{"id":7969,"date":"2020-04-03T14:21:41","date_gmt":"2020-04-03T14:21:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=7969"},"modified":"2021-08-11T09:22:54","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T09:22:54","slug":"7-cosas-que-pasan-conoce-a-un-buen-chico-que-sobrevive-al-abuso-emocional","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/7-cosas-que-pasan-conoce-a-un-buen-chico-que-sobrevive-al-abuso-emocional\/","title":{"rendered":"7 cosas que pasan cuando conoces a un buen chico despu\u00e9s de sobrevivir a un abuso emocional"},"content":{"rendered":"

Enamorarse despu\u00e9s de que alguien te haya destruido as\u00ed puede ser una batalla cuesta arriba.<\/p>\n

You really want to love again and you want to open your heart to the one who loves you, but you just can\u2019t.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re too scared that you will go through the same old story again.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re terrified of being dragged into emotional abuse because you know it\u2019s almost impossible to get out.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve been there and you didn\u2019t even realize what he was doing to you.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Cre\u00edas que as\u00ed era como deb\u00eda ser. Pensabas que las relaciones funcionaban as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Pensabas que ten\u00eda raz\u00f3n al decir que t\u00fa eras el culpable de todo lo malo.<\/p>\n

Y empezaste a cre\u00e9rtelo. Absorb\u00edas sus mentiras como si fueran las cosas m\u00e1s sinceras que alguien te hubiera dicho jam\u00e1s. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Ten\u00eda ese poder de hacerte creer todo lo que quer\u00eda. <\/strong><\/em>It\u2019s not your fault, though. Don\u2019t blame yourself for believing his lies.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t blame yourself <\/a>por no haber visto antes lo que realmente estaba pasando. No hab\u00eda ninguna posibilidad de que lo hubieras visto venir.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Even if you did, even if you knew what was going on, you couldn\u2019t break free that easily.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Te mentir\u00edas a ti mismo dici\u00e9ndote que cambiar\u00eda, que s\u00f3lo era una fase.<\/p>\n

Y habr\u00edas tenido raz\u00f3n porque tuvo fases en las que fue el mejor hombre que podr\u00edas haber deseado.<\/p>\n

His behavior was hot \u2018n\u2019 cold. He twisted you around his little finger and you responded the way he wanted you to respond. That\u2019s called being a manipulative bastard.<\/p>\n

You couldn\u2019t leave just like that.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

There is something addictive in these relationships. Even though you wanted out, you somehow stayed. It\u2019s like you couldn\u2019t leave him, like something was pulling you back to him.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Well, it wasn\u2019t love for sure, it was an addiction. You are well aware that if you had left, you would have been alone.<\/p>\n

Y de alguna manera retorcida, quer\u00edas quedarte con \u00e9l porque te daba seguridad.<\/p>\n

Estar en una relaci\u00f3n con \u00e9l era algo que conoc\u00edas, algo que te resultaba familiar.<\/p>\n

And due to that emotional state he had put you in, you didn\u2019t want to leave for the unknown or leave this relationship.<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s importante de todo es que te asustaste.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Ten\u00edas miedo de dejarlo<\/a>, you were scared for your life. He threatened you, not just once, and you really didn\u2019t have the courage to take the next step and leave.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Si tuvieras que tomar una decisi\u00f3n, preferir\u00edas haber estado en una relaci\u00f3n abusiva que liberarte de una, porque ten\u00edas miedo de \u00e9l y de lo que podr\u00eda haberte hecho.<\/p>\n

But, in the end, he brought you to the point where you didn\u2019t even care for your own life anymore.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t care if you were going to live or die, as long as this suffering was over, so you left.<\/p>\n

De alguna manera encontraste ese valor extra que ten\u00edas escondido en alg\u00fan lugar profundo dentro de ti y lo usaste.<\/p>\n

Not because you knew you were strong and you were going to use that strength to escape, but because you didn\u2019t care anymore for anything, not even yourself.<\/p>\n

En ese proceso de no importarte nada, creciste. Accidentalmente encontraste esa fuerza y la usaste y te diste cuenta de que val\u00edas algo.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Te diste cuenta de que eras fuerte y de que eras capaz de controlar tu propia vida. Now that you\u2019re gone from his abusive grip, you are collecting yourself.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

You\u2019re picking up your broken pieces – not the pieces of your heart, but the pieces of your soul and your mind, too.<\/p>\n

But that doesn\u2019t matter to you so much because you are finally at peace and maybe even ready to love again.<\/p>\n

