{"id":81203,"date":"2020-06-22T11:52:50","date_gmt":"2020-06-22T11:52:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=81203"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:39:24","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:39:24","slug":"relacion-transaccional","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relacion-transaccional\/","title":{"rendered":"Todo lo que debe saber sobre una relaci\u00f3n transaccional"},"content":{"rendered":"

I bet that right now you’re probably wondering what on earth a <\/span>relaci\u00f3n transaccional<\/span> is and whether you’re unknowingly in one!<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t worry, I’m here to answer all of your questions \u2013 and then some! <\/span><\/p>\n

Let’s start with the obvious. When you look up the word “transaction,” you’ll notice it has to do with buying and selling. It’s a <\/span>transacci\u00f3n comercial,<\/span> so in this sense we can say it’s sort of like <\/span>marketing relacional<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s the type of relationship that is based on need. Two lovers are like <\/b>socios comerciales<\/b>cada uno se beneficia de la relaci\u00f3n a su manera (<\/b>quid pro quo<\/b>).<\/b><\/p>\n

Doesn’t sound very romantic, right?<\/b><\/p>\n

That’s because it isn’t.<\/b> A diferencia de <\/span>relaciones transformadoras<\/span> que se basan en el deseo, y son en realidad <\/span>relaciones significativas<\/span>las transaccionales son sobre <\/span>inter\u00e9s propio<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfTe has dado cuenta de que cuando la gente quiere algo de su pareja, hermano o amigo, lo m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil es ofrecerle algo a cambio?<\/span><\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

And isn’t that kind of like a <\/span>acuerdo comercial<\/span> disfrazado de aut\u00e9ntico <\/span>interacci\u00f3n social<\/span>?<\/span><\/p>\n

There isn’t necessarily anything wrong with <\/span>matrimonios transaccionales<\/span> and relationships, it’s just that they lack love, and <\/span>they’re not based on <\/b>lo que quieres<\/b>...sino lo que necesitas.<\/b><\/p>\n

We don’t<\/span> ni siquiera se dan cuenta de que muchos de nuestros <\/span>relaciones duraderas<\/span> tienden a terminar precisamente por su naturaleza transaccional. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1ntas veces has terminado con tu pareja porque segu\u00eda necesitando algo de ti, en lugar de proporcionarte amor desinteresado?<\/span><\/p>\n

How many times have you been forced to settle for mediocre love due to your partner’s inability to see you as anything more than a possession that keeps on giving?<\/span><\/p>\n

Cuando <\/span>saber c\u00f3mo<\/span> much you’re worth, you are able to draw a line that nobody gets to cross anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

And if you’re sick and tired of the transactional nature of your relationship, isn’t it high time you did something about it?<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>10 se\u00f1ales honestas de que est\u00e1s casado pero enamorado de otra persona<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 debemos evitar las relaciones transaccionales y aspirar a m\u00e1s?<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

When we’re so focused on the need as opposed to desire, we lose the sense of what relationships are all about in their core.<\/span><\/p>\n

Piensa en esto. Cuando toda tu relaci\u00f3n se basa en lo que puedes ofrecer y en lo buena <\/span>acuerdo comercial<\/span> que puedes hacer, pierdes todo el sentido de una relaci\u00f3n real.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9? <\/span>Because when your partner is only willing to offer something based on how much you’re willing to contribute, that’s a business partnership, not a loving union.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

On the other hand, a different approach would allow your bond to strengthen and you’d see each other as actual life partners, and not a business team.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfAlguna vez le has dicho a tu pareja, <\/span>“Why should I do this for you, when you’ve never done it for me?”<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

That’s an excellent example of a transactionally-oriented relationship. One partner is unwilling to put forth anything due to the fact they haven’t received the same from the other party.<\/span><\/p>\n

Relaciones transaccionales<\/span> est\u00e1n condenadas desde el principio. Son perjudiciales y poco saludables, y si hay ni\u00f1os de por medio, se les inculcan valores equivocados.<\/span><\/p>\n

By exposing your child to this type of environment, you’re teaching him to appreciate people based on how much he can get from them<\/i><\/b>. <\/span><\/i>Y esperemos que eso no sea algo de lo que realmente vivas.<\/span><\/p>\n

