{"id":80936,"date":"2020-06-11T08:27:11","date_gmt":"2020-06-11T08:27:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=80936"},"modified":"2021-11-15T15:46:41","modified_gmt":"2021-11-15T15:46:41","slug":"aumentar-el-amor-propio-y-dejar-de-sentirse-indeseado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/aumentar-el-amor-propio-y-dejar-de-sentirse-indeseado\/","title":{"rendered":"Formas poderosas de aumentar el amor propio y dejar de sentirse indeseado"},"content":{"rendered":"

Todos tenemos que enfrentarnos al rechazo. Puede ocurrir en nuestra primera infancia, en el patio de recreo, en la escuela, o mucho m\u00e1s tarde en nuestras relaciones rom\u00e1nticas.<\/p>\n

Feeling unwanted follows some people wherever they go. There’s nothing as hard as having to deal with the feeling of not being good enough, worthy of love, or at all important in this world.<\/p>\n

Este art\u00edculo tratar\u00e1 sobre la lucha de sentirse no deseado, gui\u00e1ndole a trav\u00e9s del proceso de reinventarse en estos t\u00e9rminos y encontrar una nueva felicidad.<\/p>\n

La lucha diaria de sentirse no deseado<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Why am I not enough? Why don’t I matter?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

These painful questions are racing through your mind. You feel your chest tighten and your body ache and it’s like all you need to do to release all this sorrow is cry, but you can’t.<\/p>\n

In your mind, there’s only one sad answer to those questions. YO NO LO VALGO<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I know the heartache of constantly feeling unwanted and unloved. I’ve been there.<\/p>\n

El dolor que sientes amenaza con destrozarte. La rabia y el asco que sientes nublan tu juicio, dej\u00e1ndote ciego ante todo lo bueno y bello que te rodea.<\/p>\n

Feeling like you aren’t worth it, feeling like you’re a second-best, will mess with your head, I mean it.<\/p>\n

These are the worst feelings a human being can have, thinking you aren’t worth choosing, you don’t matter, you’re unimportant.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Having felt like that myself, I’ve moved through many different emotional states. I was depressed, indifferent, angry, and finally I found myself at rock bottom \u2013 feeling nothing for myself but pity.<\/p>\n

You can’t go anywhere from there but up, and that’s exactly what I did. I decided I needed to become stronger, I needed to learn to love myself and help my self-esteem.<\/p>\n

There’s a time for everything in life, and this was my time to finally put ME first.<\/p>\n

Feeling lonely and unloved has a lot to do with how other people treat you. Other people’s mistreatment of you is usually the trigger to this kind of feeling.<\/p>\n

We all know that, but there’s something new I’ve learned. Being unloved by some people and feeling unlovable in general don’t have to be connected.<\/p>\n

Todos podemos aprender a liberarnos de la toxicidad que ciertas relaciones aportan a nuestra vida.<\/a><\/p>\n

I’m not here to tell you what to do, I’m here to help you reach your own conclusion by guiding you through the process of aumentar su autoestima<\/a> y por fin sentirme querible e importante.<\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfc\u00f3mo hacer frente a sentirse indeseado? Lo primero que hay que hacer es llegar a la ra\u00edz del problema.<\/p>\n

Preguntas que deber\u00edas hacerte antes de empezar a lidiar con la sensaci\u00f3n de no ser deseado:<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

– What is it I want to be acknowledged for in order to finally feel accepted?<\/p>\n

-\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 es importante para m\u00ed, qu\u00e9 significa para m\u00ed?<\/p>\n

-\u00bfDe qu\u00e9 manera quiero que se me reconozca?<\/p>\n

-\u00bfC\u00f3mo puedo reconocerme y apreciarme?<\/p>\n

-How does my life change if I get the recognition I’m seeking?<\/p>\n

-\u00bfC\u00f3mo cambia mis relaciones ese reconocimiento?<\/p>\n

These questions will help you dig deeper into your own mind and soul and reach that place where you’re hiding your true emotions.<\/p>\n

Piense detenidamente en cada una de estas preguntas e intente darse algunas respuestas.<\/p>\n

The answers you get will be a starting point to going through this difficult time and finding the peace, appreciation, and love you seek and deserve. It’s time for you to c\u00farate a ti mismo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Cosas importantes que hay que entender sobre sentirse indeseado:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. Un gran n\u00famero de personas se sienten exactamente como t\u00fa<\/h2>\n

\"grupo<\/p>\n

The society we live in, the social media boom, everything that’s happening in our everyday lives, are all causing the number of people who genuinely like and appreciate themselves to decrease.<\/p>\n

La forma en que nos tratamos unos a otros se suma a esta disminuci\u00f3n y cada d\u00eda hay m\u00e1s personas que se sienten no deseadas y no queridas.<\/p>\n

Piensa en esto. El comportamiento de las personas es la manifestaci\u00f3n directa de c\u00f3mo se sienten por dentro.<\/p>\n

