{"id":74624,"date":"2020-05-22T11:29:07","date_gmt":"2020-05-22T11:29:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=74624"},"modified":"2022-02-27T13:47:01","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T13:47:01","slug":"senales-de-que-estas-casado-pero-enamorado-de-otra-persona","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/senales-de-que-estas-casado-pero-enamorado-de-otra-persona\/","title":{"rendered":"10 se\u00f1ales honestas de que est\u00e1s casado pero enamorado de otra persona"},"content":{"rendered":"

Estar casado pero enamorado de otra persona es algo que todas las parejas desear\u00edan evitar.<\/p>\n

However, just because you’re a hombre casado<\/a> or a woman, it doesn’t mean that you can control your heart.<\/p>\n

Yes, you’ve made some vows and never even thought that you’d catch yourself being emotionally unfaithful.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t have to mean that you did something with this third person. They’re present in your heart and mind, and that\u2019s more than enough.<\/p>\n

There is no doubt about one thing: This is a tricky and a difficult situation for all parties involved. However, you’re not the first married man or woman going through this scenario.<\/p>\n

Here are 10 signs that you’re married but enamorado de alguien<\/a> m\u00e1s, adem\u00e1s de 10 cosas que hacer al respecto.<\/p>\n

1. Todo lo que le molesta de su c\u00f3nyuge<\/h2>\n

\"esposa<\/p>\n

\u00bfRecuerdas todas esas cosas bonitas de tu marido o mujer que te enamoraron al principio de vuestra relaci\u00f3n?<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo disfrutabas incluso del sonido de sus ronquidos, c\u00f3mo mensajes de texto<\/a> \u00bfTe han hecho sonre\u00edr y te han gustado tanto sus defectos como sus virtudes?<\/p>\n

Well, all of that\u2019s changed. In fact, lately, it can be said that every little thing about them annoys you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re bothered by the way they talk, laugh \u2013 even breathe. To be honest, in most cases you\u2019re annoyed by little, irrelevant things.<\/p>\n

De hecho, lo que m\u00e1s te gustaba de ellos ha empezado a molestarte. De repente, nada de lo que hacen o dicen te parece simp\u00e1tico o encantador y te encuentras todo el rato poniendo los ojos en blanco.<\/p>\n

The truth is that you can\u2019t stand this person. You don\u2019t hate them or anything like that, but you simply don\u2019t feel comfortable around them.<\/p>\n

The same way their presence used to brighten your entire day, now you can\u2019t wait to see their back and for them to leave the room.<\/p>\n

Si esto es algo con lo que te sientes identificado, es sin duda una se\u00f1al de alarma y uno de los primeros signos de problemas en el para\u00edso.<\/p>\n

2. Encuentras excusas para no estar en casa<\/h2>\n

\"personas<\/p>\n

While you and your wife or husband were dating, you couldn\u2019t wait to finally move in together.<\/p>\n

Estabas harto de dar vueltas en tu coche, quedarte a dormir y volver a tu casa por la ma\u00f1ana para prepararte para trabajar, tener que idear diferentes ideas para citas<\/a>y pasar tiempo en cafeter\u00edas o restaurantes.<\/p>\n

Para ti, fue un sue\u00f1o hecho realidad pasar el resto de tu vida despert\u00e1ndote junto a esta persona tan especial.<\/p>\n

You couldn\u2019t wait to eat breakfast with them every single morning, cook together, spend all of your lazy Sundays next to each other, and sleep together until death do you apart.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, ahora todo eso ha cambiado. De hecho, no dejas de inventar excusas para no pasar tiempo con tu pareja y salir de casa.<\/p>\n

In fact, even your partner notices this. You\u2019re never around and nowhere to be found most of the time.<\/p>\n

Quiz\u00e1 te niegues a admitirlo, pero si miras las cosas con realismo, es la pura verdad.<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t have to mean that you\u2019re sneaking around to see someone else. You would just rather be alone than with your partner, which is certainly not a sign of a happy marriage.<\/p>\n

