{"id":88397,"date":"2020-08-14T06:48:53","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T06:48:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=88397"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:28:18","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:28:18","slug":"salir-con-un-chico-timido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/salir-con-un-chico-timido\/","title":{"rendered":"20 cosas que debes tener en cuenta al salir con un chico t\u00edmido"},"content":{"rendered":"

En tu constante b\u00fasqueda de Casanovas altos, morenos y guapos, a menudo dejas de ver los beneficios \u00fanicos de salir con un <\/span>chico t\u00edmido<\/span>!<\/span><\/p>\n

Su <\/span>primera cita<\/span> con un <\/span>hombre t\u00edmido<\/span> might not exactly be a walk in the park, but if you’re willing to make the <\/span>primer paso<\/span> and follow my brilliant tips, you’re in for a fun ride.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let’s be real for a second. How many times have you been burned by a hot, mysterious, <\/span>presumir<\/span> que acab\u00f3 siendo mucho m\u00e1s de lo que esperabas?<\/span><\/p>\n

For me, the number is almost limitless. So let’s switch it up. Let’s start seeing the amazing potential of the quiet <\/span>introvertido<\/span> al lado.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let’s <\/b>tomar la iniciativa<\/b> y empezar a dar amabilidad, <\/b>t\u00edmidos<\/b> la oportunidad de demostrar lo geniales que son. Porque pueden, y muy probablemente <\/b>se<\/i><\/b> \u00a1sorprenderte!<\/b><\/p>\n

En primer lugar, echa un vistazo a estos consejos s\u00faper pr\u00e1cticos, despu\u00e9s de lo cual comparto por qu\u00e9 definitivamente debe dar un <\/span>chico t\u00edmido<\/span> el beneficio de la duda<\/span><\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo salir con un <\/b>Chico t\u00edmido<\/b>20 consejos brillantes<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t focus on his quietness from the get-go<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Centrarse en su lado introvertido desde el principio es un paso en falso. En su lugar, intente crear un entorno c\u00f3modo para <\/span>pasar el rato<\/span> where he’ll feel at ease.<\/span><\/p>\n

Personas con <\/span>ansiedad social<\/span> don’t really want to discuss it at length. Your best bet is to observe his <\/span>lenguaje corporal<\/span> y ver c\u00f3mo responde a tus esfuerzos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Chicos t\u00edmidos<\/span> son realmente <\/span>buenos oyentes<\/span>siempre y cuando le vayas sacando poco a poco de su... <\/span>zona de confort<\/span>. Whether it’s a <\/span>cita para cenar<\/span> or just coffee, don’t be discouraged if there are <\/span>silencios inc\u00f3modos<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s perfectly normal for any date, let alone with a <\/span>chico t\u00edmido<\/span>. <\/span>Toma la iniciativa<\/span>iniciar la conversaci\u00f3n y hacer que <\/span>contacto visual<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cuanto m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil se lo pongas, m\u00e1s posibilidades de \u00e9xito tendr\u00e1s. <\/span>Cara a cara<\/span> compromisos pueden dar lugar a <\/span>torpeza<\/span> for him, so it’s on you to break the ice.<\/span><\/p>\n

H\u00e1gale preguntas abiertas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Con <\/span>extrovertidos<\/span>, it’s pretty chill. The conversation is most likely to develop organically as there are no issues with <\/span>autoestima<\/span> por ninguna de las partes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero con un <\/span>chico t\u00edmido<\/span>, you’ll need these <\/span>consejos de citas<\/span> more than you know. Even if it’s <\/span>un tipo que<\/span>‘ve known since <\/span>instituto<\/span> or you\u2019re just meeting him for the <\/span>primera vez<\/span>Enf\u00f3cate en c\u00f3mo enfocas la conversaci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ask him open-ended questions that won’t give him the chance to just reply yes or no. That way, you’ll allow him to introduce you to his world a bit without being pushy.<\/span><\/p>\n

Chicos t\u00edmidos<\/span> (y <\/span>chicas t\u00edmidas<\/span>) tienen un <\/span>mal rato<\/span> abri\u00e9ndose, as\u00ed que dale un respiro. Puede que no sea \u00e9l quien <\/span>pregunte a <\/span>usted<\/span><\/i> fuera<\/span>, but if you do this the right way, soon you’ll be considering <\/span>ideas para citas<\/span> \u00a1para la segunda ronda!<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00e9 un poco <\/span>ligar<\/span>, “trick” him into revealing more than he intended (oops), and watch things develop at a surprisingly great speed.<\/span><\/p>\n