Cuando las personas se sienten solas, heridas y poco queridas, se comportan de forma diferente a como lo har\u00edan si sintieran que reciben todo el amor y los cuidados que necesitan.<\/p>\n

Las personas son como las flores: cuando se las cuida y se las quiere, florecen y hacen que todo a su alrededor sea m\u00e1s bonito, colorido e inspirador.<\/p>\n

When they aren’t getting love, which is their water and air, they dry and rot, like humans whose hearts and souls die slowly each day.<\/p>\n

Understanding that your environment works this way will help you realize two things. First, you’ll learn to be more empathetic towards others and understand better where they are coming from.<\/p>\n

Second, you’ll realize that you’re not the only one feeling unwanted. There are so many people around you who feel the exact same way.<\/p>\n

2. Just because things happened to you, it doesn’t mean you have to pity yourself<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Bad things happen to good people. Bad things happen to bad people too. Just because something happened to you doesn’t mean it’s your fault.<\/p>\n

Also, it doesn’t mean you should pity yourself for the rest of your life for being dealt those cards.<\/p>\n

Hay muchas circunstancias diferentes en nuestra vida que nos llevan a donde estamos y determinan el curso que toma nuestra vida.<\/p>\n

If you dwell on the things that happen to you and take them as the only variables in the equation of who you are as a person, you’ll get completely the wrong answer.<\/p>\n

Staying focused on the things that happen to you will mess with your mental health and draw you into the vicious cycle of feeling unloved, thinking you’re unworthy and attracting people who’ll push you even deeper into this hole.<\/p>\n

It’s you who has to learn to work with what you get. Make lemonade \u2013 you can do it. There isn’t anyone in this world who hasn\u2019t had something truly devastating happen to them.<\/p>\n

Some people were traumatized in their childhood, some were in nasty relationships with narcissists or psychopaths… no matter what happened to you that’s feeding your thoughts of being unworthy \u2013 it’s up to you to learn to deal with it.<\/p>\n

Your self-worth shouldn’t have anything to do with circumstantial experiences you’ve had. Pity yourself less, love yourself more<\/a>.<\/p>\n

3. Puedes y debes llenar el vac\u00edo que hay en tu interior<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Unconsciously we all believe we need other people to make us feel happy and fulfilled. Children need others to satisfy their needs, adults don’t.<\/p>\n

Muchas personas creen que la \u00fanica forma de sentirse completas es encontrar a otro ser humano (o seres humanos) que les ayude.<\/p>\n

Sin duda, nuestros seres queridos pueden ayudarnos a sentirnos m\u00e1s apreciados, cuidados, queridos e importantes.<\/p>\n

The truth is, though, this will only go so far, and sooner or later you’ll become aware that the emptiness inside you still exists.<\/p>\n

No amount of acknowledgment from others will make up for what you’re missing inside.<\/p>\n

You have the tools to fill the void inside you. Actually, you’re the only one who has those tools and it’s time you learned how to use them.<\/p>\n

9 poderosas maneras de ayudarte a sentirte m\u00e1s querido y amado:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Examina tus creencias sobre el amor y el mundo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Todos tenemos algunas ideas equivocadas sobre c\u00f3mo funciona el mundo.<\/p>\n

Nadie conoce realmente toda la verdad, as\u00ed que no podemos decir que tu concepci\u00f3n sea err\u00f3nea, pero esfu\u00e9rzate en pensar profundamente por qu\u00e9 crees que ciertas cosas son ciertas.<\/p>\n

A menudo, son nuestros traumas y experiencias negativas los que nos moldean de forma m\u00e1s agresiva que las cosas buenas por las que pasamos.<\/p>\n

Esto significa que nuestra percepci\u00f3n del mundo es la imagen que obtenemos de \u00e9l despu\u00e9s de que atraviese el prisma de toda la negatividad por la que hemos pasado.<\/p>\n

No todo el mundo puede ser optimista, pero ser realista bastar\u00eda por ahora. Piensa en el mundo de distintas maneras, dale un contexto diferente y mira ad\u00f3nde te lleva tu mente.<\/p>\n

There’s a good chance you’ll find that the way you thought about the world around you was false and needs some updating to do.<\/p>\n

Your perception of the world is the source of your emotions, that’s why it’s so important.<\/p>\n

2. El amor puede tomar diferentes formas, piensa en esto<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

There’s a certain idea every human being has about love.<\/p>\n

A person’s image of love is shaped by their early childhood, their teen and adolescent years, the experiences they’ve had, the movies they’ve seen, the books they’ve read…<\/p>\n

There’s a whole lot that goes into this equation.<\/p>\n

We’re all seeking this ultimate, unconditional love that only the perfect person can give us. The truth is, love can be very different to how we imagined.<\/p>\n

Adapt your ideas to what you see to be true. Trust your instincts and let true love approach you even when it doesn’t match your idealized image of love.<\/p>\n

3. Intenta dar amor cuando de otro modo juzgar\u00edas<\/h2>\n

\"amigas<\/p>\n

Look below the surface. Give people a chance. Of course, you shouldn’t go against your instincts and get with people who are dangerous for you.<\/p>\n

