{"id":65632,"date":"2020-04-25T23:35:20","date_gmt":"2020-04-25T23:35:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=65632"},"modified":"2022-06-30T20:14:28","modified_gmt":"2022-06-30T20:14:28","slug":"reconectar-con-un-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/reconectar-con-un-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"Reconectar con un ex: c\u00f3mo saber si es una buena idea (o no)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Has visto una foto suya en las redes sociales, has visto que anunciaban su tentempi\u00e9 favorito en la televisi\u00f3n o de repente te ha venido a la mente un recuerdo olvidado hace mucho tiempo.<\/p>\n

Y piensas para tus adentros: Maybe reconnecting with an ex isn’t such a bad idea after all.<\/em><\/p>\n

Maybe you can still make it work somehow, or if only you hadn’t done or said certain things, everything would be different now. Or would it?<\/p>\n

Entras en un mundo de demasiados \"y si...\", arrepentimientos y esperanzas. Empiezas a pensar que a\u00fan hay posibilidades de reavivar esa vieja llama.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

But, you’re not quite sure whether it is a good idea or not, and that’s why you’re here today.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s good that you are, because reconectar con un ex<\/a> \u00a1por la raz\u00f3n equivocada es una receta segura para el desastre y m\u00e1s dolor!<\/p>\n

There’s only one way to find out if getting back with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend is the right thing to do and that is by checking if any or all of the reasons below apply to you:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

1. You’re nostalgic and scared of turning a new page<\/h2>\n

\"recordando<\/p>\n

Poner fin a relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica<\/a> es algo doloroso y una mierda, independientemente del motivo o las circunstancias.<\/p>\n

Y lo que lo hace a\u00fan m\u00e1s confuso es la maldita nostalgia que llama a tu puerta cuando menos te lo esperas.<\/p>\n

It’s when you start thinking about all the happy moments that you shared together, recollecting the feeling of excitement when you were about to meet up with them for the first time, and so on.<\/p>\n

Recuerdas sentirte como en un romance de instituto y estabas convencido de que durar\u00eda para siempre.<\/p>\n

\"romance<\/p>\n

Pero, por desgracia, despu\u00e9s de alg\u00fan tiempo te diste cuenta de que nada lo hace y sentir nostalgia por ello forma parte del proceso de duelo.<\/p>\n

Another aspect is fear. You’re scared of turning a new page, you’re scared of entering a new relationship because you don’t want to risk experiencing the pain of a broken heart ever again.<\/p>\n

Y es entonces cuando empiezas a pensar: S\u00f3lo una llamada de tel\u00e9fono significar\u00eda el mundo para m\u00ed. Solo un mensaje de texto puede aumentar mi esperanza.<\/em> Pero, \u00bfes lo m\u00e1s inteligente?<\/p>\n

Should you reconnect with an ex because you’re nostalgic about past times and scared of turning a new page?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

If you want your ex back because you’re nostalgic about your time together and you fear the unknown, I’m sorry to tell you, but you shouldn’t do it.<\/p>\n

Getting back with your ex for these reasons is the last thing you’d want to do. Why?<\/p>\n

Porque la nostalgia y el miedo son parte inevitable del proceso de duelo, que no tiene nada que ver con echarles de menos de verdad y querer que vuelvan por las razones correctas.<\/p>\n

Lo \u00fanico en lo que debes centrarte aqu\u00ed es en el tiempo. El tiempo te curar\u00e1 y borrar\u00e1 todas las huellas de los momentos nost\u00e1lgicos y el miedo al futuro.<\/p>\n

2. Su percepci\u00f3n de su relaci\u00f3n anterior ha cambiado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When we’re about to break up with someone, we see things clearly as they are.<\/p>\n

We know exactly why we are going our separate ways and how painful it is to do so, but necessary for both partners\u2019 well-being.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de alg\u00fan tiempo, esta percepci\u00f3n de ver las cosas como son puede alterarse.<\/p>\n

Puede que cambie de forma que s\u00f3lo veas las cosas positivas de tu relaci\u00f3n pasada y descuides todas las negativas (las que te causaron romper<\/a> en primer lugar).<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Empiezas a sentirte confuso sobre por qu\u00e9 termin\u00f3 tu relaci\u00f3n y te convences de que reconectar con un ex podr\u00eda ser lo correcto. Pero, \u00bflo es realmente?<\/p>\n