3. You’re spending time with another person<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

However, if you catch yourself spending more and more time with this third person, that might be a good sign that you\u2019re head over heels for them, without even being aware of it.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re home, you\u2019re making excuses to stay away from your spouse. On the other hand, you\u2019re putting a lot of effort into seeing this person as well.<\/p>\n

Si se trata de un compa\u00f1ero de trabajo<\/a>, you\u2019re constantly staying extra hours at your work. You\u2019re helping them out with everything and trying hard to synchronize your shifts.<\/p>\n

If we\u2019re talking about your neighbor, you catch yourself checking when they\u2019ll go out so you can accidentally meet.<\/p>\n

Lo mismo ocurre con ese camarero de tu garito m\u00e1s cercano o con alguien a quien hasta ahora s\u00f3lo ve\u00edas como un mejor amigo.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re never too busy to talk to them. Moreover, when you don\u2019t see this person for a few days, you start missing them, even though you refuse to admit this to anyone, including yourself.<\/p>\n

One thing\u2019s for sure: Their company suits you. However, wouldn\u2019t it be normal if you use every second of your free time spent with your partner rather than with someone else?<\/p>\n

4. Compartes tus problemas matrimoniales con ellos<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Nos guste afrontarlo o no, hay situaciones en las que todos compartimos nuestros problemas privados con nuestros amigos o familiares m\u00e1s cercanos. Lo mismo ocurre con los problemas de tu matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Aunque una pareja casada deber\u00eda poder resolver sus diferencias y momentos dif\u00edciles a puerta cerrada, ocurren cosas como \u00e9sta.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, los dos sois adultos y sois perfectamente capaces de encontrar una soluci\u00f3n a lo que os preocupa.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, a veces simplemente tienes la necesidad de quitarte un peso de encima. Quieres una segunda opini\u00f3n y que alguien te escuche.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, this is not such a big deal. Of course, as long as you\u2019re confiding to the people you trust \u2013 to those who won\u2019t bring you even more trouble.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, lately, you\u2019ve been sharing all of your marriage secrets with this special person. You feel like they understand you and you keep on looking for their advice.<\/p>\n

Y no s\u00f3lo eso, su opini\u00f3n afecta a tu capacidad de juicio. Te sorprendes a ti mismo d\u00e1ndoles la raz\u00f3n m\u00e1s de lo que deber\u00edas e incluso siguiendo lo que te han dicho que es lo mejor.<\/p>\n

Parece que esta persona se ha convertido indirectamente en parte de su matrimonio, sin que su c\u00f3nyuge tenga ni idea de ello.<\/p>\n

5. You\u2019ve changed things about yourself<\/h2>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

When we\u2019re de cabeza<\/a> nuestro subconsciente hace todo lo que est\u00e1 en su mano para hacernos m\u00e1s simp\u00e1ticos al objeto de nuestro afecto.<\/p>\n

That is why one of the signs that you\u2019re married but in love with someone else is the fact that you\u2019re ready to change some things about yourself just to please this third person.<\/p>\n

It all starts with the little things. For example, if they told you that one shirt you once wore looks great on you, you\u2019ll try to wear that shirt as often as possible.<\/p>\n

Lo mismo ocurre con tu corte de pelo, tu perfume y otras cosas. Sin embargo, al cabo de un tiempo, notas diferencias a\u00fan mayores en ti.<\/p>\n

You see that you\u2019re ready to change some things about your character or to modify some of your personality traits just because you think that this other person will fancy you more in this new, updated version.<\/p>\n

Empiezas a prestar especial atenci\u00f3n a tu aspecto porque quieres ser lo m\u00e1s atractiva posible para esa persona especial.<\/p>\n

Quieres que siempre te vean en tu mejor momento y ese no es el tipo de comportamiento que muestras cuando tu c\u00f3nyuge est\u00e1 cerca.<\/p>\n

On the contrary, it\u2019s like you couldn\u2019t care less about what your partner might think of you. You\u2019re not trying to gan\u00e1rselos<\/a>; you\u2019re redirecting all of your effort to this new person.<\/p>\n

