{"id":87986,"date":"2020-08-14T06:33:22","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T06:33:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=87986"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:32:18","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:32:18","slug":"como-superar-el-miedo-a-perder-a-alguien","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-superar-el-miedo-a-perder-a-alguien\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo superar el miedo a perder a un ser querido en 7 pasos"},"content":{"rendered":"

En <\/span>miedo a perder<\/span> alguien a quien quieres es perfectamente normal.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even though people don’t talk about it frequently, the <\/span>miedo a la p\u00e9rdida<\/span> de un <\/span>miembro de la familia<\/span>, a <\/span>alma gemela<\/span> o un <\/span>mejor amigo<\/span> es un <\/span>miedo com\u00fan<\/span> y todos nos enfrentamos a ella en alg\u00fan momento. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, this doesn’t mean that you should allow these fears to take over your life. It doesn’t mean that you should allow them to control you and prevent you from living your life to the fullest. <\/span><\/p>\n

Si esto es algo con lo que se siente identificado, puede que tenga un problema que, por suerte, tiene soluci\u00f3n. Aqu\u00ed tienes una gu\u00eda paso a paso que te ayudar\u00e1 a sobrellevar tu <\/span>miedo de <\/span>perdiendo<\/span> alguien<\/span><\/a> que amas y hacerte <\/span>sentirse mejor<\/span> en poco tiempo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Aceptar la p\u00e9rdida como parte de la vida<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s face it; we would all be happiest to have all of our <\/span>seres queridos<\/span> near us forever. It would be amazing if we didn\u2019t have to face things such as departures, break-ups, and, finally, death.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, la verdad es que todo esto es una <\/b>parte de la vida<\/b>, whether you like to admit it or not. As much as you try, you can\u2019t always avoid losing someone you love.<\/b><\/p>\n

Basically, the harsh reality is that this is something you\u2019ll have to learn how to deal with, sooner or later. So instead of running away from reality, you better accept it in time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, <\/span>reprimir sus emociones<\/span><\/a> and pretending that your fears are nonexistent won\u2019t chase them away. This approach won\u2019t magically erase what you\u2019re feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n

En cambio, cuando intentas enterrar las cosas, s\u00f3lo consigues que se hagan m\u00e1s grandes y a\u00fan m\u00e1s aterradoras. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me; you\u2019re not alone on this one. In fact, every person alive has at least once dealt with the <\/span>miedo a perder a un ser querido<\/span>seguido del miedo a <\/span>desamor<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

We\u2019ve all been in a situation where we simply had to accept loss as a <\/b>parte de la vida<\/b>aunque prefiramos no experimentarlo. <\/b><\/p>\n

You won\u2019t only lose people you love and care about; you\u2019ll also lose opportunities, things, feelings and so on.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, all of this is a part of this difficult process called growing up. Sadly, you can\u2019t always have what you want and you can\u2019t always keep around those you would like to have by your side. <\/span><\/p>\n

Algunas personas te abandonar\u00e1n porque quieren, otras se ir\u00e1n gracias a las circunstancias de la vida y la vida se llevar\u00e1 a algunas para siempre. <\/span><\/p>\n

En la mayor\u00eda de los casos, no hay absolutamente nada que puedas hacer al respecto en lugar de aguantarte y afrontarlo de la mejor manera posible. <\/span><\/p>\n

Afronta tus miedos<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

El siguiente paso para superar un <\/span>miedo a perder<\/span> alguien a quien amas reside en enfrentarte a tus miedos.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you can\u2019t chase your demons until you prove them that you\u2019re strong enough to look them directly in the eye and show them your bravery. <\/span><\/p>\n

When I say this, I\u2019m not only talking about accepting your fear, since this should already be a given up until this point.<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, I\u2019m talking about getting to the bottom of them. You see, every fear has a root and a reason, which in most cases is not seen at a first glance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, you have to dig deeper under the layers to figure out what you\u2019re really afraid of. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tienes que hacer mucha autointrospecci\u00f3n y analizar en detalle la relaci\u00f3n que mantienes con la otra persona antes de comprender tus miedos. <\/b><\/p>\n

This might be a hard pill to swallow but when you\u2019re afraid of losing a person you love, in most situations, you\u2019re being <\/span>ego\u00edsta<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You see, you\u2019re actually scared of having to live without them by your side and you\u2019re terrified of the fact that you\u2019ll have to get along without them next to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re scared of losing the support or the comfort they\u2019ve been giving you. <\/b>Miedo de tener que seguir adelante sin que te empujen hacia adelante o te salven cada vez que haces un desastre. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes you\u2019re afraid of losing the sense of control the other person is giving you or the ego boost they\u2019ve been providing you. Afraid of losing the sensation you have when you\u2019re with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

No, this doesn\u2019t have to necessarily mean that you don\u2019t love the person we\u2019re talking about. However, you love whatever they\u2019re giving you even more and that is the core of selfishness. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, the first question you\u2019ll have to ask yourself is what you\u2019re actually afraid of losing. What is the thing about this person you feel so addicted to?<\/b><\/p>\n

