{"id":87636,"date":"2020-08-14T07:49:19","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T07:49:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=87636"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:55:54","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:55:54","slug":"chica-que-sobrevivio-a-la-luz-de-gas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/chica-que-sobrevivio-a-la-luz-de-gas\/","title":{"rendered":"Carta de una ni\u00f1a que sobrevivi\u00f3 a la luz de gas"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfTe has encontrado alguna vez en una situaci\u00f3n en la que no te crees a ti mismo? \u00bfEn una situaci\u00f3n en la que te cuestionas tus propios pensamientos?<\/p>\n

Have you ever caught yourself doubting your own sanity? Caught yourself wondering whether you\u2019re seeing things right or if you\u2019re imagining things?<\/p>\n

I really hope you haven\u2019t. Because I have and I wouldn\u2019t wish it on my worst enemy.<\/p>\n

Reading this, you must think that I\u2019ve been fighting some problemas mentales<\/a>. After all, that\u2019s what it sounds like at first, doesn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n

Well, the truth is that I eventually started having trouble with my mental health. However, that wasn\u2019t my initial problem.<\/p>\n

The truth is that I was gaslighted for years. Of course, I wasn\u2019t aware of this at first, otherwise I would have probably escaped sooner.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You see, my gaslighter didn\u2019t start his emotional abuse at maximum intensity right from the beginning. In fact, these kinds of toxic men have a way of getting under your skin.<\/p>\n

\"se\u00f1ora<\/p>\n

Cuando conoc\u00ed a mi maltratador, parec\u00eda demasiado bueno para ser verdad. Y yo, tonta de m\u00ed, cre\u00ed en todas sus falsas pretensiones.<\/p>\n

Confiaba en todos sus promesas vac\u00edas<\/a> \u2013 probably because I wanted them to be true. Besides, opening up to him was a piece of cake.<\/p>\n

He was the nicest guy I\u2019d ever met. He appeared to be the realization of all of my wildest dreams and I was certain he was the man I would spend the rest of my life with.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, todo eso era la m\u00e1scara de un buen tipo. No era m\u00e1s que la precuela de a\u00f1os de manipulaci\u00f3n y de jugar con mi mente.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No fue m\u00e1s que una precuela de mi infierno en la tierra.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, empez\u00f3 con peque\u00f1as cosas. Every time we fought, he would do his best to convince me that I\u2019d misinterpreted something or that I was overreacting.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No paraba de decir que yo era demasiado sensible y me acusaba de haberle malinterpretado.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Con el paso del tiempo, empez\u00f3 a tergiversar los acontecimientos por completo. He didn\u2019t actually lie but instead used half-truths and twisted them to suit him.<\/strong><\/p>\n

At that time, I didn\u2019t even know what gaslighting was. I thought that the two of us just had different views of the truth.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t think of him as a bad person for doing all of this either. I just figured that every coin has two sides and that he was simply trying to tell his part of the story.<\/p>\n

\"mangaslighting<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, antes de darme cuenta, I\u2019d been brainwashed. Soon enough, I trusted him more than I trusted my own eyes and ears.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Seg\u00fan este hombre, yo era el loco. Era un lun\u00e1tico que no paraba de exagerar e inventarse cosas.<\/p>\n

Seg\u00fan \u00e9l, yo no serv\u00eda para nada mientras que \u00e9l era el m\u00e1s listo y el que siempre sab\u00eda la verdad.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que despu\u00e9s de un tiempo, Empec\u00e9 a cuestionar mi propia realidad. Utiliz\u00f3 diferentes t\u00e1cticas para confundirme y abrumarme con duda de s\u00ed mismo<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lo peor era cuando segu\u00eda negando las cosas que yo sab\u00eda que hab\u00edan ocurrido. Al fin y al cabo, yo era uno de los protagonistas de aquellos sucesos.<\/p>\n

However, despite that, he would look me straight in the eyes and act like I was dreaming everything. Every time I mentioned some of his toxic actions, he convinced me that I\u2019d got it all wrong.<\/p>\n

En realidad fue lo que m\u00e1s me doli\u00f3. Imagina que alguien te rompe el coraz\u00f3n y, m\u00e1s tarde, se niega a reconocer tu dolor y no asume ninguna responsabilidad por sus actos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

To someone who hasn\u2019t had this experience, all of this probably sounds impossible. You must be thinking: \u201cHow can someone change your memory and distort your picture of reality?\u201d<\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you that it is, in fact, more than possible. It doesn\u2019t happen overnight but when your loved one puts all of his efforts into manipulating you, eventually he succeeds in doing so.<\/p>\n

Cuando tu ser querido tiene como prioridad destruir sistem\u00e1ticamente tu salud mental y lavarte constantemente el cerebro, al final abandonas la lucha y caes en su trampa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esto es exactamente lo que hice: Empec\u00e9 a creerle porque era la \u00fanica forma de protegerme.<\/strong> S\u00ed, en teor\u00eda podr\u00eda haberlo dejado.<\/p>\n

However, in practice, that was utterly impossible. This man made me feel so powerless and made me so emotionally dependent on him that I didn\u2019t see a way out.<\/p>\n

De hecho, la aceptaci\u00f3n se convirti\u00f3 en mi mecanismo de defensa. Me resultaba m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil creer que \u00e9l siempre ten\u00eda raz\u00f3n que luchar con \u00e9l y conmigo misma.<\/p>\n

You must be wondering how I got away from all of this. Clearly I did save myself from him, otherwise I wouldn\u2019t be writing all of this and I wouldn\u2019t be aware that I had been a victim of gaslighting.<\/p>\n

Me llev\u00f3 mucho m\u00e1s tiempo salvarme de lo que me gusta admitir. Por suerte, ten\u00eda a mis seres queridos a mi lado.<\/p>\n

I had people who gave me confirmation. Validation that I wasn\u2019t crazy and that showed me that my toxic ex\u2019s denials can\u2019t magically erase the past.<\/p>\n

After a long struggle, I managed to get out of it alive. I\u2019m changed forever but most importantly, I\u2019m alive.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not talking about the struggles I had with this man. I\u2019m talking about my inner struggles.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Rezo para que nunca te encuentres en una situaci\u00f3n en la que tengas que luchar contra ti mismo para empezar a creerte.<\/strong> Parece una locura, lo s\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, eso es exactamente lo que pasaba por mi cabeza. Tuve algunos profundos problemas de confianza<\/a> conmigo misma que necesitaba vencer antes de tener la fuerza para dejar mi relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A fin de cuentas, sobreviv\u00ed contra todo pron\u00f3stico. Sin embargo, nada ni nadie podr\u00e1 devolverme los a\u00f1os perdidos.<\/p>\n

Nada ni nadie podr\u00e1 compensarme por todas mis l\u00e1grimas y por todas las noches que pas\u00e9 rebobinando el pasado e intentando encontrar todas las respuestas que necesitaba.<\/p>\n

So, if you\u2019re reading this and any of the things mentioned above sound familiar, I have just one thing to tell you: always trust yourself.<\/p>\n

Follow your gut and your instincts. Don\u2019t listen to anyone except that tiny voice in the back of your head, telling you to run for your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Have you ever been in a position where you don\u2019t believe yourself? In a situation where you question your own thoughts? Have you ever caught yourself doubting your own sanity? Caught yourself wondering whether you\u2019re seeing things right or if you\u2019re imagining things? I really hope you haven\u2019t. Because I have and I wouldn\u2019t wish…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-87636","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87636","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=87636"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87636\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=87636"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=87636"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=87636"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}