{"id":6786,"date":"2017-10-13T12:52:28","date_gmt":"2017-10-13T12:52:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=6786"},"modified":"2022-07-23T09:25:22","modified_gmt":"2022-07-23T09:25:22","slug":"una-mujer-otra-importancia-amor-propio-convencida-dejar-relacion-toxica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/una-mujer-otra-importancia-amor-propio-convencida-dejar-relacion-toxica\/","title":{"rendered":"De una mujer a otra: La importancia del amor propio y lo que me convenci\u00f3 de dejar una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica"},"content":{"rendered":"

This isn\u2019t a letter sugar-coating today\u2019s idea of a relationship. This isn\u2019t a letter trying to convince you to believe in God. This isn\u2019t a letter about feminism nor is it from a feminist perspective. This isn\u2019t a letter meant to place unattainable expectations on today\u2019s men in a relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest: This generation\u2019s idea of a relationship can be pretty pathetic. However, not all relationships are detrimental. Mine just happened to be. This is simply a letter of empowerment, from one female to another, filled with important reminders we may forget to apply in our life; maybe because we\u2019re the type to tolerate more than we should from others in fear of losing them altogether. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pero lo que deber\u00edamos temer m\u00e1s perder como consecuencia somos nosotros mismos.<\/a> I am a survivor of a toxic relationship, and you can be, too. These are the words I wish I had been given as advice before I engaged in my first serious relationship. I can\u2019t help but think I wouldn\u2019t have stayed as long as I did if I\u2019d had this advice and applied it. <\/span><\/p>\n

El amor no tiene reglas. El amor no tiene manual de instrucciones. Aunque cueste aceptarlo, el amor es un acierto o un error. Sin embargo, las grietas que puede dejar en tu coraz\u00f3n son permanentes. De mujer a mujer, aqu\u00ed tienes trece recordatorios a los que aferrarte en tu camino hacia el amor. Escr\u00edbelos. Cu\u00e9lgalos sobre tu escritorio. Hazte responsable de ellos. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Hasta que un hombre t\u00f3xico se cure a s\u00ed mismo, ser\u00e1 t\u00f3xico para toda mujer que intente amarle.<\/span> <\/b><\/h1>\n

Por duro que sea o\u00edrlo, no se puede cambiar a alguien<\/a> que no ve un problema en sus acciones. Un hombre no actuar\u00e1 bien si no quiere. No pierda el sue\u00f1o por cosas que est\u00e1n fuera de su control o jurisdicci\u00f3n. Dejarlo podr\u00eda ser su mayor lecci\u00f3n y su mayor p\u00e9rdida. Recuerde: Dios es el \u00fanico que puede cambiar a alguien. Esto, se lo puedo prometer: Deje esto en Sus manos, y sus ansiedades se marchitar\u00e1n.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Un hombre de verdad no te privar\u00e1.<\/b><\/span><\/h1>\n

He is not the one for you if he doesn\u2019t take your relationship needs or wants into consideration. We, as females, need reassurance and validation. This is not an unrealistic demand but rather it should be a more natural desire to do things for somebody. What you ask for will be  \u2018too much\u2019 from the wrong person. El hombre adecuado ir\u00e1 m\u00e1s all\u00e1<\/a> y se tragar\u00e1 su orgullo sin que tengas que ped\u00edrselo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Reciprocation is also fundamental. You should never have to guess or wonder how he feels about you. Failure to see a reciprocation in feelings or behavior unless asked for is a red flag. A real man will show you off – in public, on social media, in front of his friends, in front of his family, and not because he feels obligated, not because he\u2019s trying to prove a point, but because he genuinely wants to. <\/span><\/p>\n

