{"id":82946,"date":"2020-06-22T13:00:21","date_gmt":"2020-06-22T13:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=82946"},"modified":"2022-01-14T02:26:34","modified_gmt":"2022-01-14T02:26:34","slug":"una-victima-de-abuso-emocional-deja-un-poderoso-mensaje","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/una-victima-de-abuso-emocional-deja-un-poderoso-mensaje\/","title":{"rendered":"Una v\u00edctima de maltrato emocional deja un poderoso mensaje que todo el mundo deber\u00eda leer"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Cuando oyes las palabras \"abuso\" y \"v\u00edctima\", autom\u00e1ticamente lo relacionas con llegar a las manos.<\/p>\n<p>Inmediatamente ves la imagen de alguien con moratones por toda la cara y el cuerpo, con cicatrices, heridas abiertas y sangre por todas partes.<\/p>\n<p>Well, I\u2019m different and there are many just like me.<strong> When you see me, you won\u2019t see marks or any other visible <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/9-senales-de-que-te-esta-maltratando-mentalmente\/\">signos de abuso<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo, segu\u00eda siendo una v\u00edctima. Aunque mis cicatrices no sean visibles, siguen existiendo.<\/p>\n<p><strong>My wounds and bruises are hidden under my skin. They\u2019re all over my heart and soul. I\u2019m bleeding internally and that doesn\u2019t make it any less painful.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>For the first time ever, I\u2019m able to say this painful sentence out loud: I\u2019m a victim of abuse.<\/p>\n<p>My ex never actually raised his hand to me, he was never physically violent, but he emotionally abused me and that doesn\u2019t make my suffering any less important.<\/p>\n<p>Even though I\u2019m not trying to devalue anyone\u2019s suffering, <strong>hay este truco con la violencia emocional y mental todo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/hombre-7-cosas-maltratador-domestico\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">abusadores<\/a> are perfectly aware of: People will rarely see you as a real victim until they see physical evidence of all you\u2019ve been through.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82952\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/abused-woman-crying.jpg\" alt=\"mujer maltratada llorando en fotograf\u00eda en escala de grises\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/abused-woman-crying.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/abused-woman-crying-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/abused-woman-crying-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Moreover, it will take you a long time before you yourself acknowledge your abuse. Trust me, I\u2019ve been there.<\/p>\n<p>La primera vez que mi ex empez\u00f3 a insultarme y a ponerme motes, al mismo tiempo me estaba convenciendo de que ninguna de esas cosas era para tanto. <strong>It\u2019s not abuse until he hits you, right?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Con el tiempo, empec\u00e9 a creerle. Pens\u00e9 que estaba exagerando.<\/p>\n<p><b>Cuando empez\u00f3 a gaslighting m\u00ed, empec\u00e9 a cuestionar mi propia cordura en lugar de ver a este hombre como la bestia oculta que realmente era.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Pens\u00e9 que me estaba imaginando cosas y \u00e9l me hizo pensar que era yo la que lo malinterpretaba todo, en lugar de ver que en realidad estaba jugando con \u00e9xito con mi mente todo el tiempo.<\/p>\n<p>When he started putting me down, I didn\u2019t see it as his attempt to reduce my worth. When he assured me that I was good for nothing, I believed him and adopted the idea that I wasn\u2019t enough.<\/p>\n<p>Nobody saw me as a victim and it took me years to acknowledge my abuse.&nbsp;After all, it\u2019s not abuse until he hits you, right?<\/p>\n<p>I know what you must be thinking right now. You may not say it out loud, but you can\u2019t help but wonder why I didn\u2019t just walk away.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82958\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sorrowful-sad-woman-.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste sentada en el suelo con las manos en la cabeza\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sorrowful-sad-woman-.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sorrowful-sad-woman--300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sorrowful-sad-woman--768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>No, I wasn\u2019t financially dependent on him and we didn\u2019t have kids. In fact, the truth is that I had somewhere to go.<\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo, <strong>me hizo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/que-es-la-dependencia-emocional-10-maneras-de-superarla-con-exito\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">emocionalmente dependiente<\/a> sobre nuestra relaci\u00f3n<\/strong>. Me hizo anhelar su aprobaci\u00f3n y me convenci\u00f3 de que no me quer\u00eda.<\/p>\n<p>Me chantaje\u00f3 emocionalmente para que me quedara con \u00e9l. Me convenci\u00f3 de que era completamente incompetente e incapaz de ir por la vida sin su gu\u00eda.<\/p>\n<p>Adem\u00e1s, cada vez que intentaba marcharme o me atrev\u00eda a acusarle de maltratador, me dec\u00edan que buscaba demasiado.<\/p>\n<p>Even when I tried confiding in my closest ones, they didn\u2019t see the real picture.<\/p>\n<p>De hecho, <strong>Todo el mundo insinuaba que yo era demasiado sensible. En lugar de aconsejarle que cambiara su comportamiento, me dijeron que me endureciera y madurara.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Nadie me ve\u00eda como una v\u00edctima y tard\u00e9 a\u00f1os en reconocer mis abusos.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Years for me to see that I wasn\u2019t overly emotional, that I wasn\u2019t the one causing all of this mess because I take everything too personally.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82954\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-inside-the-car-1.jpg\" alt=\"mujer dentro del coche mirando triste hacia fuera\" width=\"800\" height=\"527\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-inside-the-car-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-inside-the-car-1-300x198.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-inside-the-car-1-768x506.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Tard\u00e9 a\u00f1os en darme cuenta finalmente de que estaba involucrada con un narcisista que estaba arruinando mi vida y mi salud mental.<\/p>\n<p>Years before I saw that I wasn\u2019t weak for feeling like a victim because \u2013 guess what \u2013 I\u2019d been a victim all along.<\/p>\n<p>Abandonar al agresor es el paso m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil. Lo m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil es ver la realidad y encontrar la fuerza para enfrentarte a tu horrible verdad.<\/p>\n<p>And for the rest of the world? Well, I can just say that I don\u2019t give a damn about what anyone might think.<\/p>\n<p>No, I\u2019m not looking for people\u2019s sympathy. I don\u2019t want them to perceive me as a victim because I\u2019m much more than that. I don\u2019t expect anyone\u2019s approval anymore.<\/p>\n<p>Despu\u00e9s de todo, nadie ha caminado una milla en mis zapatos y nadie, excepto yo, ha luchado contra mis demonios.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sin embargo, espero que alg\u00fan d\u00eda se reconozca el infierno por el que pas\u00e9. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Espero que se deje de restar importancia a este dolor y que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/secuelas-abuso-emocional\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">abuso emocional<\/a> ser\u00e1 finalmente clasificada como lo que realmente es.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82959\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Una v\u00edctima de maltrato emocional deja un poderoso mensaje que todo el mundo deber\u00eda leer\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you hear the words \u201cabuse\u201d and \u201cvictim,\u201d you automatically connect it with getting physical. You immediately see a picture of someone with bruises all over their face and body, with scars, open wounds, and blood all over them. Well, I\u2019m different and there are many just like me. When you see me, you won\u2019t&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":82956,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-82946","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse &amp; trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse &amp; trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse &amp; trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82946","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=82946"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82946\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/82956"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=82946"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=82946"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=82946"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}