Accept that you can\u2019t always be in control<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

They say that destiny deals you the cards but you\u2019re the one who has to play them the best way possible. If you look at life like this, you\u2019re in no way abolished of all responsibility for whatever happens in it.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re a human being. It means that God gave you a reason and free will, which includes judgment-making skills. <\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, it\u2019s never good to go through your own life like it\u2019s happening to someone else. It\u2019s never okay to only go with the flow and see where destiny takes you, as if you have no part in it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, ir demasiado lejos en la direcci\u00f3n opuesta tampoco es bueno. Ser un <\/span>mani\u00e1tico del control<\/span><\/a> en realidad te traer\u00e1 muchos m\u00e1s problemas de los que crees. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ya se ha dicho que la p\u00e9rdida <\/span>parte de la vida<\/span> y no hay absolutamente nada que puedas hacer al respecto y esto es especialmente cierto cuando se trata de la muerte de tu <\/span>seres queridos<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ed, puedes hacer todo lo posible para proporcionarles una buena atenci\u00f3n m\u00e9dica, puedes cuidar de ellos durante el <\/span>poco tiempo<\/span> they have left but eventually, if someone is meant to die, you can\u2019t change their future.<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que es dif\u00edcil de aceptar, pero hay muchas cosas en tu existencia terrenal que est\u00e1n fuera de tu alcance,<\/b> things you can\u2019t control as much you try to. <\/span><\/p>\n

This includes different life circumstances and other people\u2019s behavior. Sometimes, you can do everything by the book but despite that, unexpected events will happen and all you can do is accept them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, \u00bfsabes qu\u00e9 puedes controlar? La forma en que reaccionas ante estos acontecimientos. <\/b><\/p>\n

Puedes malgastar tu valioso tiempo y energ\u00eda en luchar contra los molinos de viento y pasarte el resto de tu vida como S\u00edsifo o puedes redirigir todas tus fuerzas a hacer frente a las cosas malas de tu vida, incluidas las p\u00e9rdidas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Realize that you don\u2019t actually need anyone<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This one might sound harsh or even egocentric but the only truth is that, at the end of the day, you don\u2019t actually need anyone to survive this adventure called life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, as a human, you\u2019re a social being, which means that you are happier when you\u2019re surrounded by the people you love and the ones who love you back.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, that doesn\u2019t mean that you need any of these people to survive. It doesn’t mean it’s okay to be emotionally <\/span>codependiente<\/span> en su <\/span>alma gemela<\/span>, <\/span>mejores amigos<\/span> o <\/span>familiares<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

As much as it seems that you would die if you happened to lose someone you care for, trust me, you won\u2019t. <\/b>Ver\u00e1, en realidad se trata de una cuesti\u00f3n de <\/span>autoestima<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t believe in your own capacities and you think you need someone to guide you through life. Well, let me tell you something\u2014you’re the <\/span>\u00fanica persona<\/span> que realmente necesitas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Despite what you might think now, the truth is that you can make it without anyone. You\u2019re capable of going through life without anyone having your back or holding your hand.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong; I\u2019m not saying that losing a <\/span>amado<\/span> won\u2019t leave consequences on you. In fact, in some cases, these consequences might even be permanent.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, <\/span>cada vez que experimentes estos <\/b>tiempos dif\u00edciles<\/b>Sobrevivir\u00e1s. Tus heridas se convertir\u00e1n en cicatrices, pero seguir\u00e1s adelante a pesar de ellas.<\/b><\/p>\n

Sabiendo esto, eres perfectamente consciente de que no hay necesidad de sentir tal cosa como un <\/span>miedo al abandono<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Remember\u2014whoever has the privilege to be a part of your life is there because you let them. You gave them the gift of your presence and you chose them to be next to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, if they want out, you shouldn\u2019t be the one holding them back. Instead, let them go and remind yourself that your world won\u2019t stop without them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Disfruta del momento presente<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re dealing with a <\/span>miedo a perder<\/span> alguien, es lo \u00fanico en lo que puedes pensar. El p\u00e1nico te paraliza y, antes de que te des cuenta, se convierte en el \u00fanico sentimiento que tienes. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re terrified of having to go on without your <\/span>amado<\/span> hasta el punto de que tus miedos te consuman por completo e incluso te impidan funcionar correctamente.<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que es mucho m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil decirlo que hacerlo, pero \u00bfqu\u00e9 esperas conseguir exactamente con esto? \u00bfCambiar\u00e1 el resultado de las cosas si tienes miedo?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfSalvar\u00e1 a su enfermo terminal <\/span>amado<\/span>\u2019s life? Will it keep your romantic partner next to you? Will your <\/span>miedo al abandono<\/span> impedir realmente que la gente se aleje de ti?<\/span><\/p>\n

