{"id":84495,"date":"2020-07-09T08:49:44","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T08:49:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84495"},"modified":"2022-08-21T10:17:20","modified_gmt":"2022-08-21T10:17:20","slug":"persona-que-evita-el-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/persona-que-evita-el-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo identificar y comprender a una persona que evita el amor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do we all behave the same when we’re in a relationship? Do all people love the same way? <\/span><\/p>\n

We don’t. We all have <\/span>diferente <\/span>estilos de fijaci\u00f3n<\/span><\/a> y algunos de nosotros tenemos un <\/span>estilo de apego evitativo<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

A <\/span>evita el amor<\/span> isn’t a person who tends to stay away from commitment or who avoids getting into a serious relationship with someone because they enjoy being single. No.<\/span><\/p>\n

Algunas personas utilizan <\/i><\/b>evitar el amor<\/i><\/b> como su protecci\u00f3n.<\/i><\/b> Esas personas tienen miedo al amor, a que alguien a quien aman les haga da\u00f1o.<\/span><\/p>\n

Las personas con un <\/i><\/b>evasivo<\/i><\/b> trastorno de la personalidad<\/i><\/b> a menudo se malinterpretan.<\/i><\/b> La mayor\u00eda de la gente piensa que un evitador<\/span> persona<\/span> es incapaz de amar a alguien pero, por desgracia, se trata de un error muy com\u00fan. <\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why we need to first talk about understanding <\/span>evasores del amor<\/span> and see why it’s so important. <\/span><\/p>\n

Comprender a una persona que evita el amor<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It’s not impossible for an <\/span>persona evasiva<\/span> enamorarse. <\/span>Simplemente eligen EVITAR enamorarse<\/i><\/b> con alguien e incluso cuando ocurre, intentan convencerse de lo contrario y olvidan sus sentimientos. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not because they want to enjoy their single life for some more time or because they like to be alone; it\u2019s only because they don’t want to get hurt. They are afraid of getting their heart broken by someone they love. <\/span><\/p>\n

Esto se debe probablemente a que tuvieron algunas experiencias negativas en el pasado y eso les dej\u00f3 con miedo a abrir su coraz\u00f3n a alguien que podr\u00eda herirles alg\u00fan d\u00eda. <\/span><\/p>\n

Evasivo<\/span> <\/a>archivo adjunto<\/a> teor\u00eda<\/span> describe <\/span>parejas evasivas<\/span> como personas que aprecian su independencia.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n los describe como personas a las que les incomoda tener un <\/span>relaci\u00f3n \u00edntima<\/span> debido a algunos traumas emocionales del pasado. <\/span><\/p>\n

La mayor\u00eda de la gente comparar\u00eda un <\/span>persona evasiva<\/span> con un <\/span>narcisista<\/span> pero hay una delgada l\u00ednea entre ambos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Un narcisista<\/span> s\u00f3lo piensa en s\u00ed mismo; en satisfacer sus propias necesidades y sus propias <\/span>bienestar<\/span> es lo \u00fanico que importa.<\/span><\/p>\n

En <\/span>pareja evasiva<\/span> se preocupa profundamente por sus <\/span>amado<\/span> aunque no lo parezca porque evitan <\/span>intimidad emocional<\/span> a toda costa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Narcisistas<\/span> se sienten c\u00f3modos teniendo un <\/span>relaci\u00f3n \u00edntima<\/span>a diferencia de <\/span>personas evasivas<\/span>. <\/span>Evasores<\/i><\/b> tener miedo de <\/i><\/b>engullimiento<\/i><\/b> y les impide conectar con su pareja en un <\/i><\/b>nivel m\u00e1s profundo<\/i><\/b>.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Evasivo<\/span> gente<\/span> atraer a personas con un <\/span>estilo de apego ansioso<\/span><\/a> debido a su <\/span>adicci\u00f3n al amor<\/span>. They totally lose themselves when they’re in the relationship and <\/span>evasores<\/span> saben c\u00f3mo aprovecharlo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tratar con un <\/span>estilo de apego ansioso<\/span><\/a> es dif\u00edcil y las personas con este estilo inseguro crean <\/span>codependencia<\/span> con su pareja porque no tienen confianza en s\u00ed mismos.<\/span><\/p>\n

