\u00bfPodemos aprender del dolor?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n ”Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.”<\/em> – Pema Ch\u00f6dr\u00f6n<\/p>\n Creo firmemente que esto es cierto. El dolor est\u00e1 aqu\u00ed para ense\u00f1arnos lecciones que nunca supimos que necesit\u00e1bamos. Y por duro que parezca a veces, acaba convirti\u00e9ndote en una persona m\u00e1s fuerte.<\/p>\n Sea quien sea el causante de su dolor, el malestar que siente posteriormente es tan hiriente como esclarecedor.<\/p>\n Tal vez fue tu mejor amigo quien decidi\u00f3 que ya no eras lo suficientemente bueno para \u00e9l.<\/p>\n Tal vez fuera un compa\u00f1ero de trabajo con el que cre\u00edas haber creado un v\u00ednculo duradero, s\u00f3lo para o\u00edrle hablar mal de ti en la oficina.<\/p>\n Sometimes, it’s a family member who shows their true feelings toward you the first time you dare put your mental health above their incessant demands.<\/p>\n El dolor es universal. Ning\u00fan ser vivo en esta tierra est\u00e1 exento de sufrir un dolor emocional devastador.<\/strong><\/p>\n However, most people can’t see beyond what they feel at a particular moment. To most, pain is a major inconvenience that wreaks havoc on their life and causes them to spend time trying to cope.<\/p>\n It is in our nature to crave pleasure and expect the pain to go around us. It’s embedded in our brain that pain is an uncomfortable feeling that does nothing but hurt us.<\/p>\n Pero, \u00bfalguna vez te has parado a pensar qu\u00e9 puede ense\u00f1arte realmente el dolor?<\/em><\/p>\n Pain is your body’s signal that changes need to be made. No matter the type of pain, it’s a sign that appropriate measures need to be taken in order to get better and more resilient.<\/p>\n Cuando te enfrentas al dolor de frente, en lugar de reprimirlo y dejar que te queme por dentro, tienes las de ganar.<\/strong><\/p>\n Ignorarlo no sirve de nada, pero ser proactivo te permite tomar las riendas de esta experiencia negativa. Exige una voluntad fuerte, mucho valor y determinaci\u00f3n para levantarse y salir airoso.<\/p>\n Personalmente, cuando me enfrento a un dolor enorme, me pregunto lo siguiente: \u00bfC\u00f3mo puedo utilizar esta experiencia dura y negativa como medio de introspecci\u00f3n personal?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n In the back of my mind, I always try to think of ways that’ll allow positivity to find me and help me regain self-love before I burn out.<\/p>\n Let’s be honest\u2014pain pushes us to see things from a different point of view.<\/p>\n Te hace dar un paso atr\u00e1s, reevaluar la situaci\u00f3n y averiguar c\u00f3mo has contribuido a llegar a donde est\u00e1s. Te hace ver el panorama general y lo que realmente importa en ese momento.<\/p>\n Sometimes, you’ll find it difficult to see what it’s trying to teach you and other times, it’s going to be clear as day. Ask yourself this:<\/p>\n \u2022 Why is this happening to me?<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 How have I affected my current disposition?<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 How can I let this make me more careful and stronger in the future?<\/em><\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Por qu\u00e9 hacemos da\u00f1o a los que amamos: 11 razones ocultas<\/a><\/p>\n 7 t\u00e9cnicas que te ayudar\u00e1n a sobreponerte cuando alguien te haga da\u00f1o<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Es normal dejarse guiar por los instintos cuando alguien a quien quieres te hace da\u00f1o.<\/p>\n At that particular moment, it’s difficult to keep a cool and collected head and oftentimes, we let our heart take over.<\/p>\n We’re only human after all.<\/p>\n Y la mayor\u00eda de las veces, tu instinto te da una indicaci\u00f3n bastante clara de lo que realmente ocurri\u00f3 y de c\u00f3mo debes responder.<\/p>\n However, I encourage you to try to find the possible hidden truth in order to be certain that you’re not letting old pain affect your current reaction.<\/p>\n El amor verdadero a veces nos ciega a todos. Quiero decir, \u00bfqu\u00e9 haces cuando la persona con la que esperabas pasar tu vida eterna te sorprende con una herida que nunca viste venir?<\/p>\n Sin embargo, despu\u00e9s de que la reacci\u00f3n inicial, abrumadora, se apodere de ti y te permita ver realmente las cosas como son, s\u00f3lo entonces deber\u00e1s reaccionar adecuadamente.<\/p>\n Remember, it’s always best to react intentionally as opposed to instinctively. It might feel good for a second but in the great scheme of the things, it won’t bring you closure.