Requiere aprender el arte del amor propio.<\/strong><\/p>\n It is when you’re convinced that no matter what you do or say, it will never be good enough for other people, or for you. <\/p>\n It is when you’re afraid to make mistakes in life because they make you feel like the ultimate failure.<\/p>\n Hay muchas razones para sentirse menos digno, ser sensible<\/a>e, y repitiendo constantemente pensamientos negativos en tu cabeza, y esas razones suelen estar relacionadas con problemas muy arraigados.<\/p>\n Before diving deeper into things you should remember when you’re feeling like you\u2019re not good enough<\/a>, let’s first check out the possible roots of that feeling:<\/p>\n 7 Common Reasons Why You Feel Like You\u2019re Not Good Enough<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n One of the main reasons why we feel like we\u2019re not good enough lies in the past and previous events.<\/p>\n As children, we absorb everything around us \u2013 the way people talk, walk, and most importantly, the way people behave in certain situations.<\/p>\n Conectamos todo y enmarcamos esos recuerdos en un compartimento especial de nuestro cerebro llamado supuestos ocultos<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Cuando somos ni\u00f1os, no comprendemos que todo sucede por una raz\u00f3n ni las verdaderas razones que hay detr\u00e1s de ciertas acciones.<\/p>\n As\u00ed que hacemos suposiciones. Creamos nuestras propias creencias sobre por qu\u00e9 suceden las cosas y las relacionamos con nuestras propias y \u00fanicas razones.<\/p>\n Por ejemplo, si un ni\u00f1o se despierta un d\u00eda y se da cuenta de que uno de sus padres se ha ido, no entender\u00e1 realmente por qu\u00e9 ha ocurrido.<\/p>\n All the child knows is that they love their parent and now they are gone. The hidden assumption here is: “If you care about someone, they abandon you.”<\/p>\n This hidden assumption becomes a deep-rooted issue and it becomes a part of a child’s everyday life and then their life as a grown-up.<\/p>\n These assumptions work on a subconscious level meaning you won’t really be aware of them, but they will still be active in the background.<\/p>\n And that core belief or assumption is what might make you feel like you’re not good enough, like you don’t deserve love and that you need to earn it.<\/p>\n Este miedo puede obligarte a no dejar que nadie se acerque a ti.<\/p>\n \u00bfHas escuchado alguna vez tus pensamientos con atenci\u00f3n? \u00bfTe has dado cuenta de que 90% de las veces tus pensamientos son negativos y que rara vez piensas en algo positivo?<\/p>\n We often become convinced that the reason why we feel we\u2019re not good enough is because of something or someone else.<\/p>\n We think that we’re not good enough because someone said something insulting or took us for granted.<\/p>\n Pero, a veces, somos nosotros mismos la raz\u00f3n por la que nos sentimos as\u00ed. El cerebro humano es complejo y complicado.<\/p>\n Si dejamos que nuestros pensamientos prevalezcan sin interferir nunca, podr\u00edamos encontrarnos en el reino de la duda sobre nosotros mismos, faltos de autoestima y con una baja autoestima.<\/p>\n A healthy dose of self-criticism is motivating, but a toxic one is destructive. And that’s when we start asking ourselves: \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 no soy lo bastante bueno?<\/em><\/p>\n There’s no real reason for it, but we feel that way because we let all the negativity penetrate our thoughts and influence our behaviour.<\/p>\n There’s only one person who can silence your inner critic and that is YOU!<\/strong><\/p>\n Puedes hacerlo practicando pensamiento positivo<\/a>La autoconversaci\u00f3n y la meditaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n If you do all these things on a regular basis, you will notice a significant improvement when it comes to your self-confidence and over time you’ll be less self-critical and self-loathing.<\/p>\n You’ll realize that you’re enough!<\/p>\n En mi opini\u00f3n, una de las cosas m\u00e1s t\u00f3xicas del planeta es estar rodeado de gente cr\u00edtica y que juzga.<\/p>\n We all know that human beings can be really toxic (especially when they’re having a bad day).<\/p>\n I bet that in everyone’s life there are a few people who are overly critical and\/or judgmental.<\/p>\n Esas personas pueden ser tus amigos, tus padres, tus familiares, tu pareja o gente cualquiera de las redes sociales.