\u00bfDeber\u00edas retomar la relaci\u00f3n con un ex porque tu percepci\u00f3n de la relaci\u00f3n pasada ha cambiado?<\/strong><\/p>\n

As you may assume, again the answer is no. When you no longer see things as they are or refuse to acknowledge why you broke up in the first place, you enter the zone called “Ignorance.”<\/p>\n

Deliberada o involuntariamente empiezas a ignorar todas las se\u00f1ales de alarma que llevaron a la ruptura.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It’s true that there will always be some positive things in every relationship, but you should never solely focus on only them.<\/p>\n

You should always look at the bigger picture and remember both the good and bad sides of your relationship. That’s the only way to see things clearly instead of live in an illusion.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: C\u00f3mo recuperar a tu ex novio: 6 maneras de tener \u00e9xito<\/a><\/p>\n

3. You want to know if they’re in pain and\/or if they miss you<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Since you broke up, you’ve been feeling completely devastated and the pain is real.<\/p>\n

Pasas la mayor parte del tiempo viendo El cuaderno<\/em>...con la secreta esperanza de experimentar ese tipo de amor en el futuro.<\/p>\n

Tons of ice cream, funny memes, tissues in case you get too sentimental, socializing hours cut to the minimum\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

It’s evident to both you and all the people around you that you’re in pain (which is also a part of the grieving process).<\/p>\n

\"tres<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s when it strikes you: What if my ex is not hurting like I am? What if they’re sipping cocktails, living life to the fullest, and not giving a damn about our past relationship?<\/em><\/p>\n

Preguntar a tus amigos comunes o a sus familiares no es una soluci\u00f3n, y ponerte en contacto con ellos t\u00fa mismo est\u00e1 fuera de toda duda. \u00bfO no?<\/p>\n

Should you reconnect with an ex because you want to know if they’re in pain and\/or if they miss you?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Reconnecting with an ex for the sole purpose of knowing whether they’re afflicted by the same amount of pain as you or miss you is a shitty thing to do (if you don’t miss them yourself)!<\/p>\n

You will gain absolutely nothing from the fact that they are still in pain and miss you if you’re not on the same page.<\/p>\n

Algunas personas necesitan m\u00e1s tiempo para pasar por un proceso de ruptura y otras lo hacen algo m\u00e1s r\u00e1pido. De nuevo, el tiempo es tu mejor amigo en esta situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

4. You’re afraid of being “\u2018forever alone”<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

All of your friends and close people are in a relationship or married (okay, not all of them, but most of them) and you’re freshly broken.<\/p>\n

The dating pool situation isn\u2019t getting any better and there are more and more narcissistic individuals, no-fuck-givers, and f\u00f3bicos al compromiso.<\/a><\/p>\n

If you’re a woman, you become convinced that the chances of meeting someone with a personality of Ed Sheeran<\/em> y Ryan Gosling<\/em> es uno entre un mill\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

If you’re a man, you\u2019re convinced that meeting a cute girl next door stands the same chances.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Y entonces empiezas a pensar: I’ll be forever alone. I’ll never meet anyone again who I’ll have the slightest interest in, because the world is a shitty place.<\/em><\/p>\n

En una situaci\u00f3n as\u00ed, reconectar con un ex parece la \u00fanica soluci\u00f3n l\u00f3gica. \u00bfO tal vez no?<\/p>\n

Should you reconnect with an ex because you’re afraid of being forever alone?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nope! You probably realize that they’re nothing more than just an old friend to you, but still, you want them back because you’re scared of being forever alone.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Esta no es una raz\u00f3n v\u00e1lida para volver a conectar con alguien y nunca lo ser\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Lo \u00fanico l\u00f3gico en esta situaci\u00f3n es superar el miedo saliendo con los amigos, conociendo gente nueva y disfrutando de cada momento.<\/p>\n

And, trust me, when you least expect it, you’ll meet the right one for you!<\/p>\n

5. Echas de menos tenerlos cerca<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you wake up in the morning, the first thing that comes to your mind is sending them a message, telling them how lazy you’re feeling today and how much you hate the world you live in.<\/p>\n

