{"id":90805,"date":"2020-09-16T14:30:02","date_gmt":"2020-09-16T14:30:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=90805"},"modified":"2022-07-06T09:35:29","modified_gmt":"2022-07-06T09:35:29","slug":"mi-marido-cree-que-no-hace-nada-malo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/mi-marido-cree-que-no-hace-nada-malo\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfQu\u00e9 debo hacer cuando mi marido cree que no hace nada malo?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mi marido cree que no hace nada malo. Nunca considera mi <\/i>punto de vista<\/i> y me da la <\/i>tratamiento silencioso<\/i> cada vez que expreso mi <\/i>sentimientos propios<\/i>.<\/i><\/p>\n

And lately, we’ve been going through a really rocky period…<\/i><\/p>\n

Does this resonate with you? If so, don’t worry because you’re definitely not alone. Every happy marriage goes through a rough patch. And I’m here to help you see if there’s a way out of this mess.<\/p>\n

Many would say to try marriage counseling (which isn’t a bad idea) pero creo que cuando alguien te da <\/b>un mill\u00f3n<\/b> razones para dudar de sus intenciones, haz precisamente eso.<\/b><\/p>\n

We’ve all dealt with toxic people at some point. The thing is, you need to know when to throw in the towel.<\/p>\n

If your hubby throws a tantrum every time you voice your concerns and gives you a hard time whenever you do something wrong, maybe he’s not your soulmate after all?<\/p>\n

Est\u00e9 atento a estas se\u00f1ales. Si reconoce su <\/i>pareja<\/i> en cualquiera de ellos, mi consejo es que corras a las colinas.<\/i><\/p>\n

Sus cambios de humor se han vuelto insoportables<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

One day, he’s the kindest man on earth, and the next, you’re walking on eggshells around him. <\/p>\n

A veces lo consideras tu mejor amigo<\/a>pero sin previo aviso, se convierte en un narcisista que disfruta destrozando tu autoestima. \u00a1Y buena suerte averiguando la causa de todo esto!<\/p>\n

And the worst thing is, when you’re not sure which version of him you’re getting, you’re scared that he might break up with you out of the blue.<\/p>\n

You’re never sure if he’s happy, disgruntled, annoyed, cheerful or frustrated.<\/b> Entra y sale de sus m\u00faltiples personalidades.<\/b><\/p>\n

If he’s annoyed, he’ll give you a not-so-subtle sigh or a raised eyebrow, just so you notice something is wrong. But God forbid he actually communicates it properly.<\/p>\n

A menudo te encuentras poniendo excusas por \u00e9l, aunque en el fondo sabes que no es culpa tuya.<\/p>\n

You’re just so eager to make him happy that you put up with his tantrums that are destroying your mental health day by day.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 debe hacer?<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Don’t fall into this trap. Toxic people are very well aware of how far decent people will go to keep them happy. Don’t be that person.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9jate de \u00e9l en cuanto veas que cambia de humor.<\/b> Unless you want him to become your ex-husband, let go of your need to please and talk to him once he’s normal again.<\/p>\n

This is a clear personality disorder that you should’ve called out the first time it started. You should never have to guess why someone’s being an asshole.<\/p>\n

Married couples shouldn’t put up with emotional abuse. Either communicate properly or get out.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: \u00bfTe sientes poco querido? Estas son las posibles razones y c\u00f3mo solucionarlo<\/a><\/p>\n

Te manipula para que pienses que le debes<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Usually, when my husband thinks he\u2019s done nothing wrong, I mimic his behavior, to subtly let him know what an ass he’s being.<\/p>\n

And most of the time it works. See, I’m not going to spend the rest of my life fixing a horrible person. Either you’re invested in this marriage or I’m out.<\/p>\n

But the moment you notice him manipulating you, call it out. Here’s how he might be doing it without you knowing:<\/p>\n

Hace algo bueno por ti y espera que le devuelvas el favor. Nunca hace nada especial<\/a>por la bondad de su coraz\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n

Puede que te recoja la ropa de la tintorer\u00eda (oh, qu\u00e9 tarea tan dif\u00edcil) y luego te lo restriegue por la cara durante las pr\u00f3ximas semanas. Como si eso te pusiera en deuda con \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

People who do kind things to have something to hold over you SUCK. Even if it’s your family members. <\/p>\n

