{"id":7162,"date":"2020-05-19T13:32:54","date_gmt":"2020-05-19T13:32:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=7162"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:34:59","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:34:59","slug":"dentro-de-la-mente-chica-piensa-isnt-lo-suficientemente-bueno","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/dentro-de-la-mente-chica-piensa-isnt-lo-suficientemente-bueno\/","title":{"rendered":"La mente de una chica que cree que no es lo bastante buena"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cuando dejes a alguien, cuando cierres la puerta de la vida de alguien desde fuera, cuando digas tu \u00faltimo adi\u00f3s, presta atenci\u00f3n a lo que dices. Cuando salgas de la vida de alguien, elige bien tus palabras.<\/p>\n

Porque, una vez que dices lo que tienes que decir en voz alta, no hay vuelta atr\u00e1s. No hay vuelta atr\u00e1s en lo que dijiste, y no hay que decirlo de nuevo para hacerlo bien porque la primera vez que lo dijiste, sali\u00f3 mal.<\/p>\n

Una vez que pronuncias las palabras de un adi\u00f3s definitivo, el da\u00f1o que haces es permanente, pero la forma en que te despides marca la diferencia. La forma en que lo dices determina cu\u00e1nto da\u00f1o has hecho.<\/a><\/p>\n

Mira, hay una chica que parece como cualquier otra chica normal por fuera. Para algunos es guapa, para otros no tanto.<\/p>\n

Para algunos es divertida e inteligente, para otros no tanto. Algunos la adoran, otros no tanto.<\/p>\n

Ella es lo suficientemente buena para algunos, para otros no tanto. Nada de esto importar\u00eda si fuera lo suficientemente buena para s\u00ed misma.<\/p>\n

Lo fue, una vez. Pero ya no.<\/p>\n

When someone you care about utterly shows you day by day they think you\u2019re not good enough, when someone you choose every day doesn\u2019t bother to choose you, when someone is on the top of your priority list and they shove you down on theirs, no matter how strong you might think you are, there will be words of doubt whispering in your ears that you\u2019re just not good enough.<\/p>\n

And if you don\u2019t make them shut up or if somebody else doesn’t come along to show you that you are, indeed, good enough, you\u2019ll be convinced you\u2019re not good enough. This is exactly what happened to her.<\/p>\n

When you put as your priority someone who\u2019s not really good to you, it is doomed to end up badly for you. When you welcome someone in your life who doesn\u2019t know what to do with your kindness, you\u2019re doomed to be broken by this person.<\/p>\n

Y aqu\u00ed es exactamente cuando todo fue cuesta abajo para ella.<\/p>\n

Siente que ha perdido el control de su vida.<\/strong><\/a> Odia despertarse por las ma\u00f1anas y dejarse vencer por sus propios pensamientos. Odia a sus propios demonios, pero no tiene ni idea de c\u00f3mo librarse de ellos.<\/p>\n

As if she wouldn\u2019t like to be normal. But how do you get back to normal when whatever you do is somehow never good enough?<\/p>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Ya no tiene fuerzas para luchar contra los obst\u00e1culos que encuentra en el camino.<\/strong> Somehow, no matter what she does, it\u2019s either wrong or not good enough.<\/p>\n

Las cosas nunca van a su favor y todo lo que puede salir mal, sale mal seguro.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re constantly punched down by life, at one point, you have no strength to get back up again and fight. She decided to stay down and let everything go to hell because she thinks that\u2019s where everything has headed anyway.<\/p>\n

Se culpa por cada persona que la abandona.<\/strong> She keeps asking herself if there is anything she could\u2019ve done to avoid it.<\/p>\n

No deja de preguntarse qu\u00e9 fue lo que hizo para que la abandonaran.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEstar\u00eda mejor hoy si se hubiera re\u00eddo m\u00e1s o si hubiera hecho todo lo que le ped\u00edan? \u00bfSe habr\u00edan quedado entonces?<\/p>\n

She can\u2019t remember the last time someone made her a priority.<\/strong> Ella es la que siempre pone a la gente antes que a s\u00ed misma.<\/p>\n

She always gave everything and even the best of her, but somehow people didn\u2019t care enough to notice.<\/p>\n

They haven\u2019t noticed her efforts, her \u2018give-ups\u2019 to please them and God knows what else. Nobody cared to notice she was the one that deserved it all but got nothing.<\/p>\n

Apenas encuentra fuerzas para salir adelante por s\u00ed misma.<\/strong> She\u2019s hardly going to get out of her dark place on her own.<\/p>\n

And you have to admit it\u2014we all need a little help from time to time. We weren\u2019t born to live our lives on our own.<\/p>\n

A veces, necesitamos un peque\u00f1o recordatorio amistoso para darnos cuenta de que, de hecho, somos lo suficientemente buenos. Ella necesita un peque\u00f1o recordatorio de que lo que piensa est\u00e1 sobre todo en su cabeza.<\/p>\n

Necesita que alguien le recuerde que nunca ser\u00e1 suficiente para la gente equivocada.<\/p>\n

But that\u2019s OK. She needs to be reminded that she is going to be more than enough for the right people.<\/p>\n

Necesita que le recuerden que en la vida nunca deja de pasar mierda, pero que ella es la que decide cu\u00e1ntas de las cosas malas que pasan pueden afectarle.<\/p>\n

She needs to be reminded that bad days might not seem to have an end, but that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, and that everything she\u2019s struggling with today will be forgotten tomorrow. Because none of it will matter 24 hours from now.<\/p>\n

She needs someone to remind her that not everyone she likes is necessarily good. Just because a good person likes someone doesn\u2019t mean that someone is automatically good. <\/strong><\/p>\n

En la mayor\u00eda de los casos, es al contrario. La gente buena atrae a la gente t\u00f3xica todo el tiempo.<\/a> Dile esto. Dile todo esto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Recu\u00e9rdale sus lados buenos.<\/strong> Dile lo mucho que significa para ti. Dile que hay m\u00e1s cosas en la vida y m\u00e1s cosas en la gente y m\u00e1s cosas en ella de las que se permite creer ahora mismo.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 su roca en la que apoyarse. S\u00e9 bueno con ella como ella lo ha sido con todos los dem\u00e1s hasta ahora.<\/p>\n

Show her that she is actually good enough. She needs just a small push now to get back on track. I promise you, one day, you\u2019ll be happy that you did.<\/p>\n

Because one day, when she fully recovers, you\u2019ll see her amazing side and you\u2019ll thank God that you were there in her bad days and that you got to live her good days with her.<\/p>\n

Because it\u2019s going to be memorable and worth the fight.<\/p>\n

\"La<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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