Or that you’re feeling inspired and grateful for new adventures (if you’re feeling optimistic).<\/p>\n

When you need help with something, they’re the first person that comes to mind. When something bad happens to you, they’re the first person you want to cry with and seek advice from.<\/p>\n

But you know you can’t do it because you broke up with them. They’re your ex and there’s no point in keeping them updated on your every thought and event. But, still\u2026<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfDeber\u00edas reconectar con un ex porque echas de menos tenerlo cerca?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s important to understand that this is not a matter of real love, but a habit of having someone around you. They were your best friend, lover, a partner in crime, and you miss all that.<\/p>\n

You texted them frequently (thousands of times a day) and now when they\u2019ve gone from your favorite person to radio silence.<\/p>\n

So, of course, you’ll miss having them around you! Every normal person would. But, still, this is not a valid reason for reconnecting with an ex.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: C\u00f3mo recuperar a tu ex novia: 17 maneras probadas de hacerlo<\/a><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ndo es razonable reconectar con un ex?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Reconectar con un ex es algo razonable s\u00f3lo en un caso y es: Cuando los amas y los echas de menos de verdad.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So, it’s time to ask yourself: How do you feel about the idea of reconnecting with them?<\/p>\n

\u00bfLa sensaci\u00f3n de echarles de menos es tan intensa que le impide funcionar correctamente durante sus tareas cotidianas?<\/p>\n

\u00bfSientes en tus entra\u00f1as que reconectar con tu ex es lo correcto?<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Y la m\u00e1s importante: \u00bfC\u00f3mo te sentir\u00edas si te rechazaran?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s normal that you’d feel disappointed, but would you feel mad at them, like really mad? If yes, then you’re not truly and genuinely in love with them.<\/p>\n

When we really love someone, their happiness becomes a reflection of our own. When we know that they’re happy, we’re happy for them.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Sabes que amas de verdad a alguien cuando su felicidad y su bienestar son m\u00e1s importantes que los tuyos.<\/p>\n

When you’re willingly and wholeheartedly ready to let them go because they’ve found their happiness in another place without you.<\/p>\n

If that’s not the case, then seguir adelante<\/a> es lo \u00fanico razonable.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 15 se\u00f1ales claras de que tu ex te est\u00e1 poniendo a prueba (+c\u00f3mo manejarlo)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo reconectar con un ex?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If you concluded that you genuinely still love and miss them and you’re totally ready to reconnect with your ex, you’re probably wondering how to do it (so that you don’t come off as desperate or pushy).<\/p>\n

Enviarles un mensaje de texto por primera vez despu\u00e9s de la Norma de no contacto<\/a> es como saltar a aguas desconocidas. No tienes ni idea de cu\u00e1l ser\u00e1 el resultado final.<\/p>\n

Llamarles es quiz\u00e1 a\u00fan peor, porque no tienes ninguna posibilidad de pensar tu respuesta de antemano.<\/p>\n

Meeting them in person is also a risky endeavor \u2013 then you\u2019d have to pay attention to your body language as well (like the act of speaking isn\u2019t enough).<\/p>\n

\"saliendo<\/p>\n

Elijas la opci\u00f3n que elijas, es arriesgada, pero si lo haces bien, tienes grandes posibilidades de recibir una respuesta positiva y establecer una conversaci\u00f3n significativa virtualmente o en persona.<\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfc\u00f3mo reconectar con un ex<\/em>?<\/strong><\/p>\n

You do it by following your heart. You don’t think too much about what you will say, as long as the words come from the depths of your heart.<\/p>\n

Still, pay attention not to overdo it. You don’t want to shower them with too much affection all of a sudden or with too much explaining and as a result, scare them away.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 7 peligros de reconectar con un ex estando casado<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mano<\/p>\n

Acu\u00e9rdate: Los pasos de beb\u00e9 son tus mejores amigos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Simply ask them how they’re doing and let the conversation unravel at its natural pace. Don’t think too much, don’t say too much.<\/p>\n

Just say exactly what’s in your heart and if you’re meant to be, they’ll surely understand the language of your love for them and act accordingly.<\/em><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: C\u00f3mo hacer que tu ex te quiera de nuevo: 10 m\u00e9todos que realmente funcionan<\/a><\/p>\n

\"Reconectar<\/p>\n

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