El hombre para ti es aquel que se siente extremadamente orgulloso de tenerte y lo transmite al mundo. Qu\u00e9date con el hombre que te hace cumplidos al azar y nunca deja de recordarte lo hermosa que eres y la suerte de hombre que tiene. El hombre para ti no podr\u00e1 creer que tenga el honor de llamarte suya. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. No deber\u00edas tener que cambiar qui\u00e9n eres para complacer a alguien.<\/b> <\/span><\/h1>\n

You are never \u2018too much\u2019; your \u2018extra\u2019 qualities for one man is another man\u2019s desire for more. Love is not someone trying to change you, whether that be how you look, your personality, your behavior, or your beliefs. The only thing he should pursue  to change is your last name. He should take you exactly how you are, because you are perfect, one-of-a-kind, unmatched, and authentic. <\/span><\/p>\n

Si hoy quieres arreglarte y maquillarte, HAZLO. No dejes que el hombre t\u00f3xico te hace sentir<\/a> bad about looking like a ten, even if he\u2019s not around to see it. Remember: Nobody can do you better than you can. If you do feel the desire to work on yourself or see room for self-improvement, a real man will be nothing less than supportive of that.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. T\u00fa vales m\u00e1s que cualquier cantidad de dinero<\/b><\/span>.<\/span> <\/span><\/h1>\n

T\u00fa eres SUFICIENTE. No des a nadie el poder de determinar tu val\u00eda. <\/a>Just because someone else does not recognize your value does not mean you are any less desirable. If he makes you feel unworthy of love or happiness, he is not the one. Your kindness, commitment to him and unconditional love should not be labeled as weakness and should not be taken advantage of. After giving your all to someone who may not have deserved it, just imagine what you\u2019ll do for the right one.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\"Mujer<\/p>\n

5. Te mereces un compromiso.<\/b><\/span><\/h1>\n

Deja de poner excusas a un hombre que no se compromete contigo. Un hombre que te desea te perseguir\u00e1 con todas sus fuerzas. A <\/span>chico<\/span><\/i> es vacilante. A <\/span>hombre<\/span><\/i> knows what he wants and is not indecisive. There are too many fish in the sea to settle for the one who doesn\u2019t seek to love you correctly. Do not lose sleep over someone who has to figure out if you\u2019re worth it or not. La indecisi\u00f3n tambi\u00e9n es una decisi\u00f3n.<\/a> <\/span><\/p>\n

Involving yourself with someone without a title yields more emotional destruction than improvement. Do not award someone boyfriend privileges when he is not fully committed to you. A real man will not play with your feelings like it\u2019s a game and will not entertain any other woman who isn\u2019t you. A man who wants you will work to understand every intimate detail of your mind, body, and soul. <\/span><\/p>\n

Remember: One man\u2019s, \u201cI\u2019m not ready to commit\u201d is another man\u2019s, \u201cShe\u2019s exactly who I\u2019ve been praying for.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

6. No debe sentirse manipulado ni controlado.<\/b><\/span><\/h1>\n

If he makes you feel at fault for all of your relationship problems, he is not the one for you. If he frequently plays the \u2018victim\u2019 card, this is a major indication you are dealing with a toxic man. You are not there to absorb the blame for every fallout. Similarly, believe this: The right man for you will not use your past faults against you, especially those obstacles you have fought so hard to overcome. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estar con el tipo que se quedar\u00e1<\/a> durante los tiempos dif\u00edciles, tambi\u00e9n, y se <\/span>mutuamente<\/span><\/i> work through relationship issues that may arise. Threats to end or leave the relationship are signs of manipulation, and nonetheless are childish. The man for you will not make you feel like there was \u2018something more you could\u2019ve done\u2019 for your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

In addition, your significant other should not expect you to do anything you\u2019re uncomfortable with and then make you feel bad for it. Do not let some buscavidas, tipo inmaduro<\/a> explotarte de esta manera. <\/span><\/p>\n

