{"id":84341,"date":"2020-07-09T09:43:03","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T09:43:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84341"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:28:48","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:28:48","slug":"di-lo-que-quieres-decir-y-piensa-lo-que-dices","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/di-lo-que-quieres-decir-y-piensa-lo-que-dices\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfSiempre dices lo que quieres decir y sientes lo que dices?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cSay what you mean and mean what you say. Don\u2019t be afraid to stand firm on the decisions that you make. Trust yourself. Believe in your instincts. Do what works best for YOU. Stay true to yourself and be good to yourself. Allow every decision that you make to empower, enrich, and add value to your life!\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Stephanie Lahart<\/p>\n

Decir siempre la verdad no es tarea f\u00e1cil. Intentar hablar con honestidad y expresar tus verdaderos pensamientos y emociones es bastante complicado, sobre todo en las relaciones.<\/p>\n

Decir lo que se dice puede ser a\u00fan m\u00e1s complicado, sobre todo cuando las emociones se apoderan de uno.<\/p>\n

We’re here to help you learn how to remain respectful and kind when communicating with your partner, without compromising the truth that needs to be told.<\/p>\n

Also, we\u2019ll explore the idea of lying and if there\u2019s ever a time when it\u2019s okay to do so.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s start.<\/p>\n

9 consejos para mejorar su estilo de comunicaci\u00f3n<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. El momento oportuno lo es todo<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

It’s not that you should always put off saying something important, but choosing the wrong timing won’t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n

Don’t surprise your partner with a super serious conversation while you’re having fun at a party, or interrupt them while they’re doing something important.<\/p>\n

Elegir el momento adecuado puede marcar la diferencia entre resolver tus problemas de forma honesta y abierta o discutir sin llegar a ning\u00fan tipo de soluci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

It’s not a bad idea to agree on the time the conversation will take place so neither of you is surprised, angry, or overly emotional to resolve whatever there is to resolve.<\/p>\n

If it’s something small that you want to share, again, think of the timing. When your partner is just getting ready for work or an event is definitely not the time to tell them they’ve gained weight.<\/p>\n

Puede que sea cierto, pero decirles algo as\u00ed en ese momento concreto es simplemente cruel.<\/p>\n

2. Don’t plan the conversation ahead down to every little detail<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

While most of us intuitively plan out what we’re going to say and even creatively imagine how the other person is going to respond to our words, conversations cannot really be predicted.<\/p>\n

This is especially true if it’s something deep and emotional that you have to talk about. Things will probably not go the way you planned.<\/p>\n

Por eso debe ser flexible.<\/p>\n

Tener una idea general de lo que quiere compartir y c\u00f3mo quiere comunicarlo<\/a> es importante, pero intentar controlar la conversaci\u00f3n por completo s\u00f3lo puede conducir a malentendidos y, a la larga, a peleas.<\/p>\n

Incl\u00ednate por la conversaci\u00f3n, dejando espacio para lo que tu interlocutor quiera aportar a la discusi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

3. Paciencia, paciencia, paciencia<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Elegir las palabras adecuadas<\/a> can be difficult. If your partner isn’t as good with words as you are or has a hard time expressing themselves, you might get impatient.<\/p>\n

Don’t force them to blurt out anything just because you can’t wait for them to find the right thing to say.<\/p>\n

La paciencia es muy importante cuando intentas comunicar tus emociones de forma honesta y abierta.<\/p>\n

Don’t try to help them out, putting words in their mouth. Also, don’t sit there planning the next thing you’re going to say.<\/p>\n

Intenta escuchar activamente todo lo que compartan, porque para las personas con problemas de comunicaci\u00f3n, cada palabra es importante.<\/p>\n

If you’re the one having issues expressing your exact thoughts and emotions and usually find it difficult to say what you mean, give yourself time. The right words will probably come, but…<\/p>\n

4. Cuando te fallen las palabras, sigue tu intuici\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

It’s not just words that play a role in your communication with your loved ones. Sometimes, words fail us.<\/p>\n

Los malentendidos son muy desagradables y toda la confusi\u00f3n que se deriva de ellos puede ser bastante estresante.<\/p>\n

When you’re at the listening side of the conversation, try to listen with your heart.<\/p>\n

Even when our ears hear our partner saying something that absolutely doesn’t fit who they are, our hearts hear past that.<\/p>\n

Sigue tu intuici\u00f3n en este caso e intenta seguir discutiendo con calma sin hundir a tu pareja en el fango de las palabras inadecuadas que ha pronunciado enfad\u00e1ndote.<\/p>\n

If you’re the one speaking and you\u2019ve just said something wrong, explain that you weren’t able to find the words to express yourself better and what you said wasn’t what you wanted to communicate.<\/p>\n

El amor ideal es una comunicaci\u00f3n sana<\/a>sino tambi\u00e9n de hablar con el coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

5. Deja de juzgar y elige la aceptaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Para decir lo que se quiere decir y para que lo que se quiere decir tenga sentido, las palabras tienen que proceder de un lugar de amor y claridad.<\/p>\n

