{"id":85556,"date":"2020-07-09T10:56:31","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T10:56:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=85556"},"modified":"2021-10-29T13:02:38","modified_gmt":"2021-10-29T13:02:38","slug":"reconocer-el-engano-y-la-mentira-por-omision","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/reconocer-el-engano-y-la-mentira-por-omision\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo reconocer el enga\u00f1o y la mentira por omisi\u00f3n en las relaciones de pareja"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cThe slickest way in the world to lie is to tell the right amount of truth at the right time – and then shut up.\u201d\u2015Robert A. Heinlein<\/em><\/p>\n

Yes, lying by omission is the slickest, most efficient, and smoothest way to deceive and lie. Still, that doesn’t make it okay.<\/p>\n

La definici\u00f3n de mentir por omisi\u00f3n es m\u00e1s o menos la siguiente: omitir hechos importantes y relevantes en una conversaci\u00f3n para fomentar una idea err\u00f3nea.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Many wonder if it’s even really lying when you lie by omission. Let’s find out whether omission actually is lying and how it destroys relationships.<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs la omisi\u00f3n una mentira y por qu\u00e9 la gente practica la mentira por omisi\u00f3n?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u201cIt is not only what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.\u201d\u2015Moli\u00e8re<\/em><\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfes omisi\u00f3n mentir<\/a>? Claro que s\u00ed. Pertenece a los 7 tipos de mentiras:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Omisi\u00f3n<\/strong> \u2013 a person leaves out information that is relevant to how the whole situation is perceived.<\/p>\n

Error<\/strong> \u2013 a person truly believes they are telling the truth. They made a mistake and their words aren’t true even though they believe they are.<\/p>\n

Reestructuraci\u00f3n<\/strong> \u2013 a person alters the scene in a way that makes them less involved.<\/p>\n

\u200bDenial<\/strong> \u2013 a person refuses or doesn’t have the ability to accept the truth. They’re usually also lying to themselves.<\/p>\n

Minimizaci\u00f3n<\/strong> \u2013 a person reduces the effects of whatever happened.<\/p>\n

Exageraci\u00f3n<\/strong> \u2013 a person builds up the story in a way that suits them to look their best or uses unnecessary hyperboles.<\/p>\n

Fabricaci\u00f3n<\/strong> \u2013 a person invents a whole story and tells a complete lie (these lies are called lies of commission).<\/p>\n

Omission seems to be one of the most innocent ways of lying. Even a lie detector wouldn’t pick those kinds of lies up since they aren’t even false statements, they’re just incomplete truths.<\/p>\n

Still, it seems like lies of omission aren’t any easier to deal with when they’re used in romantic relationships. Why does it hurt so bad?<\/p>\n

We’ll get into the details, but the ultimate reason is that the person who’s being deceived or having secrets kept from them feels intentionally hurt by their loved one, who obviously has very little respect for them as they\u2019ve chosen to let them live in a false reality.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 la gente decide saltarse algunas partes de la verdad?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

1) Por miedo<\/strong>. They don’t want to be on the receiving end of anger or any kind of punishment they think may follow if they tell the complete truth.<\/p>\n

2) Se sienten culpables<\/strong> for the thing they did that they aren’t willing to openly speak about and think hiding it is the best choice.<\/p>\n

3) Se averg\u00fcenzan<\/strong> of what they did and don’t want their loved ones to perceive them differently.<\/p>\n

Estas son algunas de las frases m\u00e1s comunes que una persona que ha mentido por omisi\u00f3n utilizar\u00e1 cuando se descubra su secreto:<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cI just couldn\u2019t bear to tell you!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cIt didn’t seem like important information to share at the moment.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI didn\u2019t actually lie, I just didn\u2019t say anything.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI didn’t want to hurt your feelings.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

\u201cI was afraid of what you would say!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Aunque todas ellas tengan mucho sentido, mentir por omisi\u00f3n sigue siendo mentir y duele bastante.<\/p>\n

