{"id":86111,"date":"2020-08-13T13:43:41","date_gmt":"2020-08-13T13:43:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=86111"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:49:48","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:49:48","slug":"superviviente-de-abuso-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/superviviente-de-abuso-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"Una superviviente de abuso narcisista escribe un mensaje que todo el mundo deber\u00eda leer"},"content":{"rendered":"

Voy a contarte mi historia, pero, por favor, no te limites a leerla, juzgarme y olvidarte de ella al momento siguiente. <\/span><\/p>\n

I really can\u2019t take it anymore. I don\u2019t want to be judged for my past actions anymore.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

I don’t want to say mistakes because I still don’t think this was my mistake. Actually, I know it wasn’t. I fell insanely in love and <\/span>la otra persona us\u00f3 esto.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Loving someone can’t be a mistake.<\/i><\/b> Love makes you weak and that’s a fact but even though, love is still not a mistake.<\/span><\/p>\n

Me siento orgullosa de admitir que estuve enamorada de ese hombre aunque ese amor casi me cost\u00f3 la vida. Nunca hice da\u00f1o a nadie con ello, excepto a m\u00ed misma.<\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t feel guilty or bad about anything I did. Yes, I stayed with my abuser for too long, even though I should’ve walked away the first time he did something bad to me.<\/span><\/p>\n

The first time he raised his voice or tried to manipulate me or threaten me with something, I should have left him. But, I didn’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

Me qued\u00e9 hasta que me di cuenta de que las cosas nunca mejorar\u00edan. Que \u00e9l nunca cambiar\u00eda por mucho que yo le quisiera y se lo demostrara.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, <\/span>Aprend\u00ed por las malas que el amor nunca es raz\u00f3n suficiente para que ese tipo de personas cambien.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

They just can’t understand that they have to change or that they’re doing something wrong. Also, they’re so good at pretending and acting.<\/span><\/p>\n

So often, their victims don’t even realize that they are being abused or mistreated.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Fingen que lo hacen todo porque te quieren y desean lo mejor para ti. Y lo peor es que tambi\u00e9n te hacen creer en eso. As\u00ed que son buenos manipuladores.<\/span><\/p>\n

So many people told me that I shouldn’t put up with his behavior or the way he treated me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mi familia, mis amigos e incluso algunos de mis compa\u00f1eros de trabajo se dieron cuenta de lo que estaba pasando y <\/span>me aconsejaron que terminara antes de que empeorara.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Narcissists truly have that ability to make you believe how all the people close to you are wrong and that they’re the only one who honestly cares about you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Eso fue lo primero que me hizo, aislarme de todas las personas que estaban cerca de m\u00ed.<\/b><\/p>\n

Blame-shifting, emotional blackmail, gaslighting, lying, verbal and physical abuse\u2026 Those were just some of his techniques he used to manipulate me and to get what he wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n

I said that I’m not sorry for loving someone and I’m never going to apologize for that. There is nothing wrong with that. However, I did make a mistake, one terrible mistake.<\/span><\/p>\n

Le quer\u00eda y lo intent\u00e9 todo para que creyera en ello. En ese proceso agotador, me perd\u00ed a m\u00ed misma. I <\/span>perd\u00ed mi identidad.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Olvid\u00e9 todo lo relacionado con el amor propio y el cuidado de uno mismo. Olvid\u00e9 que mis sentimientos tambi\u00e9n son importantes. En cierto modo, <\/span>Le permit\u00ed tomar el control de mi vida.<\/i><\/b> Todo eso le facilit\u00f3 las cosas.<\/span><\/p>\n

Me humill\u00f3 muchas veces, intent\u00f3 menospreciarme delante de otras personas. <\/span>Hizo todas las cosas que no ten\u00edan nada que ver con el amor y s\u00ed, todav\u00eda me qued\u00e9 con \u00e9l. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t strong enough to leave the man who abused me, the man whom I loved more than anything else. I couldn\u2019t save myself from my own hell.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hasta que vi que realmente hab\u00eda tocado fondo. Esto puede sonar extra\u00f1o, pero tuve que salvarme de mi propio amor y del hombre que amaba. <\/span><\/p>\n

Dej\u00e9 a un lado mis sentimientos y por fin reun\u00ed el valor para callarle. <\/b><\/p>\n

I still don\u2019t know how I gathered the courage but I did. I <\/span>fue sin contacto<\/span> <\/a>y desaparec\u00ed de su vida. Cerr\u00e9 todas las puertas que le permit\u00edan llegar a m\u00ed.<\/span><\/p>\n

It was the best decision I ever made even though I didn\u2019t realize it until I started to heal. The peace that came after all the tears and sleepless nights was priceless.<\/span><\/p>\n

Finalmente, me liber\u00e9 de sus cadenas y sent\u00ed que pod\u00eda respirar de nuevo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Realmente me sent\u00ed como un ave f\u00e9nix que hab\u00eda resurgido de sus cenizas.  <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"mujer  <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

This letter isn’t only about me.<\/i><\/b> I wish it was but unfortunately, it’s not. There are so many stories similar to mine.<\/span><\/p>\n

There are so many women who are still victims of narcissistic abuse and who don\u2019t know how to put an end to it because of so many reasons.  <\/span><\/p>\n

There are so many people who are afraid of their abuser and they can\u2019t tell anyone about the hell they suffered or are still suffering.<\/span><\/p>\n

Espero que mi historia os motive a todos los que sufristeis o segu\u00eds sufriendo alg\u00fan tipo de abuso, pero especialmente a los que hab\u00e9is sufrido abuso narcisista.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know you’re hurt. I know it’s hard<\/span>. I know it seems like you’re falling apart.<\/i><\/b> I know how it seems like you’ll never be able to continue with your life but you will.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll get through it. <\/span>Ya vendr\u00e1n d\u00edas mejores.<\/i><\/b> I promise that one day you’ll be able to talk about it without crying or your voice shaking, just as I’m able to do now.<\/span><\/p>\n

One day, you’ll even thank God for those difficult times he put you through because it only made you stronger. You’ll use it as <\/span>su mayor lecci\u00f3n<\/span><\/a>. <\/span>La lecci\u00f3n que te cambiar\u00e1 la vida<\/i><\/b>.<\/b>  <\/span><\/p>\n

Hang in there and believe in yourself as I truly do. You are stronger than you think and you\u2019ll come out of those bad times even stronger. <\/span><\/p>\n

Te env\u00edo un abrazo virtual de apoyo.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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