Encuentre intereses comunes y lidere con eso<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Your first task is to search for common interests (perhaps you could ask his sibling, best friend, co-worker?) so that you’re prepared.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know this sounds so robotic, but I promise you, it isn’t. With an <\/span>introvertido<\/span>, it’s vital to make it as comfortable as possible ASAP, or their interest will wither.<\/span><\/p>\n

By doing some research, you’re simply ensuring that there’s enough to talk about without awkward moments of <\/span>tranquilidad<\/span> desde el principio.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you like the same genre of music? Or maybe you’re both super into dogs? Find out, don’t be shy to introduce the topic, and things should go fine after that.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>\u00bfTe sientes poco querido? \u00c9stas son las posibles razones y c\u00f3mo cambiarlas<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Averigua cu\u00e1l es su forma de comunicaci\u00f3n preferida y c\u00ed\u00f1ete a ella.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfPrefiere <\/span>cara a cara<\/span> conversaci\u00f3n o quiz\u00e1s se siente m\u00e1s c\u00f3modo <\/span>redes sociales<\/span>?<\/span><\/p>\n

If it’s the latter, perhaps you could send him a funny photo on <\/span>Snapchat<\/span> ...y bromear un poco hasta llegar a una conversaci\u00f3n?<\/span><\/p>\n

But if he’s more into real-life interaction, then don’t be too overbearing with a constant barrage of texts. To you, it might be nothing, but to him, it could be a deal-breaker.<\/span><\/p>\n

Basically, just feel it out, and once you think you’ve figured out how he prefers to communicate, stick to that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t feel the need to fill every silence<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

And there’s a very good reason for that. You see, when dating a <\/span>chico t\u00edmido<\/span> (o empezar a salir con \u00e9l), necesitas tener paciencia. Mucha.<\/span><\/p>\n

These guys won’t just blurt stuff out and see how it goes. For him, it might take a few seconds, or more, to formulate what he wants to say. Don’t question his ways, but just give him a chance to say it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Incluso si eso significa soportar <\/span>tranquilidad<\/span> durante unos segundos. Porque si sigues llenando cada silencio, \u00bfc\u00f3mo va a decir algo?<\/span><\/p>\n

If you’re willing to bear with him and take things super slow at the start, it truly might be worth your while. He could be a real romantic, you just have to let him show you at his own pace.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t expect a lot of spontaneity on his part<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Remember, you’re dealing with an <\/span>introvertido<\/span>. And they’re not exactly known for being the initiators of anything. And that’s okay.<\/span><\/p>\n

During the first stages of dating, do most of the heavy lifting and don’t expect him to woo you off your feet with grand gestures. Is that really what you want?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfO prefiere un <\/span>buen oyente<\/span> with a kind heart who won’t constantly talk over you? Because this guy could be a real <\/span>so\u00f1ar despierto<\/span>. Just because he’s not flashy, doesn’t mean he’s not worthy.<\/span><\/p>\n

La mayor\u00eda de los chicos con los que sal\u00eda eran suaves... <\/span>extrovertidos<\/span>, and let’s just say it never led anywhere good. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pero con un <\/span>introvertido<\/span>, there’s this peace of mind that overcomes you with time, and it simply can’t be replaced.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sea sincero sobre su inter\u00e9s<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

He might not exactly pick up on your subtle signals since he’s not the most extroverted guy ever. So you’re going to have to be upfront.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you like something about him, openly tell him, don’t assume he’ll figure it out. If you keep things to yourself, he’s just going to overthink everything.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you enjoy his company, by all means, share it with him. This guy wants to know how you feel, but he’s not exactly going to ask you, now is he?<\/span><\/p>\n

But that’s kind of the beauty of dating a <\/span>chico t\u00edmido<\/span>. No hay juegos mentales, ni trucos, ni necesidad de dudar de uno mismo. Las cartas est\u00e1n sobre la mesa, lo que lo hace todo muy sencillo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Preg\u00fantale por su familia y su infancia<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

This is a wide-ranging subject that might get him talking, and it’s just the right amount of personal.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin esperar un relato \u00edntimo de todos los aspectos de su infancia, vaya a lo b\u00e1sico. Preg\u00fantele d\u00f3nde creci\u00f3, si tiene hermanos y c\u00f3mo es su relaci\u00f3n con ellos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Preg\u00fantale por sus padres, a qu\u00e9 se dedican y si viven lejos. Cada cosa que comparta puede ser el preludio de una nueva conversaci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

