas<\/a> with you is blocked by the daily stressors and that’s why he turned into a couch potato.<\/p>\n

QU\u00c9 HACER<\/h2>\n

\"Joven<\/p>\n

Si tu novio se siente estresado, debes trabajar para aliviar los niveles de estr\u00e9s. Algunos de los m\u00e1s eficaces para aliviar el estr\u00e9s incluyen:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Meditation<\/p>\n

\u2022 Taking a walk<\/p>\n

\u2022 Hugging a loved one<\/p>\n

\u2022 Physical activity<\/p>\n

- Ser creativo<\/a><\/p>\n

\u2022 Getting rid of the things that are adding to stress<\/p>\n

Para ayudarle con la motivaci\u00f3n, pod\u00e9is meditar juntos o dar un paseo juntos.<\/p>\n

\"Foto<\/p>\n

Y en lugar de enfadarte con \u00e9l porque se niega a salir contigo, prueba a darle un fuerte y c\u00e1lido abrazo.<\/p>\n

Esto le reconfortar\u00e1 y le mostrar\u00e1 tu comprensi\u00f3n final de su situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Whatever you decide to do, just don’t push him \u2013 it might create a counter-effect.<\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n puedes ver una comedia en la que los dos os part\u00e1is de risa, \u00a1lo que tambi\u00e9n te aliviar\u00e1 el estr\u00e9s!<\/p>\n

“Laughing is, and will always be, the best form of therapy!” (Dau Voire)<\/em><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Los 6 problemas de pareja m\u00e1s comunes que no tienen arreglo<\/a><\/p>\n

3. The relationship\u2019s turned him into a boring man<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Antes de profundizar en temas de relaciones, quiero que pienses en tu primera cita.<\/p>\n

How did you feel when you were with him on the first date? Excited with butterflies in your stomach? In one word \u2013 happy?<\/p>\n

Te sent\u00edas as\u00ed porque estabas en la primera fase de una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica y eso es el enamoramiento.<\/p>\n

At that stage, your emotions are at its peak and you’re strongly attracted to each other.<\/p>\n

Once the infatuation phase is over, your relationship becomes more “real” and sensitive.<\/p>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Tu rutina y tus acciones influir\u00e1n en gran medida en su curso.<\/p>\n

Ahora, el mayor destructor de las relaciones es dedicar mucho tiempo a los mensajes de texto, las llamadas telef\u00f3nicas y las redes sociales.<\/p>\n

Otro gran destructor es pasar demasiado tiempo juntos.<\/p>\n

Si ver Netflix se ha convertido en el plato fuerte de tu semana, entonces tienes un problema.<\/p>\n

But, don’t get me wrong. I totally understand this need for being casual, but there’s a thin line between healthy casual and getting too casual.<\/p>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

When you’re in a relationship for some time, it’s so easy to fall into a rut.<\/p>\n

Many people are not even aware of it. It’s when your meaningful conversations are replaced with small talk, and when you no longer surprise each other.<\/p>\n

Tus actividades, antes emocionantes, se han convertido en actividades aburridas porque las has repetido demasiado.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que una de las razones por las que tu novio puede ser aburrido podr\u00eda ser porque vuestra relaci\u00f3n no es tan excitante como antes.<\/p>\n

QU\u00c9 HACER<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

Para superar esta, ambos deben activarse para salvar su relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Hay que prestar atenci\u00f3n a todas esas peque\u00f1as cosas que significan tanto, como sorprenderse mutuamente, mantener conversaciones divertidas a altas horas de la madrugada, etc.<\/p>\n

Organize weekly date nights so that you don’t come into temptation to spend all of your free time watching Netflix.<\/p>\n

Esta es la mayor medida preventiva contra el estancamiento.<\/p>\n

Incorpore nuevas actividades y aventuras divertidas, como hacer puenting por primera vez o algo similar.<\/p>\n

Piensa por qu\u00e9 os enamorasteis el uno del otro en primer lugar.<\/p>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Hable de su primera cita<\/a> or the day when you met, evoke your past memories \u2013 these will evoke your passion.<\/p>\n

And if you’re in a long distance relationship, don’t overdo the texting thing.<\/p>\n

It’s always better to talk via camera because the chance of you misinterpreting something is very low in a face-to-face environment.<\/p>\n