6. Oculta su existencia a su c\u00f3nyuge<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Your spouse shouldn\u2019t just be your romantic partner, they should be your best friend too.<\/p>\n

However, that doesn\u2019t mean that you don\u2019t have the right to hang out without them. After all, you’re human beings and it’s natural that you want contact with other people.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that you should suddenly become antisocial, you should reduce your circle of amigos<\/a>, or you don\u2019t have the right to have friends outside of your marriage.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, cuando no tienes nada que ocultar, es perfectamente normal que tu pareja conozca a todas las personas con las que pasas el tiempo.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t have to be friends, but your spouse should at least be aware of their existence in your life.<\/p>\n

After all, this is the person you share your everyday life with. Therefore, it is expected that you\u2019ll mention your friends or that their name will come up in some random conversation.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, no es as\u00ed cuando se trata de esta persona especial. De hecho, probablemente ocultes su existencia a tu c\u00f3nyuge.<\/p>\n

There is no trace of them in your social media profiles, you two aren’t texting in front of your spouse, and so on.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Sospechoso, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n

Aunque su marido o mujer sepa que esa persona existe como amigo o compa\u00f1ero de trabajo, seguro que no tiene ni idea de lo importante que es para usted.<\/p>\n

So, why do you think this is so? Is it possible that deep down you\u2019re aware that you\u2019re doing something wrong?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs posible que lo m\u00e1s profundo de tu coraz\u00f3n sea consciente de estos sentimientos prohibidos que tienes? \u00bfTe sientes culpable por pasar tanto tiempo con esta persona?<\/p>\n

Si es as\u00ed, algo falla.<\/p>\n

After all, if you were one hundred percent sure that nothing is going on, your conscience would be crystal clear and you wouldn\u2019t have the need to exclude this person from your marriage to this point.<\/p>\n

7. Discute con su c\u00f3nyuge todo el tiempo<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

A veces, puede sentirse insatisfecho con su vida pero no saber la raz\u00f3n o ni siquiera ser consciente de su insatisfacci\u00f3n en primer lugar.<\/p>\n

However, in this scenario, you can\u2019t control the bad vibe you get from your spouse and the fact that all of this is turning you into a persona negativa<\/a>.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que acab\u00e1is pele\u00e1ndoos todo el tiempo. Discut\u00eds por cualquier cosa y siempre se convierte en un gran l\u00edo.<\/p>\n

Of course, all couples fight and you two have had your share of differences since day one. But this time it\u2019s different.<\/p>\n

It seems like you don\u2019t even care about the outcome. You don\u2019t try to get to the solution and you put no effort into making things right again.<\/p>\n

Even when \u2013 if you put things realistically \u2013 your spouse isn\u2019t actually at fault, you\u2019re constantly angry at them.<\/p>\n

You hold grudges about things that should have been left in the past and you\u2019re the one who\u2019s always picking fights.<\/p>\n

Besides, nothing new has happened between you two to cause all of this drama. Nothing besides this person who\u2019s entered your life and obviously shaken you up.<\/p>\n

8. You can\u2019t stop thinking about them<\/h2>\n

\"cara<\/p>\n

One of the biggest red flags that you\u2019re married but love someone else is that you can\u2019t seem to get this person out of your head, as hard as you try.<\/p>\n

You think about them all the time, even when you\u2019re with your spouse.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t have to necessarily mean that you only have romantical thoughts about this special someone. They simply cross your mind more often than they should and without any specific reason.<\/p>\n

Nada tiene que recordarte a esa persona para que la recuerdes.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, eso es exactamente lo que sigues haciendo: pensando en ellos<\/a>, what they\u2019re up to, and how they would react in a certain situation.<\/p>\n

They\u2019ve become the first person you want to call when you hear some good news and someone you want to share your happiness with.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re also the first ones you have the urge to reach out to when you need comfort, advice, or a shoulder to cry on.<\/p>\n

Todo esto sonar\u00eda muy bien si no fuera por un peque\u00f1o detalle: tu pareja matrimonial.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest here: Shouldn\u2019t your spouse be the person to stand in this role instead of this third person?<\/p>\n

