{"id":82711,"date":"2020-06-22T12:24:27","date_gmt":"2020-06-22T12:24:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=82711"},"modified":"2021-08-24T12:34:27","modified_gmt":"2021-08-24T12:34:27","slug":"aceptar-a-las-personas-por-lo-que-son","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/aceptar-a-las-personas-por-lo-que-son\/","title":{"rendered":"Acepte a las personas por lo que son en lugar de intentar cambiarlas"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfAlguna vez has intentado cambiar a alguien? Yo s\u00ed.<\/span><\/p>\n

The thing is, I have always thought that I’m the kind of person who would always accept people for who they are. <\/span><\/p>\n

When I realized I actively tried to change several people in my life, the ones closest to me, I was very upset. I didn’t take it well.<\/span><\/p>\n

Esta burbuja de aceptaci\u00f3n que cre\u00eda que formaba parte de mi vida me estall\u00f3 en la cara.<\/b><\/p>\n

Creo que cada <\/span>ser humano<\/span> tiene derecho a ser quien quiera ser. Sinceramente. Entonces, \u00bfqu\u00e9 pas\u00f3? <\/span><\/p>\n

In my everyday life, certain things that people in my surroundings were doing made me feel like my needs weren\u2019t being met. <\/span><\/p>\n

What actually happened was that I was too selfish to see that people were just living their lives and just because something else would suit me better it didn\u2019t mean they were doing anything wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n

I became a selfish control freak who had one mission only: make other people adapt to me, my needs and my schedule. Awful… I know, I’m still ashamed that that’s who I was.<\/b><\/p>\n

I lied to myself that I cared so much about other people and that’s why I was trying to \u2018inspire\u2019 and \u2018motivate\u2019 them to become the best versions of themselves, while I was actually trying to make them into something I thought they should be or needed them to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

4 razones por las que deber\u00edas dejar de intentar cambiar a la gente<\/h2>\n

1. It isn’t possible<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You can’t change anyone. You simply can’t do it. Even if someone wants to change, only they can do it. <\/span><\/p>\n

There’s nothing you can plan, say or do that would make a person truly change until something happened in their mind that triggered their need to change.<\/span><\/p>\n

Puede parecer durante un tiempo que una persona ha cambiado porque alguien que te quiere probablemente querr\u00e1 seguirte la corriente e intentar\u00e1 por todos los medios ser la persona que t\u00fa quieres que sea. <\/span><\/p>\n

Still, that can’t last forever. There are many elements that come together to make a person who they are and you can’t simply change something that’s already a huge part of your personality.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>6 se\u00f1ales de que nunca cambiar\u00e1<\/span><\/a> <\/span><\/p>\n

2. It’s frustrating and exhausting<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

There’s enough negativity in your mind from judging someone, so trying to change them and failing will cause even more. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know that you’re thinking you have it all figured out and that you have a perfect strategy that will help that <\/span>una persona<\/span> cambiar.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you try doing what you had planned, it might seem to work for a while. However, as already said in the first reason, there’s no way it will last. Enter frustration. <\/span><\/p>\n

You will be so mad and for what? You’ll be mad at that person who only tried to change themselves to suit your needs but failed.<\/span><\/p>\n

Habr\u00e1 tantas emociones encontradas y no habr\u00e1 nada que puedas hacer para evitar que la situaci\u00f3n vaya de mal en peor.<\/span><\/p>\n

After you do this a couple of times, you’re going to be so exhausted. Give it up, it doesn’t work.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Necesitas concentrar tu energ\u00eda en trabajar en ti mismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Un <\/span>paso crucial<\/span> in learning to accept other people is learning to accept yourself. All the extra energy you’ll have from not trying to change others should be focused on trying to improve yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Utiliza todo ese tiempo y esa fuerza para tu <\/span>crecimiento personal<\/span>en lugar de malgastarlo en algo que ni siquiera era posible.<\/span><\/p>\n

Stop pointing out everything that’s wrong with other people and take a good look at yourself. Everybody has things they could change for the better.<\/span><\/p>\n

Canaliza tu energ\u00eda en ayudarte a ti mismo a ser mejor persona, en lugar de impon\u00e9rselo a los dem\u00e1s. <\/span><\/p>\n

Cuando viene de un lugar de bondad y amor, el cambio puede ser asombroso. Toda idea sobre c\u00f3mo <\/span>una persona<\/span> puede cambiar para mejor debe aplicarse a s\u00ed mismo en lugar de a los dem\u00e1s. <\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>Consejos de autocuidado: C\u00f3mo enamorarse del cuidado de uno mismo<\/span><\/a> <\/span><\/p>\n

4. You wouldn’t like someone to try to change you, would you?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Change isn’t easy. It takes a <\/span>mucho trabajo<\/span>, even when you want it. Imagine if someone else, a person you love, was forcing you to change because you didn\u2019t fit their idealized image of who you should be. Sounds awful, right? <\/span><\/p>\n