So, what is it about lying by omission that cuts so deep? Let’s find out.<\/p>\n

6 razones por las que mentir por omisi\u00f3n en una relaci\u00f3n es destructivo<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Las omisiones llevan a encubrir mentiras que pueden ser dif\u00edciles de seguir<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Cuando una persona decide contar medias verdades, lo m\u00e1s frecuente es que su historia deje algunas preguntas sin respuesta.<\/p>\n

To the partner who’s having a secret kept from them the whole thing may seem illogical and they usually start asking additional questions just so they can have a clear understanding of what’s going on.<\/p>\n

The person who’s keeping the secret, in an attempt to keep their secret, tells mentiras<\/a> that weren’t a part of their original plan.<\/p>\n

Eso complica a\u00fan m\u00e1s la situaci\u00f3n, creando un ambiente desordenado y oscuro en la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

2. The person who’s holding a secret feels uncomfortable and guilty<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Aunque decir la verdad puede que no cambie la relaci\u00f3n tanto como el que enga\u00f1a cree que lo har\u00eda, toda la experiencia de la omisi\u00f3n s\u00ed lo hace.<\/p>\n

Unless they’re a psychopath, the partner who’s keeping a secret will start feeling guilty about the things they didn’t say.<\/p>\n

Una persona que se siente culpable sigue arruinando la relaci\u00f3n de muchas maneras diferentes, y su primera mentira por omisi\u00f3n es s\u00f3lo un punto de partida para lo que viene despu\u00e9s.<\/p>\n

3. Las mentiras por omisi\u00f3n y los secretos crean una barrera a la conexi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"imagen<\/p>\n

To be able to tell the truth even when you know it won’t make you look good, you have to feel like you’re in a safe environment.<\/p>\n

If a person who’s generally not a liar and deceiver chooses to omit something, it might mean that they’re actually having trust issues.<\/p>\n

Una vez que la mentira est\u00e1 ah\u00ed fuera, bloquea la verdadera intimidad.<\/p>\n

El poseedor del secreto siente todo tipo de emociones perturbadoras y es incapaz de abrirse en cualquier otro aspecto de la relaci\u00f3n porque la mentira o la verdad omitida se lo impiden.<\/p>\n

In these situations, closeness is avoided and there’s usually a decrease in conversation and physical intimacy which means that the sexual relationship between two people fades as well.<\/p>\n

It’s impossible to maintain a healthy relationship with clear communication and strong connection without being completely honest with each other.<\/p>\n

Lies of omission destroy intimacy and that’s probably their most destructive influence in relationships (or should I say relaciones t\u00f3xicas<\/a>). <\/p>\n

4. El enga\u00f1o destruye la autoestima de ambas personas en la relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The person who chooses to lie may begin questioning themselves completely, especially if it’s the first time they did something like that.<\/p>\n

Feeling awful and guilty about doing something inconsiderate to their partner makes them feel like bad people and they have a hard time accepting what they’ve done but still can’t seem to find a way to tell the truth.<\/p>\n

Esto arruina poco a poco su autoestima.<\/p>\n

Para el que recibe la falsedad, su autoestima puede verse arruinada por dos aspectos diferentes de la omisi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

El primer aspecto de la omisi\u00f3n es cuando la mentira a\u00fan no se ha descubierto.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, things don’t add up for them, and they feel distrusting, suspicious, and generally weird, which can make them think there’s something wrong with them.<\/p>\n

The other aspect of omission is after the secret is discovered, where the person obviously feels many different things that we’ll talk about in just a minute.<\/p>\n

El c\u00famulo de emociones negativas hace que su autoestima disminuya.<\/p>\n

5. La persona a la que han mentido siente demasiadas emociones negativas para contarlas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

After the person who was lied to discovers the truth they go through a major self-questioning process. There’s so much happening in their mind.<\/p>\n

