Even though some of you won\u2019t agree with me, you probably have your own reasons why you want to avoid catching feelings, aka the modern world plague.<\/p>\n
(Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here, right? Right.)<\/p>\n
Some of you want to focus on your career or finishing college or you just don’t have time for any type of romance that starts with catching feelings and ends up with catching tears.<\/p>\n
And guess what? That’s TOTALLY okay!<\/p>\n
It’s true that I’ve never been a fan of one-night-stands and casual hookups but sometimes \u2018a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do\u2019.<\/p>\n
A veces hay que ponerse a uno mismo en primer lugar, porque el amor propio no est\u00e1 sobrevalorado. <\/p>\n
Now that we got that straight, let’s see how to AVOID catching feelings and enjoy the charms of casual dating (without becoming a fechador en serie<\/a>):<\/p>\n Nunca me han gustado las copias de seguridad, pero me he dado cuenta de que este concepto puede ser muy \u00fatil.<\/p>\n The thing is, when you’re casually dating only one person, it is easier for you to start catching feelings for them.<\/p>\n You know that feeling when you’re dying of boredom and you want to do something fun but the guy\/girl that you’re dating is busy at the time?<\/p>\n Sometimes, you might think that they’re ignoring you on purpose and that’s when your casual thing starts turning into something emocional<\/a> m\u00e1s que casual.<\/strong><\/p>\n For that reason, it’s good to always have a backup (or a few of them, just in case). So, when Mike\/Emma is busy, you call the other guy\/girl who is available.<\/p>\n That way, you’ll protect yourself from any potential anticipation, necessary contemplation and waiting.<\/p>\n If one person is not available for a casual hangout, you know that you have other options available, so you basically don’t give a damn about anything else.<\/p>\n S\u00ed, suena cruel, pero as\u00ed es el mundo en que vivimos y el mundo de las citas. (\u00a1Y hasta rima!)<\/p>\n If you want to keep it \u2018no strings attached\u2019 and avoid them becoming your significant other, you should definitely avoid hanging out during the day (or at least not do it too often).<\/p>\n Why? Because somehow, magically, daytime is reserved for catching feelings. Do you think it is a coincidence that all those casual dating movie scenes are usually recorded at night? It’s not.<\/p>\n Es mucho m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil contagiarse de sentimientos hacia alguien una vez que forma parte de tu rutina diaria. <\/strong><\/p>\n Y puede que te encuentres apresur\u00e1ndote a terminar otras cosas s\u00f3lo para pasar tiempo con ellos.<\/strong><\/p>\n However, night-time is a whole different thing. We (usually) don’t have anything to do at that time unless it\u2019s to chill the hell out.<\/p>\n When we’re in that mood, there’s less of a chance of catching feelings for someone.<\/p>\n We’re only focused on having a good time instead of talking about real-life problems or needing a shoulder to cry on and from my own personal experience, I can confirm that those things bond people.<\/p>\n If you’re not ready for that (yet), then you should avoid or minimize hangouts during the day.<\/p>\n Sin duda, las citas espor\u00e1dicas tienen muchas ventajas y mi favorita es ponerte a ti primero.<\/p>\n You don’t have a sense of \u2018obligation\u2019 toward your dating partner, which means you can hang out whenever you feel like it.<\/p>\n You don’t have to explain why you’re not in a good mood at that moment or why you prefer binge-watching over spending time with them.<\/p>\n So, as long as you’re putting yourself first, you’re on the right track.<\/p>\n The moment you start canceling your own plans for the sake of hanging out with them, then you know you’re doomed.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00bfPor qu\u00e9?<\/strong> Porque cancelar planes significa sacrificar tu propio horario y libertad por alguien a quien apenas conoces (o alguien a quien te gustar\u00eda conocer mejor).<\/p>\n Cuando eso ocurre, les conviertes en tu prioridad n\u00famero uno, lo que equivale a estar en una semirrelaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n Ponte siempre t\u00fa primero y preg\u00fantate qu\u00e9 es lo que te gustar\u00eda hacer en ese momento en lugar de darle demasiadas vueltas a las cosas. D\u00e9jate llevar, m\u00edmate y disfruta de cada segundo.<\/p>\n Tu vida = tus reglas<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: \u00bfSientes algo por el chico equivocado? 6 maneras de hacer que desaparezcan<\/a><\/p>\n Establecer l\u00edmites es algo maravilloso en cualquier situaci\u00f3n y especialmente cuando se trata de dominar el arte de no contagiarse de los sentimientos.<\/p>\n Considera la posibilidad de establecer algunas reglas b\u00e1sicas con tu pareja ocasional.<\/p>\n Habla de lo que se considerar\u00eda inapropiado y an\u00f3talo si es necesario para que siempre puedas recordar esas reglas de oro.