{"id":68201,"date":"2020-05-06T16:57:55","date_gmt":"2020-05-06T16:57:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=68201"},"modified":"2022-06-10T12:20:55","modified_gmt":"2022-06-10T12:20:55","slug":"me-esta-enganando-o-estoy-paranoica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/me-esta-enganando-o-estoy-paranoica\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfMe est\u00e1 enga\u00f1ando o estoy paranoica? 10 preguntas que debes hacerte"},"content":{"rendered":"

When you start seeing signs that you’re dealing with an unfaithful partner, the first question you ask yourself is “Is he cheating on me am I paranoid?”<\/p>\n

You don’t know whether you’re overreacting, or if this guy really is making a fool of you and sneaking around behind your back.<\/p>\n

Naturally, you feel helpless. You don’t want to accuse your loved one of doing something he hasn\u2019t done and make yourself look crazy but you don’t want to keep on living a lie either.<\/p>\n

The following questions can be thought of as an “Is he cheating on me or am I paranoid” quiz.<\/p>\n

Answer them as honestly as possible and if most of the clues point toward him having an affair, it\u2019ll help you decide what to do.<\/p>\n

1. \u00bfHas tenido estas dudas en el pasado?<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Les guste admitirlo o no, hay algunas personas que acusan constantemente a sus parejas de infidelidad, incluso cuando no tienen motivos para dudar de ellas. <\/p>\n

They\u2019re simply posesivo y celoso<\/a> and can\u2019t help but be suspicious of their loved ones.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re one of those people, you\u2019ve probably asked yourself \u201cIs he cheating me, or am I paranoid?\u201d before. You’ve probably experienced this type of ansiedad en las relaciones<\/a> before. However, previously it\u2019s turned out to be a false alarm every single time.<\/p>\n

Por suerte, una vez que tuviste todas las pruebas, te diste cuenta de que todo formaba parte de tu imaginaci\u00f3n. Tu novio nunca te enga\u00f1\u00f3 y todo estaba en tu cabeza.<\/p>\n

In this case, maybe it\u2019s time to rethink your doubts. There is a huge possibility of history repeating itself.<\/p>\n

I know you can\u2019t control this but if these questions are something you have struggled with before for no particular reason, there is a chance that you have nothing to worry about this time either.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, it\u2019s a completely different situation if this is the first time you\u2019ve ever faced these doubts.<\/p>\n

En este caso, es probable que su instinto est\u00e9 intentando enviarle un mensaje y que estas sospechas sean algo que deba investigarse m\u00e1s a fondo.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019ve never accused him of cheating in the past.<\/p>\n

Therefore, something different must be going on in your lives for you to even have these thoughts in the first place and you’re probably not just paranoid about your partner cheating.<\/p>\n

2. \u00bfQu\u00e9 piensan tus amigos?<\/h2>\n

\"consolando<\/p>\n

T\u00fa y tu pareja sois las dos \u00fanicas personas en vuestra relaci\u00f3n sentimental.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the ones whose opinions matter, the ones who should be making all the decisions, and the only ones who will suffer the consequences of those decisions.<\/p>\n

However, when you\u2019re going through these kinds of struggles in your mind, sometimes it\u2019s not a bad idea to talk to a third person. You need a wider perspective on things.<\/p>\n

Necesitas a alguien que te diga la verdad, por dura que sea. Alguien que sea lo suficientemente objetivo como para ver las cosas de forma realista.<\/p>\n

B\u00e1sicamente, en esta situaci\u00f3n, podr\u00edas utilizar el punto de vista de alguien que no sea parcial y que no tenga absolutamente ninguna implicaci\u00f3n emocional en la historia o en vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Los mejores para el trabajo son sus amigos m\u00e1s cercanos<\/a>compa\u00f1eros de trabajo o familiares.<\/p>\n

Pero ten cuidado en qui\u00e9n conf\u00edas, porque hay gente malvada que utilizar\u00e1 tus secretos y vulnerabilidades en tu contra cuando menos te lo esperes.<\/p>\n