Es una triste realidad en la que vivimos todos, y tambi\u00e9n nuestros hijos. Nuestras interacciones con la gente tienden a ser transaccionales, muy a nuestro pesar.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you’ve been living this reality for long enough, it becomes difficult to fight it and seek something more genuine and honest like a <\/span>relaci\u00f3n transformacional<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>\u00bfC\u00f3mo generar confianza en una relaci\u00f3n? Estrategias sencillas pero eficaces<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

La belleza de las relaciones transformadoras<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Como su nombre indica claramente, <\/span>relaciones transformadoras<\/span> son dar, ayudar y hacer cambios a mejor.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se caracterizan por encontrar un <\/span>win-win<\/span> way to handle couples\u2019 hurdles as they presuppose that together (as a united front) you are much stronger than as individuals.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero hay mucho m\u00e1s que esto.<\/span><\/p>\n

No puede pretender estar en una <\/i><\/b>relaci\u00f3n transformacional<\/i><\/b> if it hasn’t changed you in some meaningful way<\/i><\/b>.<\/span><\/i> La forma en que piensas, la forma en que ves las cosas o la forma en que funciona el mundo.<\/span><\/p>\n

It has to have affected some profound part of you that has allowed you to express yourself in new, exciting ways. But the thing is, it isn’t all about you and your needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s about you and your partner in a synergy that allows you both to grow as individuals while keeping you together as loving partners.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’re not in a <\/span>relaci\u00f3n transformacional<\/span> if it doesn’t give you the urge to make changes for the better. In your own life, the lives of those you love, and the world in general.<\/span><\/p>\n

Su alcance es extremadamente amplio y tiende a hacerte querer ser mejor, hacerlo mejor y seguir superando tus propias expectativas.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s genuine and deep, based on mutual appreciation, respect, and adoration. It consists of two people willing to go to the ends of the earth for each other without expecting anything in return.<\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que la raz\u00f3n para esforzarse por <\/span>relaci\u00f3n transformacional<\/span> es bastante obvio. Son la \u00fanica forma de resistir el paso del tiempo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Si quiere un socio cuyo <\/span>m\u00e1xima prioridad<\/span> crear\u00e1 un mundo emocionalmente rico y feliz <\/span>vida personal<\/span> that you can share, you’ll never get it if you stay in a <\/span>relaci\u00f3n transaccional<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed siempre se tratar\u00e1 de <\/span>redes sociales<\/span> y encontrar la <\/span>formas eficaces<\/span> para beneficiarse de su asociaci\u00f3n. <\/span>Lo que quieres<\/span> is unwavering love, support, and knowing they’ve got your back.<\/span><\/p>\n

You want to hear “<\/span><\/i>Te quiero<\/span><\/i>” and you deserve to know you’re appreciated and loved. But how do you get there? How do you turn things around? The answers are below.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>Superar el desamor: 16 consejos para sanar el coraz\u00f3n<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo cultivar una relaci\u00f3n duradera m\u00e1s significativa?<\/h2>\n

Te traigo los consejos m\u00e1s valiosos sobre c\u00f3mo crear algo m\u00e1s transformador a partir de tu <\/span>acuerdo comercial<\/span> de una relaci\u00f3n. Estos son los pasos que debes dar para darle la vuelta a la situaci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Abandonar todas las expectativas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Una de las cosas m\u00e1s importantes que se pueden decir de las relaciones basadas en transacciones es que est\u00e1n llenas de expectativas.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re stuck on maintaining certain expectations the moment you enter a relationship, you’re not giving it a solid chance <\/span>en primer lugar<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn’t provide you with the clarity you need to see what’s actually happening, as you’re too sidetracked by what you need from it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Las expectativas acabar\u00e1n con el romanticismo, la espontaneidad y la emoci\u00f3n, y adem\u00e1s har\u00e1n que tu cabeza trabaje m\u00e1s de la cuenta. \u00bfC\u00f3mo? Llevando constantemente la cuenta. <\/span><\/p>\n

Are your expectations met? Has your partner fulfilled his\/her purpose? What’s the next goal on the agenda? And so on!<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