Se necesita una habilidad especial para manipular a alguien con tanta facilidad, as\u00ed que tenlo en cuenta antes de descartarlo. Si hace todo lo posible para que te sientas mal, \u00bfcu\u00e1nto le importa realmente?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 debe hacer?<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

First, realize that you don’t owe him anything. Everytime he tries to make you do something you don’t want, ask him why he doesn’t do it himself?<\/p>\n

Let him know that you’re not doing anything that’s counter-productive to your well-being. You’re more than happy to be there for him, but not at any cost.<\/b><\/p>\n

People in intimate relationships have to balance each other out. When one person is constantly asking, and the other keeps giving, that’s no longer a marriage.<\/p>\n

That’s an emotionally abusive relationship.<\/p>\n

Proyecta sus sentimientos en ti<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Again, it takes a really sneaky human being to successfully do this and get away with it. Here’s a great example:<\/p>\n

Let’s say your husband is having a bad day. He’s cranky, nervous, and anxious. The minute you ask him what’s wrong, he almost bites your head off.<\/p>\n

But worse, he accuses YOU of being mad. And the thing is, you often believe him. But don’t. He can’t own his feelings, which is why he projects them onto you.<\/p>\n

You’re always resorting to defensiveness as if there’s something to apologize for. He makes you think that you’re the problem and that you’re the one being unfair to him.<\/p>\n

But that’s what <\/b>maestros manipuladores<\/b><\/a> Hazlo.<\/b> Now that you’re aware, stop before you apologize for something that isn’t your fault.<\/p>\n

It’s time for him to own his feelings and stop putting so much hard work into causing you emotional distress.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 debe hacer?<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Next time he accuses you of being in a bad mood, don’t defend yourself. Consider if this is, in fact, true, or if he’s being evasive.<\/p>\n

You’re not responsible for anyone’s misfired accusations. <\/b>Enfrentarle a bocajarro con sus emociones no resueltas.<\/p>\n

Be calm, collected, and tell him you’re feeling particularly at ease today. You honestly cannot understand what he’s talking about. Your complete calmness will unnerve and rattle him.<\/p>\n

And once he inevitably explodes (with emotion) words will be unnecessary. It’ll be more than clear who the angered one is.<\/p>\n

Te chantajea emocionalmente<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Countless times you’ve found yourself having to choose between him and someone else. And somehow, you know it’s not really a choice. You tienen que <\/i>el\u00edjalo.<\/p>\n

Se pone celoso de un amigo var\u00f3n (debido a sus graves problemas de confianza) y te proh\u00edbe pasar el poco tiempo que tienes cerca de \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

And if you disobey him, he’ll turn into a drama king. That’s what toxic people do. It’s either their way or the highway.<\/b><\/p>\n

He waits until you’re really attached to him, then he starts using it against you in the most deceitful ways.<\/p>\n

“If you really loved me, you’d give me your <\/i>redes sociales<\/i> passwords.” “If you do this for me, I’ll consider seeing a <\/i>consejero matrimonial<\/i>.” “If you stop <\/i>mensajes de texto<\/i> Mark, I’ll stop giving you a <\/i>mal rato<\/i>.”<\/i><\/p>\n

And the main issue with this? It’s never enough for him. No matter what you do, he never appreciates it. You are forced to do what he wants, or he’ll make you suffer.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 debe hacer?<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Stop giving him control over your own life. Nobody can make you do something you’re not comfortable with.<\/p>\n

If you want to text with your male best friend, do it! If your husband has a problem with that, he can go have himself a panic attack over nothing but you’re not budging.<\/p>\n

En lugar de pensar: Mi marido cree que no hace nada malo, <\/i>dite a ti mismo que your husband knows exactly what he’s doing, he’s just pushing your boundaries!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

It’s these seemingly little things that’ll show him you’re not his puppet. Stand up for yourself without feeling guilty.<\/p>\n

He can’t say he’s sorry<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Mi cu\u00f1ada sol\u00eda tener este mismo problema (\u00a1qu\u00e9 raro, lo s\u00e9!). Su pareja vaci\u00f3 su cuenta bancaria sin dec\u00edrselo, y luego la hizo sentirse loca por tener un problema con eso.<\/p>\n

El tipo le prest\u00f3 un mont\u00f3n de dinero a su mejor amiga y b\u00e1sicamente se gast\u00f3 todos sus ahorros sin consultarla. Y NUNCA dijo que lo sent\u00eda. <\/p>\n