9. Your mood changes when you\u2019re with them<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter whether you\u2019ve had a bad day, if you feel like crying, or you\u2019re just not feeling as your best self.<\/p>\n

Esta es la persona que puede animarte y elevar tu autoestima<\/a> en todo momento, independientemente de las circunstancias.<\/p>\n

Whenever you\u2019re with your spouse, you feel like life is being sucked out of you. You have no energy for anything.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s de mal humor, ansioso<\/a>y deprimido, y sus rarezas te molestan. As\u00ed que, a primera vista, culpas a tu pareja de tu estado.<\/p>\n

You think that they\u2019re sending off some negative vibe you can\u2019t help but absorb. However, the truth is actually hidden a little deeper.<\/p>\n

Conversely, when you\u2019re with this third person, you feel like you could do anything and your self-esteem skyrockets.<\/p>\n

Disfrutas de cada bocanada de aire que respiras, y la positividad y el optimismo inundan cada \u00e1tomo de tu ser.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s pretty clear here: You\u2019re in love with this person. Your emotions for them are making you happy and satisfied with your own life.<\/p>\n

Whenever you\u2019re around them, all of your problems seem resolvable. It\u2019s like this special someone is the light at the end of your tunnel and the only person who can brighten up your darkest day.<\/p>\n

10. Sue\u00f1as despierto con tu vida con esta persona<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about this person? You\u2019re in the middle of something and out of nowhere, they appear in your thoughts.<\/p>\n

Te preguntas c\u00f3mo ser\u00eda si estuvierais juntos, aunque tuvierais que estar lejos el uno del otro.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, you even plan your life together in detail and only feel good while you\u2019re occupied with your imagination.<\/p>\n

This especially happens when you\u2019re in bad relations with your spouse (which is almost always).<\/p>\n

Even though you\u2019re probably not doing this on purpose, the fact is you\u2019re comparing your marital partner with this other person.<\/p>\n

Te preguntas c\u00f3mo reaccionar\u00edan en una situaci\u00f3n determinada. \u00bfC\u00f3mo te tratar\u00edan?<\/p>\n

\u00bfLe gustar\u00eda ser m\u00e1s feliz<\/a> al lado de esta persona que ahora? \u00bfTomaste una decisi\u00f3n equivocada al casarte con tu c\u00f3nyuge?<\/p>\n

\u00bfTe querr\u00eda m\u00e1s esa persona especial? \u00bfOs llevar\u00edais mejor?<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfHabr\u00eda menos peleas y tensiones? \u00bfSer\u00edais m\u00e1s compatibles?<\/p>\n

Cuanto m\u00e1s piensas as\u00ed, m\u00e1s defectos sigues encontrando en tu c\u00f3nyuge. De repente, se convierten en la peor elecci\u00f3n que podr\u00edas haber hecho.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, this person you\u2019re in love with seems like your perfect match. They appear to be the missing part of your puzzle.<\/p>\n

All of a sudden, they have everything your spouse doesn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

You think that this person\u2019s better than your marital partner in all ways possible and there is nothing the latter can do to change your mind regarding this.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 10 se\u00f1ales de que un hombre casado est\u00e1 enamorado de ti y piensa actuar en consecuencia <\/a><\/p>\n

3 razones por las que est\u00e1s enamorado de otra persona<\/h2>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 los hombres y mujeres casados se enamoran de alguien fuera de su matrimonio? \u00bfCu\u00e1les son las razones m\u00e1s frecuentes? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 hay personas casadas que aman a otra persona?<\/p>\n

1. They\u2019re really your soulmate<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

We don\u2019t all conozca a nuestras almas gemelas<\/a> a tiempo.<\/p>\n

Some meet their perfect person only when they\u2019re old and wrinkled, some are lucky to encounter them in their early youth, while others never get the chance to live through this amazing experience.<\/p>\n

Basically, what I\u2019m trying to tell you is that just because you married someone, it doesn\u2019t magically make them your soulmate.<\/p>\n

