{"id":75475,"date":"2020-06-01T07:12:21","date_gmt":"2020-06-01T07:12:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=75475"},"modified":"2022-03-02T23:15:33","modified_gmt":"2022-03-02T23:15:33","slug":"por-que-sigo-queriendo-a-mi-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-que-sigo-queriendo-a-mi-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 sigo queriendo a mi ex y c\u00f3mo puedo superarlo?"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you\u2019ve ever asked yourself \u201cWhy do I still love my ex?\u201d you probably also wondered how long it will take to finally sup\u00e9ralos<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Love and grief, like many emotions, aren’t predictable. Experiencing something good that turns bad is always painful. <\/strong><\/p>\n

In the end, it doesn’t matter why you broke up and who said what \u2013 you ended up hurt and you found it difficult to move on in your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You separated but your emotions stayed the same because they can’t just disappear overnight. If the breakup was unexpected, and particularly if it was painful, this is even more true.<\/p>\n

Even if you thought you hated that person right after the breakup, later on (and possibly after a few glasses of wine) you probably realized \u201cOh no, I’m still in love with my ex\u201d. “Wait, por qu\u00e9 le quiero tanto<\/a>?”<\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 sigues queriendo a tu ex?<\/h2>\n

Una de las razones es, sin duda, el apego.<\/em><\/p>\n

Attachment is the deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another. It’s the first thing we seek as children and we keep searching for it throughout our life.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When we genuinely love someone we invest so much time and so many feelings in them that we almost feel like part of us stays with them \u2013 and part of us does.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de un desamor<\/a>, many people feel like they’re missing a part of themselves. When we’re in a relationship we tend to think as a couple and always care about the needs of our significant other.<\/p>\n

Se convierte en un patr\u00f3n de pensamiento habitual y a mucha gente le cuesta volver a preocuparse s\u00f3lo de s\u00ed misma.<\/p>\n

Often, people who get used to being in a long-term relationship will jump into a new relationship because they can’t stand being alone.<\/p>\n

They think that a new boyfriend or a new girlfriend will solve their problems. Do I even need to say that’s rarely the case?<\/p>\n

A relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a> requiere que una persona se preocupe por la otra y comparta su felicidad y su tristeza.<\/p>\n

Once that’s gone we’re left feeling confused, lost, and betrayed \u2013 even if we weren’t really betrayed.<\/p>\n

Every separation is trauma. Every loss of love is tragic. That’s just how human beings are. We’re dependent on love, connection, and being accepted by other people.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"cara<\/p>\n

No wonder we’re obsessed with concepts like soulmates and a love that lasts forever. Deep down every one of us wants to be fully accepted and loved unconditionally.<\/p>\n

El \u00fanico problema es que nunca nos sentiremos plenamente cualquier cosa<\/em> until we accept ourselves first. It might sound clich\u00e9, but it’s true.<\/p>\n

Piensa qu\u00e9 tipo de sentimientos ha despertado en ti la ausencia de otra persona. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you feel like you’re not good enough, do you feel ashamed or abandoned \u2013 are you angry or sad?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ask yourself why you feel all those feelings. In almost every case of stubborn emotions that won’t go away, there’s an underlying issue we have with ourselves.<\/p>\n

The thing is \u2013 when you’re at peace with yourself you can be sad y<\/em> love your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend; you can admit to yourself \u201cI still love my ex\u201d and yet move on with your life.<\/p>\n

It’s possible to give yourself enough time to grieve and then look back at everything with acceptance and love in your heart and start living your life without them.<\/p>\n

It’s not abnormal to keep loving your ex after the relationship ends.<\/p>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, compartiste con ellos lo m\u00e1s \u00edntimo de ti. Aunque al final las cosas fueran mal, lo que pas\u00f3 entre vosotros en un momento dado sigue siendo real.<\/p>\n

Todas las relaciones, rom\u00e1nticas o no, sanas o insanas, son una experiencia de aprendizaje y, si reflexionas sobre tus relaciones pasadas, te dar\u00e1s cuenta de que se repiten patrones similares a lo largo de tu vida.<\/p>\n

Todo lo que pas\u00f3 entre vosotros estaba destinado a pasar y eso incluye la ruptura.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Breakups are hard because it’s not only about the separation \u2013 it’s about having your dreams and hopes shattered.<\/p>\n

All the things you imagine you would do with your partner turned out to be an unreachable dream and that’s extremely unmotivating.<\/p>\n

Not to mention all society’s expectations that we subconsciously accept and that make us repeatedly feel disappointed because we, our partner, or our current relationship, don’t look a certain way.<\/p>\n