If you’re entering a relationship, there is only one expectation you should keep in mind. To be truly present in the now!<\/span><\/p>\n

Elige tomar cada d\u00eda como viene. Lev\u00e1ntate sin segundas intenciones y ama a tu pareja pase lo que pase.<\/span><\/p>\n

Try to have a conversation with your partner and express your dissatisfaction with how your relationship has unfolded. If you’re seeking a deeper bond and a solid foundation, ask for it openly.<\/span><\/p>\n

Muchos <\/i><\/b>relaciones transformadoras<\/i><\/b> comienzan bas\u00e1ndose en transacciones.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Pero una vez que descubres que esa persona es algo m\u00e1s que un glorificado <\/i><\/b>socio comercial<\/i><\/b>tienes la oportunidad de convertirlo en algo m\u00e1s.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Deja las expectativas en la puerta y mant\u00e9n la mente abierta. Si lo que buscas es amor, mu\u00e9strate dispuesto a ofrecerlo. Todo empieza por ti. <\/span><\/p>\n

Y si tu pareja es realmente la elegida, las cosas deber\u00edan empezar a desenredarse hacia un ambiente mejor, m\u00e1s c\u00e1lido y genuino.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. S\u00e9 siempre t\u00fa mismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This is something that differs from one individual to another. Nobody knows who the “real you” is but you! Try to figure out who you are when there’s no one around and commit to being that person all the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s challenging, but ultimately, it’s what ensures your happiest self.<\/span><\/p>\n

Being your authentic self is the most personal thing ever. Nobody can tell you how to do it and what you should do to get there. It’s up to you to uncover your true self to a person you share your life with.<\/span><\/p>\n

One thing that’s for certain is that being real and authentic in a sea of fake people is beyond noticeable. Any deviation from what we are exposed to in the world is appreciated and welcome.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ser realista beneficiar\u00e1 a tu relaci\u00f3n en m\u00e1s de un sentido. Os ayudar\u00e1 a crear un v\u00ednculo basado en vuestra capacidad para expresaros libremente, sin pedir disculpas y con fiereza.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Crear\u00e1 una zona segura, en la que su pareja se sentir\u00e1 animada a quitarse la m\u00e1scara y mostrar qui\u00e9n es realmente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Qui\u00e9n sabe, a lo mejor est\u00e1n cansados de tu <\/span>relaci\u00f3n transaccional<\/span> tambi\u00e9n, \u00a1y secretamente anhelan m\u00e1s!<\/span><\/p>\n

La autenticidad es vital cuando se trata de mantener <\/span>relaciones significativas<\/span>. La gente puede fingir durante mucho tiempo, y lo hace muy bien.<\/span><\/p>\n

But with time, they get tired of it. It becomes exhausting constantly playing a role that’s simply not you. So why not do yourselves a favor and just be who you really want to be?<\/span><\/p>\n

You’re not <\/span>socios comerciales<\/span>sois amantes que comparten su vida el uno con el otro. Empezar a actuar en consecuencia y ver lo bien que se puede tener.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Estar dispuesto a asumir riesgos a veces<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

\u201cBut he’d learned long ago that a life lived without risks pretty much wasn’t worth living. Life rewarded courage, even when that first step was taken neck-deep in fear.\u201d<\/span><\/i> \u2013 Tamera Alexander <\/span><\/p>\n

Life and love are all about taking risks, giving yourself fully and completely, and hoping for the best. You can’t always have a safety net. Sometimes you just need to go all in and see where it takes you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Taking risks with your partner forges a stronger bond and creates a sense of deep trust. Why? Because it shows your partner that you’re willing to go all-in for them.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can’t always play it safe, can you? You can’t always keep waiting for others to do something for you in order to give something back! Sometimes you just have to follow your gut and let go of your need for control.<\/span><\/p>\n

Relaciones transaccionales<\/span> est\u00e1n plagados de rechazos constantes, que terminan por cerrarte a la gente y no permitirte amar de verdad.<\/span><\/p>\n

It leaves you feeling alone and scared of reaching out to your partner out of fear of being turned down. And that ends up being the voice inside your head that’s always telling you to play it safe.<\/span><\/p>\n

But it’s time to stop listening to that voice. Start moving in a direction that allows you to share your deepest wants and needs, and stop living in your comfort zone.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