De hecho, existe una gran posibilidad de que esta nueva persona sea tu media naranja.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m sure you loved your husband or wife while you were saying \u201cI do\u201d at the altar. After all, you loved them so much that you decided to spend the rest of your life with them.<\/p>\n

However, soulmates are not concerned about a piece of paper. So, it is possible that you\u2019ve met your other half only now, when you\u2019re already married to someone you thought was your forever person.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ever forget that life writes novels, so something like this can easily happen.<\/p>\n

If this is true, it doesn\u2019t mean that everything you had with your spouse wasn\u2019t real. You loved your partner, but your love had an expiration date and it came to its end.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It\u2019s just that everything you feel towards this new person is more intense than anything you\u2019ve ever felt before. This is something you simply can\u2019t fight against, as hard as you try.<\/p>\n

Lo cierto es que has dejado de querer a tu pareja. Es probable que tengas sentimientos profundos hacia ella como persona, pero todo lo rom\u00e1ntico hace tiempo que desapareci\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Y no s\u00f3lo eso, tienes todo el respeto del mundo por todo lo que t\u00fa y tu c\u00f3nyuge hab\u00e9is compartido y construido juntos.<\/p>\n

This is the person who\u2019s helped you become who you are today \u2013 someone you once wanted to grow old with.<\/p>\n

Respetas todos los a\u00f1os que pasasteis el uno junto al otro, todo el amor que una vez os tuvisteis, todos los sacrificios que ambos hicisteis y toda la historia que ten\u00e9is.<\/p>\n

However, you can\u2019t order your heart what to do, can you? Your emotions are simply stronger than your reason and there is not much you can do about it.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t love the person you share your life with. You see them as a friend, a roommate, or a family member, but you can\u2019t picture the two of you as a romantic couple anymore.<\/p>\n

De todos modos se enamor\u00f3 de otra persona<\/a>. You didn\u2019t plan it. You didn\u2019t want it. It just happened.<\/p>\n

2. Su matrimonio cay\u00f3 en la rutina<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

On the other hand, there\u2019s also a possibility that your marriage has fallen into a rut. You don\u2019t actually love this new person; you\u2019re just using them as an escape from your real life.<\/p>\n

Las mariposas que sent\u00eda cada vez que ve\u00eda a su c\u00f3nyuge al principio de su relaci\u00f3n duradera<\/a> hace tiempo que desaparecieron.<\/p>\n

Os falta intimidad y uni\u00f3n, como a muchos casados.<\/p>\n

Todo tu matrimonio se ha reducido a pagar las facturas y correr de una obligaci\u00f3n a otra, lo que dista mucho del cuento de hadas que esperabas conseguir.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have the time nor the energy to give to each other anymore, and nothing is like it used to be in the beginning.<\/p>\n

You no longer feel that thrill when you\u2019re about to see your spouse, you don\u2019t miss them even when days go by without a meaningful conversation, and there are no fireworks when they kiss you.<\/p>\n

However, all of this doesn\u2019t have to mean that you\u2019ve stopped loving them. Just like many married couples, you\u2019re just fallen out of love with each other and that can be fixed.<\/p>\n

\"ojo<\/p>\n

You got so burdened up with your busy lives that you\u2019ve forgotten to pay attention to each other. You\u2019ve started taking each other for granted and somehow, along the way, lost the initial spark.<\/p>\n

This is especially true if you have children. Like many other married people with kids, you\u2019re so overwhelmed with all the duties a family brings that you\u2019ve stopped seeing each other in a romantic way.<\/p>\n

Consequently, the moment you meet someone new who actually looks at you like an individual and shows some interest in you, you start thinking that you\u2019ve fallen for them. Well, that doesn\u2019t have to be true.<\/p>\n

In fact, everything you feel for them is short term and it will go away faster than it came. Yes, they\u2019ve managed to shake you up, but you will forget about this person before you know it.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not here to justify you, but these things happen more often than you might think. After all those years of marriage, having a crisis that\u2019ll pass by is nothing unusual.<\/p>\n