En la vida real isn’t<\/em> una comedia rom\u00e1ntica.<\/p>\n

It’s messy, unpredictable, and sometimes scary and painful (especially when it comes to las etapas de una ruptura<\/a>). Things don’t always go the way we want them to but that doesn’t mean we should give up.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It’s possible to achieve what we want \u2013 it’s just that we first need to know the difference between what we realmente<\/em> queremos y necesitamos y lo que piense en<\/em> que necesitamos y queremos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For example, if someone has broken up with you, doesn’t that mean that que<\/em> person clearly isn’t what you need?<\/p>\n

Yes, we can always choose to indulge in fantasies we create about our partners but eventually, we should realize the truth, even if it hurts \u2013 if they don’t love us that means they’re not what we need and the heartache that we feel might be just the pain of feeling not good enough for someone else.<\/p>\n

Necesitamos amor rec\u00edproco. Necesitamos un mejor amigo y un amante que nos quiera incondicionalmente. Pero antes de todo eso, necesitamos querernos a nosotros mismos.<\/p>\n

A veces acabamos con el coraz\u00f3n roto para aprender a construir una relaci\u00f3n sana con nosotros mismos y con los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Todo el tiempo y esfuerzo que dedicamos a los dem\u00e1s deber\u00edamos dedicarlo tambi\u00e9n a nosotros mismos. El amor propio es lo que nos curar\u00e1 del dolor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don’t continue the cycle, break it. Don’t end up in another relationship and repeat the same mistakes when you can heal yourself first and be ready for the person who’s really meant for you.<\/p>\n

Don’t be afraid to be sad, to grieve, and reflect. All these things help to teach you a lesson. On your journey to amor propio<\/a> y la curaci\u00f3n, necesitar\u00e1 algunos pasos adicionales para facilitar las cosas:<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo pasar p\u00e1gina con un ex al que a\u00fan quieres<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Aplique el norma de no contacto<\/em><\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

\u201cIt always seems impossible until it’s done.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Nelson Mandela<\/p>\n

El objetivo de la norma de no contacto<\/a> es ayudarte a superar una ruptura y a ver las cosas con m\u00e1s objetividad. Las rupturas son complicadas y las personas son sensibles.<\/p>\n

Every little thing can trigger our feelings: one word or text message is enough to make us spiral down to our lowest point \u2013 not to mention what one look or the sound of their voice, their smell, or their touch could do.<\/p>\n

If you’re frequently thinking about your ex, you’re not ready for any kind of contact.<\/p>\n

We go back and revisit all the best moments we had with them while forgetting all the bad ones (because that\u2019s what our brains do).<\/p>\n

Cutting off contact is hard, but it’s the most efficient way to really heal. Remove them from your social media and deja de enviarles mensajes<\/a>.<\/p>\n

And let’s not fool ourselves \u2013 keeping an ex as a friend is too often just a sign that one of you is hoping for things to go back the way they were.<\/p>\n

I’m not saying that friendship isn’t possible, but it’s not possible right after a breakup and it’s not possible to be as intense as you would like it to be.<\/p>\n

You need to protect yourself with healthy boundaries, especially if you’re in a situation where you can’t avoid seeing your partner \u2013 for example, because of children if they’re your ex-wife or ex-husband.<\/p>\n

Piensa en tus sentimientos y en lo que te hace sentir bien y lo que te hace sentir mal, lo que alimenta tu anhelo y lo que te hace sentir bien por ti mismo.<\/p>\n

Be a friend to yourself first. Live your life. Do things that make you happy, even if it’s just a small and insignificant thing. Try doing new things.<\/p>\n

Vuelve a encontrarte a ti mismo. Explora tus intereses en solitario. Invierte en ti. Haz planes para ti y empieza a trabajar en ellos.<\/p>\n

Sal con tus amigos y deja que te distraigan de tu ex. Empieza a hablar con otras personas.<\/p>\n

Just put all your effort into self-improvement and self-care activities and make sure it’s something you truly like.<\/p>\n

Deja de idealizar a tu ex<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u201cMemories warm you up from the inside. But they also tear you apart.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Haruki Murakami<\/p>\n

This is probably the number one reason why we can’t get over our exes. We idealize them!<\/p>\n

Ask yourself: \u201cDo I love my ex or do I like my idea of him\/her?\u201d<\/p>\n

We go back and revisit all the best moments we had with them while forgetting all the bad ones (because that’s what our brains do).<\/p>\n

Esencialmente, imaginamos cosas que no son ciertas en la realidad. Los recuerdos no son fiables.<\/p>\n

It’s easier for us to think about what’s already been than to deal with what’s happening now.<\/p>\n

Getting back with your ex won’t solve anything and you’ll probably end up even more disappointed and create a problem and a half.<\/p>\n

They’re not what you remember: they are the same person you broke up with \u2013 and you broke up with a reason.<\/p>\n

They’re not the one who got away. If they’re gone, that’s because they weren’t the one<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Romance and daydreaming are not a bad thing, but if they make you hurt yourself \u2013 then yes, I suggest you skip them altogether.<\/p>\n

There’s no perfect person for you and your ex definitely wasn’t perfect either. You don’t want your ex back<\/a>.<\/p>\n