Los hombres de verdad son pacientes. Con un hombre de verdad, te sentir\u00e1s en confianza. Te tomar\u00e1 la palabra <\/span>primero<\/span><\/i> time, and your truth will not be a foreign concept. You will not feel afraid to go to him with anything or talk about what\u2019s on your mind, fearing how he\u2019ll respond. This is a trait I think all females yearn for. Most importantly, do not ever let a man convince you that you need him. Do not place the power to walk all over you in someone\u2019s hands.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. No te conformes con menos de lo que mereces.<\/b><\/span><\/h1>\n

You deserve the world and are worthy of being treated like a queen. Choose to be the rare woman in today\u2019s society who is brave enough <\/span>no<\/span><\/i> que se conforme con cualquier relaci\u00f3n, sino que busque la relaci\u00f3n que Dios le ha reservado. Atesora tu coraz\u00f3n, tu mente y tu cuerpo. No est\u00e9s dispuesta a entregar tan f\u00e1cilmente esos objetos de valor hasta que alguien demuestre con creces que es digno de ellos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Be strong enough to refrain from giving someone your all until you\u2019re receiving their all. Most importantly, no te conformes con menos de lo que mereces<\/a> s\u00f3lo porque temes que no haya nada mejor en el futuro. La vida es preciosa, y tu tiempo tambi\u00e9n. No lo desperdicies con alguien que no te valora. No eres mediocre, as\u00ed que no dejes que un hombre te trate como trata a los dem\u00e1s.<\/span><\/p>\n

8. Debes sentirte apreciado.<\/b><\/span><\/h1>\n

With the right man, you will not have to fight for his time or attention. You will not have to chase after him like he\u2019s a celebrity who barely has time for a fan. You will not feel in competition with other women. Your presence will not be a bother. You will not feel neglected or placed on the back burner. You will not feel average or replaceable. Your efforts will be noticed, appreciated, and reciprocated.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\"Hombre<\/p>\n

9. Ten paciencia.<\/b><\/span><\/h1>\n

One day, maybe not today, everything will work out. Patience is a powerful virtue. One day, God will gift you with someone who gives you everything you\u2019d prayed for in your other half. Choose the guy who is husband material. Be with the man who prays he crosses paths with a woman like you. Seek relationships with long-term goals in mind. <\/span><\/p>\n

Do not stick with someone just because they\u2019re there. Be selective with who you choose to form an intimate bond with. If you are unhappy now in your relationship, just imagine how unhappy you\u2019ll be 10 or 20 years from now, in a marriage. You are young, with your whole life ahead of you. This time should be dedicated to exploring and discovering the kind of man you desire to be with for the rest of your life. Take out the trash when need be.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n:<\/strong> Qu\u00e9date soltera hasta que conozcas a un chico como este<\/a><\/p>\n

10. S\u00e9 consciente y sincero contigo mismo.<\/b><\/span><\/h1>\n

Do not give chances away like freebies. Allotting a male chance after chance only validates his behavior. He will only hurt you again, whether emotionally, mentally, or physically. Do not let love blind you or fall in love with a man\u2019s language or rhetoric. Hold him accountable by his actions only. Hypocritical men scream of toxicity. <\/span><\/p>\n

This will only result in emotional anxiety that holds no place in your life. Loving someone is not a free pass to overlook their bad qualities or red flags in the relationship. Be with the man who has good intentions for you. If he doesn\u2019t, accept it for what it is and remove yourself from the equation. <\/span><\/p>\n

Debes respetarte y quererte lo suficiente como para reservar tus emociones y tu energ\u00eda para alguien que te trate bien. como la reina<\/a> que eres. Es importante reconocer la diferencia entre el enamoramiento y una conexi\u00f3n real. Una conexi\u00f3n real te ofrecer\u00e1 un sinf\u00edn de beneficios. El apego te chupar\u00e1 la vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

