{"id":84279,"date":"2020-07-09T09:41:15","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T09:41:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84279"},"modified":"2022-03-24T02:11:41","modified_gmt":"2022-03-24T02:11:41","slug":"que-es-el-apego-emocional","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/que-es-el-apego-emocional\/","title":{"rendered":"Qu\u00e9 es el apego emocional y c\u00f3mo reconocer si no es sano"},"content":{"rendered":"

El apego emocional es un v\u00ednculo afectivo fuerte y duradero que se forma entre las personas, aunque a veces el t\u00e9rmino puede utilizarse para describir el aferramiento a posesiones, h\u00e1bitos o creencias.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It includes a desire to be near the person or thing we’re attached to and returning to the same person or thing for comfort. Absence of the attachment figure results in anxiety.<\/strong><\/p>\n

While attachment is normal for human beings and involves an exchange of comfort and care, it’s true that sometimes it can mean a lack of freedom and unhealthy clingy behavior.<\/p>\n

When you create an attachment, you might find it hard to let go when something goes wrong. When we’re used to our comfort zone, we don’t like forced changes.<\/p>\n

Psychological research show that early experiences in childhood are important for development and behavior later in life, which means we learn our attachment style while we’re still babies and later on in life, they can change.<\/p>\n

Why should we learn about our attachment style? It’s not to confine love into strict categories but rather to easily understand where we’re coming from.<\/p>\n

Diferentes estilos de apego emocional<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

La teor\u00eda del apego (descrita por el psicoanalista John Bowlby) diferencia cuatro estilos de apego principales, cada uno de los cuales dice mucho sobre la persona y sus necesidades.<\/p>\n

Los cuatro estilos principales son los siguientes:<\/p>\n

Asegure<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

When a person has this type of emotional attachment, that means they’re starting off with great assets.<\/p>\n

They have no problem in communicating with their partner, they don’t hesitate to ask for help or emotional support and do the same for their partner in return, which results in a relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>.<\/p>\n

That’s why someone with this attachment style has equal and understanding relationships that help them grow together.<\/p>\n

Llevar el mismo ritmo en una relaci\u00f3n aporta estabilidad, algo muy importante para una conexi\u00f3n duradera.<\/p>\n

They don’t engage in so-called bonos fantas\u00eda<\/em> que den una falsa sensaci\u00f3n de seguridad, sino que apoyen realmente a su pareja y satisfagan sus necesidades emocionales.<\/p>\n

All of this doesn’t mean secure relationships are perfect but what it does mean is that there’s an effort to understand, listen and solve problems together instead of putting blame on each other, passive-aggression or abandonment.<\/p>\n

Un estilo de apego seguro significa que ambos miembros de la pareja tienen un gran conocimiento de s\u00ed mismos, lo que les ayuda a ver m\u00e1s all\u00e1 de cualquier problema y a centrarse en los objetivos mutuos y en alcanzar el bienestar.<\/p>\n

Ansioso-preocupado<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

A diferencia del estilo anterior, los individuos ansioso-preocupados s\u00ed participan en las llamadas bonos fantas\u00eda<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Una persona con este estilo de apego tiende a fantasear con el romance, pero no cumple las expectativas en la realidad.<\/p>\n

Piensan y analizan demasiado, lo que les hace ser pegajosos y a veces obsesivos.<\/p>\n

En lugar de amor real, sienten una fuerte necesidad emocional que tiene su origen en la privaci\u00f3n que experimentaron en etapas anteriores de su vida.<\/p>\n

Este vac\u00edo emocional les hace emocionalmente hambriento<\/em> and that hunger can’t be fully satisfied by their partner if the person doesn’t work on solving their issues first.<\/p>\n

They’re likely to fall for a partner whom they can save or in some cases who they think can save them and that’s usually the wrong person.<\/p>\n

Un tema recurrente en una persona con este tipo de personalidad es la baja autoestima, derivada de crecer sin l\u00edmites.<\/p>\n

Their insecurity causes relationship problems because more often than not, they perceive their partner’s independence as a threat.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, si la pareja pasa tiempo con sus amigos o con otras personas, lo percibe como una falta de atenci\u00f3n o abandono y se vuelve desesperada o pasivo-agresiva.<\/p>\n

Por desgracia, tienden a confundir un relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica<\/a> por pasi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Despectivo-evasivo<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Una persona con un despectivo-evasivo<\/a> tiende a no estar disponible emocionalmente en una relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Suelen mostrarse autosuficientes e independientes y a menudo evitan la intimidad.<\/p>\n

They’re focused on themselves and seek isolation, have a hard time being vulnerable and frequently look and act unbothered by things that happen in their relationship.<\/p>\n