That’s when I realized something. If a guy can do something so bad and never feel the need to apologize, I’d rather stay single.<\/p>\n

I’m not going to wait a couple of years for him to understand what an ass he was. Either you’re my equal, or I’m not wasting my time on you.<\/p>\n

If your man can’t say sorry to save his life, it shows you his investment in your marriage. Someone who doesn’t consider your feelings doesn’t appreciate you.<\/b><\/p>\n

He needs to be able to own up to his actions and take responsibility. Otherwise, he’ll keep doing shady things because he knows you’ll put up with it.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 debe hacer?<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Here’s a really important thing I’ve learned in life. Algunas personas se preocupan m\u00e1s por tener raz\u00f3n que por ser justas.<\/b><\/p>\n

And you’ll be damned if you’re going to let him slide with any of his BS again. If he can’t offer you a sincere apology, no problem. You’ll move on without him.<\/p>\n

But don’t ever let a man make a fool of you. You’re not insecure, nor are you codependent. You’re perfectly fine being on your own until you find a man with his life together.<\/p>\n

Until then, give your bestie a phone call and go for a memorable night out on the town. After all, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Mi Alma Est\u00e1 Cansada: Reconoce Las Se\u00f1ales De Un Alma Cansada Y Arr\u00e9glalo<\/a><\/p>\n

Se centra en tu tono en lugar de en lo que lo caus\u00f3<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

I can’t tell you how often my husband thinks he\u2019s done nothing wrong when in fact, he’s being a real idiot (I do love him, promise).<\/p>\n

And this particular issue is what I’m most annoyed at. Whenever I’m trying to get my point across, he’ll focus on my tone of voice, instead of the issue I’m trying to present.<\/p>\n

Most of the time, there isn’t an issue with my manner, even though it’s totally okay if there is. After all, we’re trying to resolve an issue. Of curso, <\/i>las cosas se van a poner un poco calientes.<\/p>\n

So I’ve learned to bypass this over time. I don’t let him focus on the irrelevant stuff when I know he’s just being evasive.<\/p>\n

We’re going to work this stuff out, and no, I’m not apologizing for my tone of voice. Why? Because there isn’t a problem with it.<\/b><\/p>\n

People will always try to be sly about making it about something else so that they don’t have to deal with an issue.<\/p>\n

But that’s where you come in. Don’t let him unnerve you and stay on topic. There’s no getting around this issue.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 debe hacer?<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Como he dicho, mantente firme. La gente llega a extremos extremos para no tener que enfrentarse a las cosas dif\u00edciles. <\/p>\n

But not if you don’t let them. Recognize his attempts to confuse you and go off-topic and nip them in the bud. Persist in your attempt to speak about what\u2019s bothering you without justifying yourself.<\/b><\/p>\n

He knows exactly what he’s doing, so don’t let him provoke you. If this issue keeps being present regardless of your attempts to stay on-topic, know when to walk away.<\/p>\n

It’s better to be by yourself than around people who are determined to make you appear crazy.<\/p>\n

He often leaves you on ‘read’ and doesn’t answer his phone<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You’ll be texting and things will start to heat up. You’ll try to get some information out of him, and he’ll just leave without finishing the conversation.<\/p>\n

You’ll be weirded out as you know that he’s aware of how important this particular matter is to you, so you’ll convince yourself he’s just really busy.<\/p>\n

Pero el caso es que esto ocurre m\u00e1s a menudo de lo que parece. He leaves conversations unfinished the moment it gets uncomfortable and then doesn’t answer his phone when you try to get a hold of him.<\/b><\/p>\n

What gives? Could he really be that big of an ass or is he just suddenly extremely preoccupied? Here’s the deal. People who want to reply, always make time.<\/p>\n

Texting you back takes all of one minute. So my guess is that he doesn’t really care, otherwise he’d get back to you ASAP.<\/p>\n

If he’s aware that this is something important to you, yet he leaves you hanging, it’s pretty self-explanatory.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 debe hacer?<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Tan simple. Dale a probar de su propia medicina. Deja de contestar sus textos<\/a> y ponte indisponible por tel\u00e9fono. A ver si le gusta.<\/p>\n

Once the tables are turned you can bet your ass that he’ll have a problem with that.<\/b> Y entonces suceder\u00e1 una de dos cosas.<\/p>\n