<\/strong><\/p>\n Una de las reglas b\u00e1sicas deber\u00eda ser NO cogerse de la mano (especialmente en p\u00fablico) y evitar largas sesiones de abrazos.<\/p>\n Cualquier cosa que te haga sentir inc\u00f3modo o raro, ponla en la lista. P\u00eddeles tambi\u00e9n que hagan lo mismo.<\/p>\n When you know all the things that you shouldn’t do if you want to preserve casual status, then it will be easier for you to maintain it.<\/p>\n When I was in a recent no-strings-attached relationship, I didn’t set any rules because I thought that I could manage without them. Boy, was I wrong.<\/p>\n Antes de darme cuenta, me encontraba d\u00e1ndole demasiadas vueltas a las cosas y cuestionando constantemente sus acciones.<\/strong><\/p>\n Cada vez que iban a hacer algo, se me pasaban mil preguntas por la cabeza porque ten\u00eda miedo de que hicieran algo que no fuera casual.<\/p>\n When you’re constantly anxious about such things, you cannot have fun and just enjoy the moment so for the sake of your own well-being, establecer l\u00edmites<\/a> y at\u00e9ngase a ellas.<\/p>\n You have no idea how grateful you will be for doing that because that is the only way for a casual thing to function properly in the long run. So, you’re welcome!<\/p>\n “You promised that you would call me! You didn\u2019t pay the bill at the restaurant. You make me feel sad and disappointed.”<\/em><\/p>\n Las tres frases anteriores son cosas que s\u00f3lo deber\u00edan usarse en un contexto serio, es decir, en una relaci\u00f3n seria, as\u00ed que deber\u00edas reserv\u00e1rtelas para tu futura pareja.<\/p>\n As\u00ed que, cuando se trata de ligues ocasionales, la regla n\u00famero uno es rebajar tus expectativas. <\/strong><\/p>\n Debes tener en cuenta que la otra persona no est\u00e1 obligada a hacer nada por ti, y mucho menos a pagar una factura.<\/strong><\/p>\n And the same thing goes for you as well. You don’t need to put much effort into your hangouts and you should expect less effort treatment in return as well.<\/p>\n If you don’t lower your expectations, you might get hurt and you don’t want that. You don’t want them to disappoint you, hurt you, play with you or make you cry.<\/p>\n You want to find a middle ground; a balance between a booty call and dating exclusively. Once you succeed in doing so, then you know you won’t be able to catch feelings so quickly.<\/p>\n It’s important to understand that casual dating is not the same thing as booty calls. It’s somewhere in-between a serious relationship and, okay, a llamada de bot\u00edn<\/a>.<\/p>\n Por lo tanto, si hay una fiesta de pijamas (y Dios sabe que las habr\u00e1), debe ser picante y no relacionada con una relaci\u00f3n (es decir, no demasiado tierna e inocente).<\/p>\n Now, this doesn’t mean that you should be active the whole night (if you catch my drift) but you also shouldn’t be grandma-style.<\/strong><\/p>\n If you notice that all you do during sleepovers is cuddle without initiating anything spicier, then you know you’re doomed.<\/p>\n This is something that happens in long-term relationships, where partners tend to enjoy each other’s presence more than anything else.<\/p>\n Ni que decir tiene que este escenario es perfecto para enamorarse poco a poco y conectar profundamente el uno con el otro.<\/strong><\/p>\n If you don’t want that, then you should keep your sleepovers spicy and not lazy. But remember, don’t overdo it because they are not your booty call.<\/p>\n You don’t want to find yourself drooling over the phone every minute while persuading them to sleep over.<\/p>\n Estas cosas deber\u00edan ocurrir de forma natural y, si ocurren, \u00a1m\u00e1s vale que les pongas picante!<\/p>\n What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you see two people holding hands? That they’re in a relationship, right?<\/p>\n Tales y similares muestras p\u00fablicas de afecto (PDA)<\/a> suelen estar relacionados con algo grave.<\/p>\n So, the last thing you need is other people thinking that you’re in a relationship (which might also ruin your backup plans).<\/strong><\/p>\n This is why you should keep PDA behind closed doors unless you want other people to witness them. If you don’t, then you’re a legit casual dater and I encourage you to keep up the good work.<\/p>\n Adem\u00e1s, tengo que a\u00f1adir algo que puede ser irrelevante para algunos de ustedes.<\/p>\n I’ve noticed that many people practice PDA just because they want to be seen with their partner and not because they have this uncontrollable urge for make-out sessions in the middle of the street.<\/p>\n Quieren compartir su amor con otras personas, mientras que algunos s\u00f3lo quieren dar celos a los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n There are many possible interpretations but the most important thing is to keep your affection behind closed doors until you’re ready to go public.