Trata a los dem\u00e1s como quieres que te traten a ti. Funciona de verdad. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t push your beliefs, attitudes or opinions on others. Everybody has their own and they aren’t pushing them on you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ruptura<\/span> con este h\u00e1bito vicioso haci\u00e9ndote una simple pregunta: \u00bfQu\u00e9 derecho tengo a obligar a nadie a cambiar? <\/span><\/p>\n

Ninguna, del mismo modo que nadie tiene derecho a obligarte a cambiar.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>5 se\u00f1ales de que necesitas cambiar radicalmente de vida<\/span><\/a> <\/span><\/p>\n

10 maneras de aceptar a las personas por lo que son:<\/h2>\n

1. Respetar su individualidad<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Cada persona es \u00fanica <\/span>ser humano<\/span>. The beauty of this world is in the fact that everyone is different, a combination of different virtues, flaws, character, upbringing… <\/span><\/p>\n

Hay muchas cosas que nos hacen ser como somos. Amar a alguien significa respetar qui\u00e9n es, con todo lo que le hace ser as\u00ed.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can’t accept one part of someone without accepting the other parts. Everything you see is a part of a whole\u2014their interesting, unique personality. <\/span><\/p>\n

Cada persona ve el mundo de forma diferente y su perspectiva afecta enormemente a su comportamiento y, lo que es m\u00e1s importante, cada cual tiene derecho a comportarse de acuerdo con sus creencias, deseos, anhelos y necesidades.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Despr\u00e9ndete de tus ideales<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

There’s a certain image in your head of what other people should be like. The more controlling you are, the more you force this image on them, pushing them to become who you think they should be.<\/span><\/p>\n

El caso es que, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 ibas a pensar en qu\u00e9 o qui\u00e9n deber\u00eda ser otra persona que no fueras t\u00fa?<\/span><\/p>\n

La mayor parte de su <\/span>aceptaci\u00f3n de los dem\u00e1s<\/span> is realizing you don’t get to decide what the best possible version of anyone is but yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Es absolutamente necesario que abandones esa imagen y esos ideales. No s\u00f3lo por los dem\u00e1s, sino tambi\u00e9n por ti mismo, porque aceptarte a ti mismo es crucial para aprender a aceptar a los dem\u00e1s.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Ponte en su lugar<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfAlguna vez has discutido con alguien y en un momento de la discusi\u00f3n has empezado a pensar en todo lo que podr\u00eda decirte para demostrar su punto de vista? En <\/span>seres humanos<\/span>Es natural que seamos emp\u00e1ticos y compasivos.<\/span><\/p>\n

La mejor manera de comprender realmente d\u00f3nde se encuentra su <\/span>seres queridos<\/span> es ponerte en su lugar. Si parece que tienes problemas para aceptar a las personas por lo que son, deber\u00edas intentar hacerlo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Imagine that you’re them. Try to think about as many details as you can that are a part of their life and think about how you’d act in that exact situation. <\/span><\/p>\n

More often than not, this will make you realize they’re doing great, given the circumstances. Understanding people will help you accept them.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Centrarse en su lado bueno<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

It’s easy to notice someone’s flaws. Everybody has them and they are usually pretty obvious.<\/span><\/p>\n

Si quiere moverse en el <\/span>aceptar la direcci\u00f3n<\/span>,<\/span> you’ll have to put less focus on people’s flaws and focus more on their good sides. <\/span><\/p>\n

Hay muchos <\/span>peque\u00f1as cosas<\/span> that can be annoying about a person but let’s be honest; there are many more beautiful things about them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Solemos dar por sentado todo lo que alguien hace bien y acentuar todo lo que hace mal. Si dejas de hacerlo, ser\u00e1 mucho m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil aceptar a la gente. <\/span><\/p>\n

Keep in mind that the person you’re judging is probably doing a <\/span>mucho trabajo<\/span> to do everything they do well. They can’t be perfect, as no one is.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Agradezca tenerlos<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Dicho esto, practica la gratitud. Toma la decisi\u00f3n consciente de empezar a tener m\u00e1s gratitud por todo lo que esas personas representan en tu vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you think about everything that’s positive about them and all the positive ways they affect your everyday life, start having and showing more gratitude. <\/span><\/p>\n

Focusing on people’s flaws is not only the <\/span>camino equivocado<\/span> para mantener relaciones, pero te impide reconocerles por todo lo hermoso que te dan y por cada forma maravillosa en que mejoran tu vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Ser compasivo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

No hay derecho\/<\/span>dicotom\u00edas err\u00f3neas<\/span>. You should avoid thinking about the world, the people in your life and everything they do or don’t do in black and white. It’s never that way. There’s always so much of a gray area.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t only notice the aftermath of what someone did; instead, try to be compassionate toward their circumstances. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tenga empat\u00eda hacia lo que su <\/span>seres queridos<\/span> est\u00e1n pasando en sus vidas porque un <\/span>falta de aceptaci\u00f3n<\/span> suele proceder de una falta de compasi\u00f3n y comprensi\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Deja de hacer comparaciones<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Everybody has their own way they like to live their life. In most people’s minds, there’s a certain idea of who they want to be and what kind of people they like. <\/span><\/p>\n