Sit down with your best friend or a close family member and tell them what you see. Ask them directly: “Is he cheating on me or am I paranoid?”<\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farate de ser lo m\u00e1s sincero posible. En lugar de hablar de las cosas como t\u00fa las ves, cu\u00e9ntaselo todo exactamente como es.<\/p>\n

Of course, none of these people can be the judge. They can never tell you for sure what\u2019s going on in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, they can open your eyes and tell you if it\u2019s more likely that you\u2019re just paranoid about your partner cheating or that he really is having an affair.<\/p>\n

3. \u00bfEsconde su m\u00f3vil?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Uno de los primeros signos reveladores del enga\u00f1o es que el tramposo<\/a> empieza a esconder su tel\u00e9fono de la nada.<\/p>\n

After all, this is his main means of communication with his lover, so he has to make sure you don\u2019t get your hands on it and find out about his affair.<\/p>\n

Therefore, this is the first thing you should pay close attention to when you’re asking yourself “Am I paranoid or is he cheating on me?”.<\/p>\n

\u00bfDe repente ha empezado a llevarse el tel\u00e9fono al ba\u00f1o? \u00bfHa dejado de cargarlo en alg\u00fan lugar visible?<\/p>\n

\u00bfHa empezado a dormir con el tel\u00e9fono debajo de la almohada? \u00bfHa cambiado su contrase\u00f1a o activado la identificaci\u00f3n facial o por huella dactilar?<\/p>\n

Una cosa es que tu novio o marido lleve haciendo todo esto desde que est\u00e1is juntos. Puede que solo sea un hombre que valora su intimidad y, en ese caso, probablemente no haya nada de qu\u00e9 preocuparse.<\/p>\n

However, if he used to be completely open about everything going on on his phone or laptop but has suddenly shifted his behavior, that\u2019s a bit strange.<\/p>\n

No cabe la menor duda de que oculta algo.<\/p>\n

Puede que no env\u00ede mensajes a ninguna mujer en particular. Tal vez \u00e9l es activo en los sitios de citas, como Tinder, que es un problema bastante y tambi\u00e9n es un tipo de enga\u00f1o.<\/p>\n

In that case, don\u2019t snoop around and become a stalker, even though this is probably the first impulse you have. After all, you should respect his privacy.<\/p>\n

Instead, ask him directly if you can see his phone. If he makes a huge fight out of it and gets all defensive, I\u2019m sorry to break it to you but your doubts are probably true.<\/p>\n

4. \u00bfCambi\u00f3 de repente su horario?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve been with this man for ages and up until now, you two have had a relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>. Conoces la esencia de su ser y, naturalmente, conoces su agenda.<\/p>\n

Sabe a qu\u00e9 hora suele despertarse, d\u00f3nde toma el caf\u00e9, cu\u00e1ndo vuelve del trabajo y con qu\u00e9 frecuencia sale con sus amigos.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, su rutina ha cambiado repentinamente, sin ninguna raz\u00f3n espec\u00edfica y eso es una se\u00f1al alarmante.<\/p>\n

Cuando alguien tiene una aventura, necesita tiempo para estar con su amante. Sin embargo, esto se convierte en un problema cuando viven con un horario estricto.<\/p>\n

Por eso tienen que cambiar sus rutinas para encajar a su amante y eso es exactamente lo que tu pareja est\u00e1 intentando hacer.<\/p>\n

Therefore, all of a sudden, he allegedly starts going out with friends more often than before. He is always so busy at work that he has to work overtime (however, his finances don\u2019t seem much better).<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t live together, he\u2019ll probably tell you that he was sleeping late every time you couldn\u2019t reach him.<\/p>\n

He might tell you that he\u2019s going to sleep earlier just to avoid seeing you and so he can have some time to see the other woman in his life.<\/p>\n

Aunque te diga d\u00f3nde est\u00e1, es probable que haya cambiado sus restaurantes, cafeter\u00edas o discotecas habituales.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t want to be seen with his lover and he is afraid that he might run into you so he goes someplace else.<\/p>\n

5. \u00bfSe ha vuelto diferente en el dormitorio?<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Muchas mujeres dicen que descubrieron que su pareja las enga\u00f1aba porque dej\u00f3 de acostarse con ellas.<\/p>\n