3. Se siente desatendido emocionalmente con su c\u00f3nyuge<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Otra raz\u00f3n por la que algunas personas est\u00e1n casadas y enamoradas de otra es la falta de apoyo emocional que reciben de sus c\u00f3nyuges.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s possible that your marital partner has been emotionally neglecting you, ignoring your needs and desires, and treating you like they\u2019ve stopped loving you<\/a>.<\/p>\n

So, you\u2019ve looked for comfort elsewhere. Back home, you feel unwanted and unloved, and now, this person who obviously likes you has appeared to rock your world.<\/p>\n

You think that this certain someone will appreciate you more. You are convinced that they\u2019ll treat you the way you deserve. You just want to escape the toxic atmosphere you have in your marriage.<\/p>\n

Si este es el caso, este encaprichamiento<\/a> you might be feeling can\u2019t serve as justification. I get it.<\/p>\n

Your partner treats you like garbage, but that doesn\u2019t give you the green light to be emotionally unfaithful to them.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong;. I\u2019m not trying to justify your husband or wife. However, you can\u2019t solve one problem by causing another one.<\/p>\n

Si se siente desatendida emocionalmente<\/a>Eso es algo que deber\u00edas discutir con tu pareja.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 sincero, cu\u00e9ntales c\u00f3mo te sientes e intenta hablar con ellos de todos los problemas que atraviesa tu matrimonio.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you. There\u2019s a chance that you won\u2019t come up with a solution. They might even give you false promises that they\u2019ll change but continue treating you the same way they used to.<\/p>\n

En ese caso, tienes dos opciones. Puedes quedarte y aguantar todo esto o puedes hacer las maletas y marcharte.<\/p>\n

Only when you\u2019re separated as husband and wife is it acceptable for you to grow feelings for someone else or start a new relationship. Until then, you\u2019re taken and you should behave accordingly.<\/p>\n

10 Things To Do If You\u2019re Married But In Love With Someone Else<\/span><\/h2>\n

\u200bNow that you’ve figured out everything, you’ll probably agree that something has to be done about this situation.<\/p>\n

Bueno, en realidad, s\u00f3lo tienes dos opciones: seguir casado e intentar salvar tu matrimonio, o divorciarte e ir detr\u00e1s de esta nueva persona.<\/p>\n

Si decides seguir casado<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Aseg\u00farese de que es lo que quiere<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

En primer lugar, tienes que estar seguro de que esto es lo que realmente quieres. \u00bfSigues casado porque te has dado cuenta de que esa persona que est\u00e1 a tu lado es tu verdadera alma gemela?<\/p>\n

Or are you doing it because of your family? Or maybe you\u2019re stuck in your comfort zone and scared of changes your divorce might bring, so you prefer remaining unhappy.<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019re worried about what other people might say and think about your separation. Or you don\u2019t want to break your home because of the kids?<\/p>\n

Ask yourself all of these questions before making a final decision. Don\u2019t get me wrong; I\u2019m not trying to persuade you that divorciarse<\/a> es lo correcto para ti.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m just telling you that this is a call you have to make. You have to follow your heart and disregard social norms, fears, and other people.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, el divorcio siempre es duro para todas las partes implicadas. Pero vivir en un matrimonio sin amor puede ser a\u00fan peor.<\/p>\n

2. Cortar los lazos con la otra persona<\/h2>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

Once you\u2019ve decided that you want to stay married, it\u2019s time to cut all possible ties with this other person.<\/p>\n

You have been in love with them and they can\u2019t stay in your life if you want your marriage to work.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t stay friends. If they’re your coworker and you don\u2019t have the option of kicking them out of your life for good, you have to reduce contact to the bare minimum.<\/p>\n

No, this doesn\u2019t make the object of your infatuation responsible for your feelings. However, the truth is that they represent a certain temptation and distraction for you.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, por favor, vete ning\u00fan contacto<\/a> y vuelve a tu matrimonio.<\/p>\n

You can either confess your feelings to the other side and explain why you\u2019re doing all of this (don\u2019t worry, I assure you that they will appreciate your honesty and respect your decision), or you can just walk away from them and lose touch.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s all up to you and it depends on the nature of your relationship. Just remember, though: This step is not negotiable!<\/p>\n