Y recuerda: No pas\u00e9is juntos todo el tiempo libre.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Una relaci\u00f3n sana no consiste en pasar el mayor tiempo posible juntos, sino en darse espacio el uno al otro y tener tambi\u00e9n una vida fuera de la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Y si todo lo dem\u00e1s falla, \u00a1siempre puedes pedir consejo a un experto en relaciones!<\/p>\n

4. Es aburrido (por naturaleza)<\/h2>\n

\"Foto<\/p>\n

If your boyfriend has never been a person of action and he never showed any interest in doing something fun, then I’m sorry to tell you, but he belongs to the category of being boring by nature.<\/p>\n

Perhaps you didn’t pay much attention to it earlier, didn\u2019t notice his boring personality, or you secretly hoped that you could change him.<\/p>\n

And when you didn’t succeed in it, the only thing left was to conclude: Mi novio es aburrido<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Conozco a mucha gente aburrida en mi entorno y lo que todos tienen en com\u00fan es esa sensaci\u00f3n de seguridad.<\/p>\n

They aren\u2019t satisfied with doing different, fun things because they’re more into routine stuff.<\/p>\n

El ejercicio es m\u00e1s o menos as\u00ed: Van a trabajar, vuelven a casa, comen, encienden la tele.<\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

If there’s nothing on the TV, they turn on their laptop and find a movie. After watching a movie, they go to sleep.<\/p>\n

And to them, their day was fulfilling because they’re used to living such a life (not to say boring life) and they probably see nothing wrong in it.<\/p>\n

Lo que m\u00e1s me molesta de la gente aburrida es su falta de curiosidad.<\/p>\n

A muchos de ellos no les interesa nada m\u00e1s que su trabajo y las cosas que ya saben.<\/p>\n

And they’re not even trying to give something new a chance. Instead, they discard it immediately by making some lame excuses.<\/p>\n

Ser aburrido est\u00e1 directamente relacionado con bajos niveles de entusiasmo y pasi\u00f3n por la vida, lo cual, en mi opini\u00f3n, no es nada sexy.<\/p>\n

QU\u00c9 HACER<\/h2>\n

\"Primer<\/p>\n

Being boring by nature is a tricky thing because it’s not something you can improve overnight.<\/p>\n

It’s almost a personality thing and you can’t force them to change their routine and behavior just because you want them to be different.<\/p>\n

Pero lo que puedes hacer es INTENTAR. Puedes intentar proponer algunas actividades divertidas, pero recuerda no ser demasiado insistente al respecto.<\/p>\n

Hazlo todo poco a poco para que el cambio les resulte natural.<\/p>\n

Si sabes que les gusta escuchar a un determinado grupo de m\u00fasica y que pronto dar\u00e1n un concierto, sugi\u00e9rele que asista, pero de una forma tan chula como \u00e9sta:<\/p>\n

Hey, I just saw that (name of the band) will be performing soon. Don’t you think it would be fun to check them out?<\/em><\/p>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

If he still says no and doesn\u2019t even consider going (even though you know he’s a huge fan), then you know you’ve tried, but his boring attitude is not giving up that easily.<\/p>\n

If you see that nothing’s changing no matter what you do or try, then you should accept the fact that he will be boring forever and you can either take it or leave it.<\/p>\n

Lo peor que te puede pasar es darte cuenta de que has desperdiciado la mitad de tu vida en un sof\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, it’s better to romper<\/a> a tiempo que ver c\u00f3mo se te rompen las cosas.<\/p>\n

Reflexiones finales<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

I hope you’ve been able to categorize your boyfriend’s boredom and that all these tips will be helpful to both of you.<\/p>\n

Recuerde que hay muchas razones por las que una persona se ha vuelto repentinamente aburrida, por lo que es esencial saber m\u00e1s sobre ella.<\/p>\n

Also, some people are just boring by nature and there’s not much you can do about it.<\/p>\n

You can try to activate them and help them see things differently and if they don’t reciprocate, you’ve done your part.<\/p>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

En ese caso, en lugar de pensar \u00fanicamente que Mi novio es aburrido<\/em>deber\u00edas pensar en tu propia felicidad y en c\u00f3mo te afecta su actitud aburrida.<\/p>\n

If his attitude is not something that can be influenced and you’re not okay with it, then it’s probably time to reconsider your decision to be with him in the first place.<\/p>\n

Sea lo que sea lo que decida hacer, le deseo mucha paciencia y buena suerte.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: C\u00f3mo arreglar una relaci\u00f3n rota: 10 maneras de arreglar las cosas<\/a><\/p>\n

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