{"id":84417,"date":"2020-07-09T08:46:10","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T08:46:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84417"},"modified":"2021-11-15T15:48:05","modified_gmt":"2021-11-15T15:48:05","slug":"elige-vivir-para-ti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/elige-vivir-para-ti\/","title":{"rendered":"Toma la decisi\u00f3n de vivir para ti mismo: Aprende c\u00f3mo en estos 11 pasos"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"El acto m\u00e1s valiente sigue siendo pensar por uno mismo. En voz alta\"-Coco Chanel <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Pensar por ti mismo y vivir por ti mismo deber\u00edan ser tus decisiones y objetivos vitales definitivos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not only are they the most courageous acts but they\u2019re probably two of the most difficult, soul-searching things you will decide to do.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 son tan importantes?<\/span><\/p>\n

Seres humanos<\/span> tienen necesidades sociales, que les hacen querer adaptarse lo m\u00e1s posible a su comunidad para obtener a cambio el m\u00e1s preciado sentimiento de pertenencia a un grupo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Interestingly enough, ultimately it’s not other people’s beliefs, restrictions or expectations that stop us from living the life we would like to live.<\/b><\/p>\n

Para adaptarnos a la sociedad, solemos formar muchas de nuestras <\/span>el propio yo<\/span>-creencias limitantes, las que nos impiden salir de nuestra <\/span>zona de confort<\/span> (de nuevo, creados por nuestra idea de c\u00f3mo encajar mejor en el molde que nuestra familia, amigos o la sociedad nos dijeron que encaj\u00e1ramos).<\/span><\/p>\n

No explorarnos nunca m\u00e1s significa no llegar nunca a alcanzar realmente nuestro <\/span>verdadero yo<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hay cuatro cosas fundamentales que todos buscamos: <\/b>aprobaci\u00f3n, validaci\u00f3n, aceptaci\u00f3n, confianza<\/i><\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Para muchas personas <\/span>empezar a vivir<\/span> por s\u00ed mismos significa vivir una <\/span>nueva vida<\/span>. \u00bfEs realmente posible hacerlo? Lo es. <\/span><\/p>\n

Todo lo que tienes que hacer es cambiar tu forma de pensar y empujarte hacia la conciencia de que estas cuatro cosas son cosas que necesitas de ti mismo, no de los dem\u00e1s.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s time for you to take responsibility for your <\/span>propia felicidad<\/span>. If you want to rock your world, reach new highs and break the shackles that you put yourself in, it’s time you ask yourself these questions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Preguntas que debes hacerte antes de iniciar el proceso de cambio:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son algunos detalles espec\u00edficos de mi personalidad?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u201cIt takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.\u201d\u2015E.E. Cummings<\/span><\/i> <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCon qu\u00e9 frecuencia piensas realmente en ti mismo? Ahora, empieza por el principio. \u00bfDe d\u00f3nde vienes? \u00bfC\u00f3mo eran tus padres?<\/span><\/p>\n

Did you have a happy childhood or not? How did that shape you? You see where I’m going with this.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pretend that you’re in a therapy session with yourself. Maybe do a couple of online personality tests and analyze your results and see if you agree.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1l es tu opini\u00f3n general sobre ti mismo? Piensa en tus mayores virtudes y en tus defectos. \u00bfCu\u00e1les son tus puntos fuertes?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 partes de tu personalidad crees que gustan m\u00e1s a los dem\u00e1s? \u00bfSon reales o te moldeas para gustar a los dem\u00e1s? <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s important to reach your own opinions about your own personality. Dare to think about everything, the things you like and the things you don’t. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que me hace feliz?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u201cThe essence of philosophy is that a man should so live that his happiness shall depend as little as possible on external things.\u201d\u2015Epictetus <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

This one may seem simple but it usually isn’t. What are some things that really make you smile or feel content and happy to be alive? I’m not talking about one-time events, rather some things we all do on a <\/span>diariamente<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Claro que puedes pensar en algunas cosas importantes que te hicieron sentir feliz, pero la felicidad es un trabajo interno y algo que deber\u00edas sentir cada d\u00eda durante al menos unos instantes.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son las peque\u00f1as cosas que <\/span>vida cotidiana<\/span> que le emocionan? \u00bfQu\u00e9 espera con impaciencia?<\/span><\/p>\n