La honestidad no consiste en ser cr\u00edtico.<\/p>\n

Cuando decidimos comunicarnos, nuestro objetivo final es que nuestra pareja nos comprenda, del mismo modo que nosotros debemos comprenderla a ella. Construir un entorno seguro<\/a> es imprescindible.<\/p>\n

Empezar la conversaci\u00f3n desde el juicio y la cr\u00edtica s\u00f3lo conduce a malentendidos, peleas y sentimientos heridos. En su lugar, opta por la aceptaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

No importa de qu\u00e9 hables, decide de antemano que tu punto de partida es el de la aceptaci\u00f3n y el amor.<\/p>\n

If your partner feels judged, they’ll shut down, hiding their vulnerabilities from you. Honest communication is not about offending or hurting someone.<\/p>\n

It’s about creating a safe environment for your conversational partner where they feel safe to open up.<\/p>\n

6. Honestidad<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Of course, the biggest part of saying what you mean and meaning what you say is honesty. There’s no point in sharing something that isn’t even true. No one benefits from lies and deception.<\/p>\n

La pareja debe ser capaz y estar dispuesta a decir su verdad, teniendo siempre presente que el amor, las buenas intenciones y la claridad son elementos esenciales de una comunicaci\u00f3n sana.<\/p>\n

Ser honesto y, al mismo tiempo, proceder desde un esp\u00edritu de amor, profundizar\u00e1 y fortalecer\u00e1 su relaci\u00f3n m\u00e1s que cualquier otra cosa.<\/p>\n

7. Elija siempre la comunicaci\u00f3n cara a cara por encima de cualquier otra<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Las cartas, los correos electr\u00f3nicos y los mensajes de texto pueden malinterpretarse. La mayor\u00eda de las veces, lo son.<\/p>\n

When there’s something important or tricky you have to share with your partner, it’s best to choose a face to face conversation.<\/p>\n

Hablar en persona ayuda a evitar todos los malentendidos innecesarios que son demasiado comunes en cualquier otra forma de comunicaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

If you’re trying to avoid talking in person because it seems to you like you never share everything you want to, it might be a good idea for you to collect your thoughts beforehand and write them down so you can remind yourself of all you wanted to say.<\/p>\n

8. Cuidado con el lenguaje corporal<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Besides the actual words you say, your body language is the biggest part of your communication style. Make sure that it’s telling the same story your mouth is.<\/p>\n

Preste atenci\u00f3n a su interlocutor. Si\u00e9ntate cerca de \u00e9l y participa f\u00edsicamente en la conversaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Make eye contact and stay open. Don’t clench your fists or do a nervous tick like bouncing your leg.<\/p>\n

Tu cuerpo debe permanecer tranquilo y abierto, de la misma manera que tu mente est\u00e1 abierta a recibir todo lo que tu interlocutor est\u00e1 compartiendo. Cuando hables, hazlo con calma.<\/p>\n

Don’t over-gesticulate, especially not in aggressive ways that would only show your anger and impatience.<\/p>\n

Show your partner that you have respect for them, even when you disagree and want to make a point that’s completely different to theirs.<\/p>\n

Don’t be distracted with anything else like checking your phone while you’re talking.<\/p>\n

9. Use the two days rule \u2013 not everything needs to be shared<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Si ha ocurrido algo que te ha hecho querer cont\u00e1rselo a tu pareja, pero te sientes muy enfadado o confuso, o simplemente tus emociones est\u00e1n a flor de piel por ello, opta por esperar.<\/p>\n

48 horas despu\u00e9s, si sigues sinti\u00e9ndote igual, h\u00e1blalo con tu pareja.<\/p>\n

If, after that time, you don’t even care about what happened, consider simply not saying a thing.<\/p>\n

The big part of “say what you mean and mean what you say” attitude applied to relationships is to know when not to overshare.<\/p>\n

It’s okay to simply not say something if it’s no longer important and wouldn’t change anything except maybe cause a fight.<\/p>\n

If you choose to speak up when you’re upset, you’re risking not meaning what you say. And that’s equally important as saying what you mean \u2013 never forget that.<\/p>\n

This Is How To Mean What You Say When You’re Angry<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Da un paso atr\u00e1s y respira<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

If you’ve found yourself in the midst of a passionate conversation (read: fight), and feel like you’re no longer in control of your emotions or words, it’s best to hit the pause button.<\/p>\n

Dile a tu pareja que necesitas tiempo para pensar en todo lo ocurrido.<\/p>\n

Calm yourself down before you make the situation even worse by saying a lot of things you don’t even mean that would hurt your partner’s feelings and possibly even ruin your relationship.<\/p>\n

2. Piensa en lo que te hizo enfadar<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

When you’re calm, think about what made you so mad. Try to analyze the situation as comprehensively as you can.<\/p>\n

\u00bfTe enfad\u00f3 algo que hizo tu compa\u00f1ero o fue algo que dijo o la forma en que lo dijo?<\/p>\n

Piensa detenidamente hasta que te des cuenta de lo que realmente quieres decir y qu\u00e9 es lo que necesitas compartir con tu pareja para expresar tus verdaderas emociones y pensamientos.<\/p>\n

