{"id":82965,"date":"2020-07-09T09:21:01","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T09:21:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=82965"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:36:06","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:36:06","slug":"problemas-para-encontrar-al-elegido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/problemas-para-encontrar-al-elegido\/","title":{"rendered":"5 problemas para encontrar al \"elegido\" en el mundo moderno"},"content":{"rendered":"

For many, finding a soulmate in today\u2019s era seems like a dream which will never turn into reality. It\u2019s like we\u2019ve all accepted the fact that we\u2019re heading nowhere.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, we rarely question why. What are the problems of finding \u201cthe one\u201d in the modern world? Well, we\u2019ve got the answers.<\/p>\n

1. El amor equivale al apego<\/h2>\n

\"feliz<\/p>\n

In the modern dating world, there is no such thing as love. At least, it doesn\u2019t exist in the form you\u2019re familiar with.<\/p>\n

On the contrary, you\u2019re automatically accused of being pathetic if you\u2019re looking for something which used to be a bare minimum.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re romantic, you\u2019re cheesy and if you want attention, you\u2019re needy.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you: comportamiento demasiado pegajoso<\/a> has never been attractive. However, you\u2019re not needy for expecting a good morning text or for wanting to see your boyfriend a few times a week.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not pathetic for telling him how much he means to you and you\u2019re not cheesy for asking him to listen to a love song that reminds you of him.<\/p>\n

However, the truth is that in modern dating, you\u2019re not allowed to do any of these things unless you want to be called old fashioned.<\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfc\u00f3mo se puede crear un v\u00ednculo con un hombre si todas estas cosas est\u00e1n prohibidas?<\/p>\n

2. La infidelidad se ha normalizado<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Otro gran problema de las citas modernas, que impide encontrar a la persona adecuada, es que, lamentablemente, la fidelidad ya no se valora como antes.<\/p>\n

In fact, the concept of cheating has changed so much that at the end of the day, you simply can\u2019t tell what is considered acceptable behavior.<\/p>\n

La cuesti\u00f3n es que la gente ya no poner una etiqueta a sus relaciones<\/a>. Ya nadie es exclusivo, lo que le da derecho a ver a varias personas al mismo tiempo.<\/p>\n

So, when you\u2019re not in a relationship and when you\u2019re just dating, you\u2019re allowed to date other people as well.<\/p>\n

You can be in touch with a guy for a while, but if he doesn\u2019t call you his girlfriend (which he probably won\u2019t) you can\u2019t accuse him of cheating if you catch him texting or even sleeping with someone else.<\/p>\n

Sounds like a real bummer, right? Well, technically, you\u2019re also allowed to keep on doing the same things, but in this kind of arrangement, is it even possible to find true love? I think not.<\/p>\n

3. Todo el mundo tiene fobia al compromiso<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I\u2019m here to ask a crucial question: have we all really become so scared of commitment or has fobia al compromiso<\/a> convertirse en algo?<\/p>\n

\u00bfRealmente nos hemos vuelto todos inaccesibles emocionalmente o es que la gente tiene miedo de decir que busca un verdadero romance porque esperan que se les considere ingenuos por creer en esas cosas?<\/p>\n

Whatever the answer is, the bottom line is the same: everywhere you look, you\u2019ll bump into commitment phobes.<\/p>\n

People who don\u2019t have the desire to truly connect with someone or to build real relationships.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, vivir el momento es genial. Al fin y al cabo, nunca se sabe lo que nos deparar\u00e1 el ma\u00f1ana, as\u00ed que es mejor disfrutar de cada aliento como si fuera el \u00faltimo.<\/p>\n

However, when you\u2019re trapped in the middle of a culture that doesn\u2019t believe in giving your entire self to another being and that doesn\u2019t believe in building a future as a part of a couple, finding the one often seems like mission impossible.<\/p>\n

4. Sus expectativas se reducen<\/h2>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

Te guste admitirlo o no, en el mundo moderno de las citas, tus expectativas disminuyen constantemente.<\/p>\n

Even if you\u2019re not involved in a modern relationship, you can\u2019t help but be affected by what you see in other people\u2019s lives.<\/p>\n

De hecho, todo el mundo te acusa de ser demasiado exigente s\u00f3lo porque tienes unas normas b\u00e1sicas.<\/p>\n

People look at you like you\u2019re a lunatic if you expect certain things that used to be normal, such as fidelity, undivided attention, and most importantly unconditional love.<\/p>\n

After some time,, without even noticing it, you start to settle for less. You adapt to the rest of the world and you adopt \u201cthe new normal\u201d.<\/p>\n

5. La cultura de las citas se ha convertido en un campo de juego<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Last but not least, when you\u2019re in the grupo de citas<\/a>, the main problem you\u2019ll encounter is the fact that dating culture has actually become similar to a children\u2019s playing field.<\/p>\n

Todo gira en torno a juegos mentales inmaduros a los que todo el mundo juega. B\u00e1sicamente, las citas se han convertido en una competici\u00f3n. La cuesti\u00f3n principal es qui\u00e9n enga\u00f1ar\u00e1 a qui\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re expected to know the drill even though there\u2019s no manual on how you should behave properly.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que la mayor parte del tiempo, en lugar de centrarte en construir una relaci\u00f3n potencial, tienes que dominar el arte de jugar a estos juegos de citas, te guste o no.<\/p>\n

Instead of enjoying your love life, you\u2019re pressured into dissecting other people\u2019s words and actions.<\/p>\n

Tienes que hacer todo lo posible para leer a trav\u00e9s de sus se\u00f1ales contradictorias y llegar al fondo de sus intenciones.<\/p>\n

To put things simply: the trick is to outsmart the other person. It\u2019s almost as if you are working against each other, instead of being united towards your common goal of eventually being happy.<\/p>\n

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For many, finding a soulmate in today\u2019s era seems like a dream which will never turn into reality. It\u2019s like we\u2019ve all accepted the fact that we\u2019re heading nowhere. Nevertheless, we rarely question why. What are the problems of finding \u201cthe one\u201d in the modern world? Well, we\u2019ve got the answers. 1. Love equals clinginess…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":82988,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29615],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-82965","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-soulmate-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29615,"label":"soulmate"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/5-Issues-With-Finding-\u201cThe-One\u201d-In-The-Modern-World.jpg",800,511,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29615,"name":"soulmate","slug":"soulmate-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29615,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Do you believe in twin flames - a person you're meant to have in your life no matter what? I do, and right here is where I share my thoughts on the topic.","parent":38,"count":95,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29615,"category_count":95,"category_description":"Do you believe in twin flames - a person you're meant to have in your life no matter what? I do, and right here is where I share my thoughts on the topic.","cat_name":"soulmate","category_nicename":"soulmate-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82965","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=82965"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82965\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/82988"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=82965"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=82965"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=82965"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}