Is there a part of you that’s only happy if someone says you did well and validates your choices? <\/span>Si lo hay, \u00bfest\u00e1s dispuesto a cambiarlo?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son mis propias normas?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u201cIt takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.\u201d\u2015J.K. Rowling<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Aparte de lo que te han ense\u00f1ado tus padres, la religi\u00f3n, la escuela y la sociedad, \u00bfcu\u00e1les son tus propias normas? \u00bfCu\u00e1les son las cosas que realmente crees que hay que hacer para llenar tu vida de positividad y felicidad?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCrees en la bondad, en hacer <\/span>buenas acciones<\/span>ser rico o <\/span>otra cosa<\/span>?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son tus objetivos en la vida y en qu\u00e9 creencias y normas se basan? \u00bfSon creencias tuyas o cosas que te has hecho creer para encajar y hacer felices a los dem\u00e1s?<\/span><\/p>\n

Si los dem\u00e1s aprueban tus decisiones, t\u00fa tambi\u00e9n las apruebas.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know that seems to bring you happiness because it helps you avoid the confrontation you believe unnecessary and negative but the road to living a life that’s fully yours is bumpy and confrontation is necessary.<\/span><\/p>\n

Siempre que una persona decide vivir su vida como quiere, hay que pagar peque\u00f1os sacrificios.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 cosas creo que puedo lamentar no haber hecho?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u201cI’m the one that’s got to die when it’s time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to.\u201d\u2015Jimi Hendrix<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

They say that a person who is about to die hardly ever regrets something they did and usually regrets the things they didn’t do. <\/span><\/p>\n

Are there things in your life you avoid doing so you won\u2019t upset someone? Do you see yourself regretting on your deathbed not doing those things? If yes, they are probably worth trying. What is it that you’re scared of?<\/span><\/p>\n

A veces, no tenemos absolutamente nada que ver con c\u00f3mo nos ven los dem\u00e1s.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you decide to skip doing something you yearn to do then you’re compromising yourself for the sake of maintaining the image of you in other people’s eyes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Does it really matter what they think of you? One day, when all of this is gone, will you truly regret changing someone’s opinion of you or will you regret not being brave enough to live your life the way you want to?<\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00f3mate todo el tiempo que necesites para responder a estas preguntas. Cuanto m\u00e1s a fondo las investigues, m\u00e1s posibilidades tendr\u00e1s de avanzar hacia una vida que te convenga. <\/b><\/p>\n

Una vez que te sientas preparado para cambiar, invierte tu energ\u00eda en seguir nuestros consejos sobre c\u00f3mo hacerlo realmente.<\/b><\/p>\n

11 consejos profundos sobre c\u00f3mo vivir por fin para uno mismo<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Deja de reprimir tus emociones, deseos y corazonadas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

To live your life according to your emotions is not the best possible option. Why? Because they aren’t direct reactions to what happens to you. Your emotions are responses to how you perceive what happens to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, son herramientas incre\u00edbles para conocerse mejor a uno mismo. Contigo mismo, <\/span>s\u00e9 abierto con tus emociones.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 le molesta? \u00bfQu\u00e9 le gusta? Hay razones para ambas cosas. Aceptar tus emociones y comprenderlas mejor te lleva a conocerte a ti mismo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n hay que explorar tus deseos. Si elige <\/span>vivir la vida<\/span> your way, you can’t continue hiding your true wishes.<\/span><\/p>\n

When I say hiding, I don’t even mean from other people, I actually mean from yourself. Be honest about what it is that you want.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know it’s scary to follow your hunch on something when you think it will lead you so far away out of your <\/span>zona de confort<\/span> pero si decide <\/span>empezar a vivir<\/span> the life that’s yours, those fears should be conquered.<\/span><\/p>\n

Qu\u00e9 mejor manera de hacerlo que darse cuenta realmente de qu\u00e9 es lo que quieres y c\u00f3mo quieres conseguirlo.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Toma la decisi\u00f3n de cuidar primero de ti mismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Convi\u00e9rtete en una prioridad.<\/span><\/a> En este punto, debe ser consciente de su <\/span>propias necesidades<\/span>. Toma la decisi\u00f3n de ocuparte primero de ellos. <\/span>Nadie m\u00e1s<\/span> debe venir antes que t\u00fa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Su <\/span>bienestar<\/span> est\u00e1 en tus manos. <\/span>Nadie m\u00e1s<\/span> will take care of you, it’s on you to do that. This absolutely doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take care of other people as well but it does mean that you should come first.<\/span><\/p>\n