After all, this guy is having some fun under the sheets with his lover so he doesn\u2019t have enough energy to please his girlfriend or wife.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, la triste verdad es que estar con este otra mujer<\/a> es m\u00e1s interesante para \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

Hace todo lo que puede para demostrarle que es un gran semental y no tiene ganas de esforzarse cuando est\u00e1 cerca de su compa\u00f1era sentimental.<\/p>\n

Bueno, aunque esto puede ser una gran se\u00f1al de alarma, hay que tener en cuenta que puede haber algunas otras razones detr\u00e1s de este problema.<\/p>\n

Maybe your boyfriend is experiencing some health problems that he doesn\u2019t want to talk to you about, or maybe he is not happy with his performance in bed and that dissatisfaction has killed the mood.<\/p>\n

Quiz\u00e1 est\u00e9 al borde de la depresi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

En cualquier caso, antes de acusarle de ser infiel bas\u00e1ndote s\u00f3lo en este signo, ser\u00eda mejor que hablaras con \u00e9l sinceramente sobre la situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, you should be aware that some men\u2019s performance under the sheets actually improves after or during an affair.<\/p>\n

Toda esta situaci\u00f3n les excita y se sienten mejores amantes s\u00f3lo porque dos mujeres les desean al mismo tiempo.<\/p>\n

Otra cosa que puede darte una pista de que te est\u00e1 enga\u00f1ando son algunos de sus nuevos movimientos en el dormitorio.<\/p>\n

Maybe he\u2019s been educating himself and wants to experiment but there is also a possibility that this new woman has shown him some tricks which he is using on you as well.<\/p>\n

6. \u00bfSe ha vuelto m\u00e1s atento?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

When your partner becomes more attentive but at the same time your gut feeling is telling you that something is wrong, the question \u201cIs he cheating on me or am I paranoid?\u201d is inevitable.<\/p>\n

After all, this man has finally become the boyfriend you\u2019ve always wanted him to be and you have a chance of having a healthy relationship but even that doesn\u2019t satisfy you.<\/p>\n

You feel guilty for your thoughts but you can\u2019t chase them away, no matter how hard you try.<\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you one thing. It has been proven that any sudden shift in behavior that starts without any apparent reason can be a sign that something \u2013 including infidelity \u2013 might be going on.<\/p>\n

So, you\u2019re not crazy for having your doubts. In fact, many women who have been cheated on say that their partners became extra kind and loving the moment they started their affairs.<\/p>\n

The problem here is not this man\u2019s behavior. What is off is his change in behavior, which has come out of nowhere.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you: there is a chance he\u2019s been cheating on you<\/a>. Sin embargo, se siente culpable por su comportamiento, as\u00ed que se ha vuelto muy cuidadoso contigo.<\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n existe la posibilidad de que, inconsciente o deliberadamente, intente enmascarar sus vergonzosas acciones.<\/p>\n

He assumes that you\u2019ll never get to the bottom of his actions if he takes care of you and treats you like you\u2019re the only woman he has eyes for.<\/p>\n

7. \u00bfHa cambiado de aspecto?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Being attractive and taking care of your looks isn\u2019t reserved for women only.<\/p>\n

De hecho, es estupendo ver a un hombre que sigue interesado en lucir lo mejor posible para su pareja, incluso despu\u00e9s de a\u00f1os de relaci\u00f3n o matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, se ha demostrado que los hombres que enga\u00f1an cambian repentinamente su aspecto para mejor.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo, sabe que lo amas<\/a> pase lo que pase, as\u00ed que piensa que no hay necesidad de arreglarse para ti. Sin embargo, las cosas son diferentes cuando se trata de esta otra mujer.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s just met her and wants to make the best possible first impression. Besides, this girl still hasn\u2019t gotten to know him so all he has are his looks.<\/p>\n

De repente, un infiel cambia su corte de pelo. Si tiene canas, puede incluso te\u00f1\u00edrselas del color original.<\/p>\n

He stops wearing old sweatpants and T-shirts when he goes out. Instead, he changes to fancy shirts \u2013 or even suits.<\/p>\n