Si comparas constantemente a las personas de tu vida con la idea que tienes en la cabeza de qui\u00e9n deber\u00edas ser T\u00da, probablemente nunca pasar\u00e1n esa prueba. <\/span><\/p>\n

There’s no reason for anyone to fit the way you believe you should live your life.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Deja de comparar a los dem\u00e1s contigo mismo y tambi\u00e9n deja de compararlos con nadie. De nuevo, todo el mundo es \u00fanico y cada uno tiene unas circunstancias vitales \u00fanicas.<\/span><\/p>\n

8. Aceptarlos a ellos y todo lo que hacen<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

La \u00fanica forma de vivir tu <\/span>vida actual<\/span> lleno de positividad y amor es con aceptaci\u00f3n. <\/span>Autoaceptaci\u00f3n<\/span> comes first and it’s directly related to your <\/span>autoestima<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Las personas que se aceptan a s\u00ed mismas pueden estar m\u00e1s abiertas a aceptar a las personas por lo que son con todo lo que hacen en su vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

Podemos pensar que somos una aceptaci\u00f3n, <\/span>persona cari\u00f1osa<\/span> pero nuestro <\/span>interacci\u00f3n diaria<\/span> puede demostrar lo contrario. Presta atenci\u00f3n a escuchar, comprender y aceptar de verdad a las personas con las que vives, te relacionas o trabajas.<\/span><\/p>\n

9. Recuerda por qu\u00e9 los quer\u00edas en tu vida en primer lugar<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

There’s a reason why you chose someone to be a part of your life. They attracted you with something that made you want to make them stay around. Think about this when you decide they should change.<\/span><\/p>\n

Te gustaban por lo que eran al principio, aunque ahora te das cuenta de que hay cosas que te molestan pero recuerdas todo lo que te atrajo de ellos en el <\/span>primer puesto<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Si son tu familia y por eso estabas obligado a pasar tiempo con ellos, recuerda la importancia que tienen en tu vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

10. Vigila tus pensamientos<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Nadie decide convertirse en una persona inaceptable. Esos pensamientos destructivos se van introduciendo lentamente, uno a uno, acumul\u00e1ndose en tu mente hasta que te encuentras siendo excesivamente negativo hacia el comportamiento de tu <\/span>seres queridos<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Si empiezas a ser demasiado cr\u00edtico, recuerda que la cr\u00edtica hacia los dem\u00e1s suele ser el <\/span>resultado de nuestras cr\u00edticas personales<\/span>. En <\/span>juicios de los dem\u00e1s<\/span> a menudo proceden de los juicios sobre nosotros mismos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Block negative thoughts by instantly thinking positively, remembering everything you’ve learned reading this article. <\/span><\/p>\n

En <\/span>primera vez<\/span> Esto puede resultarte extra\u00f1o, pero una vez que te acostumbres a sacar conclusiones positivas en lugar de negativas, se convertir\u00e1 en una parte habitual de tu proceso de pensamiento.<\/span><\/p>\n

It all comes down to this…<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Hay que permitir que los dem\u00e1s sean diferentes. <\/b>El mundo ser\u00eda incre\u00edblemente aburrido si todos tuvi\u00e9ramos las mismas creencias, intereses y comportamientos. <\/span><\/p>\n

No matter how uncomfortable you may be with a certain way someone chooses to live their life or certain things they do that you don’t find to be the best possible choice, you still have to let them choose their own path. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you’re anything like I was, you’re trying to make people see things your way.<\/span><\/p>\n

It constantly feels like there’s no way to get through to them, it feels like you can’t reach them and you keep looking for ways to do exactly that. <\/b><\/p>\n

I hate to be the one to break this to you but there’s rarely only right and wrong and nothing makes you competent enough to decide what someone should or should not do.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not your job to control how other people feel, what kind of vibes they get from the world or the choices they make in order to live their life the way they see fit.<\/span><\/p>\n

No matter how much you love someone, it doesn’t give you the right to try to change them. <\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>La verdad es que no se puede cambiar a un hombre am\u00e1ndolo con m\u00e1s fuerza<\/span><\/a> <\/span><\/p>\n

Las \u00fanicas opciones correctas son aceptar a las personas por lo que son y motivarlas para que vivan su mejor vida queri\u00e9ndolas y cuid\u00e1ndolas, y no dici\u00e9ndoles c\u00f3mo deben vivirla.<\/span><\/p>\n

Aviso importante: <\/b>Bullying, harassment or verbal or physical abuse aren’t things to be accepted.<\/span><\/p>\n

Si alguien est\u00e1 arruinando intencionadamente tu <\/span>autoestima<\/span>, endangering your psychological or physical well being, that’s not something to be accepted. <\/span><\/p>\n

No s\u00f3lo no debes intentar cambiar a ese tipo de persona, sino que tambi\u00e9n debes huir de ella lo m\u00e1s r\u00e1pido que puedas y lo m\u00e1s lejos posible y buscar la ayuda y protecci\u00f3n necesarias.<\/span><\/p>\n

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