En primer lugar, se sienten confusos e incluso pueden negar lo ocurrido.<\/p>\n

Then, they feel abandoned by the person they love and who they believed loved them. They suddenly feel like they can’t trust anything or anyone.<\/p>\n

Se sienten menos perspicaces o incluso est\u00fapidos por no haberse dado cuenta antes de que les estaban mintiendo. Empiezan a enfadarse tanto con su pareja como consigo mismos.<\/p>\n

Todas estas emociones son demasiado con lo que lidiar y a menudo desarrollan ansiedad<\/a> sobre toda la situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Ser enga\u00f1ado por un ser querido es muy dif\u00edcil de afrontar.<\/p>\n

Aunque consigan perdonar y olvidar, la marca en su psique permanece para siempre y les hace tienen problemas de confianza<\/a> y ser m\u00e1s desconfiado y nervioso en el futuro.<\/p>\n

6. La forma en que un mentiroso maneja la culpa crea a\u00fan m\u00e1s da\u00f1o que la propia mentira<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Gestionar la culpa y la verg\u00fcenza crea muchos problemas nuevos. El poseedor del secreto, al ocultar un secreto, empieza a ocultar cada d\u00eda m\u00e1s qui\u00e9n es.<\/p>\n

In order to justify their actions (and deal with what they’ve done), they may withdraw, grow resentful of their partner, become incredibly critical or judgmental, highly irritable, or even aggressive.<\/p>\n

La mentira les crea un conflicto interior y utilizan muchas herramientas psicol\u00f3gicas para afrontarlo.<\/p>\n

La mayor\u00eda de las veces se vuelven distantes e inalcanzables para su pareja, lo que provoca que la relaci\u00f3n se desmorone por s\u00ed sola, sin que ni siquiera se descubra la mentira.<\/p>\n

Everyone who’s afraid of telling the truth should think about this before they decide that lying is easier because it’s so much more complicated than it seems.<\/p>\n

If you’re thinking that your partner might be telling you half-truths and letting you believe something that isn’t (completely) true, read about these signs to find out if you\u2019re right.<\/strong><\/p>\n

7 se\u00f1ales sutiles de que su pareja podr\u00eda ser enga\u00f1osa<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. They’re open about using little lies or white lies<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

They’re perfectly okay with using fibs all the time. They don’t even find it uncomfortable having to tell a white lie, it’s simply the way they function.<\/p>\n

Little lies are something they believe to be necessary and they don’t even consider telling the truth whenever the truth might be even slightly more complicated to deal with than a lie.<\/p>\n

They’re obviously capable of lying with a straight face and little lies are the most natural part of their everyday life.<\/p>\n

2. Su comportamiento en relaciones pasadas es menos que admirable<\/h2>\n

\"pensativa<\/p>\n

Sabe que sol\u00edan mentir o enga\u00f1ar a sus ex parejas. Alguien que fue capaz de eso una vez es casi seguro que puede volver a hacerlo.<\/p>\n

It’s not necessarily true that they will do it, but you definitely have to watch out a bit more than you would with a partner who has always been open and honest in their relationships.<\/p>\n

3. Viv\u00edan en una familia en la que estaba bien o era necesario tener secretos<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Aqu\u00ed hay dos casos diferentes:<\/p>\n

1) Tu pareja procede de una familia en la que uno de los progenitores le animaba a mentir al otro o a otras personas en general.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They think it’s okay to tell lies that seem irrelevant to them because that’s the way they were brought up.<\/p>\n

Su familia ha funcionado as\u00ed desde que tienen uso de raz\u00f3n y nunca les ense\u00f1aron a ser siempre sinceros.<\/p>\n

Their parent(s) might have told them that it’s okay to lie in order not to hurt someone or in order to avoid confrontation.<\/p>\n

2) Tu pareja procede de una familia en la que tuvo que desarrollar un mecanismo de supervivencia para hacer frente a unos padres excesivamente controladores.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Their parents wouldn’t accept that they were growing up and wanted to do certain things so they used to lie to avoid punishment or anger.<\/p>\n