They’ll become dependent on their partner and they’ll do whatever it takes to keep their relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 causa un estilo de apego evitativo?  <\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Miedo a <\/span>intimidad emocional<\/span> es el <\/span>mayor temor<\/span> de todos <\/span>evasores<\/span>; that\u2019s why they are unable to maintain a <\/span>relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

This isn’t something you’re born with. People create different kinds of <\/span>estilos de fijaci\u00f3n<\/span> bas\u00e1ndose en algunas cosas y experiencias de su propia vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

De hecho, hay muchas razones que hacen que la gente se <\/span>evasores del amor<\/span> y aqu\u00ed est\u00e1n algunas de ellas. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Experiencias de la infancia <\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Kids learn most things from their parents. If you weren’t able to see some <\/span>l\u00edmites saludables<\/span> in your parents\u2019 relationship, you’ll think that’s what a healthy relationship should look like. <\/span><\/p>\n

Unfortunately, one day you’ll learn the hard way that you were wrong. It’ll only lead you to disappointment and you’ll be afraid of starting a new relationship in the future. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you had to listen to your parents fight every day, you’ll decide that it’s best to avoid love because it makes people angry or sad. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your parents\u2019 relationship affects your life greatly and it can be the main cause of cuestiones de compromiso<\/a> m\u00e1s adelante.<\/span><\/p>\n

If it was unhealthy and had only a negative effect on your childhood, you’ll think that it’s better for you not to get emotionally attached to anyone than to suffer your whole life and be stuck in an unhappy marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Trauma emocional del pasado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Si en el pasado se sinti\u00f3 herido por su <\/span>amado<\/span>, it’s normal that you’ll be afraid of being hurt again. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n puede hacer que evites tener cualquier tipo de <\/span>conexi\u00f3n emocional<\/span> with someone else. You still haven\u2019t solved some of your issues from the past and it’s perfectly normal that it affects your love life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, afortunadamente, eso tiene soluci\u00f3n. Solo necesitas algo m\u00e1s de tiempo para aclararlo todo en tu cabeza. <\/span><\/p>\n

Once you realize that you should leave the past and that you shouldn’t punish your new partner for your ex’s mistakes, it’ll all change and you\u2019ll be able to have a <\/span>estrecha relaci\u00f3n<\/span> con alguien. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Problemas de autoestima<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Si tiene <\/span>bajo <\/span>autoestima<\/span><\/a>, that means you don\u2019t think you\u2019re good enough. Maybe you think that you aren’t beautiful enough or handsome enough.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you think that you aren’t smart enough. Maybe you think that no one will ever love you because you don’t deserve it. <\/span><\/p>\n

The thing is that you believe that you aren’t good enough for your <\/span>amado<\/span> y te hace tener miedo de conectar con tu pareja en un <\/span>nivel m\u00e1s profundo<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Priorizar las cosas equivocadas en la vida<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

There are a lot of people who prioritize work and their career over everything in life. If you’re a <\/span>adicto al trabajo<\/span>,<\/span> puede ser una de las causas de su <\/span>estilo de apego evitativo<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Te esfuerzas mucho por tener \u00e9xito en lo que haces y <\/span>you’re afraid that a <\/i><\/b>relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica<\/i><\/b> s\u00f3lo puede ser una distracci\u00f3n para tus objetivos.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

That’s why you start evitar las relaciones a toda costa<\/a>. Your job is the most important thing to you and you don’t let anything interfere with that. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Cuestiones de abandono<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If you have any kind of abandonment issues, you’ll be more likely to suffer from an <\/span>evasivo<\/span> trastorno de la personalidad<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

You won’t be able to overcome your fear of abandonment by yourself and you’ll come to the conclusion that it’s better to stay away from relationships than to fear all the time whether someone will hurt you and leave you. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Cuestiones de confianza<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Si tiene <\/span>algunos problemas de confianza<\/span><\/a>, you won’t be able to maintain a healthy relationship with someone. Your doubts will destroy your relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n