There are people with whom you can achieve your full potential but that still doesn’t mean they’re perfect, it means their imperfection doesn’t affect you badly.<\/p>\n

Instead of idealizing your ex, use your imagination to plan out the next big thing in your life that’s going to make you happy.<\/p>\n

Remember you’re powerful<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u201cYou’re always one decision away from a totally different life.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Unknown<\/p>\n

Puede ser dif\u00edcil ganar confianza despu\u00e9s de una ruptura, pero eso es exactamente lo que tienes que trabajar.<\/p>\n

Necesitas volver a enamorarte de ti misma. D\u00e9jate curar en paz pero ponte a trabajar en las cosas que te gusta hacer.<\/p>\n

Now it’s the best time to push through self-limiting beliefs.<\/p>\n

Go back to that mindset of a child when you thought you could do anything \u2013 because that’s true and you still can. What separates you from that is your fear of failure.<\/p>\n

Don’t be afraid of failure. Everyone who has made progress and become successful in any aspect of life first had to fail.<\/p>\n

Los fracasos, al final, siempre se convierten en una prueba de nuestro \u00e9xito y trabajo duro.<\/p>\n

Remember the potential you carry in yourself \u2013 you can do the things you dream of and you don’t need anyone but yourself.<\/p>\n

Don’t confuse your past experiences and your memories with facts. What happened to you in the past doesn’t define you. You have permission to change and outgrow things.<\/p>\n

Tienes permiso para vivir tu vida en tus propios t\u00e9rminos.<\/p>\n

Don’t forget that you’re powerful being on your own. Ditch the self-doubt and start experiencing life as a one time opportunity.<\/p>\n

You’re powerful enough to face your fears \u2013 and that includes the fear of loneliness, the fear of not being enough, and every other fear that comes with a breakup.<\/p>\n

Acepta tu pasado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u201cLife can only be understood backward, but it must be lived forwards.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 S\u00f8ren Kierkegaard<\/p>\n

D\u00e9jalo.<\/p>\n

El primer paso es permitir las emociones negativas y ser amable con uno mismo.<\/p>\n

Step two is to accept the fact that other people don’t owe you anything, they’re responsible for their actions and how you react to things is your responsibility.<\/p>\n

Deja de pensar en \"y si...\". Lo que ocurri\u00f3 en el pasado se queda ah\u00ed. Lo \u00fanico que puedes cambiar es el presente. As\u00ed que pell\u00edzcate y preg\u00fantate: \u00bfQu\u00e9 puedo hacer ahora<\/em> para mejorar mi vida?<\/p>\n

Atiende tus necesidades<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u201cBe you, love you. All ways, always.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Alexandra Elle<\/p>\n

Empieza a pensar activamente en tu bienestar. Ded\u00edcate al autocuidado.<\/p>\n

Don’t just read about and listen to what other people are doing but try to find the things you personally like.<\/p>\n

Take care of your body. It’s not just a superficial thing \u2013 it’s the way we connect with the present moment.<\/p>\n

That’s how we ground ourselves and rest our overactive minds. Other than that it’s the practice of self-love.<\/p>\n

Aprende a decir no, protege tu energ\u00eda. Elige con qui\u00e9n pasas el tiempo.<\/p>\n

Organ\u00edzate. Reg\u00e1late un viaje a alg\u00fan lugar al que siempre hayas querido ir.<\/p>\n

Spend time with your friends and tell them how much they mean to you. Don’t be afraid of being vulnerable. Don’t be afraid to talk about your feelings.<\/p>\n

If you’re feeling like things are not getting better, seek the help of mental health professionals. There’s nothing wrong with that, in fact \u2013 it can transform your life and make you feel whole again.<\/p>\n

Don’t think it’s wrong to still love your ex<\/h2>\n

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\u201cI don\u2019t count life as life without love.”<\/em> \u2013 Leo Tolstoy<\/p>\n

Don’t close off your heart because you’ve been hurt. If you still love your ex that means you’re capable of loving someone without interest and that’s a beautiful thing.<\/p>\n

Don’t ever think that feeling is wrong, because it’s not \u2013 no matter what anyone says.<\/p>\n

Don’t stop believing in love and think you’re never going to find anyone who will understand you.<\/p>\n

You never know what life has in store for you. There’s always a silver lining in every situation, you just need to look in the right direction.<\/p>\n

Dealing with a breakup is tough but it’s possible to overcome it.<\/p>\n

I can assure you that one day you’ll look back at this part of your life and be grateful that things happened the way that did because they taught you so many things about life and yourself.<\/p>\n

Thinking \u201cI still love my ex\u201d shouldn’t be something that holds you back or makes you feel self-conscious.<\/p>\n

You can grow from it and change that thought to \u201cI love myself enough to understand that thing that happened to me helped me grow and be the person I am today\u201d.<\/p>\n

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