El truco est\u00e1 en escuchar para comprender, no limitarse a responder y seguir adelante. Para desarrollar una conversaci\u00f3n significativa, hay que ser un <\/span>buen oyente<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>Mi Alma Est\u00e1 Cansada: Reconoce Los Signos Del Alma Cansada Y Arr\u00e9glalo<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Just because he seems underwhelmed, doesn’t mean that he is<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Let’s say you’re on your third date, and you’ve just got a new haircut. It’s quite a change and one would have to be blind not to notice it. But he doesn’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

And you’re kind of perplexed. You feel good about yourself, it’s edgy, cool, and totally unexpected, yet he says nothing. <\/span><\/p>\n

But that’s just his way of expression. Just because he’s not lauding your new cute do, doesn’t mean he doesn’t like it. He’s just not the type of guy to proclaim it openly.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you really care about his opinion, ask him what he thinks! Chances are he likes it but was just hesitant to say anything first. Give him a little nudge and it’ll be okay.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca compartas nada de lo que te diga en confianza<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

It’s crucial that you be a woman of your word. If he has broken out of his shell and shared an intimate aspect of his life with you, safeguard it no matter what.<\/span><\/p>\n

Significa mucho m\u00e1s de lo que crees. <\/span>Chicos t\u00edmidos<\/span> are really difficult to crack. You seldom know what’s on his mind, and he won’t exactly jump at the opportunity to blab his mouth.<\/span><\/p>\n

So if you’re familiar with something not a lot of his close friends are privy to, consider it an enormous privilege. This is a sign that he’s starting to feel a deep connection with you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Y si demuestras ser un buen confidente, vuestro v\u00ednculo no har\u00e1 m\u00e1s que reforzarse con el tiempo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t rush introducing him to your friends and family<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Si hay algo que <\/span>t\u00edmidos<\/span> don’t like, it’s big audiences. That only creates an unnecessary amount of pressure that doesn’t allow them to feel comfortable.<\/span><\/p>\n

So hold off on the introductory parts. You want to do this the right way. Take it slow and don’t even mention such serious topics unless you feel he might be okay with it.<\/span><\/p>\n

And remember, if he feels hesitant or seems anxious about the prospect of meeting your friends, it’s not personal. That’s just who he is.<\/span><\/p>\n

Wait until he’s fully comfortable with you that you can broach this subject, knowing he could actually be up for it. And once this moment comes, choose a place of his liking.<\/span><\/p>\n

Procure dejarle espacio suficiente<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

In any type of relationship, it’s so vital that both partners have enough breathing room. Alone time is super important for introspection and recharging.<\/span><\/p>\n

But with an introverted individual, it’s double the amount. So be sure to let him just be. Don’t constantly text, call, or expect him to spend all of his free time with you.<\/span><\/p>\n

This dude needs his alone time more than you know. That’s his escape from the real world and everything he has to put up with daily.<\/span><\/p>\n

Be considerate of this and don’t crowd him when he’s clear about his need to just chill on his own. The more space you give him, the more into you he’ll be.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>Amistades inapropiadas cuando se est\u00e1 casado: \u00bfSon \"s\u00f3lo amigos\"?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

If he’s into cozy nights in, there’s nothing wrong with that<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Una vez sal\u00ed con una <\/span>hombre t\u00edmido<\/span> who wasn’t really big on <\/span>Cenas<\/span> en restaurantes elegantes. Siempre se sent\u00eda ansioso y abrumado cuando est\u00e1bamos en salas llenas de gente.<\/span><\/p>\n

That just wasn’t his scene and it took me some time to accept that. It wasn’t that he was cheap or that he was ashamed to be seen with me. He simply preferred a snuggled night on the couch.<\/span><\/p>\n

And honestly, aren’t those types of low-key nights the best? There is no pressure to look your best, and you can just totally relax, order takeout, eat your face off, then cuddle over a movie.<\/span><\/p>\n

En mi opini\u00f3n, las noches acogedoras son la nueva moda. <\/span>cita para cenar<\/span>! If you can be perfectly content just spending the night together doing nothing, then you’ve got an actual shot of making it work.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ay\u00fadale a superar su torpeza social<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Salir con un <\/span>chico t\u00edmido<\/span> might mean having to hold his hand in a busy street. It provides him with a sense of relief knowing you’re simply there.<\/span><\/p>\n

I can’t possibly pretend to understand how <\/span>introvertidos<\/span> feel since I’m not one, but I will always do my best to be as considerate as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n

I strongly encourage you to do the same. Be his rock. Hold him down when he’s ridden with anxiety. Show him you’ve got his back and you’re not going anywhere.<\/span><\/p>\n