11. El progreso en tu relaci\u00f3n y en ti mismo es crucial.<\/b> <\/span><\/h1>\n

Deber\u00edas not feel like you\u2019re forcing love or the relationship.<\/a> A relationship is an investment, meaning it should grow and flourish naturally. Your time and energy are precious. Stagnation in a relationship is a red flag you\u2019re being taken advantage of. Do not stick around for someone who does not offer mutual feelings or does not hold the same, healthy vision for your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

12. Mereces que te apoyen.<\/b><\/span><\/h1>\n

Si \u00e9l no apoya tus metas y aspiraciones, est\u00e9 o no de acuerdo con ellas, no es el indicado. El hombre para ti ser\u00e1 tu mayor admirador, te har\u00e1 responsable en todos los aspectos, alentar\u00e1 e inspirar\u00e1 tu autocrecimiento y te guiar\u00e1 hacia la rectitud propia, NO hacia un comportamiento inmoral. <\/span><\/p>\n

En una relaci\u00f3n sana, t\u00fa como individuo crecer\u00e1s y prosperar\u00e1s sin arte. Una relaci\u00f3n enfermiza te frenar\u00e1 en muchos aspectos. Si notas que te alejas de otras relaciones, aficiones o responsabilidades, s\u00f3lo para mantenerle contento, no ignores esta se\u00f1al de alarma. Esta es una caracter\u00edstica de un individuo controlador. No te quedes en una relaci\u00f3n en la que sientes que te est\u00e1n reprimiendo. Estar en una relaci\u00f3n no significa que ya no tengas libertad o autonom\u00eda.<\/span><\/p>\n

13. Tu felicidad tambi\u00e9n importa.<\/b><\/span><\/h1>\n

Do not sacrifice your happiness for someone else\u2019s. The right relationship will not cost you friends, family, space, things you love to do, prosperity, or opportunity. Choose yourself. Every single time. Self-love should be at the top of your priority list. One of the most dangerous choices you can make is placing your happiness into the hands of a significant other. <\/span><\/p>\n

No te agotes intentando hacer feliz a alguien que no te devuelve el favor. Si \u00e9l es feliz, pero t\u00fa no, no ignores esta se\u00f1al de alarma. Tu felicidad importa tanto como la suya. Un hombre de verdad no dejar\u00e1 que te vayas a dormir por la noche pregunt\u00e1ndote si todav\u00eda importas o tienes un lugar en su vida. Si te hace llorar m\u00e1s que re\u00edr, no tiene madera de marido. <\/span><\/p>\n

Si es el primero al que corres con buenas noticias o para hablarle de tu d\u00eda, sin embargo responder\u00e1 de una manera pesimista que te har\u00e1 sentir que no mereces sentirte feliz, no es material para marido.<\/a> Cr\u00e9elo: Un hombre que te lleva a la felicidad en lugar de rob\u00e1rtela, siempre merece la pena la espera. <\/span><\/p>\n

Te mereces m\u00e1s que lo m\u00ednimo en una relaci\u00f3n. Tener un alto nivel de exigencia no te convierte en una persona muy exigente. Toma la decisi\u00f3n de negarte a situarte por debajo del pedestal m\u00e1s alto. Hoy, el\u00edgete e invierte en ti. Ma\u00f1ana, el\u00edgete a ti e invierte en ti. Y observa c\u00f3mo se multiplican los beneficios.<\/span><\/p>\n

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This isn\u2019t a letter sugar-coating today\u2019s idea of a relationship. This isn\u2019t a letter trying to convince you to believe in God. This isn\u2019t a letter about feminism nor is it from a feminist perspective. This isn\u2019t a letter meant to place unattainable expectations on today\u2019s men in a relationship. Let\u2019s be honest: This generation\u2019s…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":6787,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6786","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/eder-oliveira-180877.jpg",800,530,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","parent":29620,"count":228,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29625,"category_count":228,"category_description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","cat_name":"toxic relationship","category_nicename":"toxic-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6786","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6786"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6786\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6787"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6786"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6786"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6786"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}