{"id":7689,"date":"2017-10-30T12:50:34","date_gmt":"2017-10-30T12:50:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=7689"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:41:49","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:41:49","slug":"una-carta-a-una-chica-que-lucha-por-curarse-tras-una-relacion-toxica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/una-carta-a-una-chica-que-lucha-por-curarse-tras-una-relacion-toxica\/","title":{"rendered":"Una carta a todas las chicas que luchan por recuperarse de una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Leaving any relationship can be a tumultuous experience. We all know that someone going through a bad breakup needs both a bit more care and a bit more space. It\u2019s a sensitive time when emotions can rise and fall rapidly for reasons that only make sense to the subconscious.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/sucede-que-el-narcisista-se-va\/\">Abandonar una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica o narcisista<\/a> is even harder. Your self and your state war with each other. You\u2019ve been denied and marginalized for so long that now you do it to yourself without considering it. When you realize you\u2019ve done to yourself what he or she used to, anger and shame well up at yourself for falling back into the old pattern.<\/p>\n<p>Esto no se arregla con una charla de diez minutos. No es algo que se solucione de una vez. Esto es un proceso, y se mide en sonrisas y pasos de beb\u00e9 y peque\u00f1os actos de bondad hacia ti mismo.<\/p>\n<p>Rara vez dos personas se curan de la misma manera de la misma situaci\u00f3n, y se han desarrollado muchas estrategias y m\u00e9todos. Algunos m\u00e9todos son recomendados por profesionales, y otros son mecanismos autodidactas de afrontamiento que proporcionan una escalera.<\/p>\n<p>Un m\u00e9todo consiste en ahondar en el pasado y en todas sus razones con un terapeuta u otra persona neutral. A algunas personas les resulta muy \u00fatil. Puede darle un cierre y claridad a una situaci\u00f3n que le ha causado confusi\u00f3n y dolor. Tambi\u00e9n puede sacar a la luz algunos patrones o tendencias que te hicieron m\u00e1s susceptible a los avances de tu ex.<\/p>\n<p>Otra opci\u00f3n es buscar un coach que le ayude a definir y alcanzar objetivos como m\u00e9todo para avanzar. Este enfoque deja a un lado el pasado y se centra en mejorar desde donde se encuentre en ese momento. Deja de lado el intento de retroceder sobre c\u00f3mo se ha llegado hasta donde se est\u00e1, y se centra en definir d\u00f3nde se est\u00e1 y d\u00f3nde se quiere estar. Esto puede ser \u00fatil para las personas a las que les gusta alcanzar objetivos concretos y tienen una sensaci\u00f3n de logro al dar pasos hacia esos objetivos.<\/p>\n<p>Ambos m\u00e9todos son v\u00e1lidos y, de hecho, pueden ser utilizados por una misma persona. Algunos profesionales utilizan ambos, empezando como consejeros y pasando al coaching cuando la persona est\u00e1 preparada.<\/p>\n<p>Some former victims move forward on their own, forging ahead and cleaning up without any direction from outside sources. This method takes willpower and determination, and it will only work if you\u2019re willing to do the legwork and research on your own. One word of warning: this method is often the toughest, the most painful, and it takes the most time, but it does give you the most control and privacy. That can be a double-edged sword.<\/p>\n<p>The last option covered here is to recruit a group of people, be they friends, family, or a support group, with whom you can share your experiences in a less formal, more social way. Be sure, if you are going with this option, that the people in your group are willing to listen even when it\u2019s hard for them to do, and be sure to give a listening ear when they need one in return. This can be helpful, but it relies on forging relationships and there need to be agreed-upon rules. The level of confidentiality agreed upon must be very clear, and judgement-free compassion must be offered by all.<\/p>\n<p>En \u00faltima instancia, t\u00fa decides c\u00f3mo curarte. Estas opciones no son ni mucho menos todos los m\u00e9todos que se ofrecen, pero son los m\u00e1s accesibles y los m\u00e1s f\u00e1ciles de aplicar a corto plazo. La mayor\u00eda de las personas que buscan un rejuvenecimiento personal encontrar\u00e1n \u00fatiles uno o varios de estos m\u00e9todos. El c\u00f3mo y el por qu\u00e9 exactos variar\u00e1n mucho, por supuesto.<\/p>\n<p>The main point here is not the method of healing you choose, but your willingness to undergo the process. This is not, as I said, an activity for a single sitting. There will be starts, and stops, and detours, and wrong turns. Along the way, your story develops. You grow and learn, and if you find yourself changing in ways you don\u2019t like then you can correct your course based on your goals.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/6-maneras-de-curar-el-maltrato-oculto\/\">Puedes curarte.<\/a> You can recover. Life is dynamic and everything changes. Don\u2019t give up. Whatever you do, don\u2019t give up.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><strong>por Jessica Hyten<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-48200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Darling-If-You-Dont-Let-Go-It-Will-Just-Hurt-More-5-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Una carta a todas las chicas que luchan por recuperarse de una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Darling-If-You-Dont-Let-Go-It-Will-Just-Hurt-More-5-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Darling-If-You-Dont-Let-Go-It-Will-Just-Hurt-More-5-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Darling-If-You-Dont-Let-Go-It-Will-Just-Hurt-More-5.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Leaving any relationship can be a tumultuous experience. We all know that someone going through a bad breakup needs both a bit more care and a bit more space. It\u2019s a sensitive time when emotions can rise and fall rapidly for reasons that only make sense to the subconscious. 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