The moment you sense he’s starting to feel even slightly uncomfortable, find a good excuse to get out of that situation. Read his <\/span>lenguaje corporal<\/span> and you’ll make life easier for him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Silencie a su cr\u00edtico interior<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

After a certain amount of time with someone, we start to develop this sense of freedom to speak our minds. This means that you’ll find it easy to tell your boyfriend off for something silly.<\/span><\/p>\n

And in most cases, that’s really good, as it shows that your relationship has significantly progressed and reached one of the ultimate stages.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero al salir con una <\/span>chico t\u00edmido<\/span>, you’re going to want to be careful with that. There will definitely be times when you’ll want to criticize him, but stop to see it from his point of view.<\/span><\/p>\n

Reevaluate the importance of your complaint, then try to word so that he doesn’t take it personally. Ease him into this new, unique aspect of your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Estar dispuesto a dar peque\u00f1os pasos<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Rushing into things almost never amounts to anything positive. At least it doesn’t for me. So this may as well be a true blessing in disguise.<\/span><\/p>\n

To be perfectly honest, yeah, at times, it may seem as if it’s taking forever to reach a new level of intimacy. It may seem as if he’s not as invested as you are.<\/span><\/p>\n

But that’s just dating a <\/span>chico t\u00edmido<\/span>, you know? By now you must’ve realized that his lack of speaking up and initiating things doesn’t mean that he’s not exactly where you are.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s just that it might take him a bit longer to transcend your current level of romance. Clearly, he enjoys spending time with you. Just give him time to move at your desired pace.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca uses su timidez en su contra<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Sometimes, in the heat of the argument, we all say things we don’t necessarily mean. Now imagine saying something nasty to a guy with <\/span>ansiedad social<\/span> that you definitely don’t mean.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll be arguing, throwing insults, and all of a sudden, you’ll mention how difficult it’s been for you trying to acclimate to his introverted lifestyle.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s not something he’ll just get over. It’ll hurt him like a thousand knives in the chest. His shyness is part of him. He doesn’t choose to be this way.<\/span><\/p>\n

So when you use this against him (even if you don’t really mean it), to him, it’ll be soul-crushing and devastating.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>Acepte a las personas por lo que son en lugar de intentar cambiarlas<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Don’t pressure him to open up<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

If there are still some aspects of his life that he’s unwilling to talk about with you, don’t interrogate him. Don’t be that person who just can’t leave things be.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s okay if you’re not privy to every excruciating detail of his life. There is still so much time to discover new things about each other. <\/span><\/p>\n

I bet that you haven’t exactly disclosed every single dirty secret to him, have you? So leave it be. He’ll share when he feels like it. Pressuring him will only be counterproductive.<\/span><\/p>\n

Be chill and let him do his thing. He’ll appreciate you not being pushy, which can only be beneficial for your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Est\u00e9 dispuesto a hacer planes usted mismo<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Parte de salir con un <\/span>chico t\u00edmido<\/span> means making arrangements and taking care of things he might feel hesitant to. It’s really not a big deal.<\/span><\/p>\n

La mayor\u00eda de las veces, cuando <\/span>pasar el rato<\/span>, you’ll be the one to suggest when or where to meet up next. It’s as simple as that.<\/span><\/p>\n

It alleviates any unnecessary pressure off him and also allows you to surprise him with something you know he’ll like. Taking charge isn’t so bad.<\/span><\/p>\n

Plus, with time, he’ll become more comfortable sharing the spotlight.<\/span><\/p>\n

Apreciarlo tal como es<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Just to be clear, there is absolutely nothing negative about being shy. We’re talking about a personality trait that actually carries lots of positives!<\/span><\/p>\n

A <\/span>chico t\u00edmido<\/span> can be your soulmate \u2013 you just have to let yourself see it. And how are you going to do that? By appreciating this guy exactly the way he is, of course!<\/span><\/p>\n

No esperando nunca que sea alguien que t\u00fa quieres, sino d\u00e1ndole la libertad de vivir su vida aut\u00e9ntica a tu lado. Ser t\u00edmido no tiene nada de raro.<\/span><\/p>\n

He’s just a normal guy who could take your breath away easily. The only thing is that it might take him a bit longer. But so what?<\/span><\/p>\n

Podr\u00eda acabar siendo tan <\/span>un rom\u00e1ntico<\/span> de coraz\u00f3n y te sorprender\u00e1 en m\u00e1s de un sentido. Todo lo que tienes que hacer es dejarle ser tan genial y \u00fanico como es.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por qu\u00e9 salir con un chico t\u00edmido es incre\u00edble<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n