3. Sea sincero con su c\u00f3nyuge<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Lo siguiente que tienes que hacer ser\u00e1 probablemente lo m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil. Sin embargo, por el bien de tu matrimonio en adelante, hay que hacerlo.<\/p>\n

Tienes que ser sincero con tu pareja. Tienes que decirle c\u00f3mo te sientes, pero tambi\u00e9n que quieres una segunda oportunidad.<\/p>\n

You have to have this talk after you\u2019ve cut ties with the third person. It\u2019s the only way your spouse will believe you and won\u2019t think that you have a backup plan, if they choose not to forgive you.<\/p>\n

Yes, it seems that it would all be a lot easier if you could just stay silent about all that\u2019s been going on in your heart.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo, decidiste dejar todo esto atr\u00e1s y debes pensar que no hay necesidad de crear problemas innecesarios.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, tienes que empezar a basar tu matrimonio en la honestidad, si realmente quieres que funcione. \u00a1No m\u00e1s mentiras, no m\u00e1s enga\u00f1os!<\/p>\n

4. Reconstruya su matrimonio<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not going to lie: There\u2019s a possibility that your spouse won\u2019t forgive you<\/a>. Al menos, no al principio.<\/p>\n

In that case, it\u2019s your job to win them back over. You have to show them that you want to save your marriage at all costs and that you chose them over everyone else.<\/p>\n

This is the part in which you both have to work on rebuilding your marriage. Even though it might have appeared to be perfect at first, the truth is that it didn\u2019t work out for the best.<\/p>\n

If that wasn\u2019t the case all of this wouldn\u2019t have happened. Yes, you\u2019re responsible for falling in love with someone else, but you\u2019re both responsible for the reconstruction of your marriage.<\/p>\n

Trabajen en su comunicaci\u00f3n. Sed sinceros el uno con el otro y hablad de todo lo que os gustar\u00eda cambiar en vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Para empezar, empieza a salir de nuevo. Recuerda por qu\u00e9 os enamorasteis y esfu\u00e9rzate por reavivar esos sentimientos.<\/p>\n

Let me be honest: You won\u2019t see any difference right away.<\/p>\n

This will be a long and demanding process, but if you\u2019re both really eager to salve su matrimonio infeliz<\/a>, you\u2019ll succeed.<\/p>\n

5. Make sure this doesn\u2019t happen again<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Por \u00faltimo, por favor, aseg\u00farate de que algo as\u00ed no vuelva a ocurrir.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow yourself to fall into the trap of falling for someone else once more. Because if you do, you\u2019re definitely in the wrong marital union.<\/p>\n

El hecho de que su c\u00f3nyuge le haya perdonado por su infidelidad emocional<\/a>, it doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019ve given you the green light to continue going behind their back.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t see this as an opportunity to fool around.<\/p>\n

Conf\u00eda en m\u00ed: Es tu \u00faltima oportunidad y m\u00e1s vale que la aproveches bien.<\/p>\n

Si decide poner fin a su matrimonio<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Aseg\u00farese de que es lo que quiere<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Again, even if you decide to file for divorce, you should be completely positive that you\u2019re making the right decision.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, this decision shouldn\u2019t depend on this third person and the relationship you have with them. It should be solely based on your emotions and thoughts regarding your marriage.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t separate from your spouse just because you have somewhere to go.<\/p>\n

Do it only if you know deep down that you don\u2019t love them anymore (and see no hope of your emotions ever coming back) and are certain that you can\u2019t do anything to save your marriage.<\/p>\n

Remember that decisions like this are final and that there is no going back. Make the right decision with a cool head \u2013 not in the heat of the moment.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t do it while you\u2019re arguing with your spouse or just because you\u2019re angry at them at that given moment.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow others to influence you, and be aware that you\u2019re about to make some drastic changes in your life.<\/p>\n

2. Deja de idealizar a tu nueva pareja<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Now that you\u2019re certain that you want a divorce, it\u2019s time to think about this new person in your life. First and foremost, you have to stop idealizing them and get back to real life.<\/p>\n