Cambia de desodorante y perfume. Se ducha m\u00e1s a menudo y presta especial atenci\u00f3n al cuidado de su piel.<\/p>\n

Esto ocurre sobre todo si su pareja ha encontrado a alguien m\u00e1s joven. Pretende ser m\u00e1s compatible con esta chica y hace todo lo posible por volver a parecer un soltero.<\/p>\n

Relacionado: \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 los maridos infieles siguen casados? Las 12 razones m\u00e1s comunes<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

8. \u00bfHa cambiado su actividad en las redes sociales?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Cuando tu pareja te enga\u00f1a, su actividad en las redes sociales cambia.<\/p>\n

Sobre todo si se presenta como soltero en lugar de como marido o novio infiel, que en realidad lo es.<\/p>\n

Puedes darte cuenta de que algo no va bien si ha borrado todas las fotos de vosotros juntos de sus perfiles en las redes sociales.<\/p>\n

Of course, it’s different if he has never posted any clues of your relationship from day one because he is simply the kind of person who wants to keep his relaciones fuera de las plataformas sociales<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, si sus perfiles estaban llenos de tu presencia pero eso ha cambiado y no tiene ninguna excusa v\u00e1lida para este cambio, podr\u00edas verlo como una gran bandera roja.<\/p>\n

9. \u00bfResponde a tus llamadas y mensajes?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Aqu\u00ed hay otro revelador se\u00f1al de que te enga\u00f1a<\/a> connected to his cell phone. In today\u2019s era, we\u2019re all stuck to our phones most of the time, right?<\/p>\n

Pues bien, tu pareja se comporta de otra manera. De hecho, rara vez responde a los mensajes de texto que le env\u00edas y tampoco contesta a tus llamadas.<\/p>\n

When you confront him about this, he tells you that he hasn\u2019t heard his phone ringing, that he hasn\u2019t seen your text messages, or that he forgot to reply.<\/p>\n

However, when he is with you, he doesn\u2019t let his cell phone out of his hands for even a second. He is env\u00eda constantemente mensajes de texto a alguien y es reservado<\/a> al respecto.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, I have to disappoint you and tell you that him answering your calls and texts at the same speed he always has isn\u2019t a guarantee that he is being one hundred percent fiel<\/a>.<\/p>\n

After all, there is a possibility that this other woman knows about you. Yes, as much as this appears hard to believe, he might ask her to be silent while he is talking to you so you don\u2019t suspect a thing.<\/p>\n

10. \u00bfEs reservado con sus finanzas?<\/h2>\n

\"billetes<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re wondering \u201cIs he cheating on me or am I paranoid?\u201d one of the first things you should pay attention to are your partner\u2019s finances.<\/p>\n

This will be somewhat difficult to do if you are not married or don\u2019t live together. After all, you are separate individuals and you have no access whatsoever when it comes to his money.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, even in this scenario, you can still notice some changes if you look closely. Has he started complaining about being broke all the time but you can\u2019t see where his money is going?<\/p>\n

He hasn\u2019t made any investments, his paychecks are the same, and he hasn\u2019t made any crucial changes in his life to justify his lack of cash.<\/p>\n

I hate to break it to you but it\u2019s possible that he\u2019s spending his money on a chica de compa\u00f1\u00eda<\/a>.<\/p>\n

After all, he\u2019s just met this woman and it is clear that he wants to impress her, so he might be getting her expensive gifts or taking her out on fancy dinner dates.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t forget that living a double life isn\u2019t cheap. Not to mention the effort, energy, and time he has to put in.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, antes de acusarle y condenarle por algo que quiz\u00e1 no haya hecho, hable con su pareja.<\/p>\n

Maybe he is going through some financial difficulties he doesn\u2019t want to burden you with, or he is saving to take you on a trip or to buy you something nice.<\/p>\n

Por supuesto, si se pone a la defensiva y se niega a darte una explicaci\u00f3n, es probable que algo no vaya bien y deber\u00edas prepararte para recuperaci\u00f3n de la aventura<\/a>. <\/p>\n

\"\u00bfMe<\/p>\n

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