So what if it ends up biting you in the ass? It’s not the end of the world! Do <\/span>lo que quieres<\/span>cuando t\u00fa quieras. Nadie puede decirte lo contrario.<\/span><\/p>\n

Take risks, share your “failures,” and be proud of every little step in the right direction you take as a couple. Life is too short to live in any type of fear, don’t you think?<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Hacer preguntas inc\u00f3modas (y muy necesarias)<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

It’s beyond difficult to connect on a deeper level if you’re not willing to dig deeper. You know exactly what I’m referring to, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

Debes ser capaz de hacer esas preguntas dif\u00edciles e inc\u00f3modas y hacer reflexionar a tu pareja. De lo contrario, tu relaci\u00f3n ser\u00e1 de naturaleza superficial con un toque de transacci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

Create a safe, secure environment in your relationship by daring to ask what you haven’t been able to ask so far. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Key elements of a relationship are breaking what’s supposed to be “taboo” topics and digging deeper than ever. That is ultimately the only way to penetrate your partner’s core and find what makes them tick, and vice versa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Trate de olvidar lo que su <\/span>relaci\u00f3n transaccional<\/span> te ha inculcado y lucha contra tu impulso de ir sobre seguro.<\/span><\/p>\n

Get to know the person you’re spending your life with and share your innermost thoughts with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Eventually, you will start realizing that you’ve transcended into a much deeper, more genuine territory that you didn’t think was there.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dare to go where you haven’t gone thus far and you will find the truth that was hidden for so long. <\/span><\/p>\n

Who is your partner truly? What’s the thing that has truly made them think that you’re the one? What is their biggest fear in life? How fearful are they of what the future holds?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Without asking the tough questions, you will forever be stuck in the gray zone. You’ll be partners, but your relationship will resemble a <\/span>acuerdo comercial<\/span> que est\u00e1 vac\u00edo de todas las emociones.<\/span><\/p>\n

Corta de ra\u00edz la transacci\u00f3n y elige evolucionar, transformarte y crear algo que trascienda todas tus expectativas. Formen un equipo en los aspectos m\u00e1s \u00edntimos que solo ustedes dos conocen.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s what a real, raw relationship is at its very core.<\/b><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n:<\/span> 9 formas alarmantes en las que entregas tu poder cuando te enamoras<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Reflexiones finales<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Relaciones transformadoras<\/span> est\u00e1n aqu\u00ed para transformarte de formas que no pudiste comprender mientras estabas atrapado en tu <\/span>relaci\u00f3n transaccional<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

They provide you with a brand-new outlook on life that allows you to see all you’ve been missing thus far. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mientras que las relaciones basadas en transacciones se basan en <\/span>inter\u00e9s propio<\/span> y necesidad, las transformacionales se centran en el cambio, el crecimiento y los valores fundamentales.<\/span><\/p>\n

Love isn’t a <\/span>acuerdo comercial<\/span> que se trata de <\/span>quid pro quo<\/span> action. Love isn’t supposed to be void of intimacy and authenticity.<\/span><\/p>\n

Love is an affectionate collaboration between two people who show up for each other. Not because they are forced to \u2013 because they want to.<\/span><\/p>\n

Busca un amor que te transforme y te permita crecer juntos codo con codo, sin dejar de aferrarte a tu aut\u00e9ntico y crudo yo. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9sa es la clave de la intimidad real, de la conexi\u00f3n genuina y de un v\u00ednculo duradero.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u201cMost people are slow to champion love because they fear the transformation it brings into their lives. And make no mistake about it: Love does take over and transform the schemes and operations of our egos in a very mighty way.\u201d \u2013<\/span><\/i> Aberjhani<\/span><\/p>\n

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I bet that right now you’re probably wondering what on earth a transactional relationship is and whether you’re unknowingly in one! Don’t worry, I’m here to answer all of your questions \u2013 and then some!  Let’s start with the obvious. When you look up the word “transaction,” you’ll notice it has to do with buying…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":81207,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-81203","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Everything-You-Need-To-Know-About-A-Transactional-Relationship.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81203","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=81203"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81203\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/81207"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=81203"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=81203"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=81203"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}