<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 10 se\u00f1ales evidentes de que finge que no le gustas (y 8 razones)<\/a><\/p>\n Seguro que tiene un restaurante favorito, una cafeter\u00eda donde se siente como en casa y le gusta relajarse antes o despu\u00e9s del trabajo o un lugar relajante al que acude para reponer fuerzas.<\/p>\n Well, guess what? Avoid taking your casual bae to those places if you don’t want to ruin your life. Joking aside, it’s kind of true that this could potentially mess up your life big time.<\/p>\n Imagina que, con el tiempo, tus lugares favoritos se convierten tambi\u00e9n en los suyos.<\/strong><\/p>\n As\u00ed que te levantas por la ma\u00f1ana, vas a tu cafeter\u00eda y all\u00ed est\u00e1n ellos, sentados y bebiendo su espresso mientras te hacen se\u00f1as para que te unas a ellos.<\/p>\n Lo primero que te vendr\u00eda a la mente es probablemente algo como: \u00a1Oh, no!<\/p>\n S\u00ed, en caso necesario, podr\u00eda poner excusas<\/a> like you’re in a hurry or similar (because ain’t nobody got time to think of a proper excuse when taken by surprise).<\/p>\n However, sadly, you wouldn’t be able to use the same excuse every single time you see them there.<\/p>\n As\u00ed que NO los lleves a tus lugares favoritos si quieres mantener los mismos niveles de frialdad y desenfado en tu vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n Debes asegurarte de que puedes seguir con tu rutina sin invitar a nadie. El tiempo para tus cosas y para salir con ellos debe estar siempre separado.<\/p>\n Una vez que se convierten en parte de tu vida, ya no puedes llamarlo casual.<\/p>\n Whatever you do, do NOT introduce them to your friends. Or if you really have to, then don’t introduce them to all of your friends. If you’re wondering why, here are some legit reasons.<\/p>\n Uno de los peores escenarios ser\u00eda que tus amigos salieran constantemente con ellos.<\/p>\n En el mundo de las citas espor\u00e1dicas, \u00e9sta debe ser una de las principales prioridades de la lista de normas b\u00e1sicas: No dejes que tus citas ocasionales se infiltren en tu grupo de amigos.<\/strong><\/p>\n Porque eso significa que tambi\u00e9n tendr\u00edas que pasar todo tu tiempo libre con ellos. No tendr\u00e1s la opci\u00f3n de salir con tus amigos y luego elegir salir con ellos por separado.<\/p>\n Once they become a part of your gang, there’s no way back. If your friends enjoy their company and how cool they are, they might even start forcing you to consider something serious with them.<\/p>\n If catching feelings is not something you would want to deal with at the moment, then simply don’t introduce them to your friends.<\/p>\n And if your friends ask whether you’re seeing someone and if they can meet them, just tell them that it’s none of their business and you’ll introduce them in case you ever become exclusive.<\/p>\n La primera vez que te los lleves a casa, puedes dar el juego por terminado. (Si lo hubiera sabido en el pasado, mi vida habr\u00eda sido mucho m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil).<\/p>\n So, don’t take them home (especially if you live with your mom and dad) if you’re not sure whether you want to be exclusive with them.<\/p>\n Si quieres aprender a no contagiarte sentimientos, \u00a1entonces tienes que aprender a no llev\u00e1rtelos a casa! Bromas aparte, probablemente ya sabes que llevar a alguien a casa grita SERIO.<\/strong><\/p>\n This is one of those things that people do when they’re in a relaci\u00f3n seria<\/a> y quieren presentar a su pareja a todos sus familiares y amigos.<\/p>\n By doing that, they’re basically making things official because now those people are also part of their relationship.<\/p>\n So, do you want your mom, dad and other family members and friends to be a part of your casual thing? I don’t think so. So, don’t take them home unless it is an emergency situation or similar.<\/p>\n If they agree with you on this, then you know you’re on the same page but if they insist that you introduce them to all of your friends and family, then you should run because it’s evident that they’re aiming for something more serious, aka a relationship.<\/p>\n “Hey, what are you doing? OMG you won’t believe what just happened! I’m bored… Can you come over? Why aren’t you texting me back?”<\/em><\/p>\n TEXTING\u2014one word that can cause billions of problems and frustrations. I’m pretty much convinced that the moment we entered the modern era, our love lives were doomed.<\/p>\n S\u00ed, es agradable saber que puedes intercambiar tus pensamientos con cualquiera, cuando te d\u00e9 la gana.<\/p>\n You don’t need to send them letters like in old times when relaciones epistolares<\/a> eran tendencia porque \u00a1ahora tenemos redes sociales!<\/p>\n We have tons of instant messaging variations and that’s exactly what doomed us. In times like these, trying to limit a conversation is more like trying not to breathe when you know you can.<\/p>\n While there’s no need to limit conversations with your legit partner, casual baes are a different thing.