And loving someone else after what you\u2019ve been through is not an easy game.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll have to take a lot of challenges and you\u2019ll have to face things which make you shiver, things that you are still afraid of.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Te juzgas a ti mismo con demasiada dureza<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You have to understand that it\u2019s not your fault for going through all of this. No ganar\u00e1s nada juzg\u00e1ndote a ti mismo<\/a> and asking yourself why you didn\u2019t escape earlier.<\/p>\n

Lo que ocurre es que la gente suele tratarnos como nos tratamos a nosotros mismos. As\u00ed que, mientras te culpes por todo lo que te ha pasado, la gente lo ver\u00e1.<\/p>\n

They will sense that you don\u2019t respect or love yourself and no one will be able to love you back.<\/p>\n

Cuando te tratas mal, te est\u00e1s abandonando. Tienes que aprender a no hacerlo.<\/p>\n

Una vez que lo hagas, atraer\u00e1s a otras personas cari\u00f1osas y dignas de confianza.<\/p>\n

Tienes que dejar que te hable<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Talking is an essential key to every happy relationship. It\u2019s impossible to develop trust if you don\u2019t talk to each other.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to let him know what you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n

Let him know you\u2019re still healing and that you\u2019re scared of opening your heart to him – you\u2019re scared of getting hurt again.<\/p>\n

Expl\u00edcale c\u00f3mo te sent\u00edas en tu relaci\u00f3n abusiva. Dile que tu autoestima est\u00e1 casi por los suelos y que necesitas tiempo para poder confiar en nadie, ni siquiera en \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

Tienes miedo de ser gaslighted<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This is something you\u2019ve experienced on a daily basis. He made you believe in things that never happened.<\/p>\n

Te hizo creer que estabas loco. Este es un ejemplo cl\u00e1sico de manipulaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Ahora, crees que est\u00e1 pasando lo mismo con este nuevo tipo.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re scared that you are about to experience the same old thing, don\u2019t shut down. Talk to him, explain how you\u2019re feeling.<\/p>\n

Dile lo que te hizo el \u00faltimo hombre con el que saliste. Dile c\u00f3mo te hizo sentir.<\/p>\n

Tell him you\u2019re scared he is doing the same thing as the last one. Don\u2019t assume you\u2019re being paranoid.<\/p>\n

Respond to your worries and face him. If he shows empathy, and if he listens to your problems, you\u2019ve got nothing to be afraid of.<\/p>\n

Analizar\u00e1s demasiado las cosas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Dudar\u00e1s de todo lo que haga. Te tratar\u00e1 como realmente te mereces y eso te resultar\u00e1 demasiado extra\u00f1o. No est\u00e1s acostumbrada a que te traten as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

No est\u00e1 acostumbrado a recibir un mensaje de buenos d\u00edas o a que le lleven flores a su lugar de trabajo. No est\u00e1 acostumbrado a recibir una visita sorpresa para saber c\u00f3mo se encuentra.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll probably think he\u2019s smothering you or that he\u2019s being too pushy and you\u2019re going to back down and shut him out to analyze why he is doing all of these things for you.<\/p>\n

Is he trying to lure you into his trap only to show his real face later on? You\u2019ll have a ton of questions like this, but stay focused.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let your bad experience ruin your chance for happiness.<\/p>\n

Te disculpar\u00e1s todo el tiempo<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

El que te hizo luz de gas te ense\u00f1\u00f3 a hacer eso. Te convirti\u00f3 en una marioneta perfecta, peque\u00f1a y obediente. Todo era culpa tuya y ten\u00edas que reconocerlo.<\/p>\n

You had to admit you were the one to blame or all hell would break loose. So, you apologized for things you did and didn\u2019t do to protect yourself.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re doing the same thing all over again, but this time you don\u2019t have to do it. He doesn\u2019t want you to apologize all the time.<\/p>\n

He is telling you it\u2019s not your fault and that it\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t accept he\u2019s real<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

You think he\u2019s too good to be true. You are afraid that he is putting on a show only to impress you and gain your trust.<\/p>\n

Tienes tanto miedo de que se quite la m\u00e1scara y revele su verdadero rostro cuando le muestres el camino a tu coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t shake the feeling that something bad is going to happen any minute now.<\/p>\n

Tienes la sensaci\u00f3n de vivir en un cuento de hadas <\/a>porque nunca habr\u00edas so\u00f1ado que te trataran y quisieran as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

And you know what, you are living in a fairy tale. You finally got your happy ending. Don\u2019t feel guilty though because you deserved one.<\/p>\n

Deja que los nuevos sentimientos se apoderen de ti<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t fight these strange, new feelings that are consuming you. Embrace them, because they are something you\u2019ll be feeling for the rest of your life.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed es el amor verdadero. As\u00ed es como se siente.<\/p>\n

D\u00e9jate llevar. Deja que te quiera porque te lo mereces.<\/p>\n

\"7<\/p>\n

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