After some time, you’ll start thinking that it’s better to avoid getting into a relationship because it’s impossible for you to find someone who’ll prove to you that they’re trustworthy. <\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Desorganizado Temeroso Evitativo Estilo de apego<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Rasgos de evitaci\u00f3n del amor <\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Si cree que su socio podr\u00eda tener un <\/a><\/span>estilo de apego evitativo<\/span><\/a>Estas son algunas de las caracter\u00edsticas de un <\/span>persona evasiva<\/span> que te aclarar\u00e1 las cosas. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Miedo a cualquier tipo de intimidad<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If your partner doesn’t want to be intimate with you, it doesn’t have to mean that they don’t love you; it means that they’re afraid it’ll change your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

En <\/span>pareja evasiva<\/span> tiene miedo de que <\/span>intimidad emocional<\/span> because they think it’ll make them vulnerable and that you could use it to hurt them. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s normal that in some part of your relationship you’ll have to share your personal feelings and get intimate with your partner, especially if you’re in a <\/span>relaci\u00f3n duradera<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, por mucho que un <\/span>persona evasiva<\/span> ama a su pareja, intentan sabotear la relaci\u00f3n o huir cada vez que las cosas se calientan y eso les imposibilita mantener la relaci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Utilizar muchas t\u00e9cnicas de distanciamiento<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

They’ll do whatever it takes to avoid physical closeness. Even when they truly love their partner, they will never say it to them directly. <\/span><\/p>\n

Intentar\u00e1n posponer la conversaci\u00f3n sobre dar un nuevo paso en la relaci\u00f3n (hacerla oficial). De ese modo perjudican a su <\/span>amado<\/span> sin ni siquiera darse cuenta. <\/span><\/p>\n

They never want to discuss the problems they have in the relationship because they’re afraid it’ll result in conflict or a fight.<\/span><\/p>\n

They refuse to enter into a conflict with their partner because they’re worried they could reveal some of their feelings and thoughts that way. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Mostrar rasgos narcisistas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Por eso se les compara con <\/span>narcisistas<\/span> so often. Yes, they’re self-centered and they like their independence but they also care for others. <\/span><\/p>\n

They seem cold when you first meet them and that’s why some people think that they’re arrogant but that doesn’t have to be true. They seem that way only because they want to keep others away from them. <\/span><\/p>\n

They don’t like to question their partner because they know they’ll ask them the same questions and they don’t like to talk about themselves, especially about their feelings. <\/span><\/p>\n

They don’t need constant praise from their partner and they don’t want to be admired. On the contrary, it only makes them feel anxious and shy because they aren’t good at taking compliments. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Env\u00edo de se\u00f1ales contradictorias<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

They can love someone but it’ll be hard to admit that to themselves and that’s why they can send mixed signals to their partner. <\/span><\/p>\n

They won’t do it on purpose. They’re also confused and they have mixed feelings. They don’t want to allow their partner to get too close to them but at the same time, they fell in love with them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por eso, salir con un <\/span>persona evasiva<\/span> might seem like you’re dating two different people at the same time.<\/span><\/p>\n

In one moment, they’ll be showing you how much you mean to them but in the next, they’ll try to run away and show you that they don’t care for you at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. No ser capaz de hablar abiertamente de lo que siente<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

They’re afraid to show their vulnerable side and open up to their partner about how they feel.<\/span><\/p>\n

Les cuesta expresar sus sentimientos porque creen que si te dicen exactamente lo que sienten por ti, podr\u00edas tener alg\u00fan poder sobre ellos. <\/span><\/p>\n

They don’t want to talk about their emotions or things that bother them because they’re afraid of your reaction. They’re also afraid that once you know how they feel about you, you’ll be bored with them and leave them. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Ansiedad<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Este <\/span>estilo de fijaci\u00f3n<\/span> afecta a su <\/span>salud mental<\/span>. They don’t know how to behave around their partner anymore and it makes them anxious.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sienten algo muy fuerte por su pareja, pero al mismo tiempo quieren huir antes de que las cosas se pongan serias. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’ll seem like they can’t make up their mind. They can’t run away but their <\/span>estilo de fijaci\u00f3n<\/span> doesn’t allow them to stay either. <\/span><\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo tratar a una persona que evita el amor <\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