Either he’ll man up, apologize and start taking you seriously, or he\u2019ll accuse you of “not being there for him.” If it’s the latter, don’t bother engaging.<\/p>\n

Leave him on real-life ‘read’, and find someone who’s maturity level is over 12 years of age.<\/p>\n

Relacionado: Mi marido malinterpreta todo lo que digo: c\u00f3mo solucionarlo<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c9l te juzga<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

He takes a swipe at your self-esteem whenever he’s not happy about your choices. And that’s one of lo peor que puede hacer un marido<\/a>.<\/p>\n

We’re all flawed human beings. You make mistakes, then learn from them. Nobody is perfect, especially him. <\/p>\n

As\u00ed que cuando tenga la decencia de aguarte la fiesta y hacerte sentir insegura, juzgada e indigna porque cometiste un peque\u00f1o error, piensa en la clase de persona que es.<\/p>\n

Does someone who’s supposed to love you unconditionally and be your rock get to put you down when he sees fit?<\/p>\n

\u00bfTiene derecho a juzgar tus elecciones, errores y decisiones vitales cuando \u00e9l mismo es m\u00e1s que imperfecto?<\/b> La respuesta clara es no.<\/p>\n

Unless you’ve done something that has negatively impacted him, he’s not entitled to judge you in any way. Your significant other should love you for all of your flaws and shortcomings.<\/p>\n

He should stand by your side when the world crashes on your shoulders and pick you up when you falter. He should be your safe haven when the world gets dark and hold your hand when you’re feeling lost.<\/p>\n

Judgment of any kind is a toxic trait that isn’t welcome in a marriage. Be careful who you call your husband. If he’s only there for the good times, how can you ever lean on him?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 debe hacer?<\/h3>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

If your husband keeps messing up but you let it slide day after day, you’re doing yourself a huge disservice.<\/p>\n

Si dejas que te juzgue, te est\u00e1s vendiendo mal.<\/b> You’re worthy of a man who’ll see your worth amidst your darkest times. You are worthy of a man who’ll weather the storms by your side.<\/p>\n

Empieza a ver tu propio valor y deja de permitir que tu marido te haga sentir otra cosa que no sea suficiente. T\u00fa no eres tus errores. <\/p>\n

And anyone who makes you feel like you are doesn’t have your best interests at heart. Consider this before choosing this man as your companion through life.<\/p>\n

You show people how you want to be treated. Demand respect and appreciation without apologizing for it. If you can’t get it from him, you’ll find it elsewhere.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Todo lo que debe saber sobre una relaci\u00f3n transaccional<\/a><\/p>\n

Choose Yourself…<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

My husband thinks he does nothing wrong, but I’ll damn well show him that he, in fact, does plenty of things wrong.<\/i><\/p>\n

That’s the only acceptable attitude you should embrace from now on. Choose yourself, love yourself, and create a life that breeds joy.<\/p>\n

Engaging in self-care is a fundamental aspect of creating an environment you can thrive in. Once you raise your standards, you’ll never diminish the quality of your life again.<\/p>\n

Honor your sense of self and move away from anyone who takes away from your joy. Loving yourself isn’t selfish, it’s mandatory.<\/b><\/p>\n

Refamiliarize yourself with the meaning of love, devotion, and respect and realize when it’s time to let go of someone.<\/p>\n

La frustraci\u00f3n es la delgad\u00edsima l\u00ednea que separa lo que la gente espera de ti de lo que realmente eres. Elige lo segundo y s\u00e9 sin complejos y aut\u00e9ntico.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou need to love yourself. Love yourself so much to the point that your energy and aura reject anyone who doesn\u2019t know your worth.\u201d – <\/i>Billy Chapata<\/p>\n

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My husband thinks he does nothing wrong. He never considers my point of view and gives me the silent treatment whenever I express my own feelings. And lately, we’ve been going through a really rocky period… Does this resonate with you? If so, don’t worry because you’re definitely not alone. Every happy marriage goes through…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":90807,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-90805","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/What-Should-I-Do-When-My-Husband-Thinks-He-Does-Nothing-Wrong.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","parent":29620,"count":474,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29623,"category_count":474,"category_description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","cat_name":"marriage","category_nicename":"marriage","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/90805","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=90805"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/90805\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/90807"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=90805"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=90805"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=90805"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}