Also, it’s possible that their parents were overly aggressive and their punishments were too harsh and that’s how they taught themselves to lie in order to avoid pain.<\/p>\n

Whenever they feel like their partner is ”trying to control” their life in any kind of way or whenever they fear their partner might disapprove of their choice, they simply omit the truth.<\/p>\n

In both cases, lying has become so natural to them that you can’t even notice their body language change when they tell a lie.<\/p>\n

Mentir era su mejor amigo de la infancia, y lo sigue siendo, as\u00ed que lo utilizan para evitar situaciones inc\u00f3modas.<\/p>\n

4. Utilizan mentiras por omisi\u00f3n todo el tiempo con amigos, familiares o en el trabajo<\/h2>\n

\"tres<\/p>\n

You know that they use social lies when they communicate with their friends or family and you’re aware of how often they do it without even blinking.<\/p>\n

If it’s perfectly okay for them to omit the truth to their friends and family, or tell any kind of lies, why do you think they won\u2019t do it to you?<\/p>\n

Also, if your partner’s job requires them to become used to paltering or deceiving this means two things:<\/p>\n

1) es evidente que son capaces de hacer algo as\u00ed sin preocuparse demasiado por el efecto que tiene,<\/p>\n

2) sooner or later, this behavior will become their habit and they will transfer it to their personal relationships if they haven’t already.<\/p>\n

The truth is, people who are able to deceive others usually don’t choose who it is. They use deception as a tool whenever they think it’s necessary and that’s all there is to it.<\/p>\n

5. Generalmente les cuesta aceptar la responsabilidad de sus actos<\/h2>\n

\"discutiendo<\/p>\n

People who don’t shy away from deception and lies usually have a problem with accepting responsibility in general.<\/p>\n

Whatever happens, even when they’re the only ones causing an issue, it’s somehow never their fault.<\/p>\n

There’s always a reason for their inappropriate behavior and they’re amazing when it comes to coming up with excuses.<\/p>\n

Whenever you ask, there’ll be many complicated circumstances that led them to do something that caused you harm, but it’s never ever them who should be blamed.<\/p>\n

6. Suelen evitar la confrontaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Las personas que evitan la confrontaci\u00f3n son m\u00e1s propensas a mentir por omisi\u00f3n. Tiene mucho sentido.<\/p>\n

They avoid telling the truth or the complete truth for the sake of avoiding confrontation. It’s as simple as that.<\/p>\n

Las situaciones estresantes que requieren argumentar, probar puntos y discutir apasionadamente est\u00e1n demasiado lejos de su zona de confort.<\/p>\n

Siempre que piensan que un conflicto de cualquier tipo puede deberse a algo que han hecho o dicho, sencillamente pasan de admitir que lo han hecho o dicho.<\/p>\n

No decir la verdad es m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil para ellos que implicarse en un conflicto.<\/p>\n

7. They don’t keep their promises<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo llamar\u00edas a hacer una promesa y no cumplirla? \u00bfEnga\u00f1ar? \u00bfMentir?<\/p>\n

Whatever you call it, it speaks of a person’s integrity, honradez<\/a>y tambi\u00e9n sobre lo mucho que su palabra significa para ellos.<\/p>\n

If a person never commits to making their promises reality, they obviously don’t care that much about the truth of their own words.<\/p>\n

If ignoring their promises is a regular thing for your partner, that probably means they’re willing to deceive you in other ways as well.<\/p>\n

Una mentira, por inocente que parezca, puede costarle todo a una persona. Decir una sola mentira ensombrece todas las verdades que una persona ha dicho. <\/strong><\/p>\n

People are hardly ever upset that they’ve been told one insignificant lie, they’re upset they can no longer trust the person who said it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Always choose honesty and keep it real, it’s the only way of living and loving that makes sense.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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