Incluso despu\u00e9s de que su pareja les haga da\u00f1o o les abandone, tienden a bloquear los sentimientos, lo que no hace m\u00e1s que embotellar sus sentimientos no expresados. En otras palabras, se cierran emocionalmente.<\/p>\n

Este tipo tiene pocas relaciones genuinas en su vida como resultado de su estilo de apego evitativo y desde\u00f1oso.<\/p>\n

\u2018I don’t care\u2019<\/em> is their mantra, even though that’s almost always untrue because full independence is an illusion.<\/p>\n

Every human being craves genuine and meaningful relationships; even if you’re an introverted person who doesn’t like crowds, to have a quality connection with other people is essential.<\/p>\n

Temeroso-evasivo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Una persona con este tipo de estilo de apego tiene un enfoque mixto. Temen estar demasiado cerca o demasiado lejos de su pareja y suelen tener dificultades para comprender sus propias emociones.<\/p>\n

Su incapacidad para comprender sus emociones les hace sentirse abrumados, lo que no hace sino complicar m\u00e1s las cosas y, en ocasiones, formar un problema con su salud mental.<\/p>\n

They want to be close to the other person but at the same time, they’re scared of being hurt.<\/p>\n

When they’re hurt, they tend to be clingy, while other times, they experience fear of intimacy and withdrawal. In other words, they’re confused about how to get their needs met.<\/p>\n

A esto le siguen muchos altibajos con su pareja, lo que da lugar a una relaci\u00f3n inestable y a veces abusiva.<\/p>\n

Signos de un apego emocional malsano<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

We can all agree that no relationship is perfect and there’s always an occasional argument or problem that needs to be solved. However, there are many red flags that need to be brought to light.<\/p>\n

A healthy romantic relationship shouldn’t support the following behaviors, as they are signs of an unhealthy attachment:<\/p>\n

Necesidad de tranquilidad constante<\/h2>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

It’s normal for human beings to be concerned with how others perceive them, especially their loved ones.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, if we do it constantly, it’s a sign for concern.<\/p>\n

\u2018Do you love me? Why won’t you tell me you love me? How much do you love me? Are you sure about it?\u2019<\/em> y preguntas similares son s\u00f3lo algunos ejemplos de comportamiento pegajoso.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, tambi\u00e9n se suele insistir demasiado en la necesidad de otros tipos de afecto, como besos y abrazos.<\/p>\n

This type of behavior overwhelms the other person and pushes them away. It puts too much pressure on one person, who can’t fill the emotional hunger of the other person.<\/p>\n

La soluci\u00f3n a este problema es afrontar el conflicto interior no resuelto. En lugar de aferrarse a un compa\u00f1ero para tranquilizarse, la persona tiene que aprender a abordar sus propios problemas.<\/p>\n

We will never be fully satisfied unless we learn to respect ourselves and realize our self-worth. When you know your self-worth, you don’t need the approval of others.<\/p>\n

That doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t care about their opinions but you already know what’s best for you and what you are capable of.<\/p>\n

Amor obsesivo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

El amor obsesivo es un extremo encaprichamiento<\/a> that’s usually accompanied by delusional jealousy and controlling behavior (not to be confused with feelings of infatuation that are normal for a new relationship).<\/p>\n

It’s love that never matures enough to attain a healthy emotional connection. Instead, it almost becomes a personality disorder.<\/p>\n

Lo que empeora las cosas es el hecho de que el amor obsesivo se romantiza en la cultura popular a trav\u00e9s de libros y pel\u00edculas.<\/p>\n

Se normalizan algunos de los comportamientos malsanos y se excusan los apegos problem\u00e1ticos de los adultos.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, obsessive love is viewed as something worthy of praise when in reality it’s just toxic behavior.<\/p>\n

Algunas de las se\u00f1ales de advertencia del amor obsesivo son el pensamiento obsesivo sobre su objeto de deseo, la atenci\u00f3n intensa sobre el objeto de su amor, las llamadas y mensajes de texto obsesivos, los problemas de confianza, la alegr\u00eda y el alivio excesivos cuando se est\u00e1 cerca del objeto de amor, los problemas para centrarse en otras cosas, etc.<\/p>\n

Being overly concerned by their partner\u2019s feelings<\/h2>\n

\"preocupaci\u00f3n<\/p>\n

La psicolog\u00eda social nos dice lo significativa e impactante que es la presencia de los dem\u00e1s en nuestras vidas. Afecta a nuestros pensamientos, sentimientos y comportamiento.<\/p>\n

That’s why many people are concerned about how they look in the eyes of others and sometimes even to the point of altering their own life and behavior to fit the needs of their partner.<\/p>\n

The problem with this kind of behavior is that we’re sacrificing our authentic self, which eventually leads us to feel unhappy about ourselves and our relationship.<\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n refleja un bajo autoestima<\/a> y nos hace sentir no escuchados.<\/p>\n

