{"id":82030,"date":"2020-07-09T11:23:25","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T11:23:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=82030"},"modified":"2021-10-29T13:35:46","modified_gmt":"2021-10-29T13:35:46","slug":"consejos-para-superar-una-relacion-enredada","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/consejos-para-superar-una-relacion-enredada\/","title":{"rendered":"Relaci\u00f3n Enmeshed: Definici\u00f3n, se\u00f1ales y consejos para superarla"},"content":{"rendered":"

Estar enamorado es el sentimiento m\u00e1s especial del mundo. Esas mariposas en el est\u00f3mago nos hacen sentir que podemos hacer cualquier cosa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, debe haber l\u00edmites para todo, incluso para amar a alguien. Amar a alguien ciegamente y sin condiciones puede hacer que te pierdas a ti mismo. <\/span><\/p>\n

A la gente le cuesta<\/span> tiempo<\/span> entendiendo que <\/span>establecimiento de l\u00edmites<\/span> es<\/span><\/a> importante para su  <\/span>bienestar<\/span> y <\/span>salud mental<\/span>, as well as their relationship; that\u2019s why many people end up in an <\/span>relaci\u00f3n enredada<\/span> tan a menudo. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 significa el t\u00e9rmino enmeshment?<\/span> \u00bfQu\u00e9 significa estar en una<\/span> relaci\u00f3n<\/span>?<\/span><\/p>\n

Definici\u00f3n de relaci\u00f3n estrecha<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

La familia <\/span>psicoterapeuta<\/span>, Salvador <\/span>Minuchin<\/span>introdujo el concepto de <\/span>enmeshment<\/span> en psicolog\u00eda y psicoterapia para describir <\/span>integraci\u00f3n familiar<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Con este t\u00e9rmino quer\u00eda describir <\/span>relaciones familiares<\/b> cuando dos o m\u00e1s <\/b>familiares<\/b> tener un <\/b>conexi\u00f3n emocional simbi\u00f3tica<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Esto significa que absorben los sentimientos del otro y empiezan a tener las mismas emociones que el otro. <\/span>miembro de la familia<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Para que quede claro, <\/span>enmeshment<\/span> doesn’t only happen in <\/span>relaciones familiares<\/span>. Tambi\u00e9n puede ocurrir en un <\/span>relaci\u00f3n \u00edntima<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Una relaci\u00f3n enredada<\/b> es cualquier relaci\u00f3n en la que los socios no tienen claro <\/b>l\u00edmites personales<\/b> y a medida que pasa el tiempo, se vuelven emocionalmente dependientes el uno del otro.<\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n

They start feeling each other’s emotions.<\/b> B\u00e1sicamente se convierten en gemelos id\u00e9nticos. Si uno de ellos es feliz, el otro tambi\u00e9n lo es. Si uno est\u00e1 enfadado o deprimido, el otro tambi\u00e9n lo est\u00e1. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s just like they sense each other. They don’t know how to function without that other person. They become one.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Si uno de ellos se va de viaje de negocios o si tienen que separarse por alguna otra obligaci\u00f3n, sienten un <\/span>fuerte sentido<\/span> de ansiedad por separaci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

They basically can’t live without each other. That <\/span>sentimiento de soledad<\/span> les vuelve locos porque se acostumbraron tanto a esa otra persona. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not a secret that <\/span>generaciones anteriores<\/span> estaban sueltos en el ajuste <\/span>l\u00edmites personales<\/span> en una relaci\u00f3n y como muchas otras cosas, ese patr\u00f3n fue heredado por la siguiente generaci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

These people are never aware that their relationship is enmeshed and that’s why they act like they don’t need help. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por desgracia, lo hacen cuanto antes. Y cuanto antes se den cuenta y busquen ayuda de un <\/span>psicoterapeuta<\/span>, the sooner they’ll be able to overcome it. <\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn’t just affect their relationship, it also affects their mental health and it leaves them with <\/span>autoestima<\/span> problemas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Si quieres saber cu\u00e1les son los signos m\u00e1s comunes de un <\/span>relaci\u00f3n enredada<\/span> son<\/span>siga leyendo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Signos de enquistamiento en una relaci\u00f3n \u00edntima<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

These kinds of relationships have no future. Both partners will become depressed and they’ll only suffer, no matter how much they love each other. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9stos son algunos <\/span>signos de atrapamiento<\/span> en un <\/span>relaci\u00f3n \u00edntima<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Sientes sus emociones como propias<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Ya no controlas tus emociones. <\/span>Te vuelves emocionalmente <\/b>codependiente<\/b> a tu compa\u00f1ero. <\/b>Te abruman los sentimientos. Te vuelves demasiado intenso emocionalmente. <\/span><\/p>\n