You’ve already heard the good news, that with a little effort, it’s possible to maintain a relationship with an <\/span>pareja evasiva<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now it’s up to you. Decide whether you truly care for them that much to fight for your relationship. If you do, this is how you can save your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Comunicar m\u00e1s<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Healthy communication is the only way you can get to them. They aren’t able to open up emotionally to you but you should open up to them about the things in their behavior that bother you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to earn their trust first so they’ll be able to open up to you. After some time, they’ll follow your example and talk to you about their emotions. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to be patient and wait until they realize that you are trustworthy. And when they do open up to you, don’t tell them that you aren’t okay with some of their habits and how they should change.<\/span><\/p>\n

You should only listen to them. By that time, they’ll have realized themselves that they need to change their behavior in order to save the relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Don’t be too persistent<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Don’t chase them. Don’t try to make them do anything because they don’t like to be told what to do. They cherish their independence more than anything, remember? <\/span><\/p>\n

Give them time. They’ll see how much you’re trying to make your relationship work and that your feelings are sincere. This is the only thing that can make them change. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Darles espacio y tiempo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I’m sure they will request more space and time because they are afraid of anyone getting too close to them so respect this. <\/span>Mientras tanto,<\/span><\/a> you can hang out with your family and friends. Don’t think about that too much. <\/span><\/p>\n

They’re not requesting time and space because they need it to think about the future of your relationship. In other words, they won’t break up with you, you don’t have to worry about that.<\/span><\/p>\n

The whole dating thing is probably new to them and it’s normal that they need more time to process their feelings. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Respetar sus diferencias<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

We all have our differences and that’s what makes every relationship fun. You don’t have to try to change those things. You have to embrace those differences. It’ll make you both work harder for your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’ll strengthen your bond. You only have to learn to deal with those differences in a healthy way. <\/span>Ambos ten\u00e9is que estar dispuestos a ceder.<\/i><\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Reduzca sus expectativas<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

If you know that you’re dating an <\/span>evasivo<\/span>, you shouldn’t have big expectations, at least not at the beginning of your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll be disappointed because <\/span>parejas evasivas<\/span> necesitan m\u00e1s tiempo que otros para profundizar <\/span>conexiones emocionales<\/span> con su pareja.<\/span><\/p>\n

They will never show you that they have feelings for you unless you’ve convinced them that you deserve it. You have to show with your actions that you’re deserving of their love and affection. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Don’t give them ultimatums<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Ultimatums like, “If you don’t change, I’ll leave you,” don\u2019t work with them. Forget about them as you will achieve nothing with them. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’ll only make things worse because they’re stubborn. It would only make them want to end things with you then. <\/span><\/p>\n

7. Establezca unos l\u00edmites saludables<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You have to also care about yourself and your needs. If you don’t like something, you have to talk to your partner and set some boundaries about those things that bother you. <\/span><\/p>\n

They might not like it but that’s not your problem. Setting some limits and boundaries is how you’ll protect yourself from getting hurt. <\/span><\/p>\n

8. Buscar ayuda profesional si es necesario<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Evitar la cercan\u00eda emocional con otra persona es una <\/span>trastorno de la personalidad<\/span> and that’s a fact. Sometimes, no matter how much both you and your partner try, you can’t deal with it alone. <\/span><\/p>\n

Siempre puedes <\/span>obtener ayuda<\/span> de un <\/span>profesional de la salud mental<\/span>. They’ll give you advice on what you should do next and how you can learn to live with<\/span> que <\/span>estilo de fijaci\u00f3n<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfPuede cambiar una persona que evita el amor?<\/h2>\n

Claro que pueden. <\/span>We all can change some things for the person we truly love. However, that doesn’t mean that we should change ourselves completely for our <\/i><\/b>amado<\/i><\/b>. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Nunca debes renunciar por completo a qui\u00e9n eres por otra persona. Tu identidad es lo que eres y eso te diferencia de todos los dem\u00e1s.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca debes cambiarlo, por muy fuertes que sean tus sentimientos hacia la persona que quiere que cambies. <\/span><\/p>\n

Realmente puedes tener una relaci\u00f3n incre\u00edble con un <\/span>evita el amor<\/span> pero tienes que estar dispuesto a esforzarte en esa relaci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

Hay que dejarles espacio y armarse de paciencia.<\/i><\/b>.<\/b> It’ll all pay off one day and you’ll be glad that you fought to keep your <\/span>pareja evasiva<\/span> en tu vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

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