<\/p>\n Remember\u2014there are two sides to every story. While nobody is denying your pain, consider every possible outlook before claiming to be in the right.<\/p>\n La necesidad de tener siempre la raz\u00f3n puede deberse a desafortunadas experiencias pasadas de abuso emocional.<\/p>\n Esto puede haberle hecho incapaz de soltar el control y esperar estar siempre en el lado correcto de la historia.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, lo cierto es que todo el mundo tiene derecho a ser escuchado y comprendido.<\/p>\n Different opinions are anything but uncommon and in such situations, it’s important to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.<\/p>\n \u00bfPuedes intentar ver las cosas desde su perspectiva? \u00bfQu\u00e9 puede haberles hecho sufrir (posiblemente sin querer)?<\/p>\n It’s okay to disagree but for your emotional well-being, it’s crucial to see things for what they are and not for what you need them to be.<\/p>\n When someone you love hurts you so deeply, it’s normal to be vulnerable and hesitant to admit to having had something to do with it.<\/p>\n But you’re going to have to dig deep to see how your actions may have led to this current state.<\/p>\n Yes, it hurts and yes, you’re entitled to your pain. But don’t be the person to throw the first stone. We all have our faults and no story is as simple as we might want it to be.<\/p>\n You can still hurt and be broken even if you’re able to admit that you have somehow contributed to how it all turned out.<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: C\u00f3mo hacer que una persona evasiva te eche de menos: 10 t\u00e9cnicas probadas<\/a><\/p>\n A real change in our mind, body and soul has to come from within. It isn’t and shouldn’t ever be affected by external factors.<\/p>\n A change will never be what you need it to be until you’re ready for it to take place. The shift in your psyche happens when you and solely you come to certain realizations.<\/p>\n Y una de esas cosas es que no se puede cambiar a los dem\u00e1s, por mucho que se insista en ello.<\/p>\n If they’re not ready, it simply won’t happen. The circumstances have to be right and their willpower has to be strong.<\/p>\n You cannot carry another person’s emotional burden on your back.<\/p>\n Cuando alguien a quien quieres te hace da\u00f1o, es \u00e9l quien tiene que madurar. Y todo por su cuenta.<\/p>\n You can nudge them, encourage them and just be there for them but it’s on them whether or not they’ll let this experience improve their behavior or push them further down the rabbit hole.<\/p>\n Una persona tiene que estar dispuesta a tomar la decisi\u00f3n intencionada de accionar un interruptor. La \u00fanica pregunta es: \u00bfQuieren ser diferentes? \u00bfQuiere aprender de sus errores?<\/p>\n If they don’t, there’s nothing you can do about it. It isn’t your job to carry them toward their happily-ever-after. It isn’t your job to save them.<\/p>\n Y la p\u00edldora m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil de tragar es \u00e9sta: Algunas personas simplemente no tienen salvaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n No matter what you do, they will always choose to be the bad guy in your story. No matter how deeply you wish for them to get better for them and for you, it won’t happen.<\/p>\n Puedes ofrecerles tu apoyo incondicional si deciden perdonarles. Puedes ser su voz de la raz\u00f3n si lo necesitan. Pero el trabajo duro es suyo y solo suyo.<\/p>\n La introspecci\u00f3n es algo bueno. Fomenta el crecimiento personal, te hace sentir liberado y te permite madurar sin guardar rencores infantiles.<\/p>\n However, upon reevaluating this situation, be one hundred percent sure that we’re talking about a error leg\u00edtimo<\/em>. Don’t be coerced into admitting to something that wasn’t your doing.<\/p>\n Additionally, don’t allow yourself to let your past negative experiences affect how you react to your current predicament.<\/p>\n Just because you may have been hurt in the past, you don’t get a free pass to skate guilt-free throughout this ordeal.<\/p>\n You don’t get to treat the other person in a horrible manner due to your tough past.<\/p>\n Reconoce que ellos no tienen la culpa de lo que te ha pasado. Ellos no son los que te han hecho da\u00f1o o han contribuido a tu ansiedad o miedo a estar cerca de alguien.<\/p>\n While you’re entitled to your pain, it doesn’t mean that you are never at fault so be sure to always own up to your mistakes without pointing fingers where they don’t belong.