There’s nothing you can do to improve your life if your needs aren’t being met and ignoring them yourself is one of the most unhealthy things you can do.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tell yourself that you’re important and even better, show yourself just how important you are. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Esfu\u00e9rzate constantemente por conocerte mejor a ti mismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

There are always things that we don’t know or don’t fully understand, no matter how hard we work on realizing who we actually are. Always go a step further into the depth of your own mind and your own personality.<\/span><\/p>\n

La ra\u00edz de por qu\u00e9 nosotros, como <\/span>seres humanos<\/span>, choose to follow other people’s expectations of us rather than our own beliefs and desires usually lies deep within. <\/span><\/p>\n

Explorar tu psique, tus respuestas emocionales, tus elecciones y h\u00e1bitos es muy importante. Para entenderte, primero tienes que conocerte a ti mismo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Understanding leads to acceptance and that’s what you need; you need to accept you. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Don’t make it your job to please other people<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Gastar <\/span>menos tiempo<\/span> trying to please others; that\u2019s not your job. Your job is to please yourself and everybody else’s job is this too. That way everyone gets to live the way they need to and not blame others for their unhappiness. <\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, you shouldn’t offend or disrespect people for the sake of it but if your beliefs and decisions don’t match theirs, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t openly state them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hearing someone else\u2019s opinion shouldn\u2019t be offensive to anyone.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have a right to be yourself as much as anybody else does. No one is more important or more worthy than others. You shouldn’t shape your views of the world according to what the people around you think.<\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00fa eres quien tiene que vivir contigo mismo, as\u00ed que elige vivir para ti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Puedes encontrar satisfacci\u00f3n en ayudar a los dem\u00e1s a sentirse mejor siendo amable, atento o servicial, pero cambiar tu estilo de vida para adaptarlo a los dem\u00e1s es innecesario y, en \u00faltima instancia, err\u00f3neo.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. El crecimiento puede ser doloroso, as\u00ed que acepta este hecho antes de tomar decisiones importantes<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

As I said earlier, sacrifices will be made. To learn to live for yourself means to grow out of your skin that was pre-shaped; it’s going to hurt to stretch it out to fit your <\/span>nueva vida<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Challenging predefined patterns of behavior won’t be easy. That’s something you should be aware of and need to accept before you fully commit to this process.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9? <\/span>El cambio es necesario para crecer.<\/span><\/a> Si decides cambiar, puedes desanimarte por el dolor que pueden causarte algunas situaciones.<\/span><\/p>\n

Most people in your surroundings won’t just take the new you and be perfectly fine that you decided to live your life according to your own rules. <\/span><\/p>\n

Empieza por cambiar peque\u00f1as cosas en tu <\/span>vida cotidiana<\/span>. Por ejemplo, deja de ser un pusil\u00e1nime (si lo eres). Expresa tu opini\u00f3n sobre d\u00f3nde quieres ir a tomar un caf\u00e9 en lugar de ir donde quieran los dem\u00e1s.<\/span><\/p>\n

These are small steps that may seem irrelevant for the process but they\u2019re not. This\u2019ll help you explore the feeling you get by doing what you really want to do.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Aceptar que, a veces, somos como somos<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Being true to yourself doesn’t only mean exploring your positive side, as many things you’ll hate about yourself will be revealed.<\/span><\/p>\n

Amor propio<\/span><\/a> significa aceptar todo lo que eres. Hay cosas de nosotros que enterramos en lo m\u00e1s profundo, ocult\u00e1ndolas tanto de nosotros mismos como del mundo entero.<\/span><\/p>\n

Este proceso requerir\u00e1 que aprendas a aceptar esas cosas sin tener <\/span>pensamientos negativos<\/span> o sentimientos negativos como la verg\u00fcenza a causa de ellos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes, you are who you are. There are things that can’t be changed and should be learned to deal with better rather than being hidden somewhere in your mind.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. S\u00e9 siempre t\u00fa mismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Intente expresarse en todo lo que hace. Intenta incorporar un pedacito de tu personalidad incluso en las tareas cotidianas m\u00e1s sencillas.<\/span><\/p>\n

Living life for yourself isn’t just about doing what you like, it’s also about making everything you do yours by putting yourself into it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Elige ser t\u00fa mismo<\/a> in every possible sense. There’s <\/span>nadie m\u00e1s<\/span> you can be, after all. You’re unique and special. The world needs every kind of person to explore what’s been given to them as their personality. <\/span><\/p>\n