3. Talk (keeping in mind all the tips we\u2019ve given you)<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you know just what it is that you want to say, and when you’re finally calm, talk to your partner. Keep in mind all the tips we\u2019ve outlined.<\/p>\n

Stay respectful, open, and accepting. Choose patience and flexibility and make sure your body language is in tune with how you’re feeling.<\/p>\n

Always say what you mean, but don’t say it mean.<\/p>\n

Find a way to express love and understanding even when you’re calling down behavior or trying to prove something to your partner that they don’t necessarily agree on.<\/p>\n

4. LISTEN \u2013 don’t forget to listen<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Don’t only focus on what you have to say. While your partner is talking, don’t use that time to come up with the next thing you’re going to say.<\/p>\n

Para que una conversaci\u00f3n tenga sentido, ambos ten\u00e9is que expresar vuestras verdades.<\/p>\n

Escuche activamente, pensando detenidamente en todo lo que su interlocutor comparta con usted. Intenta comprender su punto de vista.<\/p>\n

Deje espacio para una comunicaci\u00f3n sana y tranquila en la que todos se sientan libres para ser sinceros y vulnerables.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs siempre la sinceridad la mejor pol\u00edtica? Todo sobre las mentiras piadosas<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

At first glance, it may seem to you that the obvious answer is to always be truthful. But, there’s a good reason white lies exist.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 son?<\/p>\n

Una mentira piadosa es una mentira dicha con la mejor intenci\u00f3n, tratando de evitar que la otra persona se sienta innecesariamente herida o avergonzada.<\/p>\n

Hay muchos tipos diferentes, y te presentamos cuatro tipos de mentiras piadosas que se suelen utilizar en las relaciones:<\/p>\n

Mentiras descaradas<\/strong><\/p>\n

Outright lies don’t have the tiniest bit of truth in them.<\/p>\n

Remember high school, when you were late for class and your teacher asked you why and you told them that your bus was late or your driver was sick, all the while you actually overslept? Yup, that’s it.<\/p>\n

So, if you tell your partner that you didn’t go out, but were studying while you were actually watching Netflix, that’s just an outright lie \u2013 no matter how little difference the truth would make.<\/p>\n

Verdades suavizadas<\/strong><\/p>\n

Softened truths are a kind of white lies that you use when you want to minimize the impact of the truth you’re about to share.<\/p>\n

For example, your partner asks you if your ex was better than him in any way, and you tell him that “he was a very different type of person,” not wanting to hurt his feelings with the complete truth, yet still not telling a lie.<\/p>\n

Omisiones cuidadosas<\/strong><\/p>\n

Omisiones cuidadosas es lo que haces cuando intuyes que se avecina una situaci\u00f3n o un comentario inc\u00f3modo, y cambias r\u00e1pidamente de tema o te excusas para ir al ba\u00f1o.<\/p>\n

For example, your partner says how lovely his sister is and you sense he’s about to ask you what you think of her (and you don’t like her), so you say something like “Yeah, listen, we have to go, otherwise we’ll be late for dinner.”<\/p>\n

Mentiras grises<\/strong><\/p>\n

Las mentiras grises son mentiras que no son realmente blancas, pero tampoco negras (simplemente una buena mentira).<\/p>\n

La mayor diferencia entre una mentira blanca y una mentira gris es que una mentira blanca se utiliza para evitar que otra persona se sienta mal innecesariamente, mientras que las mentiras grises te ayudan a evitar situaciones embarazosas o inc\u00f3modas.<\/p>\n

Toda mentira blanca puede ser tambi\u00e9n una mentira gris, dependiendo de tu intenci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

For example, when you tell a funny story from work where someone gets embarrassed, but you use your co-worker as the main character, while the story you’re talking about has actually happened to you and you just wanted to avoid the embarrassment \u2013 that’s a grey lie.<\/p>\n

\u00bfSon realmente necesarias las mentiras piadosas?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

There isn’t the “one size fits all” kind of answer to this question. The truth is, telling a small, insignificant lie can be just that \u2013 completely insignificant.<\/p>\n

El problema se produce cuando una persona no distingue entre decir una peque\u00f1a mentira y realmente mentir sobre algo que realmente tenga impacto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Also, some lies \u2013 gray lies, in particular \u2013 can be difficult to get out of.<\/p>\n

Una vez que se dice algo, puede arrastrar un mont\u00f3n de mentiras m\u00e1s que hay que decir para mantener la primera mentira, y eso se complica.<\/p>\n

It’s up to you to find reason in what you decide to do, whether it’s to tell your partner their hair looks great, even when it doesn’t, or that their family is lovely, despite you not particularly adoring them.<\/p>\n

It all comes down to your own personal feeling about what’s important and what’s not.<\/p>\n

La mejor manera de decidir si utilizar una mentirijilla insignificante o no es pensar en lo que te gustar\u00eda que te dijeran en ese tipo de situaci\u00f3n y actuar en consecuencia.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, we prefer being told little lies just to feel better, even when we intuitively know we aren’t being told the truth.<\/p>\n

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