<\/strong><\/p>\n Si env\u00edas demasiados mensajes de texto, llamas demasiado o te excedes en cualquier otra cosa, corres el riesgo de atraparte y hacer que las cosas sean m\u00e1s graves de lo que son.<\/p>\n Preguntarles constantemente por su d\u00eda, contarles cada detalle de tu vida y cosas similares son cosas que debes evitar hacer.<\/p>\n Intercambiar algunos mensajes casuales aqu\u00ed y all\u00e1 es aceptable, pero decirles c\u00f3mo John\/Sophia en tu trabajo es un verdadero grano en el culo no es aceptable si quieres mantener las cosas casuales.<\/p>\n V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 6 se\u00f1ales de que siente algo por ti<\/a><\/p>\n Puede que pienses que en los encuentros casuales el respeto mutuo no es tan importante, pero pi\u00e9nsalo otra vez.<\/p>\n Toda relaci\u00f3n con seres humanos debe basarse en el respeto mutuo, independientemente de que sea algo casual o m\u00e1s serio.<\/p>\n Si por alguna raz\u00f3n no pueden salir contigo, debes respetarlo. Adem\u00e1s, ambos ten\u00e9is que respetar las normas b\u00e1sicas si quer\u00e9is que las cosas funcionen.<\/p>\n Just because they’re not your legit partner, this doesn’t mean you should treat them like someone unimportant whose main purpose is to entertain you.<\/strong><\/p>\n Incluso las cosas casuales requieren cierto esfuerzo mutuo, as\u00ed que tenlo en cuenta.<\/p>\n Even though you’re here to learn how to not catch feelings, you cannot be one hundred percent sure that you won’t.<\/p>\n In case you do happen to catch feelings for them, respect them enough to tell them that and to leave if you’re not on the same page.<\/p>\n By doing that, you’re also maintaining your self-respect because there’s nothing more frustrating than lying to yourself and living in an illusion.<\/p>\n Life is too short to pretend that you don’t have feelings for someone when you do or to pretend that you have feelings when you don’t.<\/p>\n You both deserve to know the truth and to be genuine with each other. You should respect each other enough to leave when\/if needed if that’s what you both agree on.<\/p>\n For a long time, I wasn’t even aware of the fact that I have this tendency to tell every guy my whole life story and all the relevant details.<\/p>\n I mean, it’s not like I’m at a job interview but I still can’t help but act like that.<\/p>\n I would even share with them things about my previous relationships and it’s not like this should be something that interests them.<\/strong><\/p>\n Even worse, it’s not something I should even share with them if I want to keep things casual.<\/p>\n So, don’t make the same mistakes as me. Be smart and learn from other people’s failures and don’t share your life story with your casual bae.<\/p>\n No, no les interesan todos esos momentos divertidos de tu infancia, los d\u00edas rebeldes de la adolescencia, los fracasos en las relaciones y todas las dem\u00e1s cosas que pertenecen al libro llamado la historia de tu vida.<\/p>\n If you want to keep things casual, you need to keep your conversations casual as well. Once you cross that line, there’s no way back.<\/strong><\/p>\n They might become interested in every single detail from your past and ask you tons of subquestions, and once you start answering, you won’t be able to retreat.<\/p>\nTener una copia de seguridad<\/h2>\n
![\"chico](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/party-animal-guy.jpg\")
<\/p>\nEvitar o minimizar los encuentros durante el d\u00eda<\/h2>\n
![\"chica](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/girl-with-a-cocktail.jpg\")
<\/p>\nP\u00f3ngase usted primero<\/h2>\n
![\"mujer](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-binge-watching.jpg\")
<\/p>\nEstablecer l\u00edmites<\/h2>\n
![\"hombre](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/handsome-man-smiling.jpg\")
<\/p>\nReduzca sus expectativas<\/h2>\n
![\"mujer](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-paying-bill.jpg\")
<\/p>\nPonga picante a las fiestas de pijamas<\/h2>\n
![\"hombre](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-and-woman-lying.jpg\")
<\/p>\nMantener la PDA a puerta cerrada<\/h2>\n
![\"hombre](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-and-woman-about-to-kiss.jpg\")
<\/p>\nEvita llevar a tu novio ocasional a tus lugares favoritos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nNO los presentes a (todos) tus amigos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nDon’t take them home<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nLimite sus conversaciones<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nRespetarse mutuamente<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nDon’t share your life story with them<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n![\"mujer](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-petting-on-woman.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"La](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/The-Ultimate-Guide-On-How-To-NOT-Catch-Feelings-For-Someone-Pinterest.jpg\")
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