{"id":88841,"date":"2020-09-08T07:23:09","date_gmt":"2020-09-08T07:23:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=88841"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:01:31","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:01:31","slug":"citas-que-te-hacen-parecer-desesperado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/citas-que-te-hacen-parecer-desesperado\/","title":{"rendered":"4 cosas que haces en las citas que te hacen parecer desesperado"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>El truco del comportamiento desesperado es que la persona que lo realiza es la \u00faltima en darse cuenta de los s\u00edntomas.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re actually behaving this way unconsciously \u2013 you hold on to the other person in an attempt to keep him around.<\/p>\n<p>However, you\u2019re in fact achieving just the opposite: You\u2019re allowing him to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/7-cosas-que-puedes-hacer-cuando-empieza-a-darte-por-sentada\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">darte por sentado<\/a>, you\u2019re giving him clearance to treat you the way he wants, and consequently, you\u2019re chasing him away.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfCu\u00e1les son exactamente las cosas que haces en las citas, sin ni siquiera ser consciente de ello, que te hacen parecer desesperado?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Llegar siempre primero<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88858\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/top-angle-of-a-woman.jpg\" alt=\"\u00e1ngulo superior de una mujer sosteniendo un smartphone con sombrero\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s be honest. What would your relationship look like if you weren\u2019t the one pulling all the strings? Would you ever even hear from your boyfriend, if you weren\u2019t the one initiating everything?<\/p>\n<p>You might be satisfied with the fact that this guy almost always responds to your texts, but the truth is that you\u2019re the one who reaches out to him every time.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re the one texting him, calling him, and asking him out. The one who keeps suggesting activities together and puts an effort into making your time together as interesting as possible.<\/p>\n<p>The worst part is that you don\u2019t hesitate to double or triple text him when he ignores your initial text.<\/p>\n<p>B\u00e1sicamente, toda vuestra relaci\u00f3n se basa en que t\u00fa le persigas y \u00e9l acceda a quedar contigo de vez en cuando.<\/p>\n<p><strong>For a change, try this experiment. Don\u2019t reach out to him first for a couple of days.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not suggesting you to do this to make him afraid of losing you.<\/p>\n<p>I just want you to see whether he\u2019ll notice your absence and be the one to initiate contact, or your relationship will fizzle without your initiative.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Dar infinitas segundas oportunidades<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-98038\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-young-lady.jpg\" alt=\"joven triste sentada en el prado pensando profundamente\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-young-lady.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-young-lady-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-young-lady-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-young-lady-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/sad-young-lady-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Otra cosa que haces que te hace parecer desesperado en una relaci\u00f3n es dar todas esas <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/7-razones-por-las-que-mantener-a-una-chica-da-una-segunda-oportunidad\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">segundas oportunidades<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Every time your partner makes a mistake he is without a doubt responsible for, you can\u2019t wait to forgive him.<\/p>\n<p><strong>He doesn\u2019t even have to offer you a proper apology \u2013 you\u2019ll find an excuse for his behavior. The truth is you want to forgive him even when he doesn\u2019t say he\u2019s sorry.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>So you look for hints of his regret and absolve him of his sins. You pretend that something he did didn\u2019t hurt you that much and that everything is fine, even when it clearly isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>Well, let me tell you that this behavior doesn\u2019t go unnoticed. In fact, by doing this, you\u2019re only giving this man the green light to keep on harming you, without any consequences.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Actividad en las redes sociales<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88865\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/person-holding-smartphone.jpg\" alt=\"persona con un smartphone en la mano sentada junto a una mesa con un port\u00e1til encima\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\"><\/p>\n<p>Mucha gente te dir\u00e1 que las redes sociales no significan nada cuando se trata de relaciones rom\u00e1nticas.<\/p>\n<p>After all, there are many couples who don\u2019t promote their love on social media yet have the happiest romances in real life.<\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo, te guste admitirlo o no, lo cierto es que una gran parte de las citas modernas giran en torno a las redes sociales.<\/p>\n<p>Precisamente por eso, tu actividad all\u00ed puede ser un indicador de tu comportamiento desesperado.<\/p>\n<p>Lo \u00fanico que tienes que hacer es comparar tu comportamiento y el de tu pareja.<\/p>\n<p>Just to be clear, we\u2019re not talking about a man who simply doesn\u2019t use either of the social platforms or is nothing but a passive bystander.<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019re talking about a guy who posts Instagram and Snapchat stories. A man who follows a bunch of girls and is clearly concerned about his social media reputation.<\/p>\n<p><strong>However, you\u2019re nowhere to be found on his profiles. It\u2019s like he ignores your existence and doesn\u2019t give a damn about whatever you might be doing there.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>T\u00fa, en cambio, eres el primero en ver sus historias, le das a me gusta y comentas todas sus actualizaciones de estado y fotos, y todo lo que publicas va dirigido a \u00e9l.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Demasiado disponible<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88870\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-a-picnic-mat.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sentada en esterilla de picnic bajo un \u00e1rbol mirando a lo lejos y con chaqueta marr\u00f3n\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\"><\/p>\n<p>One of the most obvious signs that you come across as desperate is the fact that you\u2019re always available. You don\u2019t know how to say \u201cno\u201d and you\u2019re ready to move mountains just to see or please this man.<\/p>\n<p>No, I\u2019m not saying that you should engage in <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/fake-love\/toxic-relationship\/3-juegos-mentales-que-practican-todas-las-personas-toxicas\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">juegos mentales<\/a> and tell him that you\u2019re busy when you\u2019re actually not.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not advising you to play hard to get and reschedule your plans at the last minute just to mess with his head.<\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo,<strong> you shouldn\u2019t show him that he can always have you at his disposal either<\/strong>. As soon as this man moves an inch towards you, you\u2019re ready to run into his arms.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re the one who finds time to see him, can fit him into your schedule, and cancels plans for his sake. Conversely, he never returns the favor and keeps on treating you as his last resort.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-98036\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/4-Things-You-Do-In-Dating-That-Make-You-Look-Desperate-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"4 cosas que haces en las citas que te hacen parecer desesperado\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/4-Things-You-Do-In-Dating-That-Make-You-Look-Desperate-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/4-Things-You-Do-In-Dating-That-Make-You-Look-Desperate-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/4-Things-You-Do-In-Dating-That-Make-You-Look-Desperate-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/4-Things-You-Do-In-Dating-That-Make-You-Look-Desperate-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/4-Things-You-Do-In-Dating-That-Make-You-Look-Desperate-Pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The trick about desperate behavior is that the person doing it is the last to notice the symptoms. You\u2019re actually behaving this way unconsciously \u2013 you hold on to the other person in an attempt to keep him around. However, you\u2019re in fact achieving just the opposite: You\u2019re allowing him to take you for granted,&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":98035,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-88841","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/4-Things-You-Do-In-Dating-That-Make-You-Look-Desperate.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? 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