You feel how they feel. If they’re angry or depressed for some reason, you are too, even though you don’t have any reason to feel that way. <\/span><\/p>\n

Crees que compartir sus emociones les ayudar\u00e1 de alguna manera a lidiar con esos fuertes sentimientos, pero es un error. Solo ellos pueden ayudarse a s\u00ed mismos calm\u00e1ndose.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lo \u00fanico que puedes hacer por tu pareja en ese tipo de situaci\u00f3n es estar a su lado si quiere hablar. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you both feel those intense emotions, it’ll only lead to conflict. Those strong feelings will keep you from thinking clearly and you may say or do something you’ll regret later. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. You don’t have any personal space<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/h2>\n

Let’s be honest; we all need some time alone and personal space from time to time. We have different interests and we want to devote ourselves to them. <\/span><\/p>\n

You need to be alone with your thoughts from time to time, to think about your life, to think about whether you’re pleased with where you are in life or if you need to change some things. <\/span><\/p>\n

En una <\/span>relaci\u00f3n \u00edntima<\/span>, a fear of abandonment is constant and that’s why both partners are afraid to take some alone time. <\/span><\/p>\n

They are actually afraid of being alone because they think it’ll reflect badly on their relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Evita conflictos con su pareja<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Cada vez que empiezas una pelea o tienes un conflicto con tu pareja, ambos os calm\u00e1is inmediatamente y volv\u00e9is a arreglar las cosas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Esto tambi\u00e9n se debe a que ambos temen que una pelea pueda acabar con su relaci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t think that you can live without your significant other and you’ll avoid fighting even over some bigger issues, just to save your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

En realidad, los conflictos son buenos para todos <\/span>relaci\u00f3n sana<\/span>. <\/span>We are all different and it’s normal that we all have different views and opinions. <\/b><\/p>\n

You shouldn’t be afraid of saying your opinion or how you feel about some things and of course, your partner might not like it or have different opinions about that same thing. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Tiene miedo al abandono<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

They’re the center of your life. Hell, they are more like your whole life. You’re ready to do whatever they ask you to or whatever you feel is necessary to keep them in your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

You truly consider your partner your other half and you don\u2019t think that you could survive if they ever left you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Wrong again. You’re a whole person on your own, you don’t need anyone to complete you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, sometimes, destiny won’t be on your side and some people will abandon you but so what? Keep that smile on your beautiful face and wave them goodbye. <\/b><\/p>\n

5. Has perdido tu identidad en esta relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Antes de esta relaci\u00f3n, ten\u00edas tus propios intereses, ten\u00edas algunas aficiones. Ten\u00edas amigos y sal\u00edas con ellos siempre que pod\u00edas. <\/span><\/p>\n

You had dreams, goals, some plans for the future\u2026 You knew your worth and you knew what you wanted from life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now? That has all changed. You poured too much of yourself into that relationship and it cost you to lose yourself, to lose your identity. Now, everything that’s important to you is your partner and your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Te has vuelto demasiado dependiente de tu pareja<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Hablas con tu pareja de todo y le consultas antes de hacer nada. Le pides su opini\u00f3n sobre tu aspecto, tu ropa e incluso sobre algunas tonter\u00edas. <\/span><\/p>\n

The moment you start asking for your partner’s permission to go out with friends or to go visit your family is when you’ll know that your relationship has become toxic and unhealthy. <\/span><\/p>\n

7. No tienes control sobre tu propia vida<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

You don’t have control of your emotions anymore and that’s why you have stopped being in control of your <\/span>propia vida<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Deja que tu <\/span>socio controlarlo.<\/span><\/a> They’re like the dominant figure in your relationship and they make all the decisions. <\/span><\/p>\n

Signos de una relaci\u00f3n enredada entre padres e hijos <\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Siblings have a strong bond and that’s why they should be close. Unfortunately, however, a lot of families become dysfunctional because they have relationships that are too close.<\/span><\/p>\n