<\/p>\n And those people have the power to change the quality of your whole life in a second. They follow your every move and they can’t wait to jump into critic mode.<\/p>\n Whatever you say or do, they’ll always find a way to convince you that you’re not doing something right, that you’re incapable of achieving something or fixing something.<\/p>\n Or they judge your decisions and choices even though it’s none of their business.<\/p>\n By doing that they’re subtly implanting a message into your brain that you’re not good enough. And over time you\u2019ll start to believe it.<\/p>\n If this is the case with you, you need to stand up for yourself and stop spending time with such toxic people (or at least minimize the time you spend with them if you don’t have the luxury of avoiding them completely).<\/p>\n As a person who had highly critical parents, I can totally relate to this one. So, let’s start with the critical aspect first.<\/p>\n There’s a thin line between healthy criticism and toxic criticism.<\/p>\n La cr\u00edtica sana es criticar a tu hijo de vez en cuando para motivarle a hacer algo mejor, mientras que la cr\u00edtica t\u00f3xica es cuando criticas constantemente a alguien.<\/p>\n It’s when you never say anything positive to your child, but you only acknowledge when they do something wrong.<\/p>\n Then the child starts to think that they’re not good enough because they’re never praised, but only criticised. And such children grow up into adults who still think they’re not good enough.<\/p>\n Also, if the parents are too demanding, they don’t give the child the space to make mistakes.<\/p>\n They often demand perfection and when children are unable to meet or fall short of their parents’ impossible standards, they start feeling bad about themselves.<\/p>\n Distant parents make children feel like they\u2019re not good enough because they never show any kind of affection and they don’t shower their children with the unconditional love that is the essence of happy parenting.<\/p>\n (In most cases, the parents also didn\u2019t experience such love, so they don’t know what unconditional love is).<\/p>\n Children who\u2019ve never experienced a parent’s unconditional love are at high risk of becoming a grown up who will never feel good enough because they weren’t worthy of their parent(s) love.<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 10 malditas buenas razones por las que es lo suficientemente buena<\/a><\/p>\n No todos los ni\u00f1os tienen la suerte de tener padres capaces de ofrecerles estabilidad y seguridad. Algunos padres libran sus propias batallas con el alcohol, las drogas, o sufren ansiedad y depresi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n Estos padres no suelen ser capaces de ense\u00f1ar a sus hijos amor incondicional<\/a> y para que se sientan protegidos.<\/p>\n Since they are fighting their own demons, they don’t have enough time to be there for their children.<\/p>\n And because of that, the children start to feel like they are the reason why their parent(s) are absent or why they’re drinking.<\/p>\n Children don’t have the ability to think rationally, therefore their only conclusion will be that they are doing something terribly wrong and making their parents do things they normally wouldn’t.<\/p>\n Empiezan a sentir que no son lo bastante buenos desde su m\u00e1s tierna infancia y este sentimiento les persigue tambi\u00e9n en su edad adulta.<\/p>\n When they grow up, they start searching for stability and protection somewhere else (in their partners) or they become attracted to commitment-phobes because they often feel like they need to compete for other people’s affection and approval.<\/p>\n Como ya se ha mencionado, el amor incondicional es una de las cosas m\u00e1s importantes cuando se trata de una crianza sana y feliz (especialmente a una edad temprana).<\/p>\n If your parents didn’t give you enough attention and love when you were a kid, chances are that’s the reason why you think: I\u2019m not good enough.<\/em><\/p>\n As a child, you probably thought that you were the problem \u2013 that you were the reason why your parents never hugged you or kissed you good night.<\/p>\n Los ni\u00f1os hacen eso. Conectan los puntos a su propia y tonta manera.<\/p>\n They don’t have the capacity to understand the deep-rooted issues behind this phenomenon.<\/p>\n In most cases, parents who don’t give attention or shower their children with love didn\u2019t receive it from their parents, either.<\/p>\n It’s like an endless chain that needs to be understood and broken into pieces in order for something to change. But, that\u2019s easier said than done.