{"id":91622,"date":"2021-02-01T11:11:52","date_gmt":"2021-02-01T11:11:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=91622"},"modified":"2021-08-30T13:49:43","modified_gmt":"2021-08-30T13:49:43","slug":"deja-de-idealizar-estas-relaciones","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/deja-de-idealizar-estas-relaciones\/","title":{"rendered":"Deja de idealizar estos 5 patrones de relaci\u00f3n"},"content":{"rendered":"

No s\u00e9 exactamente c\u00f3mo ocurri\u00f3, pero lo cierto es que nuestra cultura romantiza algunas cosas del amor que no son tan geniales.<\/p>\n

Hay algunas creencias err\u00f3neas sobre las relaciones que muchos j\u00f3venes creen ciertas pero que en realidad son bastante t\u00f3xicas.<\/p>\n

Los chicos malos se vuelven buenos<\/h2>\n

\"chico<\/p>\n

The next thing you need to stop romanticizing ASAP is bad boys. I\u2019m sure you\u2019re familiar with the concept of beauty and the beast.<\/p>\n

Ah\u00ed est\u00e1s t\u00fa, una chica bien educada de buena familia, con todo sobresalientes desde que tienes uso de raz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Siempre estabas protegido y cuidado.<\/p>\n

And then there\u2019s him, a rebellious, adventurous young guy who\u2019s always on the edge of the law.<\/p>\n

\u00c9l es un problema y t\u00fa lo sabes. B\u00e1sicamente, ustedes dos no tienen nada en com\u00fan, excepto esta pasi\u00f3n abrumadora que los atrae el uno al otro.<\/p>\n

\u00bfSuena a clich\u00e9? \u00bfVerdad?<\/p>\n

Bueno, ocurre constantemente y est\u00e1 muy idealizado en la cultura popular.<\/p>\n

However, instead of turning your bad boy into a nice guy, it\u2019s more likely that you\u2019ll end with an abuser, drug addict, or at the very least an immature boy who forever refuses to grow up.<\/p>\n

No tiene nada de rom\u00e1ntico, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n

Los celos son algo positivo<\/h2>\n

\"novio<\/p>\n

Cuando veas que un chico est\u00e1 celoso de tu ex o de tu amigos varones<\/a>, you think to yourself: \u201cWow, this guy must be so into me.\u201d<\/p>\n

Para ser honesta, te halaga que tenga tanto miedo de perderte.<\/p>\n

He wants you entirely for himself and doesn\u2019t want to share your attention with anyone.<\/p>\n

Debe quererte mucho, \u00bfverdad? Pues te equivocas.<\/p>\n

Los celos pueden ser potencialmente peligrosos y no tienen nada de rom\u00e1ntico.<\/p>\n

Before you know it, you\u2019ll be trapped in a toxic relationship with a control freak.<\/p>\n

You might enjoy spending all of your time with this guy now, but trust me, as soon as the butterflies are gone, you\u2019ll want out as well.<\/p>\n

Espera a que empiece a prohibirte salir, vestirte como te gusta y salir con tus amigos.<\/p>\n

Instead of being flattered, you\u2019ll feel suffocated and tied down.<\/p>\n

Los hombres no est\u00e1n disponibles emocionalmente por naturaleza<\/h2>\n

\"infeliz<\/p>\n

Odio ser quien rompa tu burbuja, pero esto hay que decirlo: Su love can\u2019t change a man<\/a>.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, en lugar de idealizar a los hombres emocionalmente inaccesibles, sal corriendo en cuanto veas a uno.<\/p>\n

De hecho, la mayor\u00eda de los hombres que recurren a la historia de la indisponibilidad emocional son en realidad unos simples gilipollas.<\/p>\n

They are jerks who don\u2019t want to commit and consciously refuse to attach to another person.<\/p>\n

Por tanto, tus esfuerzos por abrir sus corazones al amor son pr\u00e1cticamente en vano.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll just end up hurting yourself and they\u2019ll keep on preying on their next victim.<\/p>\n

No respetar los l\u00edmites<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You know how in the movies, a girl likes a boy, but she herself isn\u2019t aware of her emotions and she especially doesn\u2019t plan on admitting them to him.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que ella sigue rechaz\u00e1ndole. Sin embargo, \u00e9l es lo bastante persistente como para seguir persigui\u00e9ndola.<\/p>\n

Well, things in real life don\u2019t work out like that. In fact, \u201cno\u201d always means \u201cno.\u201d<\/p>\n

You know what is romantic? Respecting boundaries and other people\u2019s wishes.<\/p>\n

El amor basta<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

While you\u2019re young and restless, you assume that el amor basta<\/a>. Puede conquistarlo todo y no puede ser conquistado por nada.<\/p>\n

At least, that\u2019s what the fairytales, love novels, and romantic comedies have taught you, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n

Es lo \u00fanico que buscas en un hombre: que le quieras y que \u00e9l te corresponda.<\/p>\n

Seg\u00fan esto, nada m\u00e1s importa.<\/p>\n

Your differences, the fact that you don\u2019t want the same things, and even your incompatibility are all defeated in front of this all-mighty force.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, la verdad es otra.<\/p>\n

La verdad es que hay otras cosas, como el respeto, la comunicaci\u00f3n sana, el compromiso, las visiones del mundo similares y otras cosas necesarias para que una relaci\u00f3n tenga \u00e9xito.<\/p>\n

Podr\u00edas pensar que las cosas siempre son f\u00e1ciles cuando hay amor.<\/p>\n

All pieces of the puzzle magically fall together and if they don\u2019t, it means that you two don\u2019t care for each other enough.<\/p>\n

Pues d\u00e9jame decirte que, incluso cuando hay amor verdadero, es necesario trabajar duro. Tienes que construir una relaci\u00f3n si quieres que sea sana.<\/p>\n

El amor es s\u00f3lo una base.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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