If we’re too concerned or fearful over our partner’s reactions, especially when it comes to everyday things, it’s possible that we’re trapped in unhealthy emotional behavior.<\/p>\n

Another way this problem manifests is when we feel responsible for other people’s feelings, so let me say this again:<\/p>\n

You’re not responsible for other people’s feelings. That’s exactly what keeps us en una relaci\u00f3n dif\u00edcil<\/a>Pensar que todo lo malo que ocurre es culpa nuestra es perjudicial para nuestra autoestima.<\/p>\n

Evitar la intimidad<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

In order to have a close relationship, two people need to acknowledge each other’s feelings and work toward mutual contentment.<\/p>\n

That means constant care, support, trust and vulnerability. There’s no real intimacy without vulnerability.<\/p>\n

El miedo a compartir una relaci\u00f3n afectiva estrecha es miedo a la intimidad, que es lo m\u00e1s importante entre las parejas rom\u00e1nticas.<\/p>\n

Existen numerosas razones para este temor, como experiencias infantiles dif\u00edciles, antecedentes de malos tratos y muchas otras.<\/p>\n

La intimidad es la capacidad de compartirse con otra persona y podemos hacerlo de varias maneras.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, de forma intelectual (compartiendo pensamientos e ideas), emocional (compartiendo sentimientos profundos), sexual (compartiendo intimidad f\u00edsica) y vivencial (compartiendo experiencias).<\/p>\n

Diferentes tipos de apego emocional<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Cuando o\u00edmos el t\u00e9rmino apego emocional, solemos pensar en el apego a las personas, es decir, a la pareja, los hijos, los familiares y los amigos. Sin embargo, hay muchos m\u00e1s tipos, como:<\/p>\n

Apego a lo material<\/h2>\n

\u00bfLo pasas mal cuando algunas de tus posesiones materiales se estropean o cuando tienes que desprenderte de ellas? \u00bfTe preguntas alguna vez por qu\u00e9?<\/p>\n

The fact is, we’re attached to material things. If we weren’t, why would we buy unessential things in the first place?<\/p>\n

Casi todas las compras importantes son emocionales.<\/p>\n

Think about if you left your phone alone for a few days; I’m sure you would miss it and feel a certain amount of frustration at times.<\/p>\n

Of course, it’s normal to enjoy material things but we should be aware that they’re all replaceable.<\/p>\n

There’s the idea that the less attached we are, the happier we are. Everything in life is transient, so learning to let go is a useful skill.<\/p>\n

Apego a los h\u00e1bitos<\/h2>\n

Aparte de las personas y las cosas, nos apegamos a los h\u00e1bitos. La forma m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil de notarlo es ver a personas que fuman, comen en exceso, se obsesionan con hacer ejercicio, etc.<\/p>\n

It’s possible to have healthy habits but it’s easier to have unhealthy ones. That’s why in order to break a habit, one needs willpower and discipline.<\/p>\n

Apego a los lugares<\/h2>\n

Para muchas personas, cambiar de entorno es una pesadilla.<\/p>\n

Se apegan demasiado a ciertos lugares; por ejemplo, su ciudad natal o el hogar familiar y, a veces, incluso cuando necesitan desesperadamente un cambio.<\/p>\n

Refusing change when it’s good for us is a big sign of an unhealthy emotional attachment because it stops progress and growth.<\/p>\n

Apego a los recuerdos<\/h2>\n

Dwelling on the things that happened in the past is another type of attachment. There’s no point in daydreaming or crying over the things that already happened because we can’t change them.<\/p>\n

Lo que podemos hacer es centrarnos en las cosas que podemos hacer ahora y hacerlo lo mejor que podamos.<\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo romper el c\u00edrculo vicioso<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Aunque el apego emocional es algo normal y esperable en los seres humanos, a veces se descontrola.<\/p>\n

Para mantener nuestro equilibrio emocional y nuestra libertad personal, necesitamos desprendernos de las cosas que ya no nos sirven.<\/p>\n

How do we do that? Firstly, it’s good to work on your self-esteem. It’s crucial to get comfortable with yourself before anyone else in order to experience happiness, freedom and emotional balance.<\/p>\n

Secondly, it’s good to find new things to focus on.<\/p>\n

Don’t rely on other people to make you feel good; find out how to do so on your own. Engage in things that make you less stressed. Make some new friends, try new things.<\/p>\n

Don’t think of yourself as someone who needs something or someone else to feel fulfilled, as you’re already whole.<\/p>\n

Don’t forget that you have the power to change your life every day, starting from today.<\/p>\n

\u201cRenew, release, let go. Yesterday\u2019s gone. There\u2019s nothing you can do to bring it back. You can\u2019t \u2018should\u2019ve\u2019 done something. You can only DO something. Renew yourself. Release that attachment. Today is a new day!\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Steve Maraboli<\/p>\n

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