<\/p>\n Luckily, most children learn valuable lessons from their parent’s behaviour and they don’t do the same things to their future children.<\/p>\n If someone lacked parental love, they know how they felt about it and that’s why they promise they’ll never repeat the same mistakes as their parents. But, some things remain or hardly change.<\/p>\n Those children will continue to feel like they’re not good enough until they realize their parent’s lack of attention and love was not their fault.<\/p>\n Abuso f\u00edsico, abuso sexual, abuso emocional<\/a>… There are many categories and subcategories of abuse and these three are the most common ones.<\/p>\n Now, many people think that emotional abuse is something that doesn’t leave scars because they are not visible like with physical abuse.<\/p>\n Those scars may not be seen on a person’s body, but they are deeply rooted in their soul.<\/p>\n Tal vez recuerden a una persona esos acontecimientos dolorosos cada d\u00eda y, con el tiempo, esos sentimientos empeoren cada vez m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n They become convinced that they’re not good enough, that the reason why something bad happened to them is that they deserved it (even though they didn’t).<\/p>\n It’s really hard to convince children that something is not their fault. They grow up into adults who still believe that they are a bad person even though they haven’t done anything wrong.<\/p>\n Traumatic experiences are like ghosts \u2013 they tend to follow a person through their entire life.<\/p>\n Seeking professional help or advice is often the only thing that can make them feel better about themselves and everything they’ve gone through.<\/p>\n 10 Things To Remember When You Feel You\u2019re Not Good Enough<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Now that we’re done with the list of common reasons for not feeling good enough, it’s time to dive into the self-help department.<\/p>\n Cuando empieces a sentirte as\u00ed, acu\u00e9rdate de lo siguiente:<\/p>\n Todos tenemos nuestro cr\u00edtico interior, pero algunos son m\u00e1s ruidosos y otros menos intrusivos. Lo que tienes que hacer es pensar por qu\u00e9 tuviste ese pensamiento negativo en primer lugar.<\/p>\n Do you repeat in your head that you’re too lazy because you haven’t done something yet? In that case, you should start doing something about it. You should roll up your sleeves and start working.<\/p>\n And you should tell yourself that your unwillingness to do something at the moment doesn’t make you lazy or a bad person.<\/p>\n We all have days when we’re a little off and we’re less motivated to do our daily tasks.<\/p>\n That doesn’t make us less worthy or not good enough. It’s time to start making a difference and prevent that inner critic from turning you into a slave of your own thoughts!<\/p>\n Whenever you start feeling like you’re not good enough, it’s important to detach yourself from that illusion.<\/p>\n Necesitas cambiar tu mentalidad por una m\u00e1s positiva que te ayude a destruir la negativa.<\/p>\n Think about all the happy moments from the past, your achievements, something nice you’ve done for someone; think about your loved ones and all the other things that make your heart beat faster.<\/p>\n Tienes que volver a encontrar el lado bueno de las cosas recordando todas las cosas positivas de tu vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n It won’t be easy at first. You’ll notice the battle between your positive and negative side, but if your stay persistent, you will most certainly succeed in making the positive one prevail!<\/p>\n Once you’re done with contemplating all the positive things in your life, it’s wise to write them down on a piece of paper so that you always have a reminder when you need it.<\/p>\n Crea una lista de recuerdos positivos con todas las cosas positivas que se te ocurran sobre ti, tu estilo de vida, tu personalidad, etc.<\/p>\n Piense en los momentos en los que se sinti\u00f3 realmente feliz haciendo algo, en los que hizo algo inspirador y en los que ayud\u00f3 a alguien que lo necesitaba.<\/p>\n Once you start to feel like you\u2019re not good enough, it’s really important to remind yourself of all those things because they are your motivation and proof that you are enough.<\/p>\n Let’s face it. It has never been easier to compare yourself to others than it is nowadays.