<\/p>\n We’ve all been shaped by our past, some negatively, some positively, but that isn’t an excuse to not be a decent human being.<\/p>\n I’m sure you’re aware of that now, so simply remind yourself to say sorry when an apology is due.<\/p>\n Sometimes, that’s all you need for a clean slate.<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Utilizar sabiamente el poder de las palabras cambiar\u00e1 su vida<\/a><\/p>\n Cuando se te pase la reacci\u00f3n inicial, date la oportunidad de hacer una pausa y pensar largo y tendido sobre lo que acaba de ocurrir.<\/p>\n Wait a little while before you do or say something you may end up regretting. Sometimes, that’s the key to a brand new, eye-opening point of view.<\/p>\n This way, you start regaining control of the situation. By simply reacting, you’re only adding fuel to the fire. And we all know that’s not good.<\/p>\n Your past experiences may have caused you to have certain triggers that the other person unknowingly activates with their actions. But remember\u2014they don’t know that they’re doing this, only you do.<\/p>\n As\u00ed que detente, piensa, eval\u00faa y luego responde adecuadamente, ya que esta habilidad permitir\u00e1 que tu reacci\u00f3n tenga m\u00e1s significado y le dar\u00e1 poder.<\/p>\n Educate them on how they are making you feel, even though they’re oblivious to it (and rightfully so). A person cannot know what goes on in your mind until you tell them.<\/p>\n Ay\u00fadales a entender c\u00f3mo y por qu\u00e9 esto te hace sentir as\u00ed.<\/p>\n Like I already said, true love can be blind and sometimes, it’s on you to open their eyes to the reality of their actions and help them help you.<\/p>\n This does not excuse their behavior but it does mean that it could’ve been completely inadvertent. Yeah, they caused you emotional pain but they didn’t know they were pushing your buttons.<\/p>\n And the good thing is that now, after having heard your side of the story, they’re bound to know better in the future.<\/p>\n What exactly does this mean? It’s pretty simple really. Don’t take a defensive stance and build walls around your heart.<\/p>\n En lugar de eso, adopta una postura alimentada por un sentimiento de amor, perd\u00f3n y aceptaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re okay with having been hurt. Far from it. But it’s way better than having a hostile attitude that doesn’t allow for growth and leaves zero room for forgiveness.<\/p>\n Es m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil enfrentarse a situaciones desagradables cuando abres tu coraz\u00f3n, tu mente y tu alma. Una vez que practiques conscientemente una actitud positiva, te ayudar\u00e1 a encontrar tu camino en la oscuridad.<\/p>\n Their actions aren’t justified by this and you don’t have to forgive and forget until you’re completely ready.<\/p>\n Simplemente est\u00e1s tomando la decisi\u00f3n de reaccionar con calma, lo que te traer\u00e1 m\u00e1s paz de la que podr\u00eda traerte una postura defensiva.<\/p>\n Construye puentes, no muros. Invite al perd\u00f3n, no al rencor. Deja que la gente exp\u00ede sus errores, en lugar de amargarte y resentirte.<\/p>\n Una vez que dejes espacio para una posible reconciliaci\u00f3n, notar\u00e1s inmediatamente un gran alivio en tu coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n Por no mencionar que las probabilidades de que la persona que te hizo da\u00f1o camine hacia ti en lugar de alejarse de ti son extremadamente altas.<\/p>\n Toma el camino m\u00e1s elevado. S\u00e9 mejor persona. Muestra tu voluntad y capacidad de perdonar y dar segundas oportunidades.<\/p>\n Not everyone’s heart is capable of this but it costs nothing to be kind even when faced with horrible pain and it shows great strength and resilience on your part.<\/p>\n![\"mujer](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-holding-an-old-phone.jpg\")
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<\/p>\n1. Consider what actually happened and don’t react instinctively<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n2. No presuma de tener siempre la raz\u00f3n<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Saber que, a veces, la otra persona no tiene salvaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Asumir los errores que puedan haber contribuido a su dolor<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Pensar, evaluar y luego responder<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n6. Construir puentes, no muros<\/h2>\n
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