La creatividad, los descubrimientos y el crecimiento comienzan con una forma de pensar diferente, un enfoque de la vida fuera de lo com\u00fan y la voluntad de tomar el camino que no se ha tomado.<\/span><\/p>\n

This world hardly benefits from those who choose to follow a given path. Dare to be you, there’s a reason you’re the way you are. <\/span><\/p>\n

8. Ayuda a que florezca tu confianza<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Trabajar en su <\/span>confianza<\/span><\/a> es una parte importante de vivir tu propio tipo de vida. Si quieres estar preparado para afrontar las dificultades de elegir tu propio camino, tienes que tener confianza en ti mismo.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know that you’ll question yourself constantly, thinking that you lack confidence because even you aren’t certain that your choices are right.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is where you have to think back to why you started all this. Stop considering what others will think is right and choose what’s right for you at the moment.<\/span><\/p>\n

Piense s\u00f3lo en lo que tiene sentido para su <\/span>propia vida<\/span>, don’t compare it to anyone else.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hay muchas cosas que puedes hacer para mejorar tu confianza, as\u00ed que prueba todo lo que creas que puede funcionarte.<\/span><\/p>\n

9. Deja de preocuparte por lo que los dem\u00e1s piensen de ti<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Estaba pensando en c\u00f3mo <\/span>redes sociales<\/span> has made us all slaves of other people’s opinions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cuanto m\u00e1s retroced\u00eda en la historia, m\u00e1s me daba cuenta de que <\/span>redes sociales<\/span> no ha hecho m\u00e1s que acentuar los problemas que, como sociedad, siempre hemos tenido.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s completely natural to seek approval from other people, that’s not even the issue. I like to think of this as the biggest misunderstanding in civilization ever.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let’s explore it. I worry about what you think of me, for example. The thing I worry about is hardly ever what you actually think about me. It’s what I think you think about me.<\/span><\/p>\n

We all spend our life worrying about satisfying someone else’s criteria while everyone actually focuses on how others think of them and has little time to think about others.<\/span><\/p>\n

Many lives get ruined because of this and it’s actually ridiculous how one misconception can impact so many lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

10. Encuentra tu pasi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t know how to answer my question about your personal needs, wants and desires, it’s time to explore that further. <\/span><\/p>\n

Not everyone knows immediately what their passion in life is. Your passion can be in a certain field of work, art, raising a family or helping others…<\/span><\/p>\n

Whatever it is, make sure it’s your own. The main thing in your life should always be what you do to satisfy that little voice inside you that pushes you to do just that because you desperately want to.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not a given that you have to know what your passion is from the moment you start planning your life, so try different things.<\/span><\/p>\n

11. En \u00faltima instancia, cuidar de uno mismo no es ego\u00edsta<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Making sure you’re okay is not selfish. Minding your <\/span>negocio propio<\/span> no es ego\u00edsmo. Decidir vivir para uno mismo y vivir realmente una vida que se ajuste a tus puntos de vista no es ser ego\u00edsta.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t let anyone guilt-trip you into thinking otherwise.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ser un pensador original, un explorador y, en \u00faltima instancia, t\u00fa mismo, es tu deber, no algo de lo que nadie pueda culparte. Si\u00e9ntete orgulloso de tu valent\u00eda.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have one life, don’t waste it filling someone else’s shoes. Explore the world within and outside of yourself in any way you see fit.<\/b><\/p>\n

Todo el mundo tiene remordimientos, as\u00ed que esfu\u00e9rzate por tener los menos posibles.<\/b><\/p>\n

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\u201cThe most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.\u201d\u2015Coco Chanel  To think for yourself and live for yourself should be your ultimate life decisions and life goals. Not only are they the most courageous acts but they\u2019re probably two of the most difficult, soul-searching things you will decide to do. Why are they…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":84419,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-84417","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29644,"label":"self-love"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Make-A-Choice-To-Live-For-Yourself-Learn-How-In-These-11-Steps.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29644,"name":"self-love","slug":"self-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29644,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","parent":29643,"count":290,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29644,"category_count":290,"category_description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","cat_name":"self-love","category_nicename":"self-love","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/84417","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=84417"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/84417\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/84419"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=84417"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=84417"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=84417"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}