<\/p>\n Todas esas personas perfectas de la televisi\u00f3n, todas esas personas ricas y perfectas de las redes sociales, tus vecinos, tus compa\u00f1eros de trabajo, tus amigos, tu familia. La lista es interminable.<\/p>\n There is not a single thing or a person you can’t compare yourself to (I even compare myself to my cat, yup).<\/p>\n Whenever you see someone “prettier” or who is more settled in life than you, you automatically start comparing yourself to them and, as a result, you start to feel that you\u2019re not good enough.<\/p>\n It’s important to remind yourself that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence.<\/p>\n It’s important to be grateful for what you already have. (And it’s important to stop comparing yourself to others).<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Lee esto cada vez que empieces a compararte con una chica m\u00e1s guapa<\/a><\/p>\n As mentioned above, social media is one of the biggest things that can ruin our mental health and make us feel like we’ll never be good enough \u2013 no matter how hard we try.<\/p>\n Las redes sociales nos convencen de que existen vidas perfectas y de que nosotros tambi\u00e9n podr\u00edamos vivir esa vida perfecta si empez\u00e1ramos a vestirnos como ellos, a comportarnos como ellos y a vivir como ellos.<\/p>\n In case you’re wondering who \u201cthem\u201d is, I’m referring to all those (self-proclaimed) influencers.<\/p>\n Para evitar una sobredosis de comparaciones, tienes que reducir al m\u00ednimo el tiempo que pasas en las redes sociales y hacer otras cosas que, sin duda, te llenar\u00e1n m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n This is a great way to help you feel better instantly. Whenever you feel like you\u2019re not good enough, make a list of a few things that you could do in order to help someone, or to help yourself.<\/p>\n The accent is on doing a nice thing that will make someone’s day or doing something nice for yourself that will make you proud of yourself.<\/p>\n Puede ser cualquier cosa, desde ayudar a alguien con sus tareas hasta reorganizar tu vestuario.<\/p>\n Once you’ve done it, make sure you give yourself a pat on the back and say out loud: I did a great job! I’m freaking awesome!<\/strong><\/p>\n Una de las razones por las que muchas personas empiezan a sentirse mal consigo mismas es porque s\u00f3lo celebran sus grandes victorias (como terminar la universidad, conseguir un trabajo o similares).<\/p>\n Se olvidan de todas esas peque\u00f1as victorias que tambi\u00e9n significan mucho.<\/p>\n Peque\u00f1as victorias como levantarse de la cama por la ma\u00f1ana, prepararse el desayuno (agradeciendo la oportunidad de prepararlo), superar los miedos, ir al gimnasio cuando uno se siente fatal, etc.<\/p>\n Hay miles de peque\u00f1as victorias que nos acompa\u00f1an a lo largo del d\u00eda y, si les prestas atenci\u00f3n (y no s\u00f3lo a las grandes), te dar\u00e1s cuenta de tu poder y potencial ilimitados.<\/p>\n1. Tienes suposiciones ocultas sobre el mundo debido a algunos acontecimientos pasados<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n2. You’re overly self-critical<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Te rodeas de personas demasiado cr\u00edticas y\/o cr\u00edticas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Tuvo padres muy exigentes, cr\u00edticos o distantes.<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Sus padres no pudieron ofrecerle estabilidad o protecci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n6. You didn’t get enough attention and love as a kid<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n7. Ha tenido alguna experiencia traum\u00e1tica en el pasado<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. You don’t have to be a slave to your inner critic<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n2. Cambia tu mentalidad por una m\u00e1s positiva<\/a><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Crear una lista de recuerdos positivos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Deja de compararte con los dem\u00e1s<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Minimiza el tiempo que pasas en las redes sociales<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n6. Aumenta tu autoestima haciendo algunas cosas buenas por ti mismo o por los dem\u00e1s.<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n7. Celebrar las grandes y peque\u00f1as victorias<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n8. Desahogarte te har\u00e1 sentir mejor al instante<\/h2>\n
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