Haberse criado en un <\/i><\/b>familia unida<\/i><\/b> deja consecuencias casi irreparables para cada hermano. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Padres e hijos en una relaci\u00f3n enredada deben admitir que tienen un problema lo antes posible y empezar por <\/span>terapia familiar<\/span> si quieren hacer su <\/span>relaci\u00f3n familiar<\/span> funcional de nuevo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Los signos de un <\/span>familia unida<\/span> se escriben a continuaci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Favoritismo constante hacia una persona ni\u00f1o<\/i><\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Parental favoritism is a thing, no matter how much parents deny it or try to hide it. It’s the most obvious sign of an enmeshed<\/span> relaci\u00f3n familiar<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Spending so much more time with one kid than with others, showing affection through buying nice things only for one kid, only one kid gets privileges\u2026 <\/span><\/p>\n

Favoriting one kid will have negative effects on your other children. They’ll have <\/span>autoestima<\/span> problemas. Pueden encerrarse en s\u00ed mismos o expresar su insatisfacci\u00f3n mediante un comportamiento agresivo. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Falta de l\u00edmites saludables<\/h2>\n

\"madre<\/p>\n

Such parents just can’t say NO to their kids. There are no boundaries at all and the children are allowed to do whatever they want to. <\/span><\/p>\n

A lack of boundaries creates an inappropriate role between a parent and a child. They invade each other’s personal space, so there is no privacy at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Exceso de implicaci\u00f3n de los padres<\/h2>\n

\"madre<\/p>\n

Algunos padres son demasiado controladores, incluso con sus <\/span>hijos adultos<\/span>. Quieren saberlo todo sobre sus hijos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quieren saber con qui\u00e9n salen, c\u00f3mo pasan su tiempo libre, con qui\u00e9n chatean en sus redes sociales, qu\u00e9 comen e incluso su historial de navegaci\u00f3n por Internet. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not that they just want to know all this stuff, they also want to control it and determine whom their kids can hang out with and suchlike. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Presionar demasiado al ni\u00f1o<\/h2>\n

\"madre<\/p>\n

Of course, you want nothing but the best for your children, we all do. But you can’t push them to do something they don’t want or like. <\/span><\/p>\n

Debes recordarles lo mucho que valen y lo que se merecen.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hay que animarles y sacar lo mejor de ellos, pero nunca hay que presionarles demasiado. <\/span>That’s how you’ll only harm them. <\/span><\/p>\n

If they fail to please you, they’ll feel like they aren’t good enough or that they haven\u2019t made you proud. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Se convierten en mejores amigos<\/h2>\n

\"madre<\/p>\n

No hay nada malo en tener una relaci\u00f3n relajada y amistosa con los hijos. Sin embargo, algunos padres se acercan demasiado a sus hijos y \u00e9stos se vuelven <\/span>mejores amigos<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Los padres los utilizan como apoyo emocional y empiezan a compartir con ellos todos sus secretos.<\/span><\/p>\n

A veces, los padres se olvidan de que est\u00e1n hablando con sus hijos, no con ellos. <\/span>mejor amigo<\/span>, and they confide in their children with some problems they have in their marriage, which can leave some negative effects on their kid’s <\/span>salud mental<\/span>.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Consecuencias de la implicaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

We’ve already seen how bad <\/span>enmeshment<\/span> verdaderamente es para todas las relaciones. En <\/span>resultado final<\/span> es que deja enormes secuelas en cada persona y reparar el da\u00f1o es dif\u00edcil y lleva mucho tiempo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Volverse codependiente <\/strong><\/p>\n

Un socio se convierte en <\/span>codependiente<\/span> en el otro o un ni\u00f1o se convierte <\/span>codependiente<\/span> on their parent. They don’t know how to communicate effectively. <\/span><\/p>\n

Buscan la aprobaci\u00f3n de la otra persona para todo lo que hacen porque la valoran m\u00e1s que su propia opini\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

Trastornos alimentarios<\/strong><\/p>\n

Most people aren’t happy in these kinds of relationships, so they find comfort in food or they become too depressed to even eat, which is why they get a <\/span>salud mental<\/span> condici\u00f3n como esta.<\/span><\/p>\n

Problemas de salud mental <\/strong><\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s de los trastornos alimentarios, hay muchos m\u00e1s <\/span>salud mental<\/span> trastornos<\/span><\/a> que puede ser consecuencia de <\/span>enmeshment<\/span>. Por ejemplo, trastorno explosivo intermitente o depresi\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

Problemas de autoestima<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is a huge problem that will affect all aspects of your life. No matter what you do, you’ll always think that something is wrong with you or that you aren’t good enough.<\/span><\/p>\n