Intenta evitar que tu primer juicio estereotipado se interponga entre t\u00fa y una verdadera conexi\u00f3n humana.<\/p>\n

Be understanding and compassionate towards others and that’s what you can expect in return.<\/p>\n

Esto ayudar\u00e1 a tus relaciones con la gente en general, con los miembros de tu familia y tus amigos, no s\u00f3lo a tus relaciones rom\u00e1nticas.<\/p>\n

Offer kindness to others, be there for them when they’re going through something bad instead of being the first to judge them and write them off.<\/p>\n

4. Reconocer y valorar a las personas por lo que son<\/h2>\n

\"familia<\/p>\n

Recognize the people who are already in your life. In your search for someone else, someone to fill your void, you’re probably ignoring every amazing human being you already have in your life.<\/p>\n

You might be thinking that your potential romantic interest is more important than your friends or family but that’s completely false.<\/p>\n

Tu familia y tus amigos son una parte muy importante de lo que eres. Piensa en todo lo que recibes de ellos y en todas las formas en que te hacen sentir querido sin que te des cuenta.<\/p>\n

Value those people, show your appreciation. This is one of the steps you need to take in order to rediscover love. Once you do, you’ll spread love everywhere you go.<\/p>\n

5. Think about everything you could but don\u2019t do for your loved ones<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Nos ofendemos cuando nuestros seres queridos no nos hacen felices haciendo algo que deber\u00edan o podr\u00edan haber hecho.<\/p>\n

Rara vez nos paramos a pensar qu\u00e9 es lo que somos, o mejor a\u00fan, qu\u00e9 es lo que no estamos haciendo por ellos.<\/p>\n

You have the power to bring more love, care, and nourishment into your life, and if you think your only way to get that is for someone to give to you, you’re very wrong.<\/p>\n

Dedicar tiempo a pensar qu\u00e9 podr\u00edas hacer por las personas que quieres es muy importante.<\/p>\n

Pensar en sus vidas y evaluar sus necesidades en busca de algo que puedas hacer por ellos es saludable para ti y necesario para el \u00e9xito de las relaciones.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQuiz\u00e1 tambi\u00e9n hay personas que se sienten poco queridas a tu alrededor?<\/p>\n

6. Estar realmente presente en tu vida<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Aprende a apreciar tu vida regal\u00e1ndole tu presencia absoluta.<\/p>\n

Don’t dwell in your past and don’t fret about your future. Stay in the present. Think about what’s happening to you. Learn to enjoy moments in this world.<\/p>\n

Remind yourself of the beauty of nature, of God’s love, of every little precious thing that you can enjoy every single moment of your time, even when you feel unworthy.<\/p>\n

You’re worth being here, don’t waste it.<\/p>\n

7. Utilizar conversaciones significativas para conectar con la gente<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Para estar m\u00e1s en sinton\u00eda con el mundo que te rodea, inicia conversaciones con la gente.<\/p>\n

Not just any kind of conversations though \u2013 meaningful conversations that leave you both feeling like you’ve learned something new, important, and motivating.<\/p>\n

Intenta conectar con la gente a un nivel m\u00e1s \u00edntimo. Ac\u00e9rcate a los dem\u00e1s con amor y sin juzgarlos.<\/p>\n

Comprender a los dem\u00e1s tambi\u00e9n nos ayuda a comprendernos mejor a nosotros mismos.<\/p>\n

8. Piensa en tus verdaderas necesidades y deseos<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You can’t get what you want if you don’t know what you want.<\/p>\n

Many people think they are aiming for a certain goal while in reality, they are self-sabotaging because they\u2019ve never really thought about what their true desires are.<\/p>\n

Date tiempo para pensar qu\u00e9 es lo que realmente quieres. \u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que te hace sonre\u00edr?<\/p>\n

Even if your true desires don’t seem convenient, trust them and move in that direction because that’s the only way to feel fulfilled, worthy, and important.<\/p>\n

9. Aprende a quererte a ti mismo<\/h2>\n

\"grupo<\/p>\n

Piensa en TI. Qui\u00e9rela (o qui\u00e9relo). Se lo merece. Hay muchas cosas que puedes hacer para quererte mejor, para amarte m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Dedique tiempo a hacer cosas que le gusten. Prueba algo nuevo, \u00fanete a un club de lectura, encuentra un grupo de apoyo que se adapte a tus necesidades. Cu\u00eddese mucho.<\/p>\n

Challenge yourself, show yourself what you’re capable of. Give yourself some credit. Praise yourself for your accomplishments.<\/p>\n

Libera a tu ni\u00f1o interior pero encuentra la forma de ense\u00f1arle cosas nuevas: confianza, amor y aceptaci\u00f3n. Stop blaming yourself because someone didn’t know to love you<\/a>, it doesn’t mean you’re unlovable.<\/p>\n

\"Formas<\/p>\n

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