Yes, everything between you two might be sunshine and rainbows now. Scientifically, this is called a halo effect \u2013 when you see someone in the best possible light.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, as\u00ed empez\u00f3 tambi\u00e9n tu primer matrimonio, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n

Todos los comienzos son hermosos y encantadores. Sin embargo, tienes que darte cuenta de que es poco probable que las cosas sigan as\u00ed para siempre.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, si terminas con esta nueva persona, debes saber que tu relaci\u00f3n a largo plazo o matrimonio con ella tambi\u00e9n caer\u00e1 en la rutina tarde o temprano, del mismo modo que lo hizo tu primer matrimonio.<\/p>\n

You will get tired of each other and there will be times when they\u2019ll annoy you.<\/p>\n

So, if you\u2019re making this step just because you\u2019re hooked on butterflies, think again.<\/p>\n

3. Pedir el divorcio<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Now it\u2019s time for the hardest part-time to tell everything to your husband or wife.<\/p>\n

Incluso cuando pierdes todas las emociones hacia alguien, mirar a una persona a los ojos y decirle que ya no la quieres es siempre una escena desgarradora, as\u00ed que prep\u00e1rate para los duros momentos que te esperan.<\/p>\n

Be prepared for a lot of tears \u2013 perhaps even insults and name-calling. However, you messed things up and you have to deal with the consequences.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get into details, but do tell the other side that you are in love with someone new. This way, they\u2019ll understand that you\u2019re deadly serious.<\/p>\n

Ask them not to blame this third person. Tell them that you couldn\u2019t control yourself, that you hadn\u2019t planned any of this to happen, but that it did.<\/p>\n

That said, don\u2019t ask for their pity either. Don\u2019t play the victim. You are the bad guy in this story, after all.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re breaking your spouse\u2019s heart. You\u2019re leaving them, breaking all the promises you made to them.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s natural that they will be angry, disappointed, shocked, and betrayed. And that is their right.<\/p>\n

Por tanto, no es el momento de culpar a nadie ni de cerrarse en banda.<\/p>\n

Even though I\u2019m sure that your spouse is also responsible for some bad things in your marriage, being unfaithful is something you chose to do and you\u2019re the only one guilty for it.<\/p>\n

4. Take care of your children’s well-being<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

If you and your significant other have kids, it\u2019s important to agree on everything regarding them.<\/p>\n

I know that you\u2019re overwhelmed with your mess right now, but don\u2019t forget the fact that all of this will bring changes to their lives as well and also hurt them.<\/p>\n

So, do your best to ensure your children go unharmed and to preserve their well-being. It\u2019s traumatic enough for them to see their parents getting a divorce.<\/p>\n

If you have some issues with your soon to be ex-spouse, don\u2019t mix the kids up in them. Don’t argue over them and don\u2019t involve them to spite your significant other.<\/p>\n

At this point, your most important job is to show your ex and your kids that you\u2019re still a parent, even though you\u2019re no longer a marital partner.<\/p>\n

Ay\u00fadales a separar estas dos cosas. Ni se te ocurra desatender a tus hijos.<\/p>\n

5. Comprueba si puedes construir una vida con esta nueva persona<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Every person who is married yet in love with someone else thinks that they\u2019ll just jump into this new relationship the moment they sort things out in their marriage.<\/p>\n

However, just because you filed for divorce, it doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t think everything through regarding your new partner.<\/p>\n

\u00bfTodo esto es s\u00f3lo encaprichamiento? \u00bfO es amor verdadero<\/a>?<\/p>\n

\u00bfVes sus defectos? \u00bfO est\u00e1s bajo un efecto de halo que te hace idealizarlos?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs s\u00f3lo un cuento de hadas? \u00bfO puede ser la vida real?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEsta persona no es m\u00e1s que tu tarjeta de salida de un matrimonio infeliz?<\/p>\n

Are the feelings you have for them just an excuse to get rid of the spouse you\u2019ve stopped loving ages ago?<\/p>\n

Or is this the real deal? Can you see yourself building a life with this new person? You\u2019re the only one who can make that call!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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