No poder mantener ninguna relaci\u00f3n en el futuro<\/strong><\/p>\n

Debido a estos <\/span>salud mental<\/span> condiciones y <\/span>autoestima<\/span> issues, you’ll have difficulties with <\/span>mantener las relaciones<\/b> en el futuro, seguro. <\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll never be able to fully commit to someone or be comfortable around someone new. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo arreglar una relaci\u00f3n enredada?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Fixing a relationship that is enmeshed may be difficult and it may take time to do it but it’s totally worth it. You’ll get a healthy<\/span> familia<\/span> o un <\/span>relaci\u00f3n sana<\/span> otra vez. <\/span><\/p>\n

He aqu\u00ed algunos m\u00e9todos infalibles que le ayudar\u00e1n a solucionar <\/span>enmeshment<\/span> en tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Establecer l\u00edmites<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Establecer l\u00edmites<\/span> isn’t so difficult; you just have to be confident and patient. You have to talk to your kids or your partner a lot and tell them what are some of the things that you aren’t okay with. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tienes que demostrarles que deben respetar tus l\u00edmites y que nunca debes permitir que nadie los traspase. <\/span><\/p>\n

Decide what are some things that bother you or that you don’t like and put some limits on them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, debe saber que <\/span>establecimiento de l\u00edmites<\/span> is a process and that it’ll take time, which is why you should be patient and not quit.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Presta atenci\u00f3n a tu relaci\u00f3n contigo mismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Su relaci\u00f3n consigo mismo<\/span><\/a> is more important than all the other relationships in your life. It is the foundation of all other relationships in your life. That’s why you need to work on self-love. <\/span><\/p>\n

Una de las razones por las que tu relaci\u00f3n se enquist\u00f3 es porque te olvidaste de la relaci\u00f3n contigo mismo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Who says that you need to fulfill only your partner’s <\/span>necesidades emocionales<\/span>? Primero tienes que satisfacer tus necesidades. <\/span><\/p>\n

Date un largo ba\u00f1o, lee ese libro que quer\u00edas leer desde hace tiempo, c\u00f3mprate algo bonito. Haz lo que te haga feliz. Sal. Disfruta de la vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll see that life is beautiful when you do nice things for yourself. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

3. Establecer contactos fuera de esta relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"tres<\/p>\n

Su relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica<\/a> \u00bfhas perdido a tus amigos? Pues ahora es el momento de llamarlos, disculparte e invitarlos a salir. <\/span><\/p>\n

Visit your family. Tell them how much you missed them. You were too busy to visit them more often before but now, promise them that it’ll change. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t be afraid to make some new friendships<\/i><\/b>. Invita a salir a algunos de tus colegas o busca un amigo en Internet y p\u00eddeles que queden para salir. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Trabaja tu autoestima<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

How you see yourself means everything. If you don\u2019t think that you are good enough or that you’ll never find someone if your partner leaves you, then that may become true. <\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why you need to work <\/span>en su <\/span>autoestima<\/span>.<\/span><\/a> Es necesario tener m\u00e1s confianza para mantener una <\/span>relaci\u00f3n sana<\/span> contigo mismo y con los dem\u00e1s. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you have enough self-confidence, you’ll know what you deserve and you won’t allow anyone to disrespect you or treat you less than that. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Don’t be afraid to speak up when necessary<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If you don’t agree with your partner about some things, you shouldn’t be afraid to tell them. Your opinion matters. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s all about equality in a <\/span>relaci\u00f3n sana<\/span>. Tienes que participar en el proceso de toma de decisiones.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you don’t like some decision of your partner or family member, you have every right to speak up and give your opinion about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Reconoce y afronta tus sentimientos<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Your partner’s feelings are only theirs and you have nothing to do with them. You can’t feel the same as them all the time. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have your own feelings and you have to acknowledge this. Don’t suppress your feelings because you think that your partner\u2019s feelings are more important. <\/span><\/p>\n

7. Prueba la terapia familiar<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Why not? If you can’t deal with the problem of <\/span>enmeshment<\/span> por tu cuenta, buscar ayuda profesional es una gran idea. <\/span>Psicoterapeutas<\/span> le ayudar\u00e1 a afrontarlo de la forma m\u00e1s saludable posible. <\/span><\/p>\n

Relaciones tensas<\/span> son desgraciadamente tan frecuentes hoy en d\u00eda.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t have to leave your partner or move your enmeshed parent out of your life, you just have to work hard on your relationship to make it healthy again.<\/span><\/p>\n

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