You and I both know that the answers to all of these questions is the same\u2014it\u2019s a big, fat no. So, what\u2019s the point?<\/span><\/p>\n

Al contrario,<\/span> when you\u2019re overwhelmed with your fears, you become so obsessed with the potential future that you miss out on the present.<\/b><\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s obsesionado con lo que pueda pasar ma\u00f1ana hasta el punto de que el d\u00eda de hoy pasa de largo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, if you\u2019re looking for effective ways to get rid of your fears, <\/span>disfrutando del <\/span>momento presente<\/span><\/a> es una de las primeras cosas que tienes que aprender a hacer. <\/span><\/p>\n

For example, when you have a terminally ill patient next to you, wouldn\u2019t it be better to cherish the <\/span>poco tiempo<\/span> \u00bftienes la oportunidad de pasarla con ellos en lugar de jugar a diferentes escenarios en tu cabeza? <\/span><\/p>\n

What is inevitable will happen and there is no way you can impact that. In fact, you\u2019ll have plenty of time to grieve your loss once or if it happens. <\/b><\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s the point of thinking about it in advance? Trust me when I tell you that you\u2019ll be sorry for wasting so much time on your fears before they even became a reality. <\/span><\/p>\n

Cree en ti mismo<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, tener fe en ti mismo y trabajar en tu <\/span>autoestima<\/span> is the number one thing. Trust me when I tell you that you\u2019re way stronger than you ever pictured yourself being.<\/span><\/p>\n

You see, life gives you exactly what you can take and handle. You get the challenges you have the ability to overcome, even if sometimes you\u2019re not aware of your capacities. <\/b><\/p>\n

So, I\u2019m begging you, have a little more optimism. Please, <\/span>cree en ti mismo<\/span><\/a> y en tu poder interior.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t consider yourself too weak, despite being emotional. Don\u2019t consider yourself a coward, despite having such a big heart. <\/span><\/p>\n

Solicite asesoramiento profesional<\/h2>\n

\"terapeuta<\/p>\n

Miedo a perder a un ser querido<\/span> is perfectly normal to some extent. We all face these fears on a daily basis and sadly, they\u2019re a part of everyone\u2019s thoughts. <\/span><\/p>\n

A <\/span>miedo com\u00fan<\/span> es <\/span>tanatofobia<\/span>\u2014a <\/span>miedo a la muerte<\/span>. B\u00e1sicamente, no hay casi ninguna persona en este mundo que pueda aceptar su mortalidad. Sin embargo, <\/span>tanatofobia<\/span> doesn’t only mean you’re afraid of dying.<\/span><\/p>\n

De hecho, tambi\u00e9n incluye un <\/span>miedo a la muerte<\/span> de su <\/span>seres queridos<\/span>,<\/span> que a menudo equivale a un <\/span>miedo a la p\u00e9rdida<\/span> de aquellos a los que cuidas.  <\/span><\/p>\n

However, if these fears are impacting your life to the point where it has become impossible to live it properly, maybe it\u2019s time to ask for help.<\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n

Para empezar, hable con su <\/span>mejores amigos<\/span>pareja o una persona cercana <\/span>miembro de la familia<\/span>. Describe whatever you\u2019re feeling and ask them whether they\u2019re going through the same.<\/span><\/p>\n

Try comparing the intensity of your emotions to theirs and see whether you\u2019re experiencing something similar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n, <\/span>it is possible that you\u2019re dealing with some deeper <\/b>mental <\/b>salud<\/b><\/a> cuestiones<\/b> que provocan estos temores.<\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n

En ese caso, <\/span>actuar<\/span>, centrarse en algunos <\/span>autocuidado<\/span> y hablar con un <\/span>profesional de la salud mental<\/span> que te ayudar\u00e1n <\/span>sentirse mejor<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

No, tener problemas mentales <\/span>problemas de salud<\/span> doesn\u2019t make you crazy; it just means that you\u2019re a human being made out of flesh and blood and that you need a hand coping with something. <\/span><\/p>\n

Conf\u00eda en esto <\/span>profesional de la salud mental<\/span> and talk to them about everything that\u2019s bothering you, otherwise they won\u2019t be able to assist you in the right way. <\/span><\/p>\n

Lo mismo ocurre con las personas m\u00e1s cercanas a ti en las que quieras confiar. Aseg\u00farese de que se trata realmente de su <\/span>mejor amigo<\/span> you\u2019re talking to.<\/span><\/p>\n

It should be someone who won\u2019t violate your trust, despite not being able to give you <\/span>asesoramiento profesional<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"C\u00f3mo<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The fear of losing someone you care for is perfectly normal. Even though people don’t talk about it frequently, the fear of loss of a family member, a soulmate or a best friend is a common fear and we all face it at some point.  However, this doesn’t mean that you should allow these fears…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":87994,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-87986","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/How-To-Overcome-The-Fear-Of-Losing-Someone-You-Love-In-7-Steps.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87986","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